What is love?

What is pity?

That how that is understood as love?

Then, the how is understood as pity?

Should be distinguished and what's the point?

The next question is,

if love is rational?

Everyone will think that love is something that relates to feelings or heart. That's
right!
But the next question is whether love, which is closely related to feelings or heart, it
is more correct to say something that is rational or not?

Well, peeling of the above questions is what will we follow in this paper.
The purpose of this stripping is only as a trigger for each of us to do more digging in
again afterwards. So, to avoid stripping too long, then we will not conduct a review
related to the definition, the origin of the word, and the like. If there are some terms
that are foreign to us later on, then we can look on the internet.

Thus we will focus more directly on point-point, which include:

■ Rationality (revisited)
■ Duality & Free Will (revisited)
■ Heart, Rationality & Love

Rationality (revisited)
The human brain can be understood according to several categories of distribution.
Between the other is according to level of consciousness, namely:
○ Aware, a condition also known as Beta, which when all the senses we are in a
waking state (practically, we are in condition or status of this for about 16
hours a day, i.e. working, to bathe, time for meal, to be with family,
socializing, etc.)
○ Threshold conscious or condition of the Alpha (when we're thinking,
contemplation, meditation, and the like)
○ The unconscious or Theta state (while we're sleeping)
○ Not recognizing or condition of the Delta (when a person in a fainting
condition or is in a coma)

The human brain can also be divided into several aspects, such as:
○ Intuition
○ Aspects of True / False (Correctness)
○ Aspects of Harmony, Aesthetics, Beauty (Fitness)
○ Aspects of Good / Bad (Goodness)

However, perhaps the best known by the public in general is a division of the
human brain into two parts, are:
○ Left Hemisphere, with respect to logic, including the words and mathematics
○ Right Hemisphere, with regard to emotion or feeling or taste, including the
imaging

There are many meanings of rationality, and often still under debate (please see for
yourself on the internet). In connection with our discussion of this, then we take that
is relevant, namely from Max Webber, the German sociologist. He defines human
rationality into 4 reviews, in conjunction with our nature as social beings, namely:
 ○ In connection with an end result or goal, which had previously been taken
into account
○ In terms of values: ethics and morality, art and beauty, spirituality
○ In connection with the feelings and emotions, or in connection with our hearts
○ In terms of tradition or habit that has been ingrained in us

And in many occasions, we find that rational term is often also used to show that:
○ It makes sense, in the sense of: having a good rating, something that is
practical if implemented, not extreme or excessive - Webster's
○ Logical: justifiable on the basis of reason
○ Contains economic sense: not wasteful
○ Coherent: easy to understand, clearly

Duality & Free Will (revisited)

You know the term Duality or Yin-Yang,
right? Well, that's what we encounter in
this life, everything in pairs. As an
example is the day and night, right-left,
right-wrong, good-bad, positive-
negative, male-female, and so forth.
Duality is an entity which involves a
series of, or containing two different
charge (eg, positive & negative), the
mutual attraction or repelling, with the
aim of achieving a balance (a balance
which was created because of
differences).
At each load of this duality there is a
little part of its spouse or its opponent's
home, aiming for each charge to
identify the partner or the opponent
origin. Thus, if the two charges are
separated from each other, then the
two charges is still only going to attract
or repel with a partner or opponent's
origin (not with a partner or another
opponent that is not a partner or
opponent of origin, although different
charge).
Please notice, there is no third entity or
another, only the Duality, and the two
entities are pairs that have a charge
different from each other, so-called
pairs of opposites. So, couples who
opposed its cargo or its value. Duality
also means that everything in life is
divided into two camps or large groups.
Thus, the same goes also with
rationality. Her partner in the opposite
value of course is the irrationality, or
rational-irrational.
If we associate with the rationality of
the above, then we can conclude clearly
that the things which belong to the
rational course is anything that has a
positive value, such as true, beautiful,
good, well planned, have had good
intentions, pro-active, educational,
respect, honor, and so forth. Thus, the
opposite is quite irrational.
In connection with our Free Will, then we have complete freedom to choose,
whether rational or irrational. However, because there will always be consequences
that follow our free choice, then we must use the Free Will in adults. I repeat, use
our Free Will in maturity (not merely emotionally, but it must be rational).

Heart, Rationality & Love

First of all I want to ask, what is your understanding of Heart? Does it express
something that we can touch (physical)?
The term Heart here (contained in a conversation in the association or everyday
social relations) was a Symbol. What symbol? That represents the direction of view
of our selfhood of our lives.
Ever heard the term, "where your treasure is, there your Heart", or ever heard the
expression, "do you live for money, or money to live"?
So where is your Heart, live for money, or money to live?
So where is your Heart is, living in a Rational or Irrational?

Now the next point, that is about Love. Maybe it's some questions that may help:
○ Which Type of Love that exists in our Hearts when we are in a relationship
with someone?
○ Love that kind of Rational (Balanced between Logic and Emotion) or Irrational
(Mere Emotion)?

So do not be surprised if a lot of people say that Love is not rational, because Love
is identical to the feeling. This statement is not wrong, right? At first glance it is
true, but actually they are "being stuck". Trapped in the understanding of Mere
Emotion of Love (the type of Irrational Love).

Do not forget, we also have to distinguish between Love and Pity (Compassion).
Because most parents are stuck in the understanding that the application is a Pity
Love (pampering, too much to the wishes of their children), and this is not the kind
of Love that Rational, even not at all loving. Because this will not bring maturity to
their children, just the opposite.
Likewise, most people who are in a relationship, they mostly stuck also in
understanding the type of Compassion Love.

So, how do the characteristics of the Rational Love, which distinguishes it

from the Irrational Love? These are the characteristics of the Rational Love:
○ Balanced between Logic and Feeling, so it is said to Rational (see
Brain, Logic & Rationality: Aspects of Brain). Sometimes it does seem
 more Logical, but sometimes more Emotional. But as a whole is
Rational.
○ Because sometimes More Logic, then it can seem very well planned,
purposeful, step by step clear of growth (as planned), could be a
bear, sometimes can punish, and so forth. But all this is done by the
individual in relation to preserve the noble values of Love itself.
○ Rational kind of Love will be impressed educate, discipline, have
ordinances or rules.
○ Love does not rein in, even liberating, by the way takes the privacy of
each on the basis of trust. And this trust must be strictly maintained
in the best possible, because it is the basis of Love (no trust, no
love).
○ Love means to give, give and give, not the other way, ask, ask and
demand What we give in this regard? Variety, can be a compliment,
gratitude, respect, accept what is, and so forth. But it could also be
giving firmness, signs, prohibition, punishment, and so forth as well.
One of the things, which is associated with the administration here, is
to provide tolerance. And perhaps the highest level of giving here is
to give our lives to the ones we love (sacrifice).
○ Demands, on the points above, is directed into ourselves to improve
ourselves to be more able to accept the situation as gracefully. So
out of ourselves will be in the form of giving, giving and giving to
others or the ones we love.

So overall we can see its features are:

○ A balance between the two sides (embodied the meaning of Duality)
○ More emphasis on long-term noble goals
○ Others, please summarize your own

So far, if you can explain, if love rational?

The conclusion is, that we've applied it actually is the type of Irrational Love,
because emotions are too stressed. So, once again, do not be surprised if Love
categorized as something that is Irrational.

Try your search, where Love is Rational, and where the opposite to the link, which
distinguishes Love into 15 types, the following:
http://www.examiner.com/ny-in-new-york/15-different-types-of-love

It's easy if only mere talk, not so in its application, especially if it involves the
emotions. I agree 100%, therefore it takes practice, practice & training. Exercise is
meant here is that we become "master" of ourselves (self-control). That is, instead
we should not be emotional (and anyway this is not possible, because we're
humans, not robots or machines), so there's nothing wrong with emotions, but do
not drag on (must stay under control).
If you're angry, so angry do not be prolonged, and remained in control, that is still
rational in choosing every sentence that we will say.
If you're sad, not to days and try to look on the other side, that is what the silver
lining.
If being happy, then be glad, but do not forget the mainland.
In essence, keep balance between one side with the other side, that's the meaning
of being in a state of Rational.

This paper is a personal view which might be true or false (relative). So it is expected
criticism, suggestions or comments.
So review this time, hopefully will provide benefits. Henceforth, it is expected that each of
us personally to keep looking back even further to find other sources of higher quality. If at
any time later you find another source that is valid to be used as a reference, then I would
be very grateful if you would inform me (hendralisna@gmail.com) the URL of the source.
And we will meet again at the other review, thank you for visiting.