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Introduction
“What happens to parents when space is limited in the heart and homes of their children?
Old-age homes have become popular in Bangladesh. The traditional structure of a family
of Bangladesh is turning into a fast, racy lifestyle, where ambitious youth are discarding the old
The parents are forced to live out their old age alone. An old man, once the head of the
family is now a subdued member of a house of strangers. The woman who once happily cooked
three meals a day is now forbidden from entering the community kitchen. There are no phones in
the old-age center, and the residents know no one will ask for them. The wrinkles on their faces
are as pronounced as the pains of being discarded. The bitter realization that we are all
dispensable comes into focus. They are nearing the ends of their lives with unfinished dreams
In Dhaka's largest old-age home, BOSHIPUK, the residents ask this question everyday:
how after a lifetime of striving to establish individual ownership and entitlement, they are now
fumbling to cope with this new involuntary communal life? Dhaka is the fastest-growing
megacity on the planet, and the landscape of the traditional Bengali family is being rapidly
erased. Respect for elders is being washed out.” (Full Frame: Death or Dream, N.D.)
This is all about my research. Children are becoming too busy with their lives and they
want to ignore their responsibilities towards their parents. They want to escape from their due
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responsibilities and trying to choose the old homes as an alternative at which they can send their
parents. By adopting this western culture we will achieve nothing but regret ourselves one day.
Hasan (2010) claimed that as the young and working class of our society, every single
day we are announcing that we are working to create a better future and society for our next
generation. But we ignore the people who have created the present, who contributed their entire
life for the betterment of their children. We have forgotten about the contribution of the last
Surely we are developing day by day, but we must provide space for the elderly people of
our country. A huge tendency among us is to treat them as a burden. But we have to remember
that what we are today is because of them. Sad but true story is- we are no longer ready to show
our respect, love and affection to our parents. We are getting involved in so many works that we
do not have a few time to talk with them nicely. This should not be happening in Bangladesh.
This woman says that a bench one-and-a-half feet wide, five feet long is all she needs to be happy- as long
as she is with her family. Instead, she lies alone in the backyard of an old-age home.
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Background
An old home is a multi-residence housing facility intended for senior citizens. The usual
pattern is that each person or couple in the home has an apartment-style room or suite of rooms.
Additional facilities are provided within the building. Often this includes facilities for meals,
gathering, recreation, and some form of health or hospice care. The level of facilities varies
enormously. A place in a retirement or old home can be paid for on a rental basis, like an
(www.wikipedia.org)
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My research paper is all about the present view of our children about their parents.
Especially I would like to know, who have elderly parents in their homes how are they treating
them. Do they really take proper care of them or just behaving with them unjustly? Those who
have young parents, whether they want to send them to old homes for proper care in future or
not. Different private organizations are building old homes in Bangladesh and their future plan
about establishing this kind of old homes is really huge in number. I want to know about this
activity whether it is good or bad for our country. I also would like to know about the factors
behind sending people to old age homes. Lastly I will put question when old homes can be
I intend to find answers to such questions through my research work. The primary data
will be collected by interviewing and passing questionnaires to the general citizens of Dhaka
city. To further clarify matters, I will take help from a wide range of interesting secondary
sources. They mostly include the related materials published in the books, internet, newspapers,
magazines, journals, reports, motion pictures and even in a song. By integrating my primary and
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In brief, the hypothesis I am aiming to prove in this research is that, our parents do not
deserve to live in an old home at their old age and the children of our country should keep their
Areas of Research
Through the research paper I intend to do my research about the following areas:
My finding was from 1960, by a private initiative- Bangladesh Association for the Aged
and Institute of Geriatric Medicine (BAAIGM) is working with the elderly issue for this country.
This is way before any government action was taken. But the first old home was established in
1994 at Gazipur and the Nobel Laureate Mother Teresa laid the founder stone. Then many
different private organizations have built old homes in different districts of this country. Mainly
poor, helpless elderly people are the residents of these old homes. But there is lot who were
thrown out of their family by their children or willingly left their homes because of their
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Here I found out that, most of the children think that aged parents are burden, many
married couple wants to live alone, after a certain age people get too busy to take care of their
parents.
Through personal visit and reading different articles and books about old homes, I found
that majority of the residents are not happy to live there. They are getting proper care but they
need their children’s love and affection. Some of them realized the hard truth, but some still wait
for their children to come and take them back to their own sweet homes.
There can be many situation arise when old homes can really play an important role to
support our parents. For example, some parents lose their children and become helpless, one
might have only one child who went abroad and never came back, urban parents who came to
city for better living but became homeless, and there are many deprived parents who are not
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Rather in necessary situation, if we send our parents just to follow the culture of the west
then it is regretful. We believe our parents sacrificed a lot for us when we were young. So we
have a duty to them at their old age. The major finding was no one wants to take old home as a
culture. It can be act as the last choice when there is no alternative left for the parents.
Hypothesis
I think building old homes might be beneficial physically but not morally and
psychologically for elderly people of our country. I believe old home is a part of western culture
where after a certain age parents willingly do not want to live with their children and sometimes
on the other hand, grown up or married son or daughter do not feel comfortable to live with their
parents. And so they send their parents to an old home. I think this tradition should not be
adopted in our country. I expect that the children of our country do not want to see their parents
end up in an old home and counting days for death without any caring and related person around.
In a nutshell, I am assuming that more and more old homes should not be growing in Bangladesh
and children want to take care of their parents and the parents also want to live with their
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Many elderly are left at BOSHIPUK, cast away by their family members.
Methodology
general public in Dhaka, students and faculties of North South University and interview people
who actually live in the old homes and find out what do they think about increasing old homes in
Bangladesh as well as do they really want to be a resident of old home when they are above 67
years old. I have gone around, provided questionnaires and interviewed people who know about
these old age homes. Even though the primary source of my survey was based mostly on North
South University, I tried my level best to get an equal mixture of both male and female
respondents, from different departments present in the university. I gave emphasis on going to
the faculties to fill up the questionnaire and personally talk with them to know about their
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my questions had been answered by my respondents. Although I had spread out about 67
questionnaires, I was returned properly filled up 53. However, from those questionnaires that I
had received back, all of them had been properly filled and responds from the intellectual
Few will remember Kulsum Bibi, who once was a freedom fighter. She migrated from Myanmar to then East Pakistan
in 1963 and lost her hearing while participating in the Liberation War in 1971.
For my secondary research, I took help from various articles published earlier in
different reports, newspapers and magazines, regarding old homes and its residents. I did search
and take help from resources of our north south university library and archive section from the
books articles or CDs about old homes. I also found some television shows about the condition
of old homes residents in Bangladesh and a beautiful song that strongly proved my hypothesis. I
utilized a lot of help from the internet, browsed through various websites and used search
engines like Bing, Yahoo and Google. My secondary sources had a good variety, they proved to
be extremely useful in supporting my hypothesis, and they were also very interesting and
informative.
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The trees are standing proudly on the ground, representing youth to 90-year-old Abdul Rahman. "We stood when we
were young. Everyone will grow old if they are alive," he says.
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For the collection of my primary data, I gave out questionnaires that were to be filled up
mostly by North South University (NSU) faculties and students and some general citizens of
Dhaka. I selected the respondents mainly based on their high intellectuality and ability of future
male respondents (8 married) and the remaining 15 were female (5 married). The students
belonged to the age group of 20-25, while other respondents were age ranged from 40 to 60.
Most of the faculty respondents were from the department of BBA and Economics, while the
student respondents were all from different departments existing in NSU. In my survey, I asked a
total of 8 questions were multiple choices, 2 were yes/no questions. The answers are explained
Question 1: Different private organizations are building old homes in Bangladesh and
they are motivating elderly people to reside there. What do you think about it?
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Description: From the above diagram it is seen that 19 respondent that is 36 percent of
the respondent think that building old homes is good while 45 percent of the respondent (24)
responded that more and more old homes should not be built in Bangladesh. Rest 19 percent (10)
Analysis: From the graph above we can easily peak up that majority of the respondent do
not want an increase of old homes in Bangladesh. Whereas about one third of the respondent
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Question 2. Do you feel that after a certain age our parents should be sent to old homes
Description: Here only 1 out of 53 respondents said yes. 28 of them responded No and
Analysis: From above illustration I found that our children do not want to send their
parents to old homes. Because ‘no’ and ‘never’ are quite similar in meaning. I just used ‘never’
to give emphasis on the answer. So almost all respondent want to live with their parents.
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Description: The X axis of the above bar chart is indicating the number of respondent
and Y axis is revealing the factors behind sending people to old homes. I divided it into male-
female category to know what they think about aged parents. Surprisingly most of the
respondents (25) think aged parents become burden for them. And another amazing reason they
chose that after just getting married they want to live alone, rather to live with their parents. Here
I found the female respondent more supportive than male. The annoying grand children option
did not work that much. Only 2 female chose this behind sending parents to old homes. But in
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the forth option I did not expect any tick mark but there are people in our country who leaves
Analysis: In the other category comment I found different interesting answer. For
example one thinks that the environment or the education the children is getting is the most
important thing to shape his/her behavior. Sending people to old homes is the evil consequence
of the immoral education system. Another stated a common excuse of limited time. One
responded intellectually, that when the children try to get away from their due duties and
responsibilities to their parents, they send them to old homes. The last but not the least
interesting response was majority of the wives do not want to live in their in-laws. So they
persuade their husbands to send the parents to old homes. And for keeping the wives happy
husbands send their parents to old homes. Majority response was about burden and newly
married couple wants to live alone while other major cause is lack of time and opportunity.
"I want my body buried here; in this old age home," she says angrily.
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Question 4. After sacrificing so much for us when we were at childhood, do our parents
Description: The above doughnut shaped diagram is representing the responses of the
yes/no question. The deep blue color portion is showing that 9 percent of the respondents (5 out
of 53) think that our parents deserve to live in an old home as because they will get there peace
and proper care. But as expected 43 of the respondents (91 percent) think that they should keep
Analysis: The responses are showing that the children of our country still have respect
and love for their parents. They did not become robotic and have no hearts. This was the
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Question 5. Do you think majority of the residents of old homes are happy to live there?
Description: To illustrate the bar chart above, out of 53 respondent 30 think that old
home residents are not happy. 10 think maybe they are happy while one thinks that they are
happy to reside in the old homes. 12 of the respondent do not know about their condition.
Analysis: I asked this question to know how the respondents treat the old homes. Do they
think the place as a place of enjoyment or misery? I found that majority of the respondent know
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Question 6. Is sending some money and visiting them once in a month at old home
Description: In the bar diagram above almost 99 percent (52 out of 53 respondents)
chose the option ‘no’ whereas surprisingly one male respondent thinks that money is all that the
parents need.
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Analysis: Through this question I justified that children have some responsibilities to
their parents other than just giving them financial support. And almost all the respondent agreed
with me.
Question 7. Would you like to send your parents at old home after your marriage or
Description: The figure above is exhibiting the response of the question. Blue bar is
representing the male while red represents the female respondents. 34 of 38 male respondents
chose never to send their parents to old homes whereas the rest 4 chose ‘may be, time will say’.
On the other hand almost 94 percent (14 out of 15) of the female respondents will never send
their parents to old homes while 1 followed the 4 male respondents who chose ‘may be’.
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Analysis: Here it was good to see that neither male nor female respondents said ‘yes’ to
the question. Majority of them will never send their parents to old homes. This response
controverts my hypothesis that I assumed that children wants to send their parents to old homes
Description: The broken pie chart above is representing that 89 percent (47 out of 53) of
the respondent do not know any person personally who lives in old age home. Only 6 (11
Analysis: Through this question I analyzed how popular the old homes are in Bangladesh
and how common is sending parents to old homes around us. And I tried to find the answer why
did the children actually send them to old homes. Here I got some situation by which I had to
change my view regarding old homes. Because there are some situations arise when we become
helpless and no more option left without sending them to old homes. For example, one cause was
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the parent had no children and the wife was always busy with teaching profession, so the father
had to be sent to old home. There were no relatives around. Another response was, the only child
f the parents left the country and sent their parents to old homes. One of the reasons was, the
father could not tolerate the activities of his children and could not control anger, so he himself
left the home. And the last was the most common cause, which is the children treated their
Question 9. In our country parents tend to live with their children. Should we replace this
Description: The above pie diagram is displaying that 96 percent (51 out of 53) of the
respondents agreed with my hypothesis that we should not adopt this as a culture. Only 1 male
Analysis: Referring to the responses here I want to make an appeal to tradition. Please do
not change our beautiful tradition where our parents live with their children by adopting the most
Question 10. When parents lose their children and become helpless then old homes can
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Description: The above diagram is illustrating that 27 male and 10 female think that old
homes can be beneficial in some extreme situations, while only 11 male and 5 female think that
government has to pay a role to these helpless parents or they should live with their relatives.
Analysis: Here also I got some contradictory response regarding my hypothesis which
changed my view about old homes. Because 37 of total respondents consider old homes as
beneficial.
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My secondary sources were mainly consists of magazine articles, books and reports
related to my topic old homes in Bangladesh. The magazines were all provided with the
newspaper Daily Star. All the magazine articles were about the true stories of deprived old
people of country who live in old homes. Especially in the article ‘The value of respect’ there is
detail information about the lifestyle and the general activities of an old home situated in Gazipur
named ‘BOSHIPUK’. In the following article ‘Silent pain’ focuses on the visiting experience of
a team from Independent University Bangladesh at ‘Arunima old home’ in Savar. Similarly, ‘At
the end of the day’ tell us about a safe home for elderly people named ‘Bela sheshe’ in Mirpur.
All these articles explain about the lifestyle of the elderly citizens of old age homes in
Bangladesh. From those I came to know more about the miserable condition of home residents
about their daily work and there feeling. All stories proved my hypothesis strongly and inspired
me to do the research through which I can spread my message about the old home issue.
Sciences, University of Dhaka, Bangladesh. (n.d.) helped me a lot to know about the policies that
have been taken for the emerging elderly population In Bangladesh as well as about the
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The book “Aged Women in Urban Area of Dhaka in Bangladesh” by Nilufar, (2006),
revealed some case studies done on the unexpected behavior of our youngsters or the grown up
children with their parents. “The Rural Homeless in Bangladesh” by Rahman, (1993) is a small
book mainly about the homeless people, where they live and different care program for them.
“The urban poor in Bangladesh” by Islam, (2005) helped me with knowing about the miserable
condition of numerous old helpless people. While going through all these books I was changing
my thoughts about old homes. I thought old homes should not be built in Bangladesh and it was
also a part of my hypothesis. But after reading this books and knowing old people’s miserable
condition I think old homes can be an organized beautiful way to help these helpless, homeless
elderly people.
My second major sources were the websites. All the pictures and photo comment I have
used throughout the research paper were collected from website. “Full Frame: Death or Dream”
by Hasan, (2010) really provided me ample pictures which clearly proved my hypothesis. I did
not need any words, the picture themselves speak. I also visited Citi group’s and Novartis
Bangladesh Limited’s website to know about their existing and future plans regarding old homes.
The most interesting secondary source which strongly proved my hypothesis correct
about the miserable condition of old home residents was the song titled “Briddhashram” by
Chakraborti, (2004). This heart touching song is really very popular. It was first released in 2004
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and again remake in 2011. The song deals with the scene that a typical busy official is leaving
his old mother in an old home and after that about the mother’s measurable feeling about it.
Department, Jahangir Nagar University helped me to understand the economic benefit of these
kind of old homes and child care centers. He illustrates that these elderly citizen care centre can
be a good option to help the old people. We should not adopt it as a culture but rather than giving
charity here and there we can give united help to our elderly helpless citizens through building
Most of the faculty members’ suggestions were most valuable to me. Because they had
intense knowledge about the matter and they showed me how to think rationally rather than
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The footsteps of Shurovi, who died on June 25, 2009, at the age of 70, will never touch the ground.
Everyone will forget her eventually. A new person will come to the home and take her place.
Limitation
There is nothing absolute flawless in the world. Everything must have some limitations.
Similarly, I too have faced several short-comings in conducting my research. I have not been
able to gather primary data from ample respondent. My survey consisted of only 53 respondents
which is not a good number for conducting a research. Different age, profession, religion, race,
economic class respondent would help to enrich my survey. Moreover most of them were
students who do not have sufficient knowledge about old age homes. Thus, my insufficient data
pool was not adequate to provide the concrete base required to prove or refute my hypothesis. I
also struggled with finding secondary sources related to my topic. However, they were fairly
helpful. My questionnaire design was not perfect. Without pilot survey it came out very biased
questionnaire by which a research cannot be done actually. Some of the answers were
overlapping and some of the questions were not understood properly by my respondents. The
main obstacle I faced while doing this project is- I could not talk personally with the residents of
old homes to know something about their feeling and stories behind coming into old homes.
Finally, time constraints have led to the decline of the quality of the report. Because if I had
much time I could have done it like a real research. To be honest, this project was more like a
survey than research. I think if I could get more time, I would have met different organization
manager, director, NGOs and talk with them about the existing condition and their future plan
about old homes. It is not easy to meet them always. After a long time they agree to meet and
talk. Because according to them, if there is no profit then they are not interested in giving time.
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After looking through some secondary data I largely changed my view about the old homes. So
if I could talk with the high officials and access most of the old homes, then my research could
Recommendation
I think a research on my topic could be done in a better way if data can be collected from
different kinds of respondent as mentioned earlier. A larger number of respondents can also offer
more accurate results. Searching out additional secondary sources, related to increasing number
of old homes in Bangladesh, can help readers to understand the topic more clearly. This will
assist in improved integration of the primary and secondary data, to provide the concrete
evidence required to prove or refute the hypothesis. Planning out the research project and timing
each task can support completion of the report without facing time constraints. Lastly, a better
and carefully planned out questionnaire can assist greatly in acquiring more accurate results and
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The dried leaves, the withered skin and the faded clothes all remind this woman
Conclusion
To conclude the paper I would like to restate that old homes are the most undesirable
place for our parents. They just want our love and company. No matter what we should keep
them with us. They sacrificed a lot for us. Cannot we just give them a little time and be nice with
them? Instead of being irritated we should be patient enough to deal with them. Because after the
research I found that in our country old homes is not a place of enjoyment, although in India,
Malaysia and many other developing countries, they give the residents many enjoyable works to
do and the elderly people are happy to live there. And in the developed countries parents
willingly leave their homes. But in Bangladesh this culture should not be developed. Our parents
should live with us as because we have much responsibility towards them. We should not treat
them as a burden. Although my hypothesis was not proved correct entirely, I did find that our
children do not want to send their parents to old homes anyway. Finally, old homes are not that
much popular in Bangladesh and children are not thinking about it as an alternative. I have
gained a thorough insight on the matters discussed while conducting this project, and I sincerely
hope so will you after going through this research. In conclusion it can be said that the research
findings do prove the hypothesis to be correct in a very great extent. In some cases, as suggested
by some secondary sources incorporated in this research work, old homes can be beneficial for
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our country. If this research is to be taken further, as far as I am concerned, a greater sample of
respondent should be surveyed and a number of one to one interviews should be conducted.
Other than all these, after doing this research I find a positive change in my view about old
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V. Song
19. Chakraborti, N. (2004, June 1). Briddhashram. On Briddhashram [CD]. Kolkata, India:
Saregama
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VII. Report
http://iussp2009.princeton.edu/download.aspx?submissionId=91324
Appendix
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