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ne of the great misconceptions among people pleasers
is this idea that we¶re µgood people¶ who are just trying to
make everybody happy. As I stated before, it¶s not so
much our great concern for another human being, but our
obsession with the way others may perceive us. As a
result, we tend to say yes to everything and rarely stick up
for ourselves. Even if someone blatantly wrongs us, we
are usually the ones who absorb the hurt and then stand
in the corner, fuming to ourselves. It¶s not a pretty site.
The fact is, when we try to please everybody, we end up
pleasing nobody. Tired from the burnout that comes from
the over extension of ourselves and frustrated by the fact
that we keep letting others take advantage of us, r
Then,
when we finally run into a situation where our help is truly
needed, we are too depleted to help out. Also, our ability
to decipher a real need from that of someone trying to take
advantage of our people pleasing nature, is quite skewed.
In our minds, every µneed¶ is a requirement for us to act
and in time, this wears us down to worthlessness.
Huh?
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