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Men and women are by nature incompatible as living companions.

It is inevitable that this


assertion will generate a howl of protest, as to be sure there are many successful examples of
marriages that can be used as contrary examples. But if we are to speak meaningfully about
this or any other topic, then generalities have to be relied on to encompass the larger issue.
There seems to be a basic disconnect in the way the opposing genders go about their business
in the domestic arena. Despite all of the focus on larger dramas such as infidelity, the truth is
that men and women within married relationships generally, sooner or later, grow weary of
one another, often for the most mundane of reasons.

The old saw about one too many times of picking up the dirty socks being the straw that broke
the wife's figurative back is much closer to the literal truth than most believe. Take a poll of
100 married women about their issues with their hubbies. The universal complaints would be
the laundry, the domestic workload sharing, or the toilet lid being left up and the toilet paper
not being refilled when the roll is empty. Very rarely would you hear about deep psychological
conflicts or other serious matters.

But here is the source of all dissatisfaction within a marriage. Each will eventually lose respect
for the other before the passion or the romance die out. The latter two are not core issues -
they are lesser symptoms of the more important bond that those who wish to live together
must share - mutual respect. Men and women will always take different paths to the same
end, but the goal is the same.

That's what has been lost in recent times - the respect for another's unique essence isn't held
as sacred, and in this "everything now" culture, divorce is seemingly a preferred option to
having to accommodate another's unique path. If people learned about themselves through
divorce, accepted that men and women will always be an uncomfortable fit when placed
together in the pressure cooker of family living, and then went into future relationships with
"eyes wide open", then maybe their chances of keeping together future pairings would greatly
increase. It's a small hope, but let's not hold our breath.

Clichés abound whenever the ills of modern society are critiqued. You can read any number of
articles that insist "if only" men would do this, or women do that, then marriage can be a
never-ending garden of bliss. Here in the real world, one rightly casts a jaundiced eye on such
pie-in-the-sky prescriptions. Things never get better in the collective sense, they only do so on
a case-by-case basis. Here's hoping that this article helps improve your case