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ﺍﻟﺴﻨـــﺔ ﺍﻷﻭﻟﻰ -ﺍﻟـﻌـﺪﺩ ﺍﻟﺮﺍﺑﻊ ) -ﺃﺑﺮﻳﻞ 4 - (2011 ﺑﺤﺬﺍﻓﻴﺮﻫﺎ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺃﺧﺮﻯ. ﻓﻬﻢ ﻳﻤﻠﻜﻮﻥ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﺭﺓ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺓ ﺃﻧﻔﺴﻬﻢ ﺇﺫﺍ ﻣﺎ ﻭﺟﺪﻭﺍ
ﺧﺼﻮﺻﺎ
ً Eﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﻤﺮﺍﻫﻘﻴﻦ ﻳﺄﺑﻮﻥ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﺙ ﻋﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺗﻬﻢ ً
ﺻﺎﺩﻗﺎ ،ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﻠﻐﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﻌﺒﺮ ﻋﻦ ً
ﻭﺗﻌﺎﻃﻔﺎ ﺁﺫﺍ ًﻧﺎ ﺻﺎﻏﻴﺔ
ﻛﺎﻑ ﺑﺎﻟﻨﺴﺒﺔ
ﻋﻨﺪ ﺍﻟﻐﻀﺐ .ﻓﻮﺟﻮﺩ ﺍﻷﺏ ﻭﺍﻷﻡ ﻓﻲ ﺣﺪ ﺫﺍﺗﻪ ٍ ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻃﻒ ﻻ ﺗﻮﻟﺪ ﺩﺍﺧﻠﻨﺎ ﺑﺎﻟﻔﻄﺮﺓ ﻭﻟﻴﺴﺖ ﺟﺰءًﺍ ﻣﻦ ﻟﻐﺘﻨﺎ
ﺇﻟﻴﻬﻢ. ﺍﻷﻡ ،ﻓﺎﻟﻜﺜﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﻣﻨﺎ ﻳﻌﺘﺎﺩﻭﻥ ﺗﺠﺎﻫﻞ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻫﻢ ﻣﻨﺬ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻮﻟﺔ!
Eﻳﻨﺰﻋﺞ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﺣﻴﻦ ﻳﻌﺒﺮﻭﻥ ﻋﻦ ﺷﻌﻮﺭ ﺣﺎﺩ ﻭﻳﻨﺤﺼﺮ ﻟﻜﻲ ﺗﺼﺒﺢ ً
ﻃﻠﻴﻘﺎ ﻓﻲ ﺗﻠﻚ ﺍﻟﻠﻐﺔ ﺍﻟﺠﺪﻳﺪﺓ ﻟﺘﻘﺒﻞ ﺍﻵﺧﺮ ،ﻳﺠﺐ
ﺭﺩ ﻓﻌﻞ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﻓﻲ ﻗﻮﻝ ”ﺍﻋﺘﺬﺭ ﻋﻤﺎ ﻓﻌﻠﺖ!“ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺘﻌﻠﻢ ﻭﺗﻄﺒﻖ ﻣﻨﻬﺠﻬﺎ ﻭﺃﺳﻠﻮﺑﻬﺎ .ﻫﺬﻩ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺃﺳﺎﻟﻴﺐ
Eﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺨﻄﺄ ً
ﺃﻳﻀﺎ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺘﺠﺎﻭﺏ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﺑﺸﻜﻞ ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﺣﺪﺓ ﻣﻦ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺓ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻓﻲ ﺗﻘﺒﻞ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻫﻢ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻌﻬﺎ:
ﺳﻠﻮﻙ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء. ً
ﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﻤﺎﻉ ﺑﺄﺫﻥ ﻭﺍﺣﺪﺓ ،ﺍﻣﻨﺤﻪ ﻛﻞ -1
Eﺗﺠﻨﺐ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺍﻟﻜﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﻭﺍﻟﻌﺒﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﻳﻄﻠﻘﻬﺎ
ً ﺍﻧﺘﺒﺎﻫﻚ :ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﺤﺒﻂ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻌﺒﺮ ﻋﻦ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻙ ﻟﺸﺨﺺ ﻻ
ﺍﺳﺘﺨﻔﺎﻓﺎ ﺑﻤﺸﺎﻋﺮﻫﻢ ﻭﺗﻬﻜﻤًﺎ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻷﻧﻬﻢ ﻳﺮﻭﻥ ﻓﻲ ﺫﻟﻚ
ﻳﻤﻠﻚ ﺳﻮﻯ ﺷﻔﺎﻩ ﻣﺘﺤﺮﻛﺔ .ﻣﻦ ﺍﻷﺳﻬﻞ ﺑﻜﺜﻴﺮ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻔﺼﺢ
ﻋﻠﻴﻬﻢ.
ﻋﻦ ﺍﺿﻄﺮﺍﺑﺎﺗﻚ ﻷﺏ ﻳﺴﺘﻤﻊ ﺇﻟﻴﻚ ﺑﻜﻞ ﺟﻮﺍﺭﺣﻪ .ﻭﻟﻴﺲ
ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻀﺮﻭﺭﻱ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻨﺒﺲ ﺑﺒﻨﺖ ﺷﻔﺔ ،ﻓﻜﻞ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺤﺘﺎﺟﻪ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ
ﻫﻮ ﻧﻈﺮﺓ ﺃﻭ ﺣﺘﻰ ﺻﻤﺖ ﻳﻨﻢ ﻋﻦ ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻃﻒ.
ﻳﻌﺪ ﺍﻟﻜﻔﺎﺡ ﺍﻟﺪﺍﺋﻢ ﻟﻼﺭﺗﻘﺎء ﺑﺴﻠﻮﻙ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﺑﺤﻴﺚ ﻳﺘﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﻣﻊ ﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺗﻘﺪﻳﻢ ﺍﻟﻨﺼﺎﺋﺢ ﻭﻃﺮﺡ ﺍﻷﺳﺌﻠﺔ ،ﺍﻛﺘﻒ ً -2
ﺍﻟﻌﺮﻑ ﻭﺍﻟﻤﺠﺘﻤﻊ ﺑﺸﻜﻞ ﻋﺎﻡ ﺃﺣﺪ ﺃﻫﻢ ﺗﺤﺪﻳﺎﺕ ﺍﻷﺑﻮﺓ ،ﺇﻥ ﻟﻢ ﺣﻘﺎ ...ﺃﻧﺖ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺣﻖ“:ﺑﺒﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﻌﺒﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﻣﺜﻞ ”ﻧﻌﻢً ...
ﻭﻋﺴﺮﺍ .ﻳﻜﻤﻦ ﺍﻟﺠﺰء ﺍﻷﺻﻌﺐ ﻣﻦ ﻫﺬﺍ ً ﻳﻜﻦ ﺃﻛﺜﺮﻫﺎ ﻣﺸﻘﺔ ﻳﺼﻌﺐ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺍﻷﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻭﺍﻻﺳﺘﺮﺳﺎﻝ ﻓﻲ
ﺍﻟﻜﻔﺎﺡ ﻓﻴﻤﺎ ﻳﻌﺮﻑ ﺑﺼﺮﺍﻉ ﺍﻻﺣﺘﻴﺎﺟﺎﺕ .ﺃﻫﻢ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺤﺘﺎﺟﻪ ﺍﻟﺤﺪﻳﺚ ﺣﻴﻦ ﻳﻜﻮﻧﻮﻥ ﻓﻲ ﻣﻮﺿﻊ ﺍﺳﺘﺠﻮﺍﺏ ﺃﻭ ﺍﺗﻬﺎﻡ ﺃﻭ
ﺍﻟﺒﺎﻟﻎ ﻫﻮ ﻣﻈﻬﺮ ﺧﺎﺭﺟﻲ ﻻﺋﻖ ،ﺑﺎﻹﺿﺎﻓﺔ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﻨﻈﺎﻡ، ﺣﺘﻰ ﻧﺼﻴﺤﺔ .ﻓﺒﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﻜﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﻭﺍﻹﻳﻤﺎءﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﺒﺴﻴﻄﺔ ﻣﺜﻞ
ﻭﺃﺧﻴﺮﺍ ﺍﻟﺮﻭﺗﻴﻦ .ﺃﻣﺎ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻓﺘﺨﺘﻠﻒ
ً ﻭﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻹﻃﺮﺍءﺍﺕ، ”ﻧﻌﻢ ...ﻣﻤﻢ ...ﺃﻭﻩ“ ﺗﺘﻤﺘﻊ ﺑﺘﺄﺛﻴﺮ ﻛﺒﻴﺮ .ﻓﻬﺬﻩ ﺍﻟﻜﻠﻤﺎﺕ
ﺃﻭﻟﻮﻳﺎﺗﻬﻢ! ﻓﻜﻢ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻗﺪ ﻳﺴﺘﺤﻢ ﺃﻭ ﻳﻐﺘﺴﻞ – ﺑﺮﻏﺒﺔ ﻣﻘﺘﺮﻧﺔ ﺑﺴﻠﻮﻙ ﻭﻧﻈﺮﺓ ﺍﻫﺘﻤﺎﻡ ﻛﻔﻴﻠﺔ ﺑﺄﻥ ﺗﺴﺘﻘﻄﺐ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ
ً
ﺟﺰﻳﻼ!“. ”ﺷﻜﺮﺍ
ً ﻧﺎﺑﻌﺔ ﻣﻨﻪ – ﺃﻭ ﻳﻘﻮﻝ ”ﻣﻦ ﻓﻀﻠﻚ“ ﺃﻭ ﻟﻠﺘﻌﺒﻴﺮ ﻋﻦ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻫﻢ ﺍﻟﺪﻓﻴﻨﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺒﻮﺡ ﺑﻤﺸﻜﻼﺗﻬﻢ ﻭﺍﻟﺨﺮﻭﺝ
ﻳﻨﺼﺐ ﻣﻌﻈﻢ ﺍﻟﺘﻬﺬﻳﺐ ﺍﻷﺑﻮﻱ ﻓﻲ ﻣﺴﺎﻋﺪﺓ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻋﻠﻰ ﺑﺤﻠﻮﻝ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺒﺔ ﻟﻬﺎ ﺑﺄﻧﻔﺴﻬﻢ.
ﺍﻟﺘﺄﻗﻠﻢ ﻣﻊ ﺍﻟﻤﻌﺎﻳﻴﺮ ﻭﺍﻷﻋﺮﺍﻑ ﺍﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻴﺔ ،ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﺎ ﺍﺯﺩﺍﺩ ً -3
ﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺗﺠﺎﻫﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﺎﻋﺮ ،ﺍﻣﻨﺤﻬﺎ ﻣﺴﻤﻰ ﻣﺤﺪ ًﺩﺍ:
ﺇﺻﺮﺍﺭ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ،ﺗﻀﺎﻋﻒ ﺭﻓﺾ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء. ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻌﺠﻴﺐ ﺃﻥ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻳﺰﺩﺍﺩﻭﻥ ً
ﺣﻨﻘﺎ ﻭﻏﻀﺒًﺎ ﺣﻴﻦ ﺗﺤﺎﻭﻝ
ﺷﻌﻮﺭﺍ ﻣﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻭﻟﻮ ﺑﻠﻄﻒ ﻭﻫﺪﻭء ﺷﺪﻳﺪ.
ً ﺃﻥ ﺗﺼﺮﻑ ﻋﻨﻬﻢ
ﻫﻞ ﻣﻦ ﺑﺪﻳﻞ؟ ﻫﻞ ﻣﻦ ﻭﺳﻴﻠﺔ ﻟﺤﻔﺰ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻭﺣﺜﻬﻢ ﻋﻠﻰ
ﻭﻣﻦ ﺛﻢ ﻳﺨﺸﻰ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﺃﻥ ﻳﻤﻨﺤﻮﺍ ﻫﺬﺍ ﺍﻟﺸﻌﻮﺭ ﺍﺳﻤًﺎ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻻ
ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻭﻥ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻘﻮﻳﻢ ﺍﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ ﺩﻭﻥ ﺍﻟﺘﺴﺒﺐ ﻓﻲ ﺗﻘﻠﻴﻞ ﺛﻘﺘﻬﻢ
ﻳﺰﺩﺍﺩ ﺍﻟﻮﺿﻊ ﺳﻮءًﺍ .ﻟﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﻌﻜﺲ ﻫﻮ ﺍﻟﺼﺤﻴﺢ! ﻓﺎﻟﻄﻔﻞ
ﺑﺎﻟﻨﻔﺲ ﺃﻭ ﺍﻟﺨﺮﻭﺝ ﺑﻨﺘﺎﺋﺞ ﻋﻜﺴﻴﺔ ﺃﻭ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮ ﺳﻠﺒﻴﺔ؟ ﻫﺬﻩ
ﺑﻤﺠﺮﺩ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺴﻤﻊ ﺍﺳﻢ ﺍﻟﺸﻌﻮﺭ ﺍﻟﺬﻱ ﻳﻤﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻳﻨﺘﺎﺑﻪ ﺇﺣﺴﺎﺱ
ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﻤﻬﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﻤﻜﻨﻚ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﻨﺎﺥ ﻗﺎﺋﻢ ﻋﻠﻰ
ﺑﺎﻟﺮﺍﺣﺔ ،ﺫﻟﻚ ﺃﻧﻪ ﻭﺟﺪ ﻣﻦ ﻳﻔﻬﻢ ﺣﻘﻴﻘﺔ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻩ ﺍﻟﺪﺍﺧﻠﻴﺔ،
ﺍﻻﺣﺘﺮﺍﻡ ﺍﻟﻤﺘﺒﺎﺩﻝ ﺗﺴﻬﻞ ﻓﻴﻪ ﻋﻤﻠﻴﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻭﻥ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻘﻮﻳﻢ
ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﺒﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺜﺎﻝ” :ﻳﺒﺪﻭ ﺃﻧﻚ ﺗﺸﻌﺮ ﺑﺸﻲء ﻣﻦ ﺍﻹﺣﺒﺎﻁ!“.
ﺍﻻﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ:
ﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺍﺳﺘﺨﺪﺍﻡ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﻄﻖ ﻭﺍﻟﻔﻠﺴﻔﺔ ،ﺍﻣﻨﺢ ﻃﻔﻠﻚ ً -4
-1ﺍﻟﻮﺻﻒ :ﺻﻒ ﻣﺎ ﺗﺮﺍﻩ ﺃﻣﺎﻡ ﻋﻴﻨﻴﻚ ،ﻭﺣﺪﺩ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﻜﻠﺔ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺘﻤﻨﺎﻩ ﻭﻟﻮ ﻓﻲ ﻋﺎﻟﻢ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺨﻴﺎﻝ :ﺣﻴﻦ ﻳﻌﺒﺮ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ
ﻛﻤﺎ ﺗﺮﺍﻫﺎ .ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺼﻌﺐ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻘﻮﻡ ﺍﻹﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﺑﻤﺎ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﺃﻥ ﻋﻦ ﺭﻏﺒﺘﻪ ﺍﻟﻤﻠﺤﺔ ﻓﻲ ﺷﻲء ﻻ ﻳﻤﻜﻨﻪ ﺍﻟﺤﺼﻮﻝ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ،ﻳﺤﺎﻭﻝ
ﻳﻔﻌﻠﻪ ﻃﺎﻟﻤﺎ ﻳﺴﺘﻤﺮ ﺍﻵﺧﺮﻭﻥ ﻓﻲ ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻪ” :ﻣﺎ ﺧﻄﺒﻚ؟!“ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﺗﺒﺮﻳﺮ ﺃﺳﺒﺎﺏ ﻋﺪﻡ ﺇﻣﻜﺎﻧﻴﺔ ﺍﻟﺤﺼﻮﻝ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﺑﺎﻟﺘﻔﺴﻴﺮ
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﺑﻤﺠﺮﺩ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻘﻮﻡ ﺃﺣﺪﻫﻢ ﺑﻮﺻﻒ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﻜﻠﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﻳﻌﺎﻧﻲ ﺍﻟﻌﻘﻠﻲ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﺤﻠﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﻄﻘﻲ .ﻣﻊ ﺃﻧﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎ ﺍﺯﺩﺍﺩ ﺍﻟﺘﻔﺴﻴﺮ ﺗﻌﻘﻴ ًﺪﺍ،
ﻳﺴﺮﺍ ﺑﺤﻴﺚ ﻳﺘﺎﺡ ﻟﻪ
ﻣﻨﻬﺎ ﻭﻣﻨﺤﻬﺎ ﺍﺳﻤًﺎ ،ﻳﺼﺒﺢ ﺍﻷﻣﺮ ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ً ﺯﺍﺩ ﺍﻋﺘﺮﺍﺽ ﻭﺇﺻﺮﺍﺭ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء! ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﻓﻲ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻷﺣﻴﺎﻥ،
ﺗﻮﺣﻴﺪ ﺗﺮﻛﻴﺰﻩ ﻭﺍﻫﺘﻤﺎﻣﻪ ﻟﻠﺘﻌﺎﻃﻲ ﻣﻌﻬﺎ .ﺣﻴﻦ ﻳﻘﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﺒﺎﻟﻐﻮﻥ ﻗﺪ ﻳﺠﺪﻱ ﻧﻔﻌًﺎ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺸﻌﺮ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﺑﺄﻥ ﺍﻟﻄﺮﻑ ﺍﻵﺧﺮ ﻳﺘﻔﻬﻢ ﺟﻴ ًﺪﺍ
ﺑﻮﺻﻒ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﻜﻠﺔ ،ﻓﺈﻧﻬﻢ ﻳﺘﻴﺤﻮﻥ ﻷﻃﻔﺎﻟﻬﻢ ﺍﻟﻔﺮﺻﺔ ﻟﻠﺘﻌﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﺪﻯ ﺭﻏﺒﺘﻪ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺤﺼﻮﻝ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻫﺬﺍ ﺍﻟﺸﻲء .ﻓﻴﻤﻜﻦ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻘﻮﻝ
ﻭﻓﻘﺎ ﻟﻬﺎ ،ﻣﺜﻞ” :ﻣﺎ ﺯﺍﻝ ﻣﺼﺒﺎﺡ ﺍﻟﻐﺮﻓﺔﻣﻌﻬﺎ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﺼﺮﻑ ً ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﺒﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺜﺎﻝ” :ﻟﻴﺘﻨﻲ ﺃﺳﺘﻄﻴﻊ ﺃﻥ ﺃﺟﻌﻞ ﻫﺬﻩ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﺯﺓ
ﻣﻀﺎءً!“ ﺗﻨﻀﺞ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻝ ﻛﻲ ﺗﺘﻤﻜﻦ ﻣﻦ ﺗﻨﺎﻭﻟﻬﺎ ﻳﺎ ﻋﺰﻳﺰﻱ!“
ﻟﻠﻌﻘﺎﺏ ﻋﻮﺍﻗﺐ ﻭﺧﻴﻤﺔ ﺗﻔﻮﻕ ﻓﻮﺍﺋﺪﻩ ﺑﻤﺮﺍﺣﻞ .ﺍﻟﻌﻘﺎﺏ ﻻ -5ﺗﺪﻭﻳﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﻼﺣﻈﺎﺕ :ﻗﺪ ﺗﻜﻮﻥ ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﻭﺍﺣﺪﺓ ﻣﻜﺘﻮﺑﺔ
ً
ﻭﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺠﺪﻱ ﻧﻔﻌًﺎ ،ﺑﻞ ﻳﺘﺴﺒﺐ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻻﺿﻄﺮﺍﺑﺎﺕ، ﺃﻓﻀﻞ ﻣﻦ ﻣﺌﺎﺕ ﺍﻟﻜﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺍﻟﻤﺴﻤﻮﻋﺔ .ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﺒﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺜﺎﻝ:
ﻳﺸﻌﺮ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﺑﺎﻟﺬﻧﺐ ﻟﻤﺎ ﺍﻗﺘﺮﻓﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻓﻌﺎﻝ ﻭﻳﺒﺪﺃ ﻓﻲ ﺇﻧﻘﺎﺫ ﺑﺎﺩﺭﺕ ﺇﺣﺪﻯ ﺍﻷﻣﻬﺎﺕ ﺫﺍﺕ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺑﻜﺘﺎﺑﺔ ﻣﻠﺤﻮﻇﺔ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺟﻬﺎﺯ
ﻣﺎ ﻳﻤﻜﻦ ﺇﻧﻘﺎﺫﻩ ،ﺗﺴﻴﻄﺮ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻓﻜﺮﺓ ﺍﻻﻧﺘﻘﺎﻡ .ﺑﻤﻌﻨﻰ ﺁﺧﺮ: ﺍﻟﺘﻠﻔﺎﺯ ﺗﻘﻮﻝ ﻓﻴﻬﺎ” :ﻗﺒﻞ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻬﻢ ﺑﺘﺸﻐﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﺘﻠﻔﺎﺯ ،ﺣﺎﺳﺐ
ﺃﻭﻻ ،ﻫﻞ ﺃﺩﻳﺖ ﻣﺎ ﻟﺪﻳﻚ ﻣﻦ ﻓﺮﻭﺽ ﻣﻨﺰﻟﻴﺔ؟ ﻫﻞ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ً
ﺗﺘﺴﺒﺐ ﻣﻌﺎﻗﺒﺔ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻧﺘﺰﺍﻉ ﺍﻟﺠﺰء ﺍﻟﻤﺴﺆﻭﻝ ﺑﺪﺍﺧﻠﻬﻢ
ﻗﻤﺖ ﺑﺤﻞ ﺍﻟﺘﻤﺮﻳﻨﺎﺕ؟“
ﻭﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭﺍ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺴﺘﺨﺪﻡ
ً ﻣﺮﺍﺭﺍ
Eﺍﻟﻠﻮﻡ ﻭﺍﻻﺗﻬﺎﻡ” :ﺍﻧﻈﺮ ،ﺑﺼﻤﺎﺕ ﺃﺻﺎﺑﻌﻚ ﺍﻟﻤﺘﺴﺨﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺒﺎﺏ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺃﺧﺮﻯ! ...ﺃﻟﻢ ﺃﺧﺒﺮﻙ ً
ﺍﻟﻤﻘﺒﺾ؟ ...ﺳﺘﻈﻞ ﻫﻜﺬﺍ ﺩﺍﺋﻤًﺎ ﻷﻧﻚ ﻻ ﺗﺴﻤﻊ ﺃﺑ ًﺪﺍ“.
Eﺍﻟﺸﺘﺎﺋﻢ” :ﺍﻧﻈﺮ ﺇﻟﻰ ﻃﺮﻳﻘﺘﻚ ﻓﻲ ﺗﻨﺎﻭﻝ ﺍﻟﻄﻌﺎﻡ! ﺃﻧﺖ ً
ﺣﻘﺎ ﻣﺜﻴﺮ ﻟﻼﺷﻤﺌﺰﺍﺯ“.
Eﺍﻟﺘﻬﺪﻳﺪ” :ﺣﺎﻭﻝ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻠﻤﺲ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺍﻟﻤﺼﺒﺎﺡ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺃﺧﺮﻯ ﻭﺳﺄﺻﻔﻌﻚ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻭﺟﻬﻚ!“
Eﺍﻷﻭﺍﻣﺮ” :ﻫﻴﺎ ﺍﺻﻌﺪ ﻟﺘﻨﻈﻴﻒ ﻏﺮﻓﺘﻚ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻝ ﻭﺇﻳﺎﻙ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺘﻜﺎﺳﻞ“.
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
Eﺍﻟﻮﻋﻆ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻮﺑﻴﺦ” :ﻫﻞ ﺗﻌﺘﻘﺪ ﺃﻥ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺗﺼﺮﻑ ﻻﺋﻖ ،ﺃﻥ ﺗﻨﺘﺰﻉ ﺍﻟﻜﺘﺎﺏ ﻣﻦ ﻳﺪﻱ؟ ...ﺃﻧﺖ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺆﺩﺏ ...ﺃﻧﺖ ﻻ ﺗﺪﺭﻙ
ً
ﻣﻨﻀﺒﻄﺎ ﻭﻣﺆﺩﺑﺎً“. ﺃﻧﻚ ﻳﺠﺐ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻜﻮﻥ
Eﺍﻟﺘﺤﺬﻳﺮﺍﺕ” :ﺍﻧﺘﺒﻪ ﻟﻤﺎ ﺗﻔﻌﻠﻪ ﻭﺇﻻ ﺃﺣﺮﻗﺖ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ“.
Eﺗﻮﺟﻴﻪ ﺗﻬﻤﺔ ﺍﻟﻘﺘﻞ” :ﻫﻞ ﺗﺮﻯ ﺷﻌﺮﻱ ﺍﻷﺑﻴﺾ؟ ﻛﻠﻪ ﺑﺴﺒﺒﻚ ،ﻷﻥ ﺗﺼﺮﻓﺎﺗﻚ ﺳﺘﻮﺩﻱ ﺑﻲ ﺣﺘﻤًﺎ ،ﻷﻧﻚ ﺗﺤﻔﺮ ﻗﺒﺮﻱ
ﺑﻴﺪﻳﻚ!“
ﻓﻮﺭﺍ؟“
Eﺍﻟﻤﻘﺎﺭﻧﺎﺕ” :ﺃﻻ ﺗﺴﺘﻄﻴﻊ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻜﻮﻥ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺃﺧﻴﻚ ﻭﺗﺘﻌﻠﻢ ﻣﻨﻪ؟ ﺃﻻ ﺗﺮﻯ ﻣﻬﺎﺭﺍﺗﻪ ﻭﺇﻧﺠﺎﺯﻩ ﻟﻮﺍﺟﺒﺎﺗﻪ ً
Eﺍﻟﺴﺨﺮﻳﺔ ﻭﺍﻻﺳﺘﻬﺰﺍء” :ﻣﺎ ﻫﺬﺍ ﺍﻟﺬﻱ ﺗﺮﺗﺪﻳﻪ؟ ﻣﻼﺑﺲ ﻣﺰﺧﺮﻓﺔ ﻭﻣﻨﻘﻄﺔ؟ ﺳﻮﻑ ﺗﻠﻔﺖ ﺃﻧﻈﺎﺭ ﺍﻟﺠﻤﻴﻊ ﺍﻟﻴﻮﻡ!“
Eﺍﻟﺘﻮﻗﻌﺎﺕ ﺍﻟﺴﻠﺒﻴﺔ” :ﻫﺬﻩ ﻫﻲ ﻋﺎﺩﺗﻚ ،ﻻ ﺗﻜﻒ ﺃﺑ ًﺪﺍ ﻋﻦ ﺍﻟﺸﻜﻮﻯ ...ﻭﻟﻢ ﺗﺤﺎﻭﻝ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺴﺎﻋﺪ ﻧﻔﺴﻚ ﻳﻮﻣًﺎ .ﺃﺗﺨﻴﻠﻚ ﺑﻌﺪ
ﻋﺸﺮ ﺳﻨﻮﺍﺕ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻵﻥ ﺷﻜﺎء ..ﺑﻜﺎء ..ﺧﻄﺎء“. 3
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ٍ -3ﺗﺒﺎﺩﻟﻮﺍ ﺍﻷﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻳﺘﻢ ﺍﻟﺘﻮﺻﻞ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺣﻞ ﻋﻦ ﻣﻮﺍﺟﻬﺔ ﺳﻮء ﺍﻟﺴﻠﻮﻙ .ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﺇﻥ ﻟﻢ ﻳﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﻌﻘﺎﺏ ﻣﺠﺪﻳًﺎ،
ﺍﻷﻃﺮﺍﻑ. ﻓﻤﺎ ﻫﻲ ﺍﻟﺒﺪﺍﺋﻞ؟
-4ﺩﻭﱢﻥ ﻫﺬﻩ ﺍﻷﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺩﻭﻥ ﺗﻘﻴﻴﻢ.
-5ﺍﺧﺘﺮ ﺍﻷﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﺤﺒﺬﻫﺎ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﻻ ﺗﺤﺒﺬﻫﺎ ﻭﺗﻠﻚ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ -1ﺍﻗﺘﺮﺡ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻷﻓﻜﺎﺭ” :ﻣﺎ ﺭﺃﻳﻚ ﺑﺄﻥ ﺗﺄﺗﻲ ﺑﺜﻼﺙ
ﺗﻘﺮﺭ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ ً
ﻭﻓﻘﺎ ﻟﻬﺎ. ﺣﺒﺎﺕ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻠﻴﻤﻮﻥ ﻟﻨﺎ ﺟﻤﻴﻌًﺎ؟“
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
ﺟﺪﻳﺮﺍ ﺑﺎﻟﺜﻘﺔ :ﺇﺫﺍ ﻛﻨﺖ ﺗﻌﺘﻘﺪ ﺃﻧﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺠﻴﺪ ﺍﻟﺘﻈﺎﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﻟﺼﺒﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﻬﺪﻭء ﺃﻣﺎﻡ ﺃﺑﻨﺎﺋﻚ ﻓﻲ ﺃﻗﺼﻰ ﻟﺤﻈﺎﺕ ﻏﻀﺒﻚ،
ً -1ﻛﻦ
ﻓﺎﻋﻠﻢ ﺃﻥ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺧﻄﺄ ﺟﺴﻴﻢ! ﻓﻠﻦ ﻳﺆﺩﻱ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺇﻟﻰ ﻓﺸﻞ ﺍﻟﺘﻮﺍﺻﻞ ﻣﻊ ﺃﺑﻨﺎﺋﻚ ﻓﻘﻂ ،ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﺒﺎﻟﻐﺔ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺘﻈﺎﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﻟﻠﻄﻒ ﻭﺍﻟﻬﺪﻭء
ﺳﻴﺠﻌﻠﻚ ﺗﻔﻘﺪ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﺭﺓ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﻜﻢ ﻓﻲ ﺃﻋﺼﺎﺑﻚ ﺫﺍﺕ ﻣﺮﺓ ﻭﻳﻨﻜﺸﻒ ﺃﻣﺮﻙ ﺃﻣﺎﻣﻬﻢ.
-2ﺍﻟﻔﺸﻞ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻤﺤﺎﻭﻟﺔ ﺍﻷﻭﻟﻰ ﻻ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺑﺎﻟﻀﺮﻭﺭﺓ ﺍﻟﺮﺟﻮﻉ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﻄﺮﻕ ﺍﻟﺘﻘﻠﻴﺪﻳﺔ ﺍﻟﻘﺪﻳﻤﺔ :ﻻ ﺗﻨﺲ ﺃﻧﻚ ﺗﺘﻤﺘﻊ ﺑﺤﻖ
ﺍﻟﺘﺼﺮﻑ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻤﻬﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﻤﺘﺎﺣﺔ ﻟﻚ ﻛﻴﻔﻤﺎ ﻭﻭﻗﺘﻤﺎ ﺗﺸﺎء .ﻳﻤﻜﻨﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺠﻤﻊ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﻣﻦ ﻣﻬﺎﺭﺓ ﻟﻤﻀﺎﻋﻔﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﺄﺛﻴﺮ ﻭﺍﻟﻔﻌﺎﻟﻴﺔ.
ﺃﻭﻻ ،ﺛﻢ ﺍﺭﻓﻊ ﻧﺒﺮﺓ ﺻﻮﺗﻚ ،ﺛﻢ ﺩﻭﱢﻥ ﻣﻼﺣﻈﺎﺗﻚ. ﻋﻠﻰ ﺳﺒﻴﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺜﺎﻝ :ﺍﺩﻣﺞ ﻣﻬﺎﺭﺗﻲ ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺒﻴﺮ ﻋﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﺎﻋﺮ ﻭﺗﻘﺪﻳﻢ ﺍﻟﻤﻌﻠﻮﻣﺎﺕ ً
4 ﻛﻤﺎ ﻳﻤﻜﻨﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺼﻒ ﻣﺸﺎﻋﺮﻙ ﺍﻟﺴﻠﺒﻴﺔ ﻭﻛﻢ ﻳﺰﻋﺠﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺘﻌﺮﺽ ﻟﻠﺘﺠﺎﻫﻞ ﻭﺍﻹﻫﻤﺎﻝ.
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-2ﺍﺣﺘﺮﻡ ﻣﺤﺎﻭﻻﺗﻪ :ﺣﻴﻦ ﻳﺸﻌﺮ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﺑﺎﺣﺘﺮﺍﻡ Eﻻ ﺗﺪﻉ ﺷﻌﻮﺭﻙ ﺑﺎﻟﺴﻌﺎﺩﺓ ﺍﻟﻤﻔﺮﻃﺔ ﻟﺘﻮﺻﻠﻚ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺣﻞ
ﺃﺳﻮﺃ ﺍﻟﻠﺤﻈﺎﺕ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺃﻣﺮ ﺑﻬﺎ ﻋﻨﺪﻣﺎ ﺃﻋﻮﺩ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﺰﻝ ﺑﻌﺪ ﻳﻮﻡ ﻋﻤﻞ ﺷﺎﻕ ﻭﻃﻮﻳﻞ ﻫﻲ ﺍﻟﻌﺸﺮﻭﻥ ﺩﻗﻴﻘﺔ ﺍﻷﻭﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺃﺑﺪﺃ ﻓﻴﻬﺎ
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
ﺑﺈﻋﺪﺍﺩ ﺍﻟﻄﻌﺎﻡ ﺑﻴﻨﻤﺎ ﻳﺘﺪﺍﻓﻊ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﺑﻴﻦ ﺍﻟﺜﻼﺟﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﻔﺮﻥ ﻭﺃﺩﻭﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﻤﻄﺒﺦ .ﻭﺑﻤﺠﺮﺩ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻮﺿﻊ ﺍﻟﻄﻌﺎﻡ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻤﺎﺋﺪﺓ ،ﺗﻜﻮﻥ
ﺷﻬﻴﺘﻬﻢ ﻗﺪ ﺫﻫﺒﺖ ﺑﻼ ﺭﺟﻌﺔ! ﻭﻗﺪ ﻫﺪﺍﻧﻲ ﻋﻘﻠﻲ ﺇﻟﻰ ﻓﻜﺮﺓ ﻭﻗﺮﺭﺕ ﺃﻥ ﺃﺟﺮﺑﻬﺎ ﻓﻮﺿﻌﺖ ﻻﻓﺘﺔ ﻣﻠﻮﻧﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺑﺎﺏ ﺍﻟﻤﻄﺒﺦ ﺗﻘﻮﻝ:
”ﻣﻐﻠﻖ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻣﻮﻋﺪ ﺍﻟﻐﺪﺍء!“
ﺃﺭﺍﺩ ﻃﻔﻠﻲ ﺫﻭ ﺍﻷﺭﺑﻌﺔ ﺃﻋﻮﺍﻡ ﺃﻥ ﻳﻌﺮﻑ ﻣﺎ ﻫﻮ ﻣﺪﻭﻥ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻼﻓﺘﺔ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺤﺎﻝ .ﻗﻤﺖ ﺑﺸﺮﺡ ﻣﻌﻨﻰ ﻛﻞ ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺣﺪﺓ ،ﻓﻜﺎﻧﺖ
ﺍﻟﻨﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺃﻧﻪ ﺃﺻﺒﺢ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ﺍﻻﻟﺘﺰﺍﻡ ﺑﻬﺬﻩ ﺍﻟﻘﺎﻋﺪﺓ ﺣﺘﻰ ﺃﻥ ﻗﺪﻣﻴﻪ ﻟﻢ ﺗﻄﺂ ﺃﺭﺽ ﺍﻟﻤﻄﺒﺦ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﺍﻋﻴﺪ ﺍﻟﻤﺤﻈﻮﺭﺓ ﻣﻨﺬ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺍﻟﺤﻴﻦ!
ﺑﻞ ﺑﺪﺃ ﻳﻠﻌﺐ ﻭﻳﻠﻬﻮ ﻣﻊ ﺷﻘﻴﻘﺘﻪ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﺤﺪﻳﻘﺔ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻳﺤﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﻋﺪ ﺍﻟﻐﺪﺍء ﻭﺃﻧﺰﻉ ﺍﻟﻼﻓﺘﺔ ﻭﻳُﺴﻤﺢ ﻟﻬﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻟﺪﺧﻮﻝ .ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻴﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﺘﺎﻟﻲ
ﻭﺿﻌﺖ ﺍﻟﻼﻓﺘﺔ ﻣﺮﺓ ﺃﺧﺮﻯ ﺑﻴﻨﻤﺎ ﻛﻨﺖ ﺃﻋﺪ ﺷﻄﺎﺋﺮ ﺍﻟﻠﺤﻢ ﻭﺇﺫﺍ ﺑﻲ ﺃﺳﻤﻊ ﻃﻔﻠﻲ ﻳُﻌﻠﻢ ﺃﺧﺘﻪ ﺫﺍﺕ ﺍﻟﺮﺑﻴﻌﻴﻦ ﻣﺎ ﻫﻮ ﻣﺪﻭﻥ ﻋﻠﻰ
ﺍﻟﻼﻓﺘﺔ ﻭﻫﻲ ﺗﺮﺩﺩ ﺧﻠﻔﻪ ”ﻣﻐﻠﻖ ...ﺣﺘﻰ ...ﻣﻮﻋﺪ ...ﺍﻟﻐﺪﺍء“. 5
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ﺍﻟﺴﻨـــﺔ ﺍﻷﻭﻟﻰ -ﺍﻟـﻌـﺪﺩ ﺍﻟﺮﺍﺑﻊ ) -ﺃﺑﺮﻳﻞ 4 - (2011 ﻗﺪ ﺗﺘﺴﻢ ﻋﻤﻠﻴﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﺸﺠﻴﻊ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﻘﻼﻟﻴﺔ ﺑﺎﻟﺘﻌﻘﻴﺪ ﺃﺣﻴﺎ ًﻧﺎ.
ﻓﻌﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺮﻏﻢ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻗﺘﻨﺎﻋﻨﺎ ﺑﺄﻫﻤﻴﺔ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻘﻬﺎ ﻟﻸﻃﻔﺎﻝ ،ﻓﺈﻥ ﻫﻨﺎﻙ
ﻳﻌﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻣﻦ ﻗﺪﺭ ﻻ ﻳﺴﺘﻬﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﺨﻔﺎﻑ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﻌﻮﺍﻣﻞ ﺍﻟﺪﺍﺧﻠﻴﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﻌﺘﺮﺽ ﻃﺮﻳﻖ ﺍﻻﺳﺘﻘﻼﻟﻴﺔ:
ﺩﺍﺧﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﺰﻝ ،ﻭﻣﻊ ﺫﻟﻚ ﻓﻬﻢ ﻳﺘﻤﺘﻌﻮﻥ ﺑﻘﺪﺭﺓ ﻓﺎﺋﻘﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ
ﺍﻟﺘﺼﺪﻱ ﻟﻠﺘﺤﺪﻳﺎﺕ ﺍﻟﺨﺎﺭﺟﻴﺔ ﺑﻜﻞ ﺃﺷﻜﺎﻟﻬﺎ .ﺑﻴﻨﻤﺎ ﻳﻨﺎﻝ ﻧﻈﺮﺍ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺇﻳﻘﺎﻉ ﺍﻟﺤﻴﺎﺓ
ً -1ﺗﺤﻘﻴﻖ ﺍﻟﺮﺍﺣﺔ ﺍﻟﻤﻄﻠﻘﺔ:
ﺍﻟﺒﻌﺾ ﺍﻵﺧﺮ ﻛﻞ ﺍﻻﺣﺘﺮﺍﻡ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻘﺪﻳﺮ ﺩﺍﺧﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﻨﺰﻝ ،ﻭﻣﻊ ﻓﻜﺜﻴﺮﺍ ﻣﺎ ﻧﺠﺪ ﺃﻧﻔﺴﻨﺎ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻋﺠﻠﺔ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻣﺮﻧﺎ.ً ﺍﻟﺴﺮﻳﻊ،
ﺫﻟﻚ ﻓﻬﻢ ﻳﻔﺘﻘﺮﻭﻥ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﺜﻘﺔ ﺑﺎﻟﻨﻔﺲ ﻭﻳﻬﺎﺑﻮﻥ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﻱ .ﻫﺆﻻء ﻭﺑﺎﻟﺘﺎﻟﻲ ﻓﻨﺤﻦ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻮﻗﻆ ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻮﻣﻬﻢ ،ﻭﻧﻐﻠﻖ ﻟﻬﻢ
ﺍﻟﺬﻳﻦ ﻳﺘﺮﻋﺮﻋﻮﻥ ﻓﻲ ﺑﻴﺌﺎﺕ ﺗُﻘﺪﺭ ﺟﻬﻮﺩﻫﻢ ﻳﺘﻤﺘﻌﻮﻥ ﺑﺎﻟﺮﺿﺎ ﺃﺯﺭﺍﺭ ﻣﻼﺑﺴﻬﻢ ،ﻭﻧُﻤﻠﻲ ﻋﻠﻴﻬﻢ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺄﻛﻠﻮﻧﻪ ﻭﻣﺎ ﻳﺮﺗﺪﻭﻧﻪ،
ﻋﻦ ﺍﻟﻨﻔﺲ ،ﻭﺑﻘﺪﺭﺓ ﺃﻛﺒﺮ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻣﻮﺍﺟﻬﺔ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﻳﺎﺕ ﻭﺗﺤﺪﻳﺪ
ﻷﻧﻨﺎ ﻧﻘﻮﻡ ﺑﻬﺬﻩ ﺍﻷﻣﻮﺭ ﺑﺸﻜﻞ ﺃﺳﺮﻉ ﻭﺃﻓﻀﻞ ﻣﻨﻬﻢ.
ﺍﻷﻫﺪﺍﻑ ﺍﻷﺳﻤﻰ ﻭﺭﺳﻢ ﺧﺎﺭﻃﺔ ﻃﺮﻳﻖ ﻟﻤﺴﺘﻘﺒﻞ ﺃﻓﻀﻞ.
Eﺇﺫﺍ ﻗﺎﻡ ﻃﻔﻞ ﺻﻐﻴﺮ ﻻ ﻳﺴﺘﻄﻴﻊ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﺙ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺑﻠﻤﺲ ﺷﻲء ﻣﺤﻈﻮﺭ ،ﻓﻬﻞ ﺃﺻﻔﻌﻪ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻳﺪﻩ ﺑﺸﻜﻞ ﺧﻔﻴﻒ؟
ﻋﺪﻡ ﻗﺪﺭﺓ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﺙ ﻻ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻹﻃﻼﻕ ﻋﺪﻡ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻪ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻔﻬﻢ ﻭﺍﻻﺳﺘﻴﻌﺎﺏ .ﺍﻷﻃﻔﺎﻝ ﻳﺘﻌﻠﻤﻮﻥ ﻓﻲ ﻛﻞ ﺩﻗﻴﻘﺔ
ﺗﻤﺮ ﺑﺤﻴﺎﺗﻬﻢ ،ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﺴﺆﺍﻝ ﻫﻮ ”ﻣﺎﺫﺍ ﻳﺘﻌﻠﻤﻮﻥ؟“ .ﻭﻫﻨﺎ ﻳﻜﻮﻥ ﺃﻣﺎﻡ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻴﺎﺭ :ﺇﻣﺎ ﺃﻥ ﻳﺼﻔﻌﻮﻩ ﻋﻠﻰ ﻳﺪﻩ ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﻣﻦ
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
Eﻣﺎ ﺍﻟﻔﺮﻕ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺍﻟﻌﻘﺎﺏ ﻭﺍﻟﺤﺮﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﻟﻄﺒﻴﻌﻲ؟ ﺃﻟﻴﺴﺎ ﻣﺴﻤﻴﻴﻦ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻴﻦ ﻟﻤﻌﻨﻰ ﻭﺍﺣﺪ؟
ﺩﺭﺳﺎ .ﺃﻣﺎ ﺍﻟﻨﺘﺎﺋﺞ ﺍﻟﻄﺒﻴﻌﻴﺔ
ﺍﻟﻌﻘﺎﺏ ﻫﻮ ﺗﻌﻤﺪ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﺣﺮﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻣﻦ ﺷﻲء ﻣﺎ ﻟﻔﺘﺮﺓ ﺯﻣﻨﻴﺔ ﻣﺤﺪﺩﺓ ﺑﻬﺪﻑ ﺇﻳﻼﻣﻪ ﺃﻭ ﺗﻠﻘﻴﻨﻪ ً
6 ﺍﻟﻤﺘﺮﺗﺒﺔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺗﺼﺮﻑ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﻴﻦ ﻓﻬﻲ ﻣﺎ ﺳﻴﻨﺘﺞ ﻋﻦ ﺫﻟﻚ ﺍﻟﺘﺼﺮﻑ ﻓﻲ ﻛﻞ ﺍﻷﺣﻮﺍﻝ ﺳﻮﺍء ﺗﺪﺧﻞ ﺍﻟﻮﺍﻟﺪﺍﻥ ﺃﻡ ﻻ.
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ﻭﺍﻟﺪﻳﻚ ﺗﺠﺎﻫﻚ ﻓﻲ ﺛﻮﺍﻥ ﻣﻌﺪﻭﺩﺍﺕ .ﻭﻣﻦ ﺧﻼﻝ ﻣﻀﺎﻋﻔﺔ -2ﺍﻣﺪﺡ ﺗﺼﺮﻓﺎﺗﻪ ﺍﻟﺠﺪﻳﺮﺓ ﺑﺎﻟﺜﻨﺎء ﻭﻟﻮ ﺑﻜﻠﻤﺔ
ﻳﻀﻄﺮ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء ﻓﻲ ﻛﺜﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﺍﻗﻒ ﺇﻟﻰ ﺍﻟﺘﺼﺪﻱ ﻟﺮﻏﺒﺎﺕ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ،ﻭﻟﻜﻦ ﻟﻸﺳﻒ ﻳﻌﺘﺒﺮ ﺍﻷﺑﻨﺎء ﻫﺬﺍ ﺍﻟﺮﻓﺾ ً
ﻧﻮﻋﺎ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﺪﻱ
ﺃﻭ ﺍﻹﻫﺎﻧﺔ ﻻﺳﺘﻘﻼﻟﻴﺘﻬﻢ ﻭﺣﻴﺎﺗﻬﻢ ﺍﻟﺨﺎﺻﺔ ،ﻓﻴﻮﺟﻬﻮﻥ ﻛﻞ ﺟﻬﻮﺩﻫﻢ ﻟﻠﻬﺠﻮﻡ ﺍﻟﻤﻀﺎﺩ ﻛﺎﻟﺼﺮﺍﺥ ،ﺃﻭ ﺍﻟﻐﻀﺐ .ﻓﺎﻷﻣﺮ ﻟﻴﺲ
ﺻﺒﺮﺍ ﻭﻗﺪﺭﺓ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﺘﺤﻤﻞ .ﻓﻜﻴﻒ ﻳﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﻟﺘﻌﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻊ ﺗﻠﻚ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﺍﻗﻒ؟ ﻫﻞ ﻧﺴﺘﺴﻠﻢ؟ ﻫﻞ ﻧﺨﻀﻊً ﻳﺴﻴﺮﺍ ﺣﺘﻰ ﻣﻊ ﺃﻛﺜﺮ ﺍﻵﺑﺎء
ً
ﻟﻤﻄﺎﻟﺒﻬﻢ؟ ﻫﺬﻩ ﺑﻌﺾ ﺍﻟﺒﺪﺍﺋﻞ ﺍﻟﺘﻲ ﺗﺆﻛﺪ ﺍﻟﺼﺮﺍﻣﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﻤﺮﻭﻧﺔ ﻣﻌًﺎ:
-1ﻗ ﱢﺪﻡ ﺍﻟﻤﻌﻠﻮﻣﺎﺕ ﺩﻭﻥ ﺍﻟﺮﻓﺾ ﺍﻟﻤﺒﺎﺷﺮ
ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ :ﻫﻞ ﺃﺳﺘﻄﻴــﻊ ﺍﻟﺬﻫﺎﺏ ﻟﻠﻌﺐ ﻣﻊ ”ﺳﻌﻴﺪ“؟
ﺑﺪﻻ ﻣﻦ ﺃﻥ ﺗﺮﻓﺾ ﺗﻤﺎﻣًﺎ ،ﺑﺈﻣﻜﺎﻧﻚ ﺃﻥ ﺗﻘﻮﻝ” :ﺳﻨﺘﻨﺎﻭﻝ ﺍﻟﻐﺪﺍء ﻓﻲ ﻏﻀﻮﻥ ﺧﻤﺲ ﺩﻗﺎﺋﻖ“ ﻓﻴﺪﺭﻙ ﺍﻟﻄﻔﻞ ﺃﻧﻪﻓﻲ ﻫﺬﺍ ﺍﻟﻤﻮﻗﻒ ً
ﻻ ﻳﻤﻜﻨﻪ ﺍﻟﺬﻫﺎﺏ ﻓﻲ ﺍﻟﻮﻗﺖ ﺍﻟﺮﺍﻫﻦ.
ﺻﻒ ﺍﻟﻤﺸﻜﻠﺔ ِ -2
ﺧﻼﺻــــﺎﺕ ﻛﺘﺐ ﺍﻟﺘﺮﺑﻴــــﺔ ﻭﺍﻟﺘﻌﻠﻴﻢ
Authors: Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Title: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen
So Kids Will Talk
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
ISBN: 978-0380811960
Pages: 286
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ISSN: 110/2357 http://www.amazon.com
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