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Violent?
January 7, 2011 By Tom Matlack 4 Comments
Is fighting an essential
ingredient in manhood? Is
violence a part of who we are?
Guys weigh in.
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We nerds and sissies disprove the notion.
—Bennett Schneider
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There is no way to prove that violence is innate to manhood.
We can’t even define manhood. There is a lot of evidence to
suggest that human males are more aggressive and
assertive by nature, but that is not always the same as
violent. My thinking is that men end up more violent because
men have to compete with one another with displays of
powerful characteristics in order to compete in the male
hierarchy, which is ultimately about being selected by
women for reproduction. It makes sense to me that violent
tendencies are cultivated in that competition. So it’s a
learned behavior, born of our innate reproductive
programming.
—Paul Elam, men’s rights advocate
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Dave and I are fighting in the TV room. It’s a boy fight:
hurled fists and grunting. Our dad is seated on the piano
bench, watching this awkward spectacle. He believes we
need to “get our aggression out,” and that there’s no other
way to do it. He’s even sort of rooting me on, because Dave
is bigger and I need to stand up for myself. …
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In mainstream American culture, we teach boys and men
that they should be violent, or at least ready to be violent if it
becomes necessary. Among other things, we tell them that
“a man never backs down from a fight,” “men protect others
(especially women and children),” and that we can “step
outside and settle it like men.” When a guy doesn’t follow
these dictates, we call him a wimp.
—Andrew Smiler, psychology professor,
president, SPSMM.
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First I had a daughter. She was sweet and beautiful and
seemed to smell good all the time. She lived in harmony with
all creatures. Then I had a son. And he started breaking all
my shit.
—Chris Zito, comedian and author
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I was always big for my age, so guys were trying me all the
time—warranted, unwarranted, just all the time. Mom got
after me to stop running in the house every time I got chased
home from school. One time she met me at the top of our
steps when she saw me running away from a fight. She said,
“Andre, you turn around. You’re going to fight them. You’re
not going to keep getting chased home.” I dove off the top of
the steps onto those guys. That was the end of me getting
chased home.
—Andre Tippett, NFL Hall of Famer, from “Heart of a
Beginner” in The Good Men Project
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The greatest problem of every army in world history is, when
a battle begins, how do you stop soldiers from running
away? In combat, our flight response is far more powerful
than our fight response, but if we were naturally violent the
opposite would be true.
The myth that human beings are naturally violent is refuted
by all of military history, if people look below the surface.
Armies must train people to fight and kill, and war is one of
the most traumatizing things a human being can experience.
Even the people who support war say “war is hell.” If human
beings are naturally violent, why would war drive so many
people insane?
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Violence is innate in men. And in women. If we expect men
to be violent, we’ll interpret the evidence that way, and this
will reinforce our expectation. This confirmation bias is very
hard to break.
Think of what it’s like to “act like a caveman.” OK, now
remember that there are many highly symbolic cave
paintings. Now try to interpret “act like a caveman” to mean
painting symbols of self, nature, and community. If this
doesn’t make sense, it’s because you really haven’t ever
made an attempt to think about what it was actually like to
be a caveman. And why should you? The importance of “the
caveman” for most of us has nothing to do with a passion for
amateur paleontology, it has to do with justifying some
behavior as “natural” and criticizing other behavior as
“unnatural”—in other words, enforcing stereotypes.
—Dylan Wittkower, ethicist
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Answer: No. Anthropologically we know different. Violence in
men is a product of years of shift from agrarian to
industrialized to modern-day conditioning. Men are not
innately violent.
—Matt Yeazel, psychotherapist and social worker
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Friday night in Mongolia’s Bulgan City was like the Wild
West meeting the 21st century. Men would ride their horses
through town—right alongside the cars—tie them up to fence
posts, and go into the bars. They’d get drunk and eventually
a couple of them would piss each other off and box it out
with bare knuckles—no guns, no knives; that was bitch to
them. “Who fights with guns and knives?” they’d say if
anyone asked. “That’s not how Genghis Khan did it, and
that’s not how we’re going to do it.”
The Mongolians were big, burly people, and they would say
to me, a kid from an East Coast inner city, “You guys are big.
Why don’t you fight like we do? Why do you shoot each
other?”
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