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Repealing Military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

Policy Will Ease “Heavy Psychological Burden”
The American Psychological Association (APA) its opposition to discrimination based on sexual
hailed last month’s votes in the U.S. House and orientation and its commitment to disseminating
Senate that called for repealing of the military’s scientific knowledge to ameliorate the negative
controversial “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. effects of the current law through training and
President Barack Obama signed the legislation into education.
law on December 22. Advanced by former President The American Psychological Association is the
Bill Clinton, the discriminatory policy had been in largest scientific and professional organization
place since the early 1990s. representing psychology in the United States and
“This long-awaited action is an important step is the world’s largest association of psychologists.
toward allowing gays, lesbians, and bisexuals to Kevin Cathcart, Executive Director of
serve openly and honorably in the armed forces,” Lambda Legal, noted that by overturning the
said APA President Carol D. Goodheart, EdD. discriminatory military policy, “[O]ur country
“Repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy will
lived up to the values that lesbian, gay and
lift a heavy psychological burden of secrecy from
bisexual servicemembers swore to defend. These
gay, lesbian and bisexual military personnel.”
Lesbian, gay and bisexual service members members of America’s armed forces have been a
positively contribute to U.S. military efforts around model of dignity and courage as they faced not
the world at a time when America’s armed forces only the dangers of military action, but also the
are engaged in various conflicts. APA has long unfair and discriminatory conduct of their own
opposed the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. This government.”
stance reflects the APA Policy Statement on Sexual Lambda Legal and the APA are among the
Orientation and Military Service, adopted by the hundreds of equality-minded organizations that
association’s governing Council of Representatives have worked for many years to reverse the “Don’t
in July 2004. In this policy statement, APA reaffirmed Ask, Don’t Tell” policy.

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Large Grant Awarded To Promote quality In Commonwealth State Equality Organizations: Promoting
Kentucky's Statewide Fairness In Your State
Fairness Coalition was
awarded $50,000 to In every state served
promote lesbian, gay, by THE COMMUNITY
bisexual, and transgender LETTER, GLBT civil rights
(LGBT) equality across the organizations work hard
commonwealth in 2011 all year round to promote
by the Tides Foundation’s equality. These non-profit
State Equality Fund, groups undoubtedly do their
a philanthropic most important work when
partnership that includes their state’s legislature is in
the Evelyn and Walter session. Legislatures in every state of our region will begin their
Haas, Jr. Fund, the 2011 session in January.
Gill Foundation, and To stay informed on proposed legislation that will ether
anonymous donors. The promote or threaten equality where you live, be sure to regularly
State Equality Fund is visit your state’s fairness organization’s website as listed below.
programmatically staffed • Kentucky Fairness Alliance: www.kentuckyfairness.org.
on behalf of the donors • Indiana Equality: www.indianaequality.org.
by the Gill Foundation’s Movement Building Center. • Equality Ohio: www.equalityohio.org.
This marks the State Equality Fund's second year of support for Kentucky's Statewide Fairness Coalition • Equality Illinois: www.equalityillinois.org.
of equal rights organizations that includes the American Civil Liberties Union of Kentucky, Louisville's • Tennessee Equality Project: www.tnep.org.
Fairness Campaign, the Kentucky Commission on Human Rights, Kentucky Fairness Alliance, and • PROMO (Missouri): www.promoonline.org.
Lexington Fairness. The Coalition was awarded $30,000 from the State Equality Fund last year to increase According to Chris Hartman of Louisville’s Fairness
LGBT awareness and education across Kentucky and to conduct a statewide survey of public opinion on Campaign, Wednesday, February 23 is the date that equality
LGBT-related issues that will be released by the Coalition in January, 2011. supporters in Kentucky will pay a visit to the State House to
Based on the Coalition's broad scope of work and successful progress in 2010, the State Equality Fund lobby on behalf of GLBT rights.
asked the Coalition to increase their 2011 request for support from $30,000 to $50,000. The Coalition had For information about lobby training in Kentucky visit www.
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upon approval of progress, work plan, and availability of funds. check out your state fairness website for information about
The 2011 funds will be used to further the Coalition's "NOH8 in Our State" LGBT education and lobby training and the date(s) selected for in person lobbying
awareness campaign across Kentucky. of legislators.

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THE COMMUNIT Y California: Lesbian Couple’s Insurance Case Moves Forward
The U.S. District Court for the Department of Justice to assert DOMA among legally
Northern District of California heard oral as an excuse for the discriminatory married people,
arguments on December 17 in a lawsuit treatment of Karen Golinski, has turned f a v o r i n g
www.theletteronline.com filed by Lambda Legal against the Obama this into a challenge to DOMA itself." heterosexuals
Administration that may have major The judge previously asked both sides and ignoring
Post Office Box 7842 implications for the federal Defense of to file additional legal briefs addressing, lesbians and gay
Louisville, KY 40257 Marriage Act (DOMA). among other topics, whether or not men, and for no
(502) 419-2597 Lambda Legal and Morrison & DOMA violates the U.S. Constitution. reasons other
Foerster LLP filed suit against the federal Lambda Legal has explained that the than ignorance,
Founded in June 1990 by government earlier this year on behalf of law indeed is unconstitutional because prejudice
Jeffrey Goldsmith &
Karen Golinski, a 19-year employee of it discriminates based on sex and and anti-
Humphrey Marshall
the U.S. Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals. sexual orientation and infringes on the gay religious
Golinski seeks the same spousal health fundamental right to privacy and respect condemnation."
Jennifer Pizer
ADVERTISING & DISTRIBUTION: insurance for her wife, Amy Cunninghis, for one's family relationships recognized "Judge White
Dave VanderPol: (502) 322-4632 that heterosexual employees receive for by the Supreme Court in Lambda Legal's also skewered another piece of twisted
editor@theletteronline.com their spouses. Golinski and Cunninghis landmark case, Lawrence v. Texas. logic on OPM's part: that the Executive
With an estimated readership of over 14,000, have been together for 21 years. Golinski "Judge White, both through his request Branch agency's duty to negotiate
THE LETTER is distributed throughout the v. U.S. Office of Personnel Management for supplementary information during contracts with insurance plans to cover
seven state region of Kentucky, Indiana, (OPM) requests an order directing the the briefing process and his questioning at federal workers somehow authorizes it
Ohio, Tennessee, Illinois, & Missouri agency to obey prior rulings by the Chief today's hearing, seems keenly interested to meddle in and to thwart individual
REGULAR CONTRIBUTORS Judge of the Ninth Circuit U.S. Court of in how the Obama Administration now is enrollment decisions ordered by top
Cubbie Britches Appeals awarding the equal insurance defending DOMA, after having reached managers of a different branch of the
Mike Buford benefits to Golinski. OPM should rescind out to block benefits for Karen and Amy," federal government. OPM's facilitation
Marie Davis its instruction to Golinski's insurer, Blue said Pizer. "He seemed rightly skeptical of and support functions go nowhere that
James Hensley Cross/Blue Shield, not to enroll Golinski's the government's argument that DOMA far."
Margaret Hults wife in the family health insurance plan. maintains 'consistency' in how the federal Lambda Legal's Pizer represents
Christy Ikner "This case could result in the next major government allocates federal rights Golinski together with Rita Lin, James
Eric Jost court ruling on the constitutionality and benefits. Before DOMA, the federal McGuire, Gregory Dresser and Aaron
Michael Kimmel of DOMA," said Jennifer Pizer, Senior government—consistently—respected Jones of Morrison & Foerster LLP. The
Holly Knight Counsel for Lambda Legal. "This began all legal marriages, no matter what state case is Golinski v. United States Office of
Bryn Marlow as a simple internal personnel matter; the issued the license or who married whom. Personnel Management and John Berry,
George Morrison
irony is that the Obama Administration, Now, for the first time under DOMA, the Director of the U.S. Office of Personnel
Beth Ann Rubin
Brian Rzepczynski through the decisions of OPM and the government inconsistently distinguishes Management, in his official capacity.
Ren Scheuerman
Fred Schloemer
David Williams Vanderbilt Christian Fraternity Removes Gay Members
Hazel Zimmerman [© 2011 Out & About Newspaper. All rights reserved.]
Publication of the name, photograph or
likeness of any person, organization, or
According to Vanderbilt University's his sexual orientation. in an email to Out & About Newspaper
business in articles or advertising in student publication, The Hustler, two Neither the Beta Upsilon Chi that all student organizations are under
THE COMMUNITY LETTER or on former members of the university's Beta chapter president at Vanderbilt nor the strict instructions from the university, and
its companion website is not to be Upsilon Chi chapter say they were asked organization’s national director would could face disciplinary action as a result
construed as an indication of the to leave the fraternity in recent months comment on the matter. of discrimination against members.
sexual orientation of such person, due to violations of the organization’s The Hustler obtained the fraternity's "The University has a non-
organization or business. policy regarding sexual orientation. Code of Conduct, which states its beliefs discrimination policy," he said. "By
THE COMMUNITY LETTER assumes Established in 2003, Beta Upsilon Chi regarding sexuality in the second clause registering with the Office of Student
no responsibility for unsolicited is a registered religious/spiritual student of the document: “We believe that sex is Organizations and Governance, a student
materials submitted for publication. organization and a Christian fraternity a gift of God to be enjoyed only inside organization agrees to abide by our
on Vanderbilt’s campus. the covenant of marriage between a man policies. We expect student organizations
THE COMMUNITY LETTER A former Beta Upsilon Chi brother and and a woman. Therefore, we will not
reserves the right to edit or operating on our campus to follow
Vanderbilt 2010 alumnus sent an e-mail condone such activity as homosexuality, our policies. Student organizations
reject any advertisement.
message to the Hustler saying that he fornication, or adultery. (I Corinthians that violate our policies are subject to
© 2011. The Community Letter. was approached last spring by fraternity 6:15-20; Hebrew 13:4).” disciplinary action, up to and including
All rights reserved. president Greg Wigger about his role in As noted on the Vanderbilt's website,
loss of registration.
the fraternity. According to this alumnus, student organizations must abide by
He added, "Students who believe that
the discussion turned to the issue of his its anti-discriminatory policy, which
they are victims of discrimination as a
FEBRUARY 2011 DEADLINES sexual orientation, and he admitted to states that all student organizations
result of being in one of the protected
Wigger that he was gay. must “refrain from discriminating
According to The Hustler, another in membership selection, officer or classifications are encouraged to file a
Press releases and Regional member of the brotherhood left the adviser appointments, or practices of complaint with the Office of the Dean of
Calendar items must be fraternity in August of this year for organizational activities on the basis of Students. At this point in time we have
received no later than similar reasons. The former member, race, sex, religion, color, national or ethnic not received a formal complaint about
who also wished to remain anonymous, origin, age, disability, military service, or this matter."
Friday, January 14, 2011.
confirmed that Wigger offered him sexual orientation." Copyright 2011. Out & About
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Advertising reservations must be expulsion after a discussion regarding provost and dean of students, explained Reprinted with permission.
received no later than
Friday, January 21, 2011.

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Providing Safe Space For Queer Youth: A Priority?
As we enter 2011, I’d like to spend some time
For me this past year was about family: chosen and
biological. After eight years in Florida, my adorable baby
niece smiled and brought me home. My family seemed as
excited for my return as I was. I did not fully appreciate
this until I started working as Executive Director of the
Louisville Youth Group (LYG). I’ve been welcomed into
the often-tumultuous life of Kentuckiana’s GLBTQ youth.
Some have little biological family for support. Others, I
learned, have unhealthy chosen-family as an alternative.
Every Friday evening at 7:30 LYG welcomes Louisville’s Donald Taylor, Jr.
queer youth family. We must sadly bid them adieu at
10:30. Without fail, youth arrive early and want to stay late. Without fail, it
breaks our hearts that we must usher them into their vehicles and send silent
prayers for a safe week. Without fail, we wish we could do more.
Then came the deluge of reported gay teen suicides.
Then the YouTube sensation of “It Gets Better” videos. I take issue with
this internet phenomenon. You see, simply saying “It Gets Better” puts the RESERVE THE DATE & TIME:
ownership on the feeble backs of at-risk GLBTQ youth. Tuesday, February 8th @ 7:30pm
For nearly 21 years, Louisville has been progressive to say, “We’re making it The Valentine's Episode of GLEE
better.” Louisville and the surrounding area have invested in the future of our Will Kurt & Blaine Finally Become A Couple?!?
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Light Refreshments. Highlands location.
youth. Yet we must do more. More Information: editor@theletteronline.com.
• We must enact comprehensive anti-bullying policies. Sponsored by THE COMMUNITY LETTER.
• We must fully fund Louisville Youth Group and other agencies supporting
GLBTQ youth.
• We must lend whatever talents we have to make it better.
In 1990 we joined hands and crossed divides to create LYG. It is time to again
join hands for the next generation. Our humble family thanks you for your time,
your talent and your treasures. We thank you for your belief that it does get
better; because you make it better.
Tax deductable donations may be sent to Louisville Youth Group; Post Office
Box 406764; Louisville, KY 40204. For more information call (502) 499-4427 or
write donald@teachingtheroad.org.

Study: Queer Teens Singled Out For Punishment

Lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) adolescents are about 40 percent more likely than
other teens to receive punishment at the hands of school authorities, police and the
courts, according to research published in the January 2011 issue of Pediatrics.
The analysis, conducted at Yale University, found that the disparities in punishments
are not explained by differences in misbehavior. Youth who identified themselves as
LGB actually engaged in less violence than their peers, for example. Nonetheless,
virtually all types of punishments – including school expulsions, arrests, juvenile
convictions, adult convictions and especially police stops – were more frequently
meted out to LGB youth.
For instance, adolescents who self-identified as LGB were about 50 percent more
likely to be stopped by the police than other teenagers. Teens who reported feelings
of attraction to members of the same sex, regardless of their self-identification, were
more likely than other teens to be expelled from school or convicted of crimes as adults.
Girls who labeled themselves as lesbian or bisexual were especially at risk for unequal
treatment: they experienced 50 percent more police stops and reported about twice as
many arrests and convictions as other girls who had engaged in similar behavior.
Although the study did not explore the experiences of transgender youth, anecdotal
reports suggest that they are similarly at risk for excessive punishment.
The study is the first to document excessive punishment of LGB youth nationwide.
It was based on the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health and included
approximately 15,000 middle and high school students who were followed for seven
years into early adulthood.
The study collected details on subjects’ sexuality, including feelings of sexual
attraction, sexual relationships and self-labeling as LGB. Participants were also
regarding how frequently they engaged in a variety of misbehaviors ranging in severity
from “lying to parents” to using a weapon.
The study authors hypothesize that the excessive punishments of LGB youth may
reflect authorities’ reluctance to consider mitigating factors such as young age or self-
defense in determining punishment for LGB youth. Moreover, they note that LGB
youth frequently encounter homophobia in the education, health care and child welfare
systems, and may therefore fail to receive services offered to other young people.

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Government Agency Ad Accused Hepatitis C Researchers Focus On Accelerating Development Of Targeted Therapies
Of Stigmatizing HIV/AIDS Patients To improve the care for individuals infected with the Division of Anti-viral Drug Products in FDA’s Center for
hepatitis C virus (HCV), a major health problem and a leading Drug Evaluation and Research, the draft guidance follows the
The Gay Men's Health Crisis (GMHC)
cause of chronic liver disease around the world, nearly 200 same approach FDA uses in developing HIV and oncology
organization has joined the Gay & Lesbian
international hepatitis experts have taken an important drugs.
Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD), to
step in escalating the introduction of a new class of targeted For early clinical testing, the FDA recognizes that most
demand that the New York City Department
therapies for HCV – direct-acting anti-virals (DAAs). if not all DAAs for HCV will be used in combination with
of Health and Mental Hygiene pull a This past month, at a major scientific meeting entitled other approved drug and therefore, recommends studies
sensationalistic and stigmatizing television "Advancing HCV Drug Development: A Collaborative examining the relationship between the new DAA agent and
public service announcement aimed at gay Approach" convened by the Forum for Collaborative HIV both pegylated interferon and ribavirin as well as testing
and bisexual men. Research, researchers, hepatitis advocates, members of the combination anti-viral activity. FDA’s draft guidance
The PSA, which is intended to encourage industry and representatives from the Food and Drug also calls for using the results from proof-in-concept trials
condom usage among gay and bisexual men, Administration (FDA) and the European Medicines Agency (meaning a study in HCV infected patients that demonstrates
claims that those with HIV face a higher (EMA) created the roadmap for accelerating the development initial activity as measured by reductions in the HCV viral
risk of bone loss, dementia, and anal cancer. of DAAs, agreeing that this new class of drugs targeting load) to guide dose selection for subsequent Phase 2 trials
While older adults living with HIV may be specific hepatitis C virus proteins has the same potential in which DAAs are studied for longer durations as part of
at greater risk of these conditions, the PSA to improve treatment outcomes for people with HCV as a combination regimen. FDA is further encouraging drug
creates a grim picture of what it is like to live antiretroviral drugs changed the standard of care in HIV. sponsors to design development plans for combinations of
with HIV that could further stigmatize HIV/ Currently, two DAA compounds have advanced into phase two or more DAAs.
AIDS, as well as gay and bisexual men. 3 development in the United State and European Union, and “The good news for the HCV community is that more
"We know from our longstanding HIV many more are in phase 2 trials and likely to advance to phase drugs are coming,” said Jur Strobos, MD, JD, FACEP, Deputy
prevention work that portraying gay and 3 research in the near future. Director of the Forum. “The bad news is we don’t know how
bisexual men as dispensing diseases is “If there was ever a time when we can change the course to combine them and that is what we need to study.”
counterproductive," said Marjorie Hill, PhD, of HCV, it is now,” said Veronica Miller, Ph.D., Director of the Because identifying potential differences among groups
GMHC's Chief Executive Officer. "Studies Forum. “We are now where we were with HIV more than a treated with a therapeutic regimen is an important goal of
have shown that using scare tactics is not decade ago and can apply many of the lessons learned from human studies, the HCV community singled out the under-
effective. Including gay men's input, while HIV drug development to significantly accelerate the progress representation of women, older people and different ethnic
recognizing their strength and resiliency, in in bringing new and better HCV therapies to market.” subgroups in clinical trials as the problem requiring immediate
the creation of HIV prevention education is DAAs directly attack the ability of the hepatitis C virus attention and change at a systemic level. Although there is
effective. Gay men are part of the prevention to replicate and can increase the cure rate in certain HCV a higher prevalence of HCV in men than women, women
solution, not the problem." patients to between 60 and 70 percent – a major advance metabolize HCV drugs differently and are more affected by
Both GLAAD and GMHC have reached over the 40 percent success rate associated with the currently autoimmune diseases, which share similar symptoms with
recommended treatment for chronic HCV infection, the HCV. Women also are twice as likely as men to suffer from
out to the department to demand that the
combination of pegylated interferon and ribavirin. depression, which is a common side effect of treatment with
commercial be pulled and to offer assistance
Although the first DAAs still require concomitant use with HCV medications.
with framing the conversation around HIV/
current HCV medications, these new compounds will shorten Even more challenging for the HCV community is
AIDS more accurately.
the length of time on pegylated interferon and ribavirin increasing the representation of older HCV-infected adults in
"While it's extremely important that we therapy, which hepatitis specialists noted is often difficult to HCV clinical trials, even though Baby Boomers constitute the
continue to educate New Yorkers about tolerate and has significant adverse event profiles that limit majority of hepatitis C infections in the United States and are
HIV/AIDS prevention, the sensationalized treatment in many patients. According to the latest data, often less responsive than younger generations to anti-viral
nature of the commercial, including its between 15 and 30 percent of HCV patients started on current treatment. Compounding the problem, older HCV patients
tabloid-like fear tactics, misses the mark in HCV therapy are unable to complete the year of treatment are more difficult to treat, due to the increased prevalence of
fairly and accurately representing what it's now required because they cannot tolerate the side effects. co-morbid conditions, such as diabetes, dyslipidemia, and
like to live with HIV/AIDS," said GLAAD Charting the future of HCV drug development, the meeting other metabolic conditions that are correlated to chronic liver
President Jarrett Barrios. "It's our hope that participants applied FDA’s new guidance on conducting disease.
the department will work with us to create clinical trials on DAAs, which was issued in September 2010
a PSA that promotes safety and solutions, in draft form and expected to be finalized in 2011. According (See Targeted Therapies,
rather than stigma and stereotype." to Jeffrey S. Murray, M.D., M.P.H., Deputy Director of the continued on pg 7)

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PFLAG Mourns Death Of Pioneering Member
Leaders from 35 people in her Los Angeles home. This
Parents, Families
and Friends of
historic meeting served as the basis for
the West Coast organizing for PFLAG.
Lesbians and In 1981, 31 representatives from PFLAG-
Gays (PFLAG) like groups again came together in the

n a t i o n a l Starr’s home for a two-day meeting
organization which resulted in the official founding of
expressed their PFLAG – then the Federation of Parents
sadness at last and Friends of Lesbians and Gays – as
month’s passing well as the election of its first board of
of Adele Starr,
Adele Starr
directors. Adele Starr was elected the
for his many years of hard work on behalf of the
a California first-ever PFLAG president. Louisville AIDS Walk and Friend To Friend organization.
mother of a gay son who was the first Starr’s den in her Los Angeles Brad's commitment in promoting safe sex and HIV/STD
national President and one of the pivotal home served as the first PFLAG testing within our community deserves is inspirational!
figures in the establishment of the National office, where she managed
organization. She was 90 years old at the correspondence, provided leadership We thank him for editing our online HIV/AIDS Resources
time of her death. for the group which grew to represent resources directiory (www.TheLetterOnline.com).
“Adele Starr was one of the pioneers of more than 250 chapters across the U.S.,
PFLAG. It is because of her commitment and organized national conventions to
to organizing the many people who bring members together to build skills Know of a community leader who deserves to be recognized?
were working for the common goal of and improve the organization’s services.
equality for all into the organization that It wasn’t until almost a decade later that Tell us WHO and WHY: editor@theletteronline.com.
we now know as PFLAG that we have the organization would outgrow Starr’s
gained the strength, prominence, and den and eventually hire national staff
ability to become the voice of parents and and open an official National Office in
allies united for equality,” said Jody M. Washington, D.C.
Huckaby, PFLAG National’s Executive At a conference to commemorate
Director. PFLAGs 10th Anniversary, Starr
Adele Starr’s involvement with powerfully summarized why she had
PFLAG started in 1974 when she and taken on the role she did within the
her husband, Larry, had dinner with organization, saying, “We did it out of
PFLAG founder Jeanne Manford and her love and anger and a sense of injustice,
husband, Jules. After a year of working and because we had to tell the world the
to encourage attendance, Starr hosted truth about our children.”

Kentucky Archives Seeking Two Lesbians

Have you seen or heard of the whereabouts
of Marge Jones and Tracy Knight? If so, the
Williams-Nichols Archives would like to
hear from you.
Jones and Knight were the second same-
sex couple in the nation to attempt to obtain
a state marriage license and get married (the
first was a gay male couple in Minnesota).
When the commonwealth of Kentucky
refused their request in July 1970, they filed
suit. Though they ultimately lost, their case
became the spark that started the LGBT
movement in Kentucky.
If you have any idea where Jones or Knight
is today, please contact David Williams at
(502) 636-0935 or email KyArchives@aol.

Targeted Therapies, cont’d from pg 6 become the most common chronic blood
Aging is also strongly associated with borne infection in the United States.
liver fibrosis progression, which means According to government estimates,
older HCV patients are likely to have approximately 4.1 million Americans
advanced liver disease and a high risk are infected with HCV, of whom 60 to
for impending liver complications. But 70 percent will develop chronic liver
despite this reality, few studies have disease. Currently, almost half of all liver
examined the age-specific factors of transplants in the U.S. are performed for
chronic HCV infection and the clinical end-stage hepatitis C. Moreover, because
management of the infection in this liver disease is one of the leading causes
patient population. of death in the U.S., the CDC predicts
Accelerating the development of DAAs that deaths from chronic liver disease
to improve HCV treatment outcomes is attributed to Hepatitis C will double or
especially warranted now that HCV has triple over the next 15 to 20 years.

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Six Years After Ordination, Gay Lutheran Pastor Fully
It was a long journey, but finally on E m i l y
Sunday, December 12th the Evangelical E a s t w o o d ,
Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) Executive Director,
officially recognized Pastor Jay Wiesner L u t h e r a n s
as a member of the denomination’s Concerned/North
clergy. The “Service of Reception” was America, said
presided over by Bishop Claire Burkat, "The prophetic
ELCA Southeastern Pennsylvania Synod. witness of
The celebration was held at University Bethany Lutheran,
Lutheran Church of the Incarnation in Minneapolis
Philadelphia. and University
Pastor Wiesner had been ordained L u t h e r a n , Pastor
"extraordinarily" in 2004. "Extraordinary" Philadelphia is Jay Wiesner
in this context means the ordination was coming true. We
outside of the usual practices of the give thanks for Jay and the congregations
ELCA. As a result, the ELCA did not who courageously called him in the face
recognize his ordination at the time it of policies precluding his service. We
occurred. At this Service of Reception, applaud the Southeast Pennsylvania
the ELCA recognizes that ordination as Synod and its bishop for their visible
valid and acknowledges the ministry support for the full inclusion of people
Pastor Wiesner has done over time. of all sexual orientations and gender
Wiesner completed his seminary identities. While our struggle is not
training in 2002, but, because he was in ended, this day leaves an indelible
disagreement with the (then) policy that exclamation point in history. This day
imposed celibacy in a life lived without a justice has prevailed, not just for one, but
partner, he was denied ordination by the symbolically for all LGBT people."
Weekend Room ELCA. In 2004, Bethany Lutheran Church Pastor Wiesner said, "This day has
Rates: 50% Discount! in Minneapolis, Minnesota, called him as been a long time coming and something
January 7 - March 29, 2011
Pastor of Outreach Ministry and ordained I have been praying for before I was even
January 28 - 30 him, an act of ecclesiastic disobedience ordained in 2004. Both Bethany Lutheran
ONYX LEATHER BALL at the time. In September 2008, he was Church and University Lutheran Church
A Weekend For called by University Lutheran Church of of the Incarnation have risked their
Leathermen & Admirers the Incarnation as pastor, which was also standing in the greater Church to be a
an act of ecclesiastic disobedience. prophetic witness and for that I am truly
February 11 - 13 His reception onto the roster of clergy blessed and grateful."
VALENTINE’S DAY is one of the results of the decisions of Lutherans Concerned/North America
SWEETHEARTS the 2009 ELCA Churchwide Assembly (LC/NA) embodies, inspires, advocates
WEEKEND to eliminate the policy that had since and organizes for the acceptance and
We’ll Make Your 1989 precluded service as ministers by full participation of people of all sexual
Romantic Weekend Perfect! those in a lifelong, committed same- orientations and gender identities
gender relationship. Though not in within the Lutheran communion and its
March 4 - 6 such a relationship, Pastor Wiesner ecumenical and global partners. LC/NA
PAJAMA PARTY WEEKEND had disagreed with the previous policy is based in St. Paul, Minnesota. www.
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Show it off at our
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Suicide Victim’s Parents Suing University
The parents of Tyler Clementi filed court papers last month
to initiate a lawsuit against Rutgers University, where their son
was a freshman at the time of his death this past September.
Clementi committed suicide jumping from the George
Washington Bridge.
Clementi’s parents allege that Rutgers failed to implement
or enforce policies that would have prevented or deterred an
invasion of their son’s privacy. A dormitory roommate and
one other student have been accused of using a hidden video
camera to record Clementi having sex with another male and
then broadcasting it on the Internet. Both students have denied
the allegations and have left campus. Tyler Clementi
When contacted about the lawsuit by a news organization, a Rutgers spokesman
said that while the institution was sympathetic to the Clementi family, it was not
responsible for the student’s death.

Target Continues Backing Anti-Gay Politicians

This past summer we reported supporting foreign governments that
that department store giant Target’s executed persons for being gay. All of
had donated $150,000 to an anti- this from a company that for many years
gay Minnesota politician who had has earned high marks with the Human
supported a “Christian ministry” that Rights Campaign for excellent treatment
had expressed an extremist position of (See Target, continued on pg 9)
8 The COMMUNITY Letter www.theletteronline.com january 2011
Fund Raising Calendar: Straight Guys Strip In Support Of Gay Equality “Harvey Milk spent the last years of his
What happens when the gay rights life fighting not only for rights for gays and
activists at FCKH8.com get their hands on lesbians across the nation, but also against
a dozen or so heterosexual men? The "STR8 the idea that the only way to achieve those
AGAINST H8" 2011 Charity Calendar shows rights is to lobby the government and
gay-friendly straight guys stripped down financially support so-called ‘straight allies’.
and oiled up looking picture-perfect sexy Harvey believed the best way to secure
for a good cause. The FCKH8.com website our rights was through grassroots action,
sells the 13-month charity calendars online coalition building and the election of LGBT
and also features a behind-the-scenes video people to office at all levels of government.
that captures all the sexy shenanigans that He encouraged people to come out of the Dustin
happened during the photo shoot. closet and be vocal about who they were and
why they deserved full equality, not partial Lance Black
"These guys are more than just good-
looking, they are helping out a good cause," equality or crumbs. For the HRC leadership, which still advocates
says director Luke Montgomery. "We loved a piecemeal, wait-and-see approach to try and co-opt and profit
every minute of [working with the straight from Harvey’s legacy is an outrage.” – Dustin Lance Black, Oscar-
models] and it shows in the calendar's sexy winning screenwriter of Milk, response to plans announced by the
photos. Was it awkward at times? You bet! It Human Rights Campaign to turn the late Harvey Milk’s camera
was a blast to strip them down and have them shop into a gift shop that will benefit the organization.
wear nothing but FCKH8 bumper stickers or
piles of pink FCKH8 buttons between their
Target, cont’d from pg 8 candidate
legs!" He added, "Our FCKH8 fundraising
of its gay and lesbian employees. and even
t-shirts look great but they look even better Lambda Legal.
Indeed many GLBT community pledged
coming off these guys!" He notes that his FCKH8.com is an online "fundraising
members and allies have been to reform
calendar is "the closest some of us will get to merchandise movement" known for it's
shocked that a company known the review
'date' these guys and it's great knowing that F-word-filled viral videos and trendy
for offering domestic partner process
this is more than just a product, it's a cause fundraising T-shirts. The project has
benefits to its employees and even for future
we all need to support." received kudos from Ellen DeGeneres,
sponsoring Pride events would political
The calendar can be purchased online Adam Lambert, Jane Lynch (Glee) and Perez
stab us in the back by throwing donations. He also promised that
at www.FCKH8.com. Check out our main Hilton. The website's videos have received
money into the coffers of anti-gay “Target will take a leadership
website (www.TheLetterOnline.com) to over five million views, sold 40,000 T-shirts
politicians. role in bringing together a
view the behind-the-scenes video that shows and raised over $250,000 for queer youth
Some activists were relieved group of companies and partner
the photo shoot that lead to the calendar. suicide prevention and the fight for marriage
when Target CEO Gregg Steinhafel organizations for a dialogue
Calendar sales benefit the Trevor Project, equality. The online activist effort has
issued a public apology for focused on diversity and inclusion
the American Foundation for Equal Rights, garnered over 97,000 Facebook supporters
Equality California, Courage Campaign and and 18,000 Twitter followers. supporting the anti-gay Minnesota (See Target, continued on pg 19)

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Flake Off by Ren Scheuerman

Well just as I predicted, you made it. 2011. How does a lesson learned. They have taught you how to not
it feel? Yeah, me too. Ugh. It's my least favorite month be a good friend. And in life, it is often the lesson of
of the year. I am not exactly sure where to start the year learning what not to do that is as important as learning
and the weather, not a fan of the snow, is not helping what to do. You can, and will, find new friends that
my get up and get to it attitude. will meet you half way. That can be there for you as
So, we ended the year with an early snow...or two. a friend should be. There are plenty of people who
I wonder…just how many snowflakes actually fell on will be glad to be your friend and will follow through,
Louisville last month? And, as you know, with the be considerate and thoughtful of your feelings and
snowflakes the flakes always seem to follow. opinions, and not make you feel rejected or lonely or
Flakes. Not the snowflakes, the people flakes. think something is wrong with you.
Yes, for some reason, a lot of my friends have been So, go forward. Let go of what is not working, keep
talking about their flaky friends lately. You know what makes you feel good, and the rest will take care of
them. The people you call friends, but the people that itself. Besides, it's Winter, and the only flakes you need
are impossible to plan anything with, rarely, if ever text to be around are the ones falling from the sky. Happy
you back, cancel plans at the last minute, and always new beginnings. Happy January.
have some lame excuse about why they could not do at You only have a finite amount of time to fill your life
the last minute, what you had been planning on for the with friends and events that actually mean something
last month. The friends that are always wanting to get to you. If you have a friend or friends, that for no real
together every time you see them, but are always short reason, continue to disappoint you, let you down, do not Ren Scheuerman and his partner, Travis
to deliver when you try to actually plan something consider your feelings, give you grief about something, Lay, enjoy living in the luxury of Indian
with them. Yeah, I thought you knew them. then do something they claimed to have objected to so Hills (Northeast Louisville). where they
So what is the deal with these people? I have no much, move on. enjoy building bridges of understanding
clue, but I do know I have advised, listened to my real No need to get in a big fight with them. You are with their neighbors (the vast majority
friends, and have experienced these people first hand not going to change them. If you notice, most of your of which are rumored to heterosexual).
myself. After careful thought the last month, I have a other friends have already observed this about them
solution. It's time to move on. Let them go. Adios. anyway. This is probably the real reason they don't and
Later dude. can't make any real friends themselves. So consider it


A One Woman Wedding & A Hideous Crime –

Going On A Tangent To Make A Serious Point by Dave VanderPol, Executive Editor
It took me a while, but I’ve come to Jane perpetually single! Besides, I’m much sexual behavior. But I still find the news
absolutely adore the FOX network’s Lynch nicer that Sue Sylvester. about Andrew Compton’s murder to be
musical comedy, Glee. My addiction for So do we have any single “chasers” very troubling.
watching it is almost to the level that I
plays (as in “fans of bigger guys”) in the THE COMMUNITY LETTER is
need a 12 Step fellowship to help break acerbic audience? Yes, I need a chaser: I’ve never committed to doing what it can to educate
my obsession (“We admitted that we Sue been mistaken for being “height-weight our readers about “playing safe” online
were powerless over the TV show Glee – Sylvester proportionate”. Specifically, I’d like to and otherwise, as evidenced by our
that our impulse to break into song and find a date for Valentine’s Day (which is regular publication of a feature known
on Glee
dance has become unmanageable.”). not that far away). Is this too much to as “Safety Suggestions”. At the same
Set in a public high school located (Photo: hope for? Interested guys should write time, we are a print publication (not a
in Ohio, Glee features well-written Copyright to chubseekschaser@theletteronline. parent) and we can’t take responsibility
gay characters (Kurt and Blaine. along FOX TV com. for our reader’s choices.
with the closeted anti-gay bully Dave network). To be honest, writing about Glee If you are single, in an open relationship,
Karkofsky). While I definitely connect and my frustration with singlehood is or for whatever reason looking to “hook
with the gay angle of this show, the great a lot easier than sharing my thoughts up”, I beg you to familiarize yourself
musical performances, outrageous (and desperate person could be expected to and feelings on a topic that has occupied with common sense strategies to protect
occasionally edgy) humor and suburb do: Sue married Sue ("By the power my consciousness for several weeks: the yourself from potential harm that can
acting keep me coming back for more. vested in me by a website, I hereby hideous nature of a young gay man’s come for cruising for sex (in person and
On a recent episode, acerbic pronounce you Sue and Sue. You may murder (which included the alleged online). As the title and lyrics of a pop
cheerleading coach Sue Sylvester, played kiss yourself."). sexual abuse of his corpse), that allegedly song from the gay duo Romanovsky &
by comedic genius (not to mention out- The scene featuring Sue’s “marriage took place in an apartment located less Phillips advises, “Don’t use your penis…
and-proud lesbian) Jane Lynch, decided for one” was both hilarious and yet – as than one block from Louisville’s gay- for a brain.”
that it was high time for her to find the a single gay man who isn’t getting any friendly Bardstown Road.
love of her life. In a parody on the anti- younger – a little too close for comfort. “Psycho gays” preying on young gay
gay eHarmony.com website, Sue is seen While I hope I don’t come across men is not a source of pride. It is a source Agree or disagree, Dave VanderPol would
searching for love on “eDesperate.com”. “desperate” to find Mr. Right, the fact of shame and utter disgust. I know, a love to know your thoughts! Write to
Unfortunately the faux website only is that a Fleshlight ® is no substitute large number of sexual predators are him at editor@theletteronline.com or
found one ideal match for Sue Sylvester: for the real thing. It just isn’t fair for heterosexual and that gay men do not call (502) 419-2597.
Sue Sylvester! So Sue did what a truly the publisher of a gay newspaper to be corner the market on inappropriate
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The Self-Destruction Of A Presidency by David Williams

What a difference two years makes. and the White House. The President, consider a public option when the health have no clothes.
This time in 2009, we progressives by executive order, has instituted many care debate got under way in early 2009. Thankfully, congressional Democrats
and liberals were all in thrall to a other much-needed policies such as He took it off the table before the debate are refusing so far to go along. Their
new President who we thought was ensuring same-sex lovers can now visit began. It could have at least been a opposition is highly embarrassing
going to bring much needed change to each other in most hospitals without bargaining chip to get a better bill passed. to the President but something I
Washington by passing fresh new laws hassle. Even if he were bluffing--everyone knew enthusiastically support. If this country
for such things as health care reform. I But President Obama has one major he didn't have enough Democratic votes is really going to be serious about putting
myself predicted we'd be seeing a golden disconcerting personal flaw which I to support it, at least at first--that bluff our financial house in order, we have to
age of gay civil rights legislation. don't see changing. His main problem is could have produced a better bill. But start somewhere. Unfortunately that
So it's extremely sad to see what's he doesn't know how to play poker. I've he laid everything on the table before somewhere is not going to be the White
happened. heard he actually does enjoy a game or the game got under way. You can't hope House.
Oh, there have been some important two after hours in the White House, but to get reasonably good laws passed that President Obama has risked becoming
changes of sorts. The economy has I have to wonder if he's ever won. You way. unimportant, nay irrelevant, in the last
hit bottom and now, thanks in part to can't hope to be successful if you lay all There are other examples of the two years of this term, but you know
President Obama's efforts, it now looks your cards on the table before the betting President's quixotic willingness to what? He has only himself to blame.
to be clawing its way up. The new begins. bend over backwards to accommodate And I find that very, very sad.
health care law contains some marvelous As in poker, as in politics. At nearly Republican opposition while ignoring
protections we'd still be waiting on if every turn he's been outmaneuvered liberal concerns. The worst was his recent
the insurance companies had their way. by that political mastermind, our own cave-in over tax cuts for the wealthy. As David Williams is the founder of the
We've regained some measure of respect Senator Mitch McConnell. Nothing of this writing, he's proposed extending Williams-Nichols Institute and the Kentucky
in diplomatic circles. good has ever come from tangling with them for two more years at a cost of $140 Gay & Lesbian Library and Archives, which
In our community, we now have a new that bastard. billion to the deficit. The Republicans, of are housed at the University of Louisville’s
federal hate crimes law, which languished The most stunning example of his course, are all for it. So much for their Ekstrom Library.
when Republicans controlled Congress political ineptitude is his refusal to even crap about being deficit hawks. They

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Is Your Partner A Control Freak? by Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, D.H.S., M.S.W.

Q: My partner and I have been together control. Anxiety, insecurity, and fears of might go about altering your responses
for nine years and we have a problem abandonment/engulfment commonly (as long as it remains true to who you
with control in our relationship. My underlie efforts to control a partner and are) to begin changing his perception of
partner says that I’m too controlling and these origins will want to be explored you in that way.
it’s gotten to the point where I feel like I and healthier outlets for getting those Hopefully some of these suggestions
have to watch everything I say for fear needs met identified. will be helpful for you. Depending on
that he’ll think I’m trying to overpower Adding more balance between how much damage has occurred in the
him. He says that I try to control how activities that are couple-oriented versus relationship, any efforts on your part to
he thinks and feels in most situations autonomous can be helpful in breaking enlist him in attempts to improve the
of his life. I’ve asked him to write down this pattern, as well as phrasing demands relationship may be viewed as more
the areas of his life where he feels I’m as requests and accepting that he has “controlling behavior”, so hopefully
controlling him, but he resists this. I’m the right to say “no”, and expressing there’s still some “wiggle room” here
not sure what to do and I’m getting to gratitudes and appreciations for what for him to see some incentive in trying.
the point where I’m questioning whether your partner does rather than does not Your softened approach, allowing plenty
this relationship is viable. do can help change the negative climate. of space, and changing the way that you
This often takes considerable time respond to triggers that typically lead
A: I’m sorry to hear about the struggles and consistency to help demonstrate to conflict will be critical in his viewing
you’re having with your partner. It’s commitment to change to help restore you as being serious about his needs
going to take the two of you working the trust and feelings of safety. and desire to change the dynamics in
together as a team to be able to resolve own demeanor and actions. Expressing and taking responsibility the relationship. Both of you seeing an
the difficulties you’re having, and to view In a relationship, it’s important to for your role in the difficulties can also individual and a couples therapist might
that as such so you’re not approaching have both an individual and a couple help break the ice with the accompanying also help expedite your reconciling a
your disagreements with a “you against identity. Too much individual identity behavioral changes to make restitution. more fulfilling partnership.
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exist, but he may even view this gesture can feel stunted. Often times “controlling and worked through to contribute to
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All Things Transgender by Holly Knight

Welcome to my first column for THE little while, just to give us a break, but and educate and my topic these days is gender in some manner small or large.
COMMUNITY LETTER! I am so happy eventually we get alone again. So if we transgender and all things under that There are names that we use under this
and proud to represent the transgender all just make new friends, even one, we umbrella. umbrella but the names are so blurring
community. I hope I will add a few all would probably get along a lot better. There are so many unclear things in the that it is impossible to even know what
laughs to your day and I am sure I will So add me as your new friend today to “T World” and even more disagreements. they mean and really there isn’t a lot of
add a few tears. But maybe most of all get things started. So from now on let us be at least clear social reason to attempt to “define” the
I hope we get to know each other better I realize that almost all of you don’t on this one really controversial word: other words or groups.
and through that we all become better know me, but I am transgender woman transgender. I am not going to quote
friends. that isn’t old but certainly not young. dictionaries or encyclopedias but with
I bet your friends are just like In my “previous” life I was a college research you would find what I am going Holly Knight is a transgender
mine (well without the fake eyelashes educator and it is my nature to attempt to say is confirmed. What I mean is that educator and activist. She
possibly). I have friends that I don’t to teach others. It was easy in the college it isn’t my opinion. A transgender person is a member of Sienna
agree with politically. I have friends setting since most there wanted to learn. is everyone under the gender identity (www.siennatg.org) and can
be found on Facebook or
I don’t understand sometimes. My but in all other settings it comes across umbrella. It really means everyone that
contacted by writing
friends will say things that will hurt me sometimes as presumptuous, arrogant has some non-conformity with gender. hollyerinknight@aol.com.
without even knowing it. They stay my or just annoying. I try to not be any of It is the person that is born one gender
friends though. We might stop talking a these, but I still have the need to teach and expresses him/herself as the other

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5 Years Later: Reflecting On Brokeback Mountain by Eric Jost

It has been five years since Brokeback Mountain in December, six months to a year after it was released
came out and it has proven to have changed the world in countries around the world.
in unexpected ways. When Brokeback was released, it So why is Hollywood so timid to make LGBTQ
brought along with it the promise of a better landscape films? Where is the LGBTQ-equivalent of Tyler Perry?
for LGBTQ films; films full of realistic characters, fully- Although many in the Black community would criticize
realized sex lives, and substantive storylines. But five Perry's contribution to African-American film, he has
years later and LGBTQ-themed movies are still confined built an empire on female-centric films targeting a
to art houses and film festivals. So what exactly has specific segment of the population, namely African-
changed? Americans. As a result, nearly every single one of his
Brokeback Mountain was most prominent when films has received mediocre reviews but been met with
it came to LGBTQ inclusion during awards season. great box office success, relying solely on a specific
segment of the viewing population.
But since 2005, only one other LGBTQ-centric film
Granted, there is no Tyler Perry-equivalent for
has garnered the amount of buzz that accompanied
Latino- or Asian- Americans, which is also a shame. But
Brokeback, and that is 2008's Milk (and to a lesser extent,
This is not to say that the only gauge of an LGBTQ- five years ago, I was promised that Hollywood would
last year’s A Single Man). Personally, I feel that Milk
themed film's success is its box office returns, but despite be more reflective of me, my life, and my friends, and it
is a superior film -- better performances, better story, three major "successful" gay films, Hollywood has yet just isn't so. And while I can turn on Brothers & Sisters
and more emotionally charged. But in terms of gay sex, to produce a mainstream gay film, big budget and all. or Desperate Housewives, I am forced to assume that
Milk mirrored Brokeback and mostly neutered its male- And while American television is littered with LGBTQ the flamboyantly effeminate character in How to Lose a
on-male sex scenes. The film also failed to generate the characters, complete with captivating storylines and Guy in Ten Days is gay and the closest I'm going to get
box office revenue that Brokeback did, grossing only emotions, Hollywood has continued to relegate LGBTQ to a relatable LGBTQ character.
$30 million domestically compared to Brokeback's $83 characters to the role of "sassy best friend" in awful So thanks Brokeback Mountain. I guess.
million. romantic comedies.
Last year's queer indie film, The Kids Are All Right, Unfortunately, it doesn't look like Hollywood intends
is expected to sweep the upcoming awards season. to change its course anytime soon. Take the Jim Carrey-
Although we see a lot of heterosexual sex in this lesbian Ewan McGregor comedy, I Love You Phillip Morris. Eric Jost is a freelance writer living in Washington,
DC. His work ranges from first-person narratives to
marriage drama, the gay sex is confined to under the The film received rave reviews last year, was distributed commentaries on pop culture and politics. You can
sheets; and while it did prove to be financially successful, around the world, but could not find a distributor in the check out more of his work at www.eric-jost.com.
again, it came nowhere close to recapturing Brokeback's US until late 2010 -- mainly because of a graphic gay
box office magic. sex scene involving Carrey. It finally hit indie theaters

Cold Shower Time: Rapper Eminem To Play Gay On Glee

by Hazel Zimmerman
Controversial rap artist Eminem is scheduled to make a guest appearance on the
hit Fox TV series GLEE this spring. He’ll play character Sue Sylvester’s younger
brother Ted, a stereotypically flamboyant gay cheerleading coach.
According to the rumors being spread over the Internet, viewers can expect a
steamy making out scene between Eminem and the show’s main gay character, What Path Calls You?
Kurt. “It’s going to get steamy,” said Bruce Mathews, a writer for the popular show.
“We’re really trying to push the envelope with this episode. You’re going to need
a cold shower afterwards…especially when you get to see all of Eminem’s tattoos
close up!”
“Eminem has been a fan of Glee from the very beginning,” said Charlotte Rinehart,
Eminem’s personal assistant. She added that he’s “seen every single episode and clamourunderbridge.typepad.com
sings along to all of the songs…especially to the Broadway show tunes they regularly
An occasional performer with Elton John, Eminem’s guest spot on Glee adds to a
long list of the rapper’s recent accomplishments. His seventh studio album, Recovery,
recently received 10 Grammy nominations, including one for Album of the Year. Eminem CLASSIFIED ADS IN THE
As once noted on a restroom stall at Indiana State University in Terre Haute, “Hazel Zimmerman LOVES
everybody!” (and NOT “DOES everybody” as was widely rumored). When not writing parody news items are affordable and easy
for THE LETTERHEAD, you’ll find Hazel shopping for value-priced cosmetics at the Clifton-Crescent Hill
on the eyes! See page 16.
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To Life, Hammering At The Door by Bryn Marlow

"Our culture ignores the power of the power to change my life. My heart thought life any better than that?"
initiation. Uninitiated boys become lost raced. My hands shook. My breath came I admire young people who come out
men leading unfulfilled lives. The male in gasps. I thought the top of my head early. I feel jealous of them. And rather
initiation experience we offer makes a might lift off. As the chanting reached a stupid. How could I not realize I was
difference." crescendo, the man next to me elbowed gay? How many clues were staring me
This was the official spiel and I was my ribs. I heard his dry voice: "I'm not in the face? How many chances to come
skeptical. I'd come to the graduation buying any of this, are you?" At that out earlier did I miss? How many times
ceremony to honor a friend's successful moment, the ribbed steel doors of the hut did life come roaring up, rapping at my
completion of the male initiation program were wrenched open. door, ready to teach me about loving and
offered by a non-profit organization. I For me, that whole weekend was tinged accepting myself—and how many times,
didn't come to be sold a bill of goods. with a sense of possibility, magic—and unwilling or unable to face my sexual
Then one by one the 30 new initiates déjà vu. In condensed form, it echoed orientation, did I turn away?
stood to speak. Man after man described some of my coming out experiences of How much life I must have missed out
the recent weekend event as the most six years earlier. on! Or maybe not. Maybe the time wasn't
powerful experience of his life. I listened Coming out remains the watershed right. Maybe I was not psychically strong
intently. That evening I reserved a space moment of my life, the reckoning point enough to face the truth of my sexual
on the next initiatory weekend, still some that divides the B.C. and A.D. of my orientation. Maybe a deep inner wisdom
months away. it couldn't come soon existence. It changed the course of my whispered, "Not yet, not now." Maybe
enough for me. life. It threw me off-balance and held me that wisdom is still at work in me.
I had a vague notion the venture would there whilst a deep reordering took place Maybe life is forever knocking at my
include drumming in the woods. What in my psyche. door, wanting to come in and shake
else, I didn't know. I didn't care. I wanted I came out at age 34. It remains the things up, offer me chances to grow into
whatever those 30 men had found. I set single most scary, painful, destructive, more life. Maybe I can trust the process
out with anticipation. instructive, exhilarating and wonderful as it unfolds, take one step at a time,
What I did not anticipate was boot experience of my life. I will never know be gentle with myself even as I honor
camp. As soon as I and my fellow initiates what it is to give birth to a child, but I my current understanding, knowledge
set foot on the wooded site, we were will always remember giving birth to and awareness. Maybe all of life is one
ordered about, offered no explanations, a darkened enclosure. We were told to sit myself. long initiation into itself. To which I say,
extended no sympathy. on the concrete floor and keep quiet. And I will always wonder, 'why did it "L'chaim!"
We languished in cramped dark Off in the woods began a distant take me so long to get there?'
quarters. We were yelled at. One drumming, accompanied by men Part of the answer rings in the dry
instructor played good cop; two dozen shouting and chanting in unison. The voice at my elbow. For years it was
more acted bad ass. We received scant noise grew closer, louder, more intense. my own arid withering self-talk: "You Bryn Marlow (gayfeather.blogspot.com) lives
rations, cold showers, little sleep, loud It erupted right outside the rusty doors absolute loser. You sin-sick reprobate of with his husband Dave on a 1930s Indiana
lectures. One unexpected experience of the metal hut in which we waited. a worm scudding to hell. You little dog farmstead where they raise chickens and
after another kept us off-balance. Then came a loud rapping. Someone, turd. Don't you know men are supposed flowers.
At last, our resistance worn down and something wanted in. I was convinced to be attracted to women? Can't you pray
our bodies worn out, we were herded into that whatever or whoever it was, it held a little harder? Can't you control your

"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." – Anonymous


New Year’s Reflections by Dr. Fred Schloemer, L.C.S.W.

[EDITOR’S NOTE: This month’s manufacturing jobs overseas, again to out of us. Sure, gay people today have always paid my way … what is a person
column includes reflections which boost big corporations’ profits. more rights in many ways, but we still face like me supposed to do, now that I can’t
some of Dr. Fred’s clients have shared I’m actually glad my parents are the same old prejudices and discrimination work and no one seems to care?”
with him about the state of our world. deceased, because it would break their in many other ways. Where are the At this time of year, many of us think
All names given are pseudonyms.] hearts to know that the country they demonstrators in the streets these days? a lot about the year we’ve just come
fought so hard for has come down to this I worry that we’re becoming a nation of through, how to pay for all the gifts we
Roy: “I’m almost sixty and I’ve seen sorry state of affairs.” sheep, following our leaders without a clue gave at Christmas, or paying our taxes
a lot over the years, the Civil Rights and Tim: “I sometimes think I’m the only gay that they’re leading us to the butcher’s in the months to come. Maybe we need
Women’s Movements, the Vietnam War man in the country who was at Stonewall shop.” to think more about our neighbors and
protests, the Gasoline Wars and staggering in New York and the demonstrations after Alice: “I just heard from the Disability peers who need our help in various
inflation of the 70s; but I don’t think I’ve Harvey Milk’s murder in San Francisco. Determinations Office that my application ways?
ever been more worried than I am right Those were heady days, for sure, full of is about to be thrown out because it’s been
now about the state of our country. anger, even rage, and a real passion for over thirty days since I filed it and my doctor
The media talks incessantly about justice. Maybe we were naïve but we really still hasn’t sent them his records. I asked
the “recession” the country is in, while believed we could change the world just them what am I supposed to do?! It’s not Fred Schloemer, Ed.D., LCSW is a
corporate profits, especially for oil by marching in the streets and protesting my fault my doctor hasn’t responded, why Louisville psychotherapist with a practice
companies and Wall Street, have never social wrongs. And, you know, I think we should I be punished for his negligence? specializing in GLBTQ issues. Contact him at
been greater. Meanwhile the US has lost did, in fact, change the world. I have no income, I’m losing my house to FredSchloemer@aol.com.
its role as a world superpower due to being I sometimes wonder when that foreclosure and I’ve filed for bankruptcy.
in debt to China and sending most of our willingness to fight for what is right went I’ve worked since I was a teenager and
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Youthfulness & Your Mental Health by Michael Kimmel, MA, MSW, LCSW
I recently turned 57 and am damned I am inspired to share with you some
proud of it. I have my share of wrinkles ideas on keeping your brain “youthful”,
and gray hair, but I FEEL youthful and healthy and happy.
healthy. I’d like to share some of what I enjoy continually learning more about
works for me – and my clients – in hopes how our mind and body work. From
it will be useful to you too: what I’ve been reading, neurobiology
Meditate. It teaches you to listen to your researchers are more optimistic than ever
body, tell yourself the truth about what’s about the potential of our brain to keep
going on with you and helps you get in growing and getting “better”, regardless
touch with your desires, motivations and of our age. Science used to believe that as
fears. Meditation has been proven to help we got older, our brain got older (and less
relieve stress, decrease chronic pain and efficient). This isn’t true any more. “For
improve sleep…and has recently been your blood pressure. learn a new sport or skill: cultivating new a long time, we held the assumption that
found to slow down cognitive decline. Be a little “goofy”: let go of the skills is like aerobics for your self-esteem. we’re born with all the nerve cells we’re
What’s not to like? “seriousness” of life. About 5% of You need new challenges to master to ever going to have, and that the brain is
Pay attention to your body, but don’t things are seriously important, the other stay youthful. not capable of generating new ones —
obsess! Take care of your health so you 95% aren”t. Can you laugh at silly things If you love your work – don’t retire! that once these cells die we’re unable to
don’t worry unnecessarily. Don’t weigh you do? Try it and watch your blood Work part-time or a few hours a week, or replace them,” said Molly Wagster, chief
yourself too often. Let your clothes be pressure drop and that crease in your volunteer. You may not need the money, of the Neuropsychology of Aging branch
your guide…if they don’t fit comfortably, forehead disappear. but your brain needs the stimulation! of the National Institute on Aging. “The
then decide how you’d like to handle that. Cultivate friendships with two-to- Give of yourself. Tthis is the fastest birth of new nerve cells, she said, “has
Exercise is wonderful, but it only works three people who really love you. Two way out of self-pity (which is terribly been shown to occur in older adults.”
in the long run if you find something you or three really good friends is all you aging). Get out there in the world and Neurogenesis is the ability of our brain
enjoy. Try new things and experiment really need in life. Do you have someone help someone else. You don’t need to to generate new nerve cells, in essence, to
with combining them. Too much routine you can call at 2AM to take you to the ER, be Mother Theresa to make a difference. stay youthful, sharp and alert. So, how
can be deadly: keep yourself interested. or someone who will come over ASAP if Got an hour a month? Some worthy can we stimulate neurogenesis in our
Notice what you eat. Try this Zen your lover dumps you? If not, then you organization would love to have you. dear, beloved brains?
“paying attention” exercise. Only eat need to develop a couple of close friends. Volunteering keeps you youthful: Neurogenesis studies show that
when you are really paying attention to It takes time and energy, don’t kid whether you’re 18 or 80, you need to people who do the following things are
what you’re eating. For most of us, we yourself. Close friendships unfold over be around people. Do something that more likely to have “younger” brains…
can only eat about 3 bites before we start time…but your intention matters: make makes your heart happy: a happy heart • Stay socially connected,
to zone out. When that happens, stop an effort to be around people you really is a youthful heart. • Have strong ties to relatives, friends
and refocus. Come back to the present love and see who you grow close to. Keep your brain youthful. Many of and community,
moment: what are you eating? Do you When in doubt, try moderation. A little us are highly focused on keeping our • Are physically healthy and physically
really taste it? This works particularly dessert, one glass of wine, one morning bodies youthful. We spend hundreds of active, and
well with desserts. For me, after the first to lie in bed, one afternoon to do nothing hours (and dollars) on a youthful body. •Engage in stimulating and/or
3 bites, I’m usually over my “craving” but read magazines…moderation is a But what about our brain? Have we intellectually challenging activities
and can leave the rest alone. This exercise wonderful thing. Living in the extremes forgotten about it? Just because we don’t The big question – according to
alone helped me kick an ice cream is exhausting. see it, doesn’t mean it’s not worth our scientists - is whether these folks have
“addiction”. Keep exercising your brain. If you keep attention.
Sit still for a minute or two whenever doing the same old stuff over-and-over… After reading a great article in The (See LIFE BEYOND THERAPY,
you can. It’ll calm you down and lower no wonder you’re bored. Take a class or New York Times, by reporter Roni Rabin, continued on pg 17)

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life beyond therapy, cont’d from pg 16 buy you a 15 to 20 percent improvement • Travel, read, take up a new language • Do not drink excessively (enough
younger brains because they engage in the in memory, decision-making ability or learn to play a musical instrument. said)
kind of life described above, or whether and attention,” said Arthur F. Kramer, a This may be the perfect time to take • “Maintain flexible attitudes and be
they are able to have this kind of life professor of psychology at the University piano lessons or study Spanish again. willing to try new things,” said Warner
because they have younger brains. “We of Illinois. “It will also buy you increases Your brain will thank you! Schaie, who in 1956 started the Seattle
don’t know whether this is an example of in the volume of various brain regions • Manage your stress: “Chronic Longitudinal Study, which follows
reverse causation or not — it’s probably in the prefrontal and temporal cortex, stress can lead to the rewiring of areas of the psychological development of
a two-way street,” said Bruce S. McEwen, and more efficient neuronetworks.” the brain that are involved in emotion, participants through adulthood. “You
who heads the neuroendocrinology lab Translation: your brain stays more memory and decision-making,” Dr. have to expect things will shift over
at Rockefeller University in New York. youthful, your focus sharper and your McEwen said, “and the brain becomes time…those who manage to roll with the
But some interventional studies that memory more accurate…you have the more biased toward more anxiety, more punches, and enjoy change rather than
have introduced older adults to exercise capacity to make better, quicker and depression, less flexibility in terms of fighting it, tend to do well.”
regimens alone have reported remarkable more logical decisions and you feel less decision-making and becomes less able And there you have it…now you can
results. Researchers at the University of “foggy”. This is great stuff folks! to store information.” keep your beautiful brain as happy and
Illinois at Urbana-Champaign recruited a There is major consensus among • Eat a Mediterranean-style diet, healthy as your beautiful body. May you
group of sedentary adults, assigning half scientists on recommendations for what including fish and nuts containing enjoy them both.
of them to an aerobic exercise program we can do to keep our brains as youthful omega-3 fatty acids, antioxidant-rich
that met three times a week, while a as our trim, toned bodies. For example: fruits and vegetables, olive oil and LIcensed Psychotherapist
control group did anaerobic stretching • Engage in regular physical activity. possibly some red wine. (Blueberries are Micheal Kimmel is a native of
and toning. It increases blood flow to the brain and also recommended.) Ohio and former resident of
The scientists measured the stimulates the production of hormones • Minimize your risk of head injuries: Louisville. He offers individual
group’s cognitive function (i.e., brain and nerve growth factors involved in wear a helmet on a bicycle, skateboard or and couple therapy from his
“youthfulness”) before and after the six- neurogenesis. motorcycle and avoid playing games like practice in San Diego. For
• Seek out stimulation through football (yep, that’s what they said). more information about his
month program and found improvements
counseling practice visit www.
among those who had done the aerobic interesting work, volunteer opportunities • Stay away from pesticides and
exercise. “Six months of exercise will or continuing education. insecticides; they contain neurotoxins.

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In this romantic comedy, a favorite at many film festivals, director Douglas Langway (Eduardo Cemano)
and co-writer Lawrence Ferber, viewers are given an insider pass to a burly, tight-knit group of New York
City friends who are trying to make it through life’s twisted paths and love’s absurdities without getting lost.
When twinkie newbie and closet bear chaser Tyler (Joe Conti) joins the gang, he has no idea the impact his
new friends will have on his life. Invited to move in with the group's very own “Yogi and Boo Boo,” Fred
(Brian Keane) and Brent (Stephen Guarino), Tyler becomes a fast staple.
As in any good romantic comedy, our hot young lead needs a love interest; insert Roger (Gerald McCullouch)
the hot Casanova of muscle bears. The film oozes with sexual tension. It spills over with comic relief added by
full-of-heart, “Mama-Bear” Michael (Gregory Gunter), BearCity is a prime cut of movie-beef.
From society’s pressure to fit into a mold, to the trials and tribulations of a long-term relationship, rediscover
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Excellent Food . . . If You Have The Time by Beth Ann Rubin

[The Bard's Town; 1801 Bardstown You can choose from something as for our appetizer. In fact the couple at the
Road, Louisville, simple as the Tabard Inn which is basically next table were seated after us, ordered
KY 40205. (502) 749-5275. a grilled chicken sandwich ($8.99) to the after us and received their appetizer
Online: www.thebardstown.com.] more complex Veggie Tower of London (also Billy’s cheese) before we did. After
The building located at the corner of which consists of Puff Pastry, Goat Cheese, another marathon wait, we got our main
Speed Avenue and Bardstown Road has Marinara and Grilled Veggies ($14.99). dishes. The people at the table next to
played host to a number of restaurants Our tastes ran towards the simple entrees us had to go to the bar just to order their
over the years, yet none has left a lasting that evening. One dining companion drinks since our waiter was nowhere to
impression. Its latest occupant has opted for the Bard Burger ($8.99) which be found. And the hardest part of waiting
emerged with a unique combination of included cheese and bacon along with was that I couldn’t even order another
both restaurant and theater. The recently the usual suspects. She chose the Merry drink to pass the time!
opened, The Bard’s Town, offers a varied Fries of Windsor as her side. This friend I have serious reservations about
menu with affordable prices and the considers herself a burger critic and rarely returning to The Bard’s Town only
added bonus of live entertainment. finds one up to snuff. However, she ate because of the service, but perhaps that
We visited the home of the Bard on a up this burger and found the fries to be evening was an exception. It would only
recent Saturday and were able to get a crispy and flavorful. Another dining be fair to give it another chance.
table near the stage. The restaurant is partner selected the Carmen which was So if you’re up for some exciting food
divided into two rooms, the first being a homemade Italian Sausage sandwich options and live music or comedy, give
the bar area which also has tables and ($10.99). He also had fries on the side. the Bard’s Town a try. You can check
booths and the second room with more He thought the sausage was savory with out the entertainment on the restaurant’s
tables and the stage. The area around the just enough bite to make it enjoyable. website. Just be prepared to wait for your
stage is cleared for seats set up prior to the The Bard’s Town offers a menu inspired The sandwich came with lettuce, cherry food if you are seated at a four top table
performance for those who are only there by the works of Shakespeare. tomatoes, olive and a zesty dressing. near the stage.
for cocktails and easy listening. I decided to enjoy two smaller plates
Coming soon the restaurant will have the name. so as to sample more off the menu and
a theater on the second floor with seating Although the restaurant may view ordered the Roast Tomato Bisque ($3.49
Beth Ann Rubin
for 70 with food and drink service. The Shakespeare as its muse, the food cup) and the Front of the House Salad
has been reviewing
intent is to initially present works by is definitely not British. Rather, it ($6.99). The bisque was a winner. The
restaurants for THE
Kentucky playwrights. The atmosphere encompasses cuisine from different parts roasted tomatoes enhanced the depth of
LETTER for nearly
is convivial yet a bit on the loud side. It of the world. This is evident from the the soup’s flavor and the grilled corn on
four years. A Chicago
was also quite dark which made reading first part of the menu. While enjoying top added that subtle crunch. I found the
native, Beth Ann and
the menu somewhat difficult. our drinks, we decided to start with an salad also quite tasty and the delicious
her family live just
The Bard’s Town’s menu offerings appetizer, or “prologue” as the restaurant strawberry-balsamic vinaigrette in which
south of Louisville's
play off of many of Shakespeare’s works names it. The list of starters include a the greens were tossed was the perfect
Highlands neighborhood. A talented cook in
with such entrees as The Taming of the combo Scotch/Italian Egg, Chicken Satay dressing.
her own right, over the years her baked goods
Stew, the Filet-de MacBeth and Falstaff’s and Empanadas, all priced at $6.99. We My main concern about our meal was
have earned her numerous awards at the
Famous Falafel. Somehow I cannot ordered the Billy’s Cheese, also $6.99. We the service. It was appalling. Our waiter
Kentucky State Fair.
picture a man of Falstaff’s girth as being savored the flavorful cheese spread with was very friendly but mostly absent. We
partial to falafel, but it’s a clever play on was served with soft pretzel bread. waited an eternity for our drinks and then

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Target, cont’d from pg 9 $150,000 donation noted previously, equality agenda.
in the workplace, including GLBT of the $41,200 donated by Target’s Many activists continue to boycott He Can't Be THAT Old!
issues”. Political Action Committee, federal Target, demanding that department Executive Editor Dave VanderPol will be
Yet an investigative piece posted government reports show that less store giant match it’s inclusive celebrating his CENSORED birthday on
on The Awl website (www.theawl. than one-fourth ($10,000) went to personnel polices and financial support Sunday, January 16th!
com) last month reveals that Target support fairness-friendly candidates of Pride events with a policy of never
donated to not one, but to many and political action committees, again funding anti-gay politicians Like fine wine and cheese, Dave just keeps
anti-gay candidates during the 2010 while the rest of the money went to and political action committees that getting better with age!
election cycle. In addition to the candidates who openly oppose a pro- oppose equality.

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