TEACHING GUIDE

Quarter: Second – Personal Development

TOPIC/ LESSON NAME Personal Relationships

The learners demonstrate an understanding of:
CONTENT STANDARDS
 The dynamics of attraction, love, and commitment
The learners shall be able to:
PERFORMANCE STANDARDS
 Appraise one’s present relationships and make plans for building responsible future relationships
The learners can:
LEARNING COMPETENCIES
 Appraise one’s present relationships and make plans for building responsible future relationships
At the end of this module, the learners can:
 Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions
SPECIFIC LEARNING OUTCOMES of attractions
 Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment
 Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
TIME ALLOTMENT 2 Hours

I. Personal Relationships
LESSON OUTLINE:
1. INTRODUCTION: Communicating Learning Objectives
2. MOTIVATION: Video Presentation
3. INSTRUCTION/DELIVERY: Lecture- Discussion
4. PRACTICE: Activity: Attraction
5. ENRICHMENT: Activity: Move It!
6. EVALUATION: Quiz

Materials Projector, Laptop

Resources DIWA Senior High School Series: Personal Development Module, Personal Development Reader

Procedure Meeting Learners' Needs

1. Introduction
The learners shall be able to:
1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions.
2. Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.
2. Motivation
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 Watch this video: Stefana Broadbent – How the Internet Influence Intimacy – http://www.ted.com/playlists/26/our_digital_lives and discuss among your
classmates if what was said by the video presenter is relevant to you or not.

3. Instruction or Delivery
Teenage Relationships
Your relationship during this stage is pretty much different from what you had when you were still a child, when you focused on play activities and
had few close friends. During your teenage years, you form friendships and start to develop intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex.
Intimate or close relationships are characterized by self-disclosure and your capacity to trust others.
Friendship
Friendship is a form of relationship between two or more people. It means being with others and not just thinking about yourself.
Types of Friendship
1. Acquaintances – which are a type of friendship whom you join only once in a while or occasionally such as fellow members of a choir or school
organizations.
2. Companions – which are a type of friendship where you share same interests through regular interactions such as team mates in a basketball team.
3. Intimates or best friends – which are a type of friendship where you give and receive opinions and support. You find ways to regularly communicate
with your best friend through text messages, telephone calls, or social media.
4. Clique – is usually composed of smaller members (four to six members) and is exclusive to peers who share the same interests. Members of a
clique may have the same interests in clothes and hobbies such as watching movies, playing basketball, and swimming.
5. Crowd – On the other hand, a larger peer group, composed of 10-20 members.
Real friends are hard to find. They encourage you to do your best, provide support, and help you live your life to the fullest.

Ways on How Attraction to Someone is Expressed

When you talk about your crush with your friends, you sometimes feel very much excited. All these feelings of excitement about a crush are
normally experienced at your age. Being attracted to someone is different from attraction, although loving another person begins with liking or being
attracted. People engaged in romantic relationships experience a special type of feeling called love.

Expressions of Love and Commitment

Love is a choice. You express your love for another person not because you are forced to do so, but because you have decided to share
yourself with another person. Thus, when the relationship fails and you felt rejected or hurt, you put the blame not just on your partner but on your
shortcomings in the relationship as well.
Love also involves trust and commitment. You should have confidence such that even if you do not see each other, your partner remains
faithful to you. As a form of commitment, love entails being loyal to your partner; you are there to support and care for him or her during good and bad
times.
Love is a process of helping each other grow and develop to the best that they can be in the relationship.

Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship

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 Personal relationship during adolescence stage is both exciting and challenging. You may encounter ups and downs in your dealings with
people whom you encounter. Thus, you should be guided on how to positively handle and be more responsible in your personal relationship.
1. Clarify your boundaries.
2. Learn to communicate.
3. Invest in an “emotional bank account”.
4. Learn to forgive others.
5. Consult professionals.

4. Practice
Activity: Attraction
This activity aims to help you understand the meaning of attraction to the opposite sex and how feelings are expressed when you are attracted
to someone.
1. Answer the following questions:
 Have you ever been attracted to someone of the opposite sex?
 What traits or characteristics make you attracted to someone?
 How did you feel when you see someone you admire?
 How do you express your feelings about someone you admire?
2. Choose a partner. Share your answers with your partner.
3. Identify the similarities and differences of your answers using the following table.

Feelings When You See Someone You Admire Way of Expressing Feelings with Someone You
admire
Similarities
Differences

5. Enrichment
Activity: Move It!
This activity aims to help you understand the meaning of attraction to the opposite sex and how feelings are expressed when you are attracted
to someone.
Materials: Dance music, writing instruments
Instructions:
1. Form a group with seven members.
2. Each member should come up with a body movement that depicts attraction to another person.
3. As a group, consolidate each member’s portrayed body movement and choreograph the best attraction dance. You are free to think of the
accompanying music for your dance.
4. The group with the best performance and dance moves wins a prize.

6. Evaluation

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 A. Quiz: Encircle the letter of the correct answer.
1. Which is not a characteristic of intimate relationships?
a. Trust c. Self-disclosure
b. Self-acceptance d. Emotional attachment
2. Which does not refer to emotional attachment?
a. Sharing secrets
b. Being able to express your feelings.
c. Caring for others
d. Being critical to others.
3. Which refers to friendship as a form of relationship?
a. Being with others and not just thinking of yourself
b. Saying “yes” always to be accepted by your friends
c. Having a lot of friends
d. Mingling with friends
4. Which best characterizes friendship during adolescence?
a. Being sensitive to your friends
b. Having a mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing
c. Being together through smooth and rough times
d. Having compassion for your friends
5. Which type of friendship is observed among teenagers who join others once in a while?
a. Companions c. Acquaintances
b. Cliques d. Best friends
6. Which type of friendship requires the effort of still connecting with each other despite physical distance?
a. Intimates c. Cliques
b. Companions d. Acquaintances
7. Which is type of friendship where the same interests are being shared such as playing basketball?
a. Acquaintance c. Cliques
b. Intimates d. Companions
8. Which is usually composed of smaller members and is exclusive to peers who have the same interests?
a. Cliques c. Best friends
b. Companions d. Acquaintances
9. Which of the following refers to a group whose members share similar social activities such as parties and is composed of 10-20 members?
a. Smaller peer group c. Crowd
b. Larger peer group d. Clique
10. Which is a form of relationship characterized by a mutually satisfying relationship of sharing and caring?
a. Romantic relationship c. Personal relationship
b. Friendship d. Close friends
B. Underline the word or phrase that makes each sentence incorrect.
11. Friendship is an unimportant part of teenage life.
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 12. Real friends are honest and will push you to do something wrong.
13. Friendship means being with others and thinking only about yourself.
14. A clique is composed of 10-20 members.
15. Having friends as a source of social support is more common among boys.

REMARKS:

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