Believerz Marriage Is For Life

A BELIEVER’S MARRIAGE TO A BELIEVER LASTS UNTIL
THEY ARE PARTED BY GOD BY DEATH

© by Ron Tyler, 1995 and revised 5/2002; 07/10/08
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**SUBJECTS:
*1. The marriage of two believers lasting for the life time
of both? What does it mean for two believers to cleave to
one another in marriage for life?
*2. As a believer, what do you do about your believing
mate who has become adulterous?
*3. Can we trust Him that we are married to the one to
whom we should be married?
*4. When are we to separate though married?
Reconciliation with a mate who has genuinely repented of
the adultery?
*5. What does the Bible mean by “divorce” and
"adultery"? DIVORCE & ADULTYERY DEFINED IN THE
BIBLE
*6. A different word for believers married to unbelievers?
THE CONTROVERSY OVER 1 COR 7
*7. MORE ON THE DEUTERONOMY 24 CONTROVERSY
=================PART ONE OF
THREE=======================
•1. Marriage of two unbelievers lasting for the life of

both? What does it mean for two believers to cleave to
one another in marriage? What about adultery and
divorce?
*St. Augustine (4th Cent AD) had a powerful way of

stating the permanent nature of the marriage of two who
were free in Jesus to marry, who married after being born
again, lovingly obedient to Jesus and fruitful in the
Spirit---
*“To such a degree is that marriage compact entered
upon a matter of a certain sacrament, that it is not made
void even by separation itself, since, so long as her
husband lives, even by whom she has been left, she
commits adultery, in case she be married to another: and
he who has left her, is the cause of this evil. . . Seeing
that the compact of marriage is not done away by divorce
intervening; so that they continue wedded persons one to
another, even after separation; and commit adultery with
those, with whom they shall be joined, even after their
own divorce, either the woman with a man, or the man
with a woman. . . But a marriage once for all entered
upon in the City of our god>14, where, even from the
first union of the two, the man and the woman, marriage
bears a certain sacramental character, can no way be
dissolved but by the death of one of them. . . Therefore
the good of marriage throughout all nations and all men
stands in the occasion of begetting, and faith of chastity:
but, so far as pertains unto the People of God, also in the
sanctity of the sacrament, by reason of which it is
unlawful for one who leaves her husband, even when she
has been put away, to be married to another, so long as
her husband lives, no not even for the sake of bearing
children: . . . not even where that very thing, wherefore it
takes place, follows not, is the marriage bond loosed,
save by the death of the husband or wife.>15”
[Footnotes:>14 This footnote mark etc. is not St.
Augustine's or Arthur Haddan's. I insert it just in case the
reader is not aware of the fact that all marriages between
real saints take place "in the City of our god" not
according to St. Augustine, but according the the Holy
Spirit in Hebrews 11:10,13-19, where they are already
seated with Christ in the Heavenlies according to Eph. 1 &
2. >15 St. Augustin: On The Trinity; pp. 402, 406, 412.]
*On the other hand you have Matthew Henry and most
other contemporary Bible teachers who say that adultery
breaks and dissolves the marriage covenant, ending the
marriage and freeing the parties to remarry. Which is the
correct opinion in this critically important issue? Let’s
consider what Jesus says about it.
*When I have approached Christian leaders here in my

area, most of them fall back on a rationalization of
scripture to defend or at least conform to the worldly
norms of separation/divorce/ remarriage in contemporary
society. So they accept divorces, where those put
together by God are put apart by man, and remarry
"believers" who have been divorced or separated from
"believers". They are sincerely and earnestly concerned
about stumbling the weak and are reluctant to ask of the
saints what seems to the world's eyes to be impossible
for many saints, to accept the Word that genuine
believers are bound maritally as long as both live. So it
the Word is fulfilled in them as it was in the religious
leaders that crucified Him:
***Mat 15: 3 But he answering said to them, Why do *ye*
also transgress the commandment of God on account of
your traditional teaching? . . . ye have made void the
commandment of God on account of your traditional
teaching. 7 Hypocrites! well has Esaias prophesied about
you, saying, 8 This people honour me with the lips, but
their heart is far away from me; 9 but in vain do they
worship me, teaching as teachings commandments of
men.
*The particular case in point is the situation caused by
the plague of divorce among Christians. I understand the
following scriptures to indicate that genuine believers in
the Lord Jesus Christ who were free to marry each other
in the Lord and did marry each other are bound maritally
to each other as long as both live. I submit that the
commandment of God in the following passage below
(binding the saved husband to his saved wife until death
separates them) is laid aside to hold mans tradition,
making of no effect the Word of God ----
****1 CORINTH. 7:10* And to the married I command (not
I, but the Lord), a woman not to be separated from [her]
husband. 11* But if she is indeed separated, let her
remain unmarried, or be reconciled to [her] husband. And
a husband is not to leave [his] wife. 12 But to the rest I
speak, not the Lord, If any brother has a wife who does
not believe, and she is pleased to dwell with him, do not
let him put her away. 13 And the woman who has a
husband who does not believe, if he is pleased to dwell
with her, do not let her leave him. . . .15 But if the
unbelieving one separates, let [them] be separated. A
brother or a sister is not in bondage in such [cases], but
God has called us in peace. 39* The wife is bound by the
law as long as her husband lives, but if her husband is
dead, she is at liberty to be remarried to whom she will,
only in the Lord.
****ROMANS 7: 2 For the married woman is bound by law
to her husband so long as he is alive; but if the husband
should die, she is clear from the law of the husband: 3 so
then, the husband being alive, she shall be called an
adulteress if she be to another man; but if the husband
should die, she is free from the law, so as not to be an
adulteress, though she be to another man.
**** MARK 10: 6 but from the beginning of the creation
God made them male and female. 7 For this cause a man
shall leave his father and mother and shall be united to
his wife, 8 and the two shall be one flesh: so that they are
no longer two but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has
joined together, let not man separate. 10 And again in
the house the disciples asked him concerning this. 11 And
he says to them, Whosoever shall put away his wife and
shall marry another, commits adultery against her. 12
And if a woman put away her husband and shall marry
another, she commits adultery.
*I submit that those passages mean exactly what they

say, that the obediently believing wife is bound by law as
long as her obediently believing husband lives. No
qualifiers! No exemptions! Instead many Christian leaders
tell the saved divorced that if they just confess the sin of
the divorce to God, God will forgive them and they are no
longer bound to their departed saved mate so they can
go on and remarry someone new. So they set aside Gods
command to keep their own tradition. Can God bless and
anoint with His miraculous power a person, a couple or a
church sets aside His will and Word so they can keep
their own tradition? Not the Jesus I know.
*I believe the Scriptures stated above that a Spiritually

reborn man and a Spiritually reborn woman who are free
to marry each other in the Lord and do marry each other
are bound to each other by the Word of the Lord as long
as both their bodies are alive. What is the case in the
Bible?
****Gen. 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and
his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall
be one flesh.>20. There are three acts described here:
[Footnote>.(20. The Holy Scriptures According to the
Masoretic Text]
>>(1) From the following it is clear that it means leaving

the parents' presence, authority and control;
**** PSALM 45: 10 ¶ Hearken, daughter, and see, and
incline your ear; and forget your own people and thy
father’s house: 11 And the king will desire thy beauty; for
he is thy Lord, and worship you him. 12 And the
daughter of Tyre with a gift, the rich ones among the
people, shall court thy favour. 13 All glorious is the king’s
daughter within; her clothing is of wrought gold: . . . 16
Instead of thy fathers shall be thy sons; princes shall
you make them in all the earth. 17 I will make thy name
to be remembered throughout all generations; therefore
shall the peoples praise thee for ever and ever.
>>(2) Cleaving is the act of the will making marital

covenants and vows that bind them maritally before
God>21;
[Footnote:>21 Ezekiel 16:7,8; Malachi 2; Matt. 1:18-25
where Mary and Joseph are declared to be husband and
wife even before the actual wedding and cohabitation.
"Cleave" in the Hebrew means "cling or adhere; . . . abide
fast, cleave (fast together), follow close (hard after), be
joined (together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard,
stick, take." (Strong''s Exhaustive Concordance.) J.
Thayer's Greek-English Lexicon says it means "to glue
upon, glue to" ]
>>(3) Becoming one flesh is the sexual act of coitis or

sexual penetration and one can become one flesh with
one's wife or with an adulteress or with a harlot>22.
Becoming one flesh is not what makes a relationship a
marriage. For the permanence of the relationship of
marriage the focus is on the word "cleave" which in the
Hebrew means "cling or adhere; . . . abide fast, cleave
(fast together), follow close (hard after), be joined
(together), keep (fast), overtake, pursue hard, stick,
take.">23. Thayer says it means "to glue upon, glue
to">24. If God commands the husband to conduct himself
as if he were being joined together with her, clinging,
adhering, cleaving and glued to her in this manner
towards his wife, then he had better do it if he wants a
good future with God, because to disobey would be
death>25 . Being under this command would certainly
bind a man to his wife as long as both lived.
[Footnotes:>22 1 Cor. 6:13-20; >23. Strong''s Exhaustive
Concordance; >24. Greek English Lexicon of the New
Testament; Joseph Henry Thayer, D.D.; American Book
Co., New York, 1889; >25 Rom. 6:23; 1:31,32; Malachi
2:14-17.]
•The Jewish Septuagint (third century B.C.) for Gen. 2:24

uses the same word for "cleave" that Jesus uses in Matt.
19:5. The word used for cleave in the LXX's Gen. 2:24 and
Jesus' Matt. 19:5 means the following: 1. According to
Thayer --- "to join one's self to closely, cleave to, stick to";
and 2. According to Arndt & Gingrich ---"adhere closely to,
be faithfully devoted to, join tini someone". The Greek
tense in both is future indicative passive which means
that this is what they shall have themselves doing in the
future on a regular basis. Some say that it is not a
command. Jesus seems to differ with them both in
Malachi 2, where He says the husband who breaks his
marital agreement with his wife is under His wrath, and in
Matt 19:6 where Jesus says "So then, they are no longer
two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, man must not separate." It is the marital
commitments and covenants between the husband and
wife that is the glue that binds them, and it is the solemn
and disciplined honoring of those commitments that
reinforces and maintains that glued bond that binds
them.
• Consider Jehovah-Jesus and the nation Israel. Israel

became the bride of Jehovah/Jesus>44. When Israel
misused their bodies/temple, Jehovah/Jesus allowed their
bodies to suffer>45. He caused to die that part of Israel
that was adulterous, but He never caused to die all of
Israel. As in His own words, when part of His body of
Israel offended, He removed that part in order to save the
whole of Israel, over and over again. He didn't end His
relationship/promises with the nation Israel, even though
He allowed many of them to suffer/die and allowed the
temple to be destroyed. When Israel repented genuinely,
He restored His fellowship and blessings to the genuinely
repentant, even allowing them to rebuild the temple for
full fellowship>46. Jehovah/Jesus' bond with the nation
Israel was not annulled and broken by their sin nor the
chastening He allowed>47.
[Footnote: >44. (Ex. 20; Ezek. 16:7; 23:1-6). >45. 1Cor.
10:9,10 >46. Ezra, Nehemiah. >47. Ezekiel 16 and 23;
Hosea]
• Before we go any further, we must see how the Bible

defines “adultery”, since the word means so many
different things in so many different cultures.
>>>>>>>Adultery for the woman:<<<<<<<
• 1. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits

adultery">144. The reason being that she is still bound
to her exhusband as wife.>145.
[Footnote: >144 Mat. 5:32; 19:9; Luke 16:18; except in
the cases of 1 Cor. 7:12-15,39; 1 Tim. 5:14. >145. 1
Cor. 7:10, 11, 39; Romans 7:1-3. ]
• 2. Mt5:32 But *I* say unto you, that whosoever shall

put away his wife, except for cause of fornication, makes
her commit adultery, and whosoever marries one that is
put away commits adultery."The husband "causes her to
commit adultery" when he divorces her for any reason
other than sexual immorality>146. The reason being
that she is still bound to him as wife.>147 In 1
Corinth. 7:5 we see that her husband "causes her to
commit adultery" because her husband is failing to meet
her marital needs and the enemy of her soul tempts in
her burning need. (On the other hand: The wife is not said
to cause her husband to commit adultery when she
divorces him for any other reason than sexual
immorality. Ever wonder why? Ask me.)
[Footnote: >146. Matt. 5:32; 19:9. >147 1 Cor. 7:10,
11, 39; Romans 7:1-3.]
• 3. "And if a woman divorces her husband and marries

another, she commits adultery.">148. The adultery
consists of both divorce AND remarriage. The reason
being that she is still bound to him as wife.>149.If she
divorced him and remained celibately
single,acknowledging that she is still maritally bound to
him,it is not adultery >149.
[Footnotes:>148. Mark 10:12. >149. 1 Cor. 7:10, 11,
39; Romans 7:1-3.]
• 4. "if, while her husband lives, she marries another

man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband
dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no
adulteress, though she has married another man.">150
His death releases her to remarry.
[Footnote: >150. Romans 7:3.]
>>>>>>>Adultery for the man:<<<<<<<<
• 1. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits

adultery", obviously because she still is bound to the
husband from whom she is divorced.
[>.^151. Mat. 5:32; 19:9; except in the cases of 1 Cor.
7:12-15,39; 1 Tim. 5:14.]
• 2. "Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual

immorality, and marries another, commits adultery." The
adultery consists of divorcing his wife for something else
besides sexual immorality AND then marrying the other
woman. If he stayed married to his wife
and became marital with another, according to this
passage he has not committed adultery. What does that
mean? Ask me. On the other hand, it is implied here that
if he divorces his
wife for sexual immorality and marries another, he does
not commit adultery. His divorcing her does not cause
her to commit adultery because she is already immorally
sexually involved with someone else. His refusal to meet
her sexual needs (1 Cor 7:2-5) does not cause her to be
immoral because she is already being immoral. He is
commanded not to be intimate with her (1Cor.5:11) but
his lack of her intimacy will cause him to be tempted (1
Cor.7:5). He is under command to do Matt. 18: 15-18; 2
Thess. 3:6-14; and 1 Cor. 5 with her in the manner of 2
Tim. 2:24-28. Having done that, if the temptations
overcome him and he is faling to control himself, burning
with marital desire, he comes under command to marry
(1Cor 7:1,2,3,5, 9) and so marries in the Lord. [Footnote:
>152. Matt 19: 9: Mark 10:11; Luke 16:18.152.]
• 3. "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another

woman commits
adultery against her." Mark 10:11 Pretty clear, right?
Divorcing your
wife and marrying another woman is adultery, right? But
please note
that nowhere in the Bible does He say "Whoever remains
married to
his wife and marries another woman commits adultery
against her."
Why? Ask me if you want to know. But understand that if
a man
remains married to his wife and marries another, he has
committed
the felony of bigamy and is sinful disobedience to
Romans 13:1-5.
Understand that if a man remains married to his wife and
becomes
maritally committed to another woman in violation of
their wedding
vows/covenant, then his sin is not that of adultery, but is
the sin
of breaking covenants (Eccles 5:4-6; Malachi 2:14-17;
Rom 1:31 void
of understanding, faithless covenant breakers, without
natural
affection, unmerciful; 32 who knowing the righteous
judgment of
God, that they who do such things are worthy of death,
not only
practise them, but have fellow delight in those who do
them.)
• 4. "You shall not covet your neighbor's wife.">153.

"You shall not lie carnally with your neighbor's
wife">154. "For this is the will of God. . . ..that no one
should take advantage of and defraud/cheat his brother
in this matter.">155. A genuine Christian wife is bound
to her husband as long as he lives and she becomes an
adulteress when she marries another while he still lives.
[Footnotes:>153. Exod. 20:17. >154. Leviticus18:20.
>155. 1 Thess. 4:3-6.]
• Adultery for the female is sexual intimacy with anyone

else besides her own husband/mate. Adultery for the
male is when (1) he is married to a new wife and had
left/rejected/divorced his former wife in order to marry
this new wife >99; or (2) is sexually intimate with some
one else's wife >99. It is like the double standard for the
husband and the wife in 1 Cor 7:10,11,12 where the wife
can separate from the husband, living celibately without
marrying another as long as her husband lives, but the
husband has no separation option and is commanded
never to leave, divorce or separate himself from his wife,
PERIOD! It is one of God's double standards for wives
and husbands, like the one that allowed Abraham, Jacob,
David and Joash to be godly polygamists with God's
blessing on their lives, but declared a woman to be an
adulteress if she was intimate with anyone but her own
mate/husband. The same sin is defined differently for the
woman and differently for the man. See more on this
below.
[Footnotes:>99 The double standard is clearly laid out in
Matt. 5:32 and 19:6-9; Mark 10:1-11; Luke 16:18; 1
Thess. 4:4-6 and Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinth. 7:39. It is the
combination of divorcing one's mate in order to marry
another and then marrying that other that is adultery. If
he both dutifully keeps his own wife and then becomes
martially committed to another woman, it is not Biblical
adultery, though it probably involves the deadly sin of
breaking solemn covenants/vows (Rom. 1:28-32). If the
wife dutifully keeps her own husband and marries
another it is adultery (Romans 7:3)]
****Mt. 5:32 But *I* say unto you, that whosoever shall
put away his wife, except for cause of fornication, makes
her commit adultery, and whosoever marries one that is
put away commits adultery. If adultery required a marital-
bond breaking divorce/separation, then Matt 5:32 would
read as follows:
"But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any
reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit
adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced
for any other reason than sexual immorality commits
adultery. This would imply that it would NOT be adultery
to marry a woman divorced/separated for sexual
immorality. But what did Jesus say to genuine believers?
He said "... whoever marries a woman who is divorced
commits adultery."
• He gives no qualifier or exception except for 1 Cor.

7:12-15 in the case of the believer divorced/ deserted by
the unsaved mate. No matter what the reason for the
divorce except 1 Cor. 7:15, including sexual immorality,
"whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
"And if a woman divorces her husband and marries
another, she commits adultery." (Mk.10:12). It is adultery
to marry a woman divorced from her legitimate husband
except in the case of 1 Cor. 7:15, in which case God has
loosed her from her husband. It is adultery to marry a
genuinely believing woman divorced from her genuinely
believing man if they were free to marry in the Lord when
they married, because when they married they became
maritally bound to each other until death parts them
(1Cor. 7:39)
• Yes we know that Jehovah-Jesus commanded the

Israelites to kill the Israelite adulterer and adulteress (Dt.
22). Please consider the precedents.
***1Sa 25:44 But Saul had given Michal his daughter,
David’s wife, to Phalti the son of Laish, who was of Gallim.
***2Sa 3:14 And David sent messengers to Ishbosheth
Saul’s son, saying, Deliver me my wife Michal, whom I
espoused to me for a hundred foreskins of the Philistines.
• David’s wife was given to another while he lived,

contrary to the Sinai Law, in an adulterous marriage.
David claimed his marital union with and right to
adulterous her and demanded her back from the
adulterer. David was blessed of God and took her back
instead of killing her without any rebuke from Jehovah-
Jesus. “Torah keepers” make a big deal of the “evil” of
taking back a repentant wife who fell into adultery, failing
to recognize that the divorce laws of Deut. 24 were given
to an hard hearted people, a people with Pharaoh’s heart,
a people who would have met Pharaoh’s end but for the
grace of God, but here is how Jehovah Jesus feels about
it: Jer 3:1 ¶ “They say, If a man put away his wife, and
she go from him, and become another man’s, shall he
return unto her again? Would not that land be utterly
polluted? But you have committed fornication with many
lovers; yet return to me, says Jehovah.” So David and
Jehovah Jesus acted the same. Adultery didn’t
break/dissolve their marital union/covenant.
• David’s taking back his wife from an adulterous

marriage probably was not an abomination to Jehovah-
Jesus since the context of Deut 24 -----
***4 her first husband, who sent her away, may not take
her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for it is
an abomination before Jehovah; and you shall not cause
the land to sin, which Jehovah thy God gives thee for an
inheritance.
---- appears to indicate that taking back a wife after
divorcing her and her marrying another was an
abomination because of the context of the divorce. Michal
had been taken against her will and put in an adulterous
marriage by her father, King Saul. Michal’s experience
was that of marital rape, so when David took her back it
was to right a wrong, and not an abomination.
• On the other hand, when David committed adultery

with Bath-sheba, at least he should have been killed, if he
had forced himself on her; or both should have been
killed if she voluntarily committed adultery with him (Dt
22). Jehovah-Jesus was quite capable of killing David
according to His Law, but He didn’t. Jehovah-Jesus didn’t
act until her husband was dead.
***2Sa 11:10 “And they had told David saying, Urijah did
not go down to his house; and David said to Urijah, Art
you not come from a journey? why did you not go down
to thy house? 11 And Urijah said to David, The ark, and
Israel, and Judah abide in booths; and my lord Joab, and
the servants of my lord, are encamped in the open fields:
shall I then go into my house, to eat and to drink, and to
lie with my wife? As you live, and as thy soul lives, I will
not do this thing.”
Urijah was not only not subject to God’s anointed, he was
also defiant, rebellious, insubordinate and disrespectful,
setting himself in opposition to David by disobeying
David's command. In disobeying God's anointed ruler
Urijah disobeyed Jesus, and brought the sentence of guilt
upon himself, even as David had also brought the
sentence of guilt upon himself by his adultery . I believe
that the same spirit of rebellion that led to Saul’s death -
*** 1 Samuel 15:22 “And Samuel said, Has Jehovah
delight in burnt-offerings and sacrifices, As in hearkening
to the voice of Jehovah? Behold, obedience is better than
sacrifice, Attention than the fat of rams. 23 For rebellion
is as the sin of divination, And selfwill is as iniquity and
idolatry.”
---so I believe that Urijah was no hero, no model to
emulate, but had the same spirit of rebellion that had
brought death to Saul, and here to him. I believe
Jehovah-Jesus did not judge David for his sin until after
Urijah’s death because it was His will that Urijah be put to
death.
• So here Jehovah-Jesus could have executed His law of

“death for adultery” on both David and Bath-sheba, but
He didn’t because He used their adultery to kill an enemy
of God, Urijah, an enemy of the people of God, and then
chastened David and Bath -sheba for their sin.
• Does adultery dissolve/break the marriage union, as

most say? Let’s look and Jehovah Jesus and His marriage
to Israel. We see that adultery did not dissolve/break the
marital union, as most of today’s “Bible teachers” say.
***Jer 3:1 ¶ They say, If a man put away his wife, and
she go from him, and become another man’s, shall he
return unto her again? Would not that land be utterly
polluted? But you have committed fornication with many
lovers; yet return to me, says Jehovah.
***Jer 3: 8 And I saw that when for all the causes wherein
backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away,
and given her a bill of divorce, yet the treacherous Judah,
her sister, feared not, but went and committed fornication
also. . . . . 12 ¶ Go and proclaim these words toward the
north, and say, Return, you backsliding Israel, says
Jehovah: I will not make my face dark upon you; for I am
merciful, says Jehovah; I will not keep anger for ever. 13
Only acknowledge your iniquity, that you have
transgressed against Jehovah thy God, and have turned
thy ways hither and thither to the strangers under every
green tree; and ye have not hearkened to my voice, says
Jehovah. 14 Return, backsliding children, says Jehovah;
for I am a husband unto you, . . . 20 ¶ Surely as a
woman treacherously departs from her companion, so
have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel,
says Jehovah. . . . . 22 --Return, backsliding children; I will
heal your backslidings. ...Behold, we come unto thee; for
you art Jehovah our God.
• Does adultery dissolve/break the marriage union, as

most say? Let’s look and Jehovah Jesus and His marriage
to Israel. We see that adultery did not dissolve/break the
marital union, as most of today’s “Bible teachers” say.
Hear a second witness who foreshadows the sin and
chastening of 1 Cor 5 for the sex sinner, followed by the
godly sorrow of the sex sinner (2 Cor 7) and the final
return and reconciliation with the repentant sex sinner
(2Cor 2), showing that sex sin doesn’t break the bond:
***Hosea 1:2 ¶ The beginning of the word of Jehovah
through Hosea. And Jehovah said to Hosea, Go, take unto
thee a wife of whoredoms, and children of whoredoms;
for the land is entirely given up to whoredom, away from
Jehovah. . . . 7 But I will have mercy upon the house of
Judah, and will save them by Jehovah their God; and I will
not save them by bow, or by sword, or by battle, or by
horses, or by horsemen.
***Hosea14:1 ¶ O Israel, return unto Jehovah thy God; for
you have fallen by your iniquity. 2 Take with you words,
and turn to Jehovah; say unto him, Forgive all iniquity,
and receive us graciously; so will we render the calves of
our lips. 3 Assyria shall not save us; we will not ride upon
horses: neither will we say any more to the work of our
hands, you art our God; because in thee the fatherless
finds mercy. 4 ¶ I will heal their backsliding, I will love
them freely; for mine anger is turned away from him.
• Hear yet a third witness, who shows us that adultery did

not dissolve/break the marital union, as most of today’s
“Bible teachers” say. This witness also foreshadows the
sin and chastening of 1 Cor 5 for the sex sinner, followed
by the godly sorrow of the sex sinner (2 Cor 7) and the
final return and reconciliation with the repentant sex
sinner (2Cor 2), showing that sex sin doesn’t break the
bond:
***Ezek 16: 3 and say, Thus says the Lord Jehovah unto
Jerusalem: Thy birth and thy nativity is of the land of the
Canaanite: thy father was an Amorite, and thy mother a
Hittite. . . . 8 And I passed by thee, and looked upon thee,
and behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread
my skirt over thee, and covered thy nakedness; and I
swore unto thee, and entered into a covenant with thee,
says the Lord Jehovah, and you became mine. . . . 15 ¶
But you did confide in thy beauty, and played the harlot
because of thy renown, and poured out thy whoredoms
on every one that passed by: his it was. . . . 37 therefore,
behold, I will gather all thy lovers with whom you have
taken pleasure, and all that you have loved, with all that
you have hated, --I will even gather them round about
against thee, and will discover thy nakedness unto them,
that they may see all thy nakedness. 38 And I will judge
thee with the judgments of women that commit adultery
and shed blood; and I will give thee up to the blood of
fury and jealousy; . . . 60 ¶ Nevertheless I will remember
my covenant with thee in the days of thy youth, and I will
establish unto thee an everlasting covenant. 61 And you
shall remember thy ways, and be confounded, when
you shall receive thy sisters who are older than thou,
together with those who are younger than thou; for I will
give them unto thee for daughters, but not by virtue of
thy covenant. 62 And I will establish my covenant with
thee, and you shall know that I am Jehovah; 63 that
you may remember, and be ashamed, and no more open
thy mouth because of thy confusion, when I forgive thee
all that you have done, says the Lord Jehovah.
• Our King is the Shepherd who leaves securely the safe

ones to go out into the hardships of the wilderness to find
and deliver the one who had gone astray, even if it
means that He has to break the legs of the straying lamb
and carry it until it has rebonded with Him and His Voice
and learned to follow Him much more closely! Did you
see in the passages above the footsteps He left for us to
follow? Did you see His pattern of good works? Do you
LOVE Him enough to follow in His steps in all matters,
including your marriage and marital partner, no matter
how much suffering is involved?
****1 Pet. 2:19 For this is acceptable, if one, for
conscience sake towards God, endure griefs, suffering
unjustly. 20 For what glory is it, if sinning and being
buffeted ye shall bear it? but if, doing good and suffering,
ye shall bear it, this is acceptable with God. 21 For to this
have ye been called; for Christ also has suffered for you,
----------------------------- LEAVING YOU A MODEL THAT YE
SHOULD FOLLOW IN HIS STEPS
---------------------------------------- 22 who did no sin, neither
was guile found in his mouth; 23 who, when reviled,
reviled not again; when suffering, threatened not; but
gave himself over into the hands of him who judges
righteously; 24 who himself bore our sins in his body on
the tree, in order that, being dead to sins, we may live to
righteousness: by whose stripes ye have been healed. 25
For ye were going astray as sheep, but have now
returned to the shepherd and overseer of your souls.
****1 John 3: 14 ¶ *We* know that we have passed from
death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does
not love his brother abides in death. 15 Every one that
hates his brother is a murderer, and ye know that no
murderer has eternal life abiding in him. 16 Hereby we
have known love, because *he* has laid down his life for
us; and *we* ought for the brethren to lay down our lives.
17 But whoso may have the world’s substance, and see
his brother having need, and shut up his bowels from
him, how abides the love of God in him? 18 Children, let
us not love with word, nor with tongue, but in deed and in
truth. 19 And hereby we shall know that we are of the
truth, and shall persuade our hearts before him--
• 2. As a believer, what do you do about your believing

*There is not one Scripture in the New Testament that
declares that adultery dissolves/breaks the marriage
union/covenant and frees the genuinely save husband
and the genuinely saved wife to reject each other and
marry others. Instead we see the Word for confrontation,
correction, godly sorrow, repentance, forgiveness and
reconciliation in 2 Tim 2:24-26; Gal 6:1; Matt 18: 15-18; 1
Cor 5 with 2 Cor 2 and 2 Cor 7; and 2 Thess 3:6-14.
*There is not one Scripture in the Old Testament that

rebukes David for taking back his wife from adultery, or
that indicates that adultery dissolved/broke the
everlasting marriage union/covenant that Jehovah Jesus
made with Israel and Judah. Instead we see Prov 28:13
with grace and mercy after chastening. Yes Jehovah
Jesus did cause to die that part of Israel that was
adulterous before taking Israel back, and so the godly
mate should look for the death of that part of his godly
mate’s life that was adulterous, and with the grace and
mercy of Jehovah Jesus receive back the repentant mate
in a resurrection of the marriage, just like Jehovah Jesus
did with repentant Israel.
* In Matt. 5 Jesus made it plain divorce was permitted for

the hardness of human hearts and Malachi 2 makes it
plain that God hates the treacherous breaking of marital
covenants that results in divorce. Yes Jesus allowed the
Jews under Moses to divorce their mates (Mt. 5) but it was
for the hardness of their hearts and you can be sure that
a just and holy God chastened the hard of heart. If I were
an insurer, I sure wouldn't want to sell them any life
insurance (1Cor.10). We have a part in His chastening of
such sinners.
****Luke 17:3 Take heed to yourselves. If your brother
wrongs you, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault,
you who are spiritual restore such a one in the Spirit of
meekness . . .
****John 13:10-15 . . . . you also ought to wash each
other's feet, for I have given you an example, that you
should do as I have done to you.
****Ephes. 4:15 . . . speaking the Truth in Love . . . .
****Ephes 5:6-11 . . . because of these things comes the
wrath of God upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore
don't be partakers with them. . . .And have no fellowship
with the unfruitful works of darkness but, rather, reprove
[them].
****1 Tim. 5:20,21 Them that sin rebuke before all, that
others may fear. . 2 Tim. 2:24 And the servant of the Lord
must not strive, but be gentle unto all, able to teach,
patient, in meekness instructing those that oppose them .
.
****1 Pet. 3:1 . . . be submissive to your own husbands so
that, if any obey not the Word, they also may without a
word be won by the behavior of the wives . . . .
****2Thess 3:6 ¶ Now we enjoin you, brethren, in the
name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw from
every brother walking disorderly and not according to the
instruction which he received from us. . . . 14 But if any
one obey not our word by the letter, mark that man, and
do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed
of himself; 15 and do not esteem him as an enemy, but
admonish him as a brother.
* In Matt. 5 Jesus permits the husband to divorce his wife

is she is guilty of fornication, but does not command it.
There is no command to divorce one's mate for
fornication. He never commanded a genuine believer to
divorce a genuine believer. It just is not in the Word. He
never commands His child to divorce His other child after
He has put them together. After Acts 1 there is the
command to separate (not divorce) yourself from a saved
mate who is snared in sexual sin>16. Before Matthew 5
Jesus allowed divorce for the hardness of hearts >17. The
compassionate heart of the Spirit filled Christian would
respond to a mate's fornication according to the
Word>18. . The goal of such compassion for one's mate
snared in sexual sin would be the goal of godly sorrow
leading to genuine repentance followed by restoration
and reconciliation described in the following:
****1 Corinthians 5: 1 ¶ It is universally reported that
there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is
not even among the nations, so that one should have his
father’s wife. . . . . 3 For *I*, as absent in body but present
in spirit, have already judged as present, 4 to deliver, in
the name of our Lord Jesus Christ (ye and my spirit being
gathered together, with the power of our Lord Jesus
Christ), him that has so wrought this: 5 to deliver him, I
say, being such, to Satan for destruction of the flesh, that
the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.. . . .
7 Therefore purge out the old leaven so that you may be
a new lump, as you are unleavened. . . 12 . . . Do you not
judge those who are inside? 13 . . . Therefore put out
from you the evil one.
[Footnotes:>16. 1 Cor. 5:9-11; 2 Thes. 3:6-14; 1 Tim. 6:1-
5; 2 Tim. 3:1-5; >17. Mat. 19:6-9; >18. 1 Corinth. 5:5-11;
Matthew 18:15-18; Gal. 6:1; John 8: 1-10; 1 Tim. 5:20,21;
2 Th. 3:6-14]
***2 CORINTHIANS 7: 8 For if also I grieved you in the

letter, I do not regret it, if even I have regretted it; for I
see that that letter, if even it were only for a time,
grieved you. 9 Now I rejoice, not that ye have been
grieved, but that ye have been grieved to repentance; for
ye have been grieved according to God, that in nothing
ye might be injured by us. 10 For grief according to God
works repentance to salvation, never to be regretted; but
the grief of the world works death. 11 For, behold, this
same thing, your being grieved according to God, how
much diligence it wrought in *you*, but what excusing of
yourselves, but what indignation, but what fear, but what
ardent desire, but what zeal, but what vengeance: in
every way ye have proved yourselves to be pure in the
matter. 12 ¶ So then, if also I wrote to you, it was not for
the sake of him that injured, nor for the sake of him that
was injured, but for the sake of our diligent zeal for you
being manifested to you before God.
*** 2 CORINTHIANS 2: 6 Sufficient to such a one is this
rebuke which has been inflicted by the many; 7 so that on
the contrary ye should rather shew grace and encourage,
lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with
excessive grief. 8 Wherefore I exhort you to assure him of
your love. 9 For to this end also I have written, that I
might know, by putting you to the test, if as to everything
ye are obedient. 10 But to whom ye forgive anything, *I*
also; for I also, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven
anything, it is for your sakes in the person of Christ; 11
that we might not have Satan get an advantage against
us, for we are not ignorant of *his* thoughts.
• These show that such a separation can be an exercise

in Church discipline, delivering the Christian offender's
body for the destruction of the flesh (chastening) to the
end that the erring saint should be effectively chastened
and stop sinning and in godly sorrow repent of the
fornication. The sinning saint is chastened>34 into
weakness, sickness or sleep (death) by the Lord. If
weakness or sickness results in godly sorrow and
repentance, then the repentant one is restored as in 2
Cor 2.
[Footnote: >34 (1 Cor. 5 &/or 11; Heb.12)
• Even though Jesus apparently allows a genuinely

believing husband to divorce his wife snared in adultery
and then go ahead and remarry, even though he was still
maritally bound to her in the Kingdom of God, I wouldn't
want to stand before the judgment seat of Christ and tell
the God of Love I divorced my wife for fornication
because of the hardness of my heart. The motivation of a
hardened heart doesn't square with Eph. 4 or I Cor. 13 or
Romans 15.
***EPHES. 4: 15 but, holding the truth in love, we may
grow up to him in all things, who is the head, the Christ: .
. 25 Wherefore, having put off falsehood, speak truth
every one with his neighbour, because we are members
one of another. 26 Be angry, and do not sin; let not the
sun set upon your wrath, 27 neither give room for the
devil.. . . . 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
with which ye have been sealed for the day of
redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, and heat of passion,
and wrath, and clamour, and injurious language, be
removed from you, with all malice; 32 and be to one
another kind, compassionate, forgiving one another, so as
God also in Christ has forgiven you.
***1 CORINTH. 13: 4 Compassionate cherishing has
patience, is kind; compassionate cherishing is not
envious, is not vain, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave
indecently, does not seek its own, is not easily provoked,
thinks no evil. 6 Charity does not rejoice in
unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth, 7 quietly
covers all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things. 8 Compassionate cherishing never
fails.
*** ROMANS 15: 1 ¶ But *we* ought, we that are strong,
to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please
ourselves. 2 Let each one of us please his neighbour with
a view to what is good, to edification. 3 For the Christ also
did not please himself; but according as it is written, The
reproaches of them that reproach thee have fallen upon
me. 4 For as many things as have been written before
have been written for our instruction, that through
endurance and through encouragement of the scriptures
we might have hope. 5 ¶ Now the God of endurance and
of encouragement give to you to be like-minded one
toward another, according to Christ Jesus; 6 that ye may
with one accord, with one mouth, glorify the God and
Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. 7 ¶ Wherefore receive ye
one another, according as the Christ also has received
you to the glory of God.
• Being forgiven by God for sins worthy of death (Rom. 1)

how can we not forgive our mate if he/she falls in
adultery and then repents? How can we say anything
besides "Go on with your life and sin no more!">19 if the
Godly repentance described in the following is evident?
That's the example He left for us (1Pet.2:20,21). There is
no greater Love than to lay down and deny your life/will
for another's good. [>19. John 8:1-10.]
***John 8:4 they say to him, Teacher, this woman has
been taken in the very act, committing adultery. 5 Now in
the law Moses has commanded us to stone such; you
therefore, what say thou? . . . 7 But when they
continued asking him, he lifted himself up and said to
them, Let him that is without sin among you first cast the
stone at her. . . . .9 And hearing, and being convicted by
conscience, they went out one by one, beginning at the
oldest, until the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the
woman standing in the midst. 10. . . Did not one give
judgment against you? 11 And she said, No one, Lord.
And Jesus said to her, Neither do I give judgment. Go, and
sin no more.
***2 CORINTHIANS 7: 10 For grief according to God
works repentance to salvation, never to be regretted; but
the grief of the world works death. 11 For, behold, this
same thing, your being grieved according to God, how
much diligence it wrought in *you*, but what excusing of
matter.
****2 CORINTHIANS 2: 6 Sufficient to such a one is this
rebuke which has been inflicted by the many; 7 so that on
the contrary ye should rather shew grace and encourage,
lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with
your love. . . . 11 that we might not have Satan get an
advantage against us, for we are not ignorant of *his*
thoughts.
• The command is "Man must not put apart what God has
put together". Even if they are divorced/separated,
people "must not put apart what God has put together."
The genuine Christian wife is maritally bound to her
genuine Christian husband as long as they both live>i .
[>h Mat.5:32; 19:9. >i (1Cor.7:39;Mark 10).]
• There is a parallel in the relationship of the Body of

Christ to Christ. When a brother becomes part of the
Bride of Christ Jesus is bound by His own Word in the
relationship, not to put apart what God has put together
(John 17:2, 6, 9, 10, 20, 21).So when a brother stumbles
into fornication>35, instead of cutting off the relationship
and disowning him, Jesus Loves him and has promised to
chasten him in that Love>36. There is a break in
fellowship, a separation, in that Jesus doesn't respond to
his usual prayers>37 and releases his body to Satan for
the destruction of his body>38 in order to save his
spirit>39. He still belongs to Jesus because he shows that
his spirit will be saved even if the chastening doesn't
result in repentance>40. No one, neither himself nor
Jesus, can take him out of Jesus hand>41. So the brother
is chastened>42 and genuinely repents>43, resulting in
his restoration to good standing and fellowship in the
Bride of Christ and with Jesus.
[Footnote: >35. 1 Cor. 5; 2 Tim. 2:24,26. >36. 1 Cor.5;
Hebrews 12. >37. Isaiah; Mat. 6:16; 1 Pet. 3:7; 1 Jn.
3:22,23. >38. 1 Cor. 5:5; 11:27-32; Heb. 12. >39. 1 Cor.
5:6; 11:27-32 >40. 1 Cor. 5:5; 11:27-32. >41. John
10:28,29. >42. 1 Cor. 5 & 2 Cor. 2. >43. 2 Cor. 2 and 7].
• We have seen the precedent of Jesus and the nation

Israel. Israel became the bride of Jehovah/Jesus>44.
When Israel misused their bodies/temple, Jehovah/Jesus
allowed their bodies to suffer>45. He didn't end His
relationship/promises with the nation Israel, even though
He allowed many of them to suffer/die and allowed the
temple to be destroyed. When Israel repented genuinely,
He restored His fellowship and blessings to the genuinely
repentant, even allowing them to rebuild the temple for
full fellowship>46. Jehovah/Jesus' bond with the nation
Israel was not annulled and broken by their sin nor the
chastening He allowed>47.
[Footnote: >44. (Ex. 20; Ezek. 16:7; 23:1-6). >45. 1Cor.
10:9,10 >46. Ezra, Nehemiah. >47. Ezekiel 16 and 23;
Hosea]
• What if the sinning mate doesn’t repent even after all of

the chastening, correction, rebuke and admonition
described above? Consider Matt. 18
****Matt. 18:15 ¶ But if thy brother sin against thee, go,
reprove him between thee and him alone. If he hear thee,
thou has gained thy brother. 16 But if he do not hear
thee, take with thee one or two besides, that every
matter may stand upon the word of two witnesses or of
three. 17 But if he will not listen to them, tell it to the
assembly; and if also he will not listen to the assembly,
let him be to thee as one of the alien heathens and a tax-
gatherer.
• All of Jesus’ children are chastened for their sins and

the absence of chastening in the life of one who claims to
know Jesus yet is living in sin is a true indicator that such
a person is does not know Jesus, is not a child of God
(Heb 12, 1 Cor 5). If the person claims to be a child of
God by Jesus, continues knowingly and intentionally in
what the Bible clearly and explicitly calls sin, has been
the recipient of the assembly discipline described in 1 Cor
5 and Matt 18:15-18, and has not experienced any kind of
weakness or sickness or suffering, then you are
commanded by Jesus to consider such professing
Christian as an “alien heathen”, an unbeliever, no matter
what he/she says about faith in Jesus.
• At that point, the believer married to such a professing

Christian is to understand that 1 Cor. 7:12-15 defines the
marriage now. That means that if the unbeliever who
professes to be a Christian does not consent/agree to live
with the believer, the believer is free to separate from
such a person. That means that if the unbeliever who
professes to be a Christian leaves, departs, abandons,
forsakes, and/or divorces the believing mate, then the
believing mate is no longer maritally bound to the
unbeliever who falsely professes salvation, and the
believer therefore is free to marry another in the Lord.
***1 Cor. 7:12 But as to the rest, *I* say, not the Lord, If
any brother have an unbelieving wife, and *she*
consents/agrees to dwell with him, he should not leave
her. 13* And the woman who has a husband who does
not believe, if he consents/agrees to be dwelling with her,
she should not leave him. . . . 15 But if the unbelieving
one separates/departs, he/she should separate/depart. A
brother or a sister is not [maritally] bound in such [cases],
but God has called us in peace.
• 3. Can we trust Him that we are married to the one to

*Every legal>26 and moral>27 marriage of two who are

morally free in Christ to marry is ordained or allowed by
God and takes place under His control>b, so indeed God
has joined them, based on the truth of the following:
[Footnote: >26 Legal= recognized and accepted as legal
by one's culture and law enforcers Rom. 13; 1 Pet. 2:13-
17; >27 moral= free from all others maritally and free in
the Lord's kingdom to marry according to His Word. >b
Eph. 1:11; Rom. 8:28]
****Romans 8: 27 But he who searches the hearts knows

what is the mind of the Spirit, because he intercedes for
saints according to God. 28 But we *do* know that all
things work together for good to those who love God, to
those who are called according to purpose.
****ROMANS 13: 1 ¶ Let every soul be subject to the
authorities that are above him. For there is no authority
except from God; and those that exist are set up by God.
2 So that he that sets himself in opposition to the
authority resists the ordinance of God; and they who thus
resist shall bring sentence of guilt on themselves. . . .
****Ephes. 1: 10 . . . .to head up all things in the Christ,
the things in the heavens and the things upon the earth;
in him, 11 in whom we have also obtained an inheritance,
being marked out beforehand according to the purpose of
him who works all things according to the counsel of his
own will,, .
*That's why we can trust God that we are to remain

married to the person we are married to when we are
saved. He gave Adam his Eve, and if you are His child, He
worked in you to want to marry your mate>c, He lead
you to marry your mate>d, and He worked all things so
that you did marry you mate>e. So you can understand
why 1 Cor. 7 speaks of the binding nature of marriage.
[>c Phil. 2:12,13; Heb.13:20,21. >d Romans 8:9,14; Acts
16:6,7; Isa. 30:21. >e Eph. 1:11; Rom. 8:28; Mt. 10:29;
Prov. 16:1,9; Isa. 46:9-13; Neh. 9:6]
****1 CORINTHIANS 7:17 17 ¶ However, as the Lord has

divided to each, as God has called each, so let him walk;
and thus I ordain in all the assemblies. 18 Has any one
been called circumcised? let him not become
uncircumcised: has any one been called in
uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.. . . . 20 Let
each abide in that calling in which he has been called. 21
have you been called being a bondman, let it not
concern thee; but and if you can become free, use it
rather.. . . . 24 Let each, wherein he is called, brethren,
therein abide with God.
*So Jesus makes binding>28 the cleaving >29 and the

one flesh experience that we know as marriage. Since the
only terms of divorce are given in Deut 24:1-4 (which
were ALLOWED for Pharoah-like hard heartedness and
superseded by Matt. 19:1-15 and 1 Cor. 7:10-15,39), it is
clear that marriage is a life long relationship based on the
covenants of the couple and on God's command not to be
put asunder or put asunder the relationship. Rather than
abide by this believers-married-for-life principle, most
Christian churches/ pastors today are telling their
divorced and divorcing communicants that they should
forget the things that have happened in the past trusting
God's forgiveness to cover it all and press on into the
future with their new mates and lives.
[Footnotes:>28 (Mt. 19:6); >29 (Mt. 19:5) ]
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*They say it would do more harm than good to tell

Christian mates that they need to leave their new mates,
married in adultery, and new kids and go back to the
Christian mates they divorced contrary to the Word>f. I
believe that we are to live by every Word of God, and not
by unscriptural traditions of men that put asunder what
God said must not be put asunder, that tell couples they
are loosed from each other when God says they are
bound for life>30 . How dare we say "You are loosed"
when God Himself says she is "bound as long as her
husband lives"?
[Footnotes:>f in 1 Corinth. 7; Romans 7 and Mark 10 >30
(Matt. 19:5; Rom. 7:1-5; 1 Cor. 7:10,11,39)]
• 4. When are we to separate though married?

the adultery?
*What are the responsibilities of still being bound to

someone when you have loosed yourself according to
human law but remain bound according to the Law of
Christ? Wouldn't they be responsible for parenting both
their children by the mates to whom they are bound by
the Lord, as well as their children by their adulterous>31
new marriage. Wouldn't they be responsible for keeping
whatever promises they made and can keep in the Lord--
that they made to their mates in the Lord and to their
mates in adultery>32 ? They can't keep their adulterous
promises of marital intimacy with their adulterous mates,
but they can keep the promise to Agapé Love them,
cherish them, honor and respect them, pray and fast
earnestly and fervently for them, and clothe and feed
them if they are destitute and in need. Jesus instructs us
to do these things even to our enemies>g. There is no
question that they are responsible for the parenting,
provision and care of any children by their adultery, as
God and man's law allow(Eph. 6; 1 Tim. 5:8; Heb. 12;
1Jn.3:16,17).
[Footnotes:>31. Mark 10:11,12; >32 (Psalm 15:4; Ezek.
17:15;Eccles.5:1-7) >g Luke 6; Mt 5; Isa. 59; 1 tim. 2;
James 2; 1 Peter 2,3,4]
*There is a commanded separation or standing back or

break in fellowship that is required by Jesus when one's
mate is snared in the sins described below ----- not a
divorce, but some form of separation. Consider the
following about sinners (for those married to the
unsaved) and about "saints" snared in sin:
***Romans 16: 17. . . mark them who cause divisions and
causes of offense contrary to the doctrine which you have
learned, and avoid them.
***1 Timothy 6:1-5 If any man. . . . consent not to . . . .
the Words of our Lord Jesus . . . withdraw yourself from
such.
***2 Timothy 3:1-5: For men shall be lovers of their own
selves.........avoid such.
****1 CORINTH. 5:9 ¶ I have written to you in the epistle
not to mix with fornicators; 10 not altogether with the
fornicators of this world, or with the avaricious and
rapacious, or idolaters, since then ye should go out of the
world. 11 But now I have written to you, if any one called
brother be fornicator, or avaricious, or idolater, or
abusive, or a drunkard, or rapacious, not to mix with him;
with such a one not even to eat.
****2 THESSALONIANS 3: 6 ¶ Now we enjoin you,
brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye
withdraw from every brother walking disorderly and not
according to the instruction which he received from us. .
. . 13 But *ye*, brethren, do not faint in well-doing. 14 But
if any one obey not our word by the letter, mark that
man, and do not keep company with him, that he may be
ashamed of himself; 15 and do not esteem him as an
enemy, but admonish him as a brother.
*Yes there is an avoiding or withdrawing from such

spouses but we will see below how 1 Cor. 7:10-15 and
Mark 10 etc. exclude the option of marital separation or
divorce except under very specific conditions. He never
said that they were no longer bound to each other as
Christian husband and Christian wife according to the
scriptures>33 . You and I know that a married couple can
avoid or withdraw from each other in many ways without
getting a divorce. They withdraw emotionally or socially.
A saint can't join the sinning spouse in the sin, so right
there is a withdrawal or avoidance.
[Footnote: >33 (Matt. 19:5; Rom. 7:1-5; 1 Cor.
7:10,11,15,39)]
*According to 1 Cor. 5 it is a whole different ball game if
the spouse is often doing, practicing, regularly or
habitually doing any of the following: adultery,
fornication, sexual perversion (sodomy, homosexuality,
bestiality, incest), greediness or covetousness, the
worship of false gods, reviling (verbal abuse),
drunkenness or intoxication, robbing, swindling, and/or
extorting. The saved spouse is under command NOT to
associate, keep company or be intimate with a spouse
who does the above and is claiming to be genuinely
saved, a genuine believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, a born
again child of God. This may take the form of the
husband divorcing such a "believing" wife and remarrying
(Matt: 19:9) though still maritally bound to her in the
Kingdom of God, or it may take the form of the wife
chastely and maritally separating herself from such a
"believing" spouse (1 Cor. 7:10,11). The reason for this
difference in options will be discussed in the chapter
dealing with adultery and its definition.
*I believe the saved wife of an unsaved husband, who is

involved in the sins listed above in this section, has the
same chaste separation option, from the context of 1 Cor.
7:10-15. I understand this kind of separation from such
sinning mates involves the cessation of sexual intimacy,
until either the sinning spouse repents as in 2 Cor 2 & 7
or the Lord takes the life of the sinning spouse so as to
save his spirit.
*In American reality, because of the wretchedly poor

Bible teaching today Christians, divorce and remarry
almost as much as J.Q Public. The Christian wife divorces
her Christian husband and remarries in adultery reaping
the chastening of the Lord until she dies>48 or repents in
reconciliation or celibacy if she is genuinely born again.
The Christian man divorces his Christian wife and
remarries. If he really repudiates his Christian wife for
another and marries another he commits adultery>49
and reaps the Lord's chastening. At this point we need to
define our terms.
[Footnotes:>48. (1 Cor 5 and 11:29-32); >49 (Mark 10,
Luke 16, Matt 5, 1 Cor 7)]
• 5. What does the Bible mean by “divorce”? DIVORCE

DEFINED.
*Let me try to clarify the word "divorce" at this point

since it has so many definitions in our current culture.
The Greek word "apoluo" >1 used by Jesus in Mark 10:11
& 12 means TO SEND OR PUT AWAY, DISMISS (FROM
ONE'S PRESENCE), RELEASE AND REPUDIATE. It could be
done informally or formally and legally as divorce.
[Footnote: .>III.1 See also Matt. 1:19; 5:31; 19:3,7-9.]
The Greek word "choridzo" >2 , used in Mark 10:9 of the

saved couple and in 1 Cor. 7:10 &11 of the saved wife ,
and in v. 15 of the unsaved mate, means TO SEPARATE
ONESELF FROM ANOTHER, BE SEPARATED; LEAVE, PART
OR DEPART FROM, PUT ASUNDER AND DIVIDE. It could be
done informally or formally as a divorce. God allows the
Christian wife to choridzo her husband as second best but
still affirms that she is bound maritally to her husband as
in v. 39.
[III. footnotes: >III.2. See also active: Matt. 19:6; Mark
10:9; Rom. 8;35,39;---passive: 1 Cor. 7:10,11,15;Acts 1:4;
18:2]
The Greek word "afeeaymee" >141, used of the man in l
Cor. 7:11 and 12 and of the woman in v. 13, means TO
SEND AWAY, ASK TO GO AWAY OR LEAVE, TO RELEASE,
AND TO LEAVE. This can be done informally or as a formal
divorce. So the word divorce can mean many different
things depending on one's culture, society, motivation,
intent and purposes. But the bottom line is that the
husband is commanded not to send his wife away, not to
ask his wife to leave, not release her or leave her. Even if
she asks or commands him to leave, He is under the
Lord's command not to leave. Even if she gets a court
order, he is under God's order not to leave her
voluntarily. If the marshals/officials remove him and his
belongings, then he didn't leave voluntarily. He was
removed, but he did not release or leave her. Separate
rooms, sleeping separately or etc. is not leaving or
releasing her as long as he is obeying 1 Cor. 7:1-5 with
her.l
[Footnote: .^141 See also Mat. 13:36;; Mark 4:36.]
In summary we see the following:

(1) the Christian husband must not divorce/send
away/release [See apoluo or afeeaymee above] his
Christian wife to whom he is bound as long as they both
live. 1 Cor. 5:10,11 and 2 Thess. 3:6 & 14 may require a
separation that doesn't involve sending her away, asking
her to go away or leave, releasing her from their
marriage bond, or leaving her ---- but they are still bound
for life. I experienced such a separation without leaving
with the mother of my children. The last two years we
were together we slept in the same king size bed but she
never let me touch her, kiss her, hold her or make love
with her. Now that is separation without leaving. But for
the male under 1 Cor. 5:11 and 2 Thess. 3:6,14
commands to "stand apart" from his sinning wife would
still be bound by the commands in 1 Cor. 7:2,3,4,5 which
could require him to be maritally intimate with her, so the
"separation" would have to be in other areas ---- always in
the Spirit of 2 Tim. 2:24-26; Galat. 6:1,2,3; and Luke 6 ----
like not eating together, not hanging out together, not
dating, not socializing together , not spending your
leisure time together or etc.
(2) the saved husband must not divorce/send away/ask to

leave/leave [See afeeaymee above] his unsaved wife as
long as she agrees or consents or is willing to dwell/live
/house with him.
(3) the Christian wife must not divorce/send

away/dismiss/repudiate[See apoluo above] and should
not (but may) divorce/separate from/leave/put apart [See
choridzo above] her Christian husband. The saved wife
must not divorce/send away/ask to leave/leave [See
afeeaymee above] her unsaved husband as long as he
agrees or consents or is willing to dwell/live/house with
her. Because of the definition and 1 Cor. 7:11 some
believe that the saved wife also can divorce/separate
from/leave/put apart [choridzo] her unsaved husband in
faithful separation, but still not divorce/send away/ask to
leave/leave [afeeaymee] him, in the event of spousal
abuse, fornication or etc. These actions find many
different legal and informal forms and expressions in
many different cultures and subcultures. So when you see
the word divorce in your Bible, it at least means send
away, release, "leave" or be separated, put asunder,
divide informally or formally.
If Mark 10:8-12; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11, 39 and Romans

7:1-3 are taken quite literally, a genuinely saved Elias
who legally married (with no vow of exclusivity such as
forsaking all others & keeping yourselves only to each
other until death do you part) and was legally divorced by
several genuinely saved Jane Does who just wanted to
live as singles again>142 would have to deal with the
question, "Are they still my wives in God's eyes?". They
all divorced him exercising their scriptural option and
whatever he felt or wanted would be irrelevant in terms
of 1 Cor. 7:11,39. What if these genuinely saved but
carnal Jane Does became engaged to others and maritally
vowed to forsake all others including their Elias and to
keep themselves only to their new mates until death part
them? It would be adultery and their vows would be the
sin because those vows would be invalidated by God's
statement in Mark 10:8-12 and 1 Corinth. 7 :11,39 that
they are bound to Elias as long as they both live.
[Footnote: >142 (1 Cor. 7:11) ]
(4.) So we see that there is a double standard for

genuinely saved (by faith in Jesus) husbands and wives
who were free in Jesus to marry each other when they
married. The genuinely saved (by faith in Jesus) wife can
separate herself from her husband, legally or informally,
but she is not free to marry another as long as her
genuinely saved (by faith in Jesus) husband lives. If she
wants to live apart from him she must do it celibately,
without sexual relations with another person.
The other side of the double standard is that the

genuinely saved (by faith in Jesus) husband must not
divorce/send away/ask to leave/leave his genuinely saved
(by faith in Jesus) wife, both having been free in Jesus to
marry each other, EVEN IF she leaves him, separating
herself from him in celibacy. This would leave him subject
Satan's temptations to sin sexually because of his natural
incontinency (1 Cor 7:5). He would be in great need of
marriage to avoid sex sin, to avoid the burning struggle
against temptations to sin sexually (1 Cor 7:1,2,9). If he
once in a while lost that struggle against sex sin, he
would have come under God's command to be married (1
Cor 7:1,2,9). How does he do that, since he is still
maritally bound to his wife, in the Kingdom of God?
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(5.) A different word for believers married to unbelievers?

THE CONTROVERSY OVER 1 COR 7. What was the Old
Testament precedent in the matter of the believer
married to the unbeliever?
//We see in the book of Ezra that it was relatively an easy

matter to divorce unbelieving wives, even after having
children with them. Jesus changed that in 1 Cor. 7. Dt
21:14 is about a believer being married to an unbeliever.
As an unbeliever she was free to remarry after being
divorced even though they had sexual union because she
was not subject to the Sinai Law.
****De 21:10 ¶ When you go forth to war against your

enemies, . . . and you have taken them captive, 11 And
see among the captives a beautiful woman, and have a
desire unto her, that you would have her to thy wife; . . .
. and after that you shall go in unto her, and be her
husband, and she shall be thy wife. 14 And it shall be, if
you have no delight in her, then you shall let her go
according to her desire; but you shall in no wise sell her
for money; you shall not treat her as a slave, because
you have humbled her.
//humbling a woman meant having sexual intimacy with a

woman
****De 22:24 then ye shall bring them both out unto the
gate of that city, and stone them with stones that they
die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city,
and the man, because he has humbled his neighbour’s
wife; and you shall put evil away from thy midst.
//Of course this “easy” divorcing of the unbelieving wife

by the believing Israelite indicates that these were
uncovenanted marriages, because if the Israelite had
covenanted-for-life with his unbelieving wife, he would
have been bound to keep his covenant-for-life with her,
just like Joshua had to keep covenant with the Gibeonites
(Josh 9), and like the King’s covenant with Babylon (Ezek
17).
****Psalm 15:1 ¶ <<A Psalm of David.>> Jehovah, who
shall sojourn in thy tent? who shall dwell in the hill of thy
holiness? 2 He that walks uprightly, . . .; who, if he have
sworn to his own hurt, changes it not; 5 . . . He that does
these things shall never be moved.
//Now we know the standard for marriage of believers in

Jesus. [Please understand that <####> is Strong's
numbered definition of the Bible Word. Strong is a widely
accepted scholar of Bible languages.]
***Mark 10:11 And he says unto them, Whosoever shall

put away his wife, and marry another, committs adultery
against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her
husband, and be married to another, she committs
adultery.
***Rom 7: 2 For the married woman is bound <1210>
(5769) by law to her husband so long as he is alive; but if
the husband should die, she is clear from the law of the
husband:
***1 Cor 7: 39 ¶ A wife is bound <1210> (5769) ----
Strong's <1210> deo
1) to bind tie, fasten
1a) to bind, fasten with chains, to throw into chains
1b) metaph.
1b2) to bind, put under obligation, of the law, duty
etc.
1b2a) to be bound to one, a wife, a husband
***-----for whatever time her husband lives; but if the
husband be fallen asleep, she is free ------
///So we see clearly that the believing wife is bound,

fastened, under-obligation-of-law to her believing
husband as long as he lives. What about the believer
whose unbelieving-and-disobedient-to-God husband
leaves, rejects, abandons and/or divorces her?
1 Cor 7:12 If any brother has a wife that believes not, and
she consent/agree to be dwelling with him, he should not
put her away<863>. 13 And the woman which has an
husband that believes not, and if he consent/agree to be
dwelling with her, she should not leave<863> him.
///At the time when the unbelieving mate consents/agrees

to be dwelling with the believing mate, the believing
mate should not <863>-----
-----ask the unbeliever to leave
-----divorce the unbeliever
-----leave/go away from the unbeliever
-----abandon the unbeliever
-----go away leaving the unbeliever behind
///At the time when the unbelieving mate does not

consent/agree to be dwelling with the believing mate, the
believing mate is free to <863>-----
---------go away leaving the unbeliever behind
/// Even though the unbeliever is free to leave and/or

divorce the unbeliever who does not consent/agree to
dwell with the believer, the believer is not maritally
unbound from the believer, is not free to remarry, until 1
Cor 7:15 takes place, happens, occurs.
///If five months ago or last night the unbelieving mate
WAS NOT consenting/agreeing to be dwelling with the
believer, FIVE MONTHS AGO OR LAST NIGHT the believer
was free to -----
BUT IF NOW the unbelieving mate is consenting/agreeing

to be dwelling with the believer, the believing mate
should not <863>-----
/// Even though the unbeliever is free to leave and/or

divorce the unbeliever who does not consent/agree to
dwell with the believer, the believer is not maritally
unbound from the believer, is not free to remarry, until 1
Cor 7:15 takes place, happens, occurs.
1 Cor 7:15 But if the unbeliever go away <5563>, he/she

should go away <5563>; a brother or a sister is not
bound <1402> (5769) in such cases, but God has called
us in peace.
STRONG's:1402 douloo
1) to make a slave of, reduce to bondage
2) metaph. give myself wholly to one's needs and service,
make myself a bondman to him
ArndtGingrichThayer: 1402 douloo: is not bound as a
slave in such cases, is not held by law or necessity in
such cases, is not under bondage, is not subject, is not
enslaved
Strong's <5108> toioutos

1) such as this, of this kind or sort
///Which all yields:

***15 But if the unbeliever go away <5563>,
-----<5563> separate, divide, part, -----put asunder,
separate one's self -----from, depart, leave, divorce
***he/she should go away<5563>;
-----<5563> separate, divide, part, -----put asunder,
separate one's
-----self from,depart, leave, divorce
***a brother or a sister is not--
-----bound/reduced to bondage/
-----enslaved/subject
-----held by law or necessity----
***in such cases as this, but God has called us in peace.
///So we see that while the believing couple is bound,

fastened, under-obligation-of-law to each other as long as
both live, we see that believers are NOT bound/reduced
to bondage/enslaved/subject by law or necessity to their
unbelieving-and-disobedient-to-God mates who have left
them, rejecting them, abandoning them, and/or divorcing
them, and so are free to remarry in Jesus.
///Is this just my point of view? Consider Matthew Henry

(Vol 2, p. 538):
"In such a case the deserted person must be free to
marry again, and it is granted on all hands. And some
think that such a malicious desertion is as much a
dissolution of the marriage-covenant as death itself. . . .
.It does not seem reasonable that they should be still
bound, when it is rendered impossible to perform
conjugal duties or enjoy conjugal comforts, through the
mere fault of their mate: in such a case marriage would
be a state of servitude indeed."
///Or consider Bruce's The International Bible

Commentary (Zondervan House p. 1362) with which I
agree:
"Seems to imply freedom to remarry. The unbeliever
having 'taken himself off', which is the force of the middle
voice of 'leaves', no further compulsion to preserve the
marriage remains on the believer." . . . As to the
marriage, the believer is not to become involved " in the
conflict of seeking to preserve it against the will of the
unbeliever."
A DIALOGUE ON THE ISSUES

>>A person wrote:
// I responded
> Nowhere does it ever, ever say in Scripture that

someone is free to remarry if they have been left by an
unbeliever.
///So the Greek, Lexicons, translators and conservative

commentaries
indicate that your position is incorrect.
>> On the contrary, I Corinthians 7:11 says clearly that

you are to remain unmarried or else be reconciled to your
spouse. Only death ends the covenant according to
Romans 7:1-3 & I Corinthians 7:39. You can't take one or
two verses and throw them out, because they can be
misinterpreted.
///Those passages are clearly about believers, born again

and genuine believers and disciples of Jesus who have
become forever people, making their marriages binding
as long as they both live on earth.
>> You also have to see what Jesus said on the subject
and remember that Paul cannot annul Jesus' words
(remember when Jesus said that Heaven and earth would
pass away, but His Word would stand?). Paul cannot
come in and permit that which Jesus said was sin. It is
just that simple. . . . Do you honestly believe that Paul
could change what God had already spoken?
///Matt 5 and 23:1-3 clearly indicate that Jesus was still

dealing only with Jews and Jewish converts, who He
required to observe the Sinai Law and Covenant and His
New Covenant commandments. So when He said (Mk
10:11,12) "And he says to them, Whosoever shall put
away his wife and shall marry another, commits adultery
against her. And if a woman put away her husband and
shall marry another, she commits adultery." . . . .
------and when He said (Lk16:18) "Every one who puts
away his wife and marries another commits adultery; and
every one that marries one put away from a husband
commits adultery."
------- He had already significantly updated His commands
in Deut 24. He was stating new regulations for His
subjects in His Kingdom, that He as Messiah was stating
His new rules for His subjects under His New Covenant.
///Unbelievers were condemned by these Kingdom Laws,
and were already dead, blind and deaf in their sins. But
for those who wanted to live in the Kingdom and
according to the Kingdom Laws, this was His New Word,
while they still kept all the commandments of the Sinai
Law/Covenant. So in the marriage of a believer to an
unbeliever then, the believer would live by the King's
Laws, but of course the unbeliever would not. If the
unbeliever put away his wife and married another, of
course he was committing adultery against her, but he
didn't care because he was an unbeliever dead in his sins
already. If an unbelieving woman put away her husband
and married another, of course she committed adultery,
but she didn't care because she was an unbeliever dead
in her sins already. And then, if one married a believing
one put away from an unbeliever, that one committed
adultery.
>
///But then Jesus established the New Covenant with His
shed blood, for both Jew and non Jew. In and by Acts 2, 10
and 11 King Jesus showed that under His New Covenant,
Jews and non Jews would both come to Him by salvation
by Faith
in the atoning work of His Life and Death, trusting in Him
alone for salvation and redemption, and trusting Him to
save them from the power, penalty and presence of all
their sins. Having
been saved by faith in Him alone, Jews would continue to
keep the Sinai Law/Covenant (Acts 15 and 21), not for
salvation but to honor the covenant of their ancestors
and people, to walk honorably and uprightly. Having
been saved by faith in Jesus alone, the non Jews would
not be required to observe the Sinai Law/Covenant nor be
circumcised, but would walk and live according to the
Laws of King Jesus' New Covenant, in the light of the OT
Prophets, Psalms and Proverbs.
///No longer would He relate to the world through Israel

and the Jews. Under the New Covenant, He said (Joh
18:36) " My kingdom is not of this world; if my kingdom
were of this world, my servants had fought that I might
not be delivered up to the Jews; but now my kingdom is
not from hence." So He, by His Spirit, accepted non Jews
by faith and without circumcision or Sinai Law, according
to Acts10,11,15 and 21. This meant that in His Kingdom,
there would be those believe Jews who would still be
keeping the Sinai Covenant, and there would also be
those non Jews who would not be circumcised, not
observing the Sinai Law. The New Covenant included and
allowed for both. So in His New Covenant He restated His
Mark 10 and Luke 16 Kingdom Laws for His disciples,
restating them by Paul in Rom 7:1-3 and 1 Cor 7:2-11; but
He also made New Covenant and Kingdom allowance for
those of His who were married to those who rejected His
New Covenant and His Kingdom.
///He made provision for those under and living by

Kingdom Law who were married to those living without
and in rebellion against Kingdom Law. He made provision
for those in His Kingdom who were married to those who
were in the kingdom of Satan and the world. In His
Kingdom, death freed a mate from the Law of the dead
mate, freed them to remarry.
In His New Covenant Kingdom, there were those who
were alive in Jesus, and some
of them were married to those who were spiritually dead
in their trespasses and sins. Some of the spiritually living
in Jesus were married to the spiritually dead apart from
Jesus.
///So He gave the Word of Mercy, Mercy seeking

salvation, to His children married to the dead, by His
apostle Paul: "12 But as to the rest, *I* say, not the Lord,
If any brother have an unbelieving wife, and *she*
consent to dwell with him, let him not leave her. 13 And a
woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he
consents to dwell with her, let her not leave her husband.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife,
and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the brother; since
otherwise indeed your children are unclean, but now they
are holy. . . . . 16 For what know thou, O wife, if you
shall save thy husband? or what know thou, O husband,
if you shall save thy wife?
///Under the Old Covenant, they were allowed to divorce

their mates because of the hardness of their hearts (Dt
24; Mt 19). Under the Old Covenant, Ezra and Nehemiah
had the Israelites reject and abandon their unbelieving
mates without mercy. In Mat 5 and 19, Mark 10, and Lk
16 the Messiah gave His New Covenant commands for His
servants married to His servants. In His New Covenant
Kingdom, He gave direction through Paul to those of His
servants who were alive in Jesus but married to those
who were dead in their trespasses and sins.
>> It is clear from what Jesus said that those who

remarry are committing adultery.
///He was speaking to His servants, alive by faith in Jesus.

The Old Covenant showed His servants to be freed from
their mates by death. In the New Covenant Kingdom, a
Kingdom of the Spirit, not of a nation or a land, He could
have acted without Mercy and released His living people
from their dead mates, as Ezra and Nehemiah did, but
instead He ruled in Mercy and declared that His living
subjects should stay with their dead mates in hopes of
saving to Life in Jesus their spiritually dead mates.
>> Jesus makes no distinction between those

> who are divorced due to
> sexual immorality and those who are divorced due to
> the hardness of their
> hearts. If He was making a distinction, He wouldn't
> have made such a broad
> statement about it being a sin to marry a divorced
> person.
///He was speaking the Law of the New Covenant to His

reborn servants. As He said, " Follow me, and leave the
dead to bury their own dead". He considered the
unbelieving dead. As such His Word was that His
servants are freed by death from their dead mates. His
Word in Mt 5 & 19; Mark 10 and Luk 16 was to His living
servants, not to the dead.
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>>He said that

> ANYONE (my emphasis for you) who marries a divorced
> person commits adultery,
> period. He upheld the standard that was set by God,
> not by man. God
> intended for marriage to be a lifetime commitment,
> period. Jesus made that
> very clear. Think about it --- if it were
> permissible for a divorced person
> to remarry, why would Jesus declare the person who
> marries a divorced person
> to be an adulterer or adulteress?
/// In John 8 Jesus showed that in the New Covenant He

had changed the rules re adultery. In the Old Covenant
the penalty for adultery was death so the adulterer or
adulteress would die. Being dead their mate would be
free to remarry. In the New Covenant Kingdom of the
Spirit, because of "Joh 5:22 for neither does the Father
judge any one, but has given all judgment to the Son;"
His servants were no longer allowed to execute judgment
on adulterers and adulteresses. All judgment of adultery
had been given to Him alone, no longer in the hands of
His servants. Instead of telling His servants to stone the
adulteress, He took her judgment to Himself, and seeing
her confession and penitent spirit, forgave her and told
her essentially to go back to her husband/marriage and
sin no more.
///In His Kingdom, the spiritual deadness of the lost, is

what would free the living in Christ from the dead inn
their sins, but His Grace and Mercy has appeared in
Christ Jesus, so that even though the living one's mate is
dead by reason of unbelief, Grace and Mercy require the
living one to stay with the dead unbelieving one in hopes
that the living one may be used of Father towards the
salvation of the dead one. When a dead one
rejects/abandons/deserts/ divorces a living one in
Jesus,the living one in Jesus has been released from the
Law of Grace and Mercy that required them to stay with
the one dead in unbelief. The unbelieving one gone and
dead in sin, the believing one is freed from the dead by
death to remarry a living one in Jesus. His Word remains
" Follow me, and leave the dead to bury their own dead"
>> And what's with the constant barrage of scriptures

> that speak of turning
> someone over to Satan? No one, and I repeat no one,
> has the right to act as
> anyone else's Holy Spirit.
///Your rejection of all of the Word inspired by God and

given through Paul, your rejection of the Word in 1 Cor 5
and the Word given in 1 Cor 7:12-16, make it appear that
you are one of those of whom Peter wrote:
***15 and account the longsuffering of our Lord to be
salvation; according as our beloved brother Paul also has
written to you according to the wisdom given to him, 16
as also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these
things; among which some things are hard to be
understood, which the untaught and ill-established wrest,
as also the other scriptures, to their own destruction. 17
*Ye* therefore, beloved, knowing these things before,
take care lest, being led away along with the error of the
wicked, ye should fall from your own stedfastness: 18 but
grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and
Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and to the
day of eternity. Amen.(2Pet3)
///So it appears to be fulfilled in you about the things

given through Paul and hard to be understood, you
apparently being untaught and ill-established, you
apparently wrest, as also the other scriptures, to your
own destruction. So to the beloved in Jesus who are
reading this, know these things before, take care lest,
being led away along with the error of the wicked, ye
should fall from your own stedfastness as those who have
rejected the Messiah's Word by Paul; but grow in grace,
and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus
Christ. To him be glory both now and to the day of
eternity. Amen.
WHAT IF THE UNBELIEVER CONSENTS/AGREES TO DWELL

WITH THE BELIEVER, AND DOESN’T LEAVE, ABANDON,
FORSAKE OR DIVORCE THE BELIEVER?
//How is a godly person to behave towards his/her

unsaved mate when the marriage is under attack, when
personally under attack?
Luke 6:27 ¶ But I say to you who hear: Love your [mates
who have made themselves your] enemies, do good to
those [mates] who hate you, 28 bless those [mates] who
curse you, and pray for those [mates] who despitefully
use you. 29 And to him/her who strikes you on the [one]
cheek, also offer the other. And to him/her who takes
away your garment, do not forbid your tunic also. 30 Give
to everyone who asks of you [including your mate], and
from him/her who takes away your goods, do not ask
[them] again. 31 And as you desire that people [including
your mate] should do to you, you do also to them
likewise. 32 For if you love those [mates] who love you,
what thanks do you have? For sinners also love those
[mates] who love them. 33 And if you do good to those
[mates] who do good to you, what thanks do you have?
For sinners also do the same. 34 And if you lend [to those
mates] of whom you hope to receive, what thanks do you
have? For sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much
again. 35 But love your [mates who have made
themselves your] enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping
for nothing [in return]. And your reward shall be great,
and you shall be the sons of the Highest. For He is kind to
the unthankful [mates] and [to] the evil [mates]. 36
Therefore be merciful [to your mates], even as your
Father is merciful [to your mates].
Physical or verbal abuse/persecution? FLEE!!!!!!!!!

***Matthew 10:22 And you will be hated of all [people,
including your mates] for My name's sake, but the [one]
who endures to [the] end shall be kept safe. 23 But when
they persecute you in this city, flee into another; for truly
I say to you, In no way shall you have finished the cities
of Israel until the Son of Man comes. 24 A disciple is not
above [his] master, nor the servant above his lord.
Paraphrased for troubled marriage/relations

Romans 12: 9 [Let] love [be] without hypocrisy, . . . .14
Bless those [mates] who persecute you; bless, and do not
curse [them]. 15 Rejoice with rejoicing ones, and weep
with weeping ones; . . . 17 Repay no [mate] evil for [the]
evil [he/she has done to you]. Provide things honest in
the sight of all people [even your mates]. 18 If [it is]
possible, as far as [is] in you, seeking peace with all
people [even your mates]. 19 not avenging yourselves
[for the evil your mates have done to you], beloved, but
giving place to [God's] wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance
[is] Mine, I will repay, says [the] Lord." 20 Therefore if
your enemy hungers, feed him/her. If he/she thirsts, give
him/her drink. For [in so] doing you shall heap coals of
fire on his/her head. 21 Do not be overcome by [the] evil
[done to you by your mates], but overcome [their] evil
with good.
My cousin was saved while married to her male

chauvenistic, arrogant, proud, rich and unfaithful Greek
Orthodox husband. He really believed that her place was
pregnant, bare foot and in the kitchen. They found out
after their second child that her heart was weak and she
could die during childbirth and so was told to have no
more children. He got her pregnant six more times for a
total of 8 kids. Soon after being saved the Lord led my
cousin into submission and obedience to His Word in 1
Peter 3
She became a faster and a prayer, leading all 8 kids to be

beautifully saved. Her husband was no stupid, and soon
realized and was told by his buddies that he had a great
wife, an awesome wife, and appreciation and respect
began to sink in to his male chauvenistic pig head. He
was crazy proud of his precious and well behaved
children, the envy of his buddies. Sometimes when he
had one on his lap, his beloved children would say
something like, "Daddy, do you love Jesus? Are you going
to be in Heaven with us? Daddy, I want you to be in
Heaven with me. Please??????????!!!!!!!!!!
Daddy?????????????!!!!!!!!!!". He was deeply moved.
In the meantime, all Patty's prayer and fasting had

resulted in her having such a close and beautiful
relationship with Jesus that He had given her the gifts of
discernment of spirits, healing, prophecy, tongues and
interpretation of tongues. She eventually became a part
of the Kathryn Kuhlman ministry team. He gave her a
large teaching and counseling ministry at Hollywood
Presbyterian.
Finally all her children were grown, and her rich husband
was a much better father and husband ---Jesus was
breaking up the hard ground of his heart. Then Jesus
blessed him with leukemia, a very slow cancer, and finally
he humbled himself and accepted Jesus, giving Jesus his
body, soul and spirit. He became one of the gentlest,
sweetest, nicest and most gracious Christians I have ever
known ---- and then Jesus took him Home. He honored
His Word and used Patty's obedience to 1 Peter 3 to save
and take Home a precious son of God. Have faith. Trust
God. Little is much with God's blessing on it. Weakness
is strength and power with Jesus' blessing on it. If you
have a Nabal for a husband, be an Abigail (1 Sam 25)
7. MORE ON THE DEUTERONOMY 24 CONTROVERSY
//Pharaoh hardened his heart and Jehovah Jesus gave him

up to his hardened heart. Jehovah Jesus ALLOWED
Pharaoh-like hard hearted Israelites to divorce their
wives. It can be assumed that most of these hard hearted
Israelites died in the wilderness and did not follow Joshua
into the Promised Land.
****Dt. 24:1 ¶ When a man takes a wife, and marries her,

it shall be if she find no favour in his eyes, because he
has found some unseemly thing in her, that he shall write
her a letter of divorce, and give it into her hand, and send
her out of his house. 2 And she shall depart out of his
house, and go away, and may become another man’s
wife.
I believe that Dt 24:1,2 can happen only because he had

not defiled her Dt24:3,4.. If he had been intimate with
her, he would not be allowed to divorce her according to
***Dt. 22:28 If a man find a damsel, a virgin, who is not
betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they
be found, 29 then the man that lay with her shall give
unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she
shall be his wife, because he has humbled her; he may
not put her away all his days.
***Dt. 24:3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write
her a letter of divorce, and give it into her hand, and send
her out of his house; or if the latter husband die who took
her as his wife;
Dt 24:3 does not say she could marry another after

having been “humbled/defiled” by her husband because
of Dt. 22:28,29
//Those Israelites whose hearts had not hardened and

were circumcised in heart as well as in body hated
divorce with Jehovah Jesus, and avoided it as the sin that
it is.
****Malachi 2:12 Jehovah will cut off from the tents of

Jacob the man that does this, him that calls and him that
answers ; and him that offers an oblation unto Jehovah of
hosts. 13 And further ye do this: ye cover the altar of
Jehovah with tears, with weeping, and with sighing,
insomuch that he regards not the oblation any more, nor
receives it with satisfaction at your hand. 14 Yet ye say,
Wherefore? Because Jehovah has been a witness between
thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom you have
dealt unfaithfully: yet is she thy companion, and the wife
of thy covenant. 15 And did not one make them? and the
remnant of the Spirit was his. And wherefore the one? He
sought a seed of God. Take heed then to your spirit, and
let none deal unfaithfully against the wife of his youth, 16
(for I hate putting away, says Jehovah the God of Israel;)
and he covers with violence his garment, says Jehovah of
hosts: take heed then to your spirit, that ye deal not
unfaithfully. 17 Ye have wearied Jehovah with your words,
and ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? In that ye
say, Every one that does evil is good in the sight of
Jehovah, and he delights in them; or, Where is the God of
judgment?
///Jehovah Jesus makes it clear that under the Sinai Law
sexual intimacy between two free-to-marry believers
required a life-time marital bond, according to Dt. 22
(“she shall be his wife, because he has humbled her; he
may not put her away all his days.”)
***Ex 21:7 And if a man shall sell his daughter as a

handmaid, she shall not go out as the bondmen go out. 8
If she is unacceptable in the eyes of her master, who had
taken her for himself, then shall he let her be ransomed:
to sell her unto a foreign people he has no power, after
having dealt unfaithfully with her. 9 And if he have
appointed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after
the law of daughters. 10 If he take himself another, her
food, her clothing, and her conjugal rights he shall not
diminish. 11 And if he do not these three things unto her,
then shall she go out free without money.
//Again here, as in Deut 24:1ff, this would only apply to

the situation where either they were both Israelites and
they had not united sexually, because If he had
humbled/defiled her, he would not be allowed to divorce
her and she would not be free to remarry (Dt 22:28+ 29),
or she was not an Israelite and after leaving him she was
free to remarry even though they had united sexually
(Dt.21)
To: oldservant8@aol.com
Subject: Re: Sister Needs Some Help
Date: Thu, 14 Feb 2002 21:38:40 -0800
>>>>> = The opposition

///// = oldservant
>>>>>Her husband is not BOUND to divorce her over
her sex sin, but is allowed to.
That is HIS right, not ours to legislate.
/////Agreed.
>>>>>Torah is very plain that a divorced woman is free

to remarry.
////That was Deut 24. Jehovah-Jesus gave Deut 24 divorce

regs for the hardness of their hearts, ***Mt 19:8 He says
to them, Moses, in view of your hardheartedness, allowed
you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it
was not thus. .
***Deut 24 was given to the mixed multitude, including
the survivors of the golden calf, the plague of snakes ,
Korah's and Miriam's rebellions, etc.
What kind of child of God wants to live on the plane of

hardened hearts? If God hates divorce and them that do,
Malachi 2, shouldn't we? Shouldn't we live on that higher
plane, and be holy like He is holy in this? The fact that
"from the beginning it was not thus" indicates that Noah,
Abraham, and Israel lived on the higher plane of no
divorce. "9 What therefore God has joined together, let
not man separate."
Jehovah-Jesus recognized Deut 24 and then raised the bar

higher, in
***Mat 5: 31 It has been said too, Whosoever shall put
away his wife, let him give her a letter of divorce. 32 But
*I* say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife,
except for cause of fornication, makes her commit
adultery, and whosoever marries one that is put away
commits adultery.
***Mat 19:9 But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put
away his wife, not for fornication, and shall marry
another, commits adultery; and he who marries one put
away commits adultery.
***Lk 16:18 Every one who puts away his wife and
marries another commits adultery; and every one that
marries one put away from a husband commits adultery.
***Mk 10:12 And if a woman put away her husband and
shall marry another, she commits adultery.
Did you notice that? "whosoever marries one that is put

away commits adultery." SHE IS NOT FREE TO REMARRY.
If she marries someone else besides the one who put her
away, she commits adultery. SHE IS STILL MARITALLY
BOUND TO HIM BY KINGDOM LAW, EVEN THOUGH
DIVORCED FOR ADULTERY. "9 What therefore God has
joined together, let not man separate."
In the New Covenant (See Jeremiah) Jehovah-Jesus takes

us back to the "married for life" rule under which Noah,
Abraham, Issac and Israel lived.
***Rom 7: 1 ¶ Are ye ignorant, brethren, (for I speak to
those knowing law,) that law rules over a man as long as
he lives? 2 For the married woman is bound by law to her
husband so long as he is alive; but if the husband should
die, she is clear from the law of the husband: 3 so then,
the husband being alive, she shall be called an adulteress
if she be to another man; but if the husband should die,
she is free from the law, so as not to be an adulteress,
though she be to another man.
***1 Cor 7:39 ¶ A wife is bound for whatever time her
husband lives; but if the husband be fallen asleep, she is
free to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord.
>>>>>But you are saying that he has divorced her. His

valid option. If he
exercised it, then we have no right to force him to take
her back into
marriage. We can take her into fellowship as a Christian,
yes. We can
expect him to honor that and behave honorably in the
body of Christ, yes.
But not into marriage. We can advise him that it is the
Christlike thing to
do, in our eyes. But that is different than forcing him.
Would be nice.
Hope it works out.
/////He had authority/permission to divorce her on account

of sex sin.
When there is no more sex sin, he no longer has
authority/permission to
be divorcing her, to continue divorcing her, to continue
being divorced
from her. The only grounds for the divorce was sex sin.
No sex sin, no
grounds for being divorced.
///Since they are still bound maritally by Kingdom Law,
though divorced,
she has two options, live celibately or be reconciled to
her husband
1Cor 7:10,11. That is her choice. The husband is under
the flat out
and unqualified command to not
leave/divorce/abandon/repudiate her
1Cor 7:11.
////If she is repentant of her adultery and is under Jesus
command to
go and sin no more, but is having great difficulty with her
celibacy
according to 1 Cor 7:5, then she THEN COMES UNDER
GOD'S COMMAND TO BE MARRIED (1 COR 7:9) AND FOR
HER THAT MEANS BEING RECONCILED TO HER OWN
HUSBAND WHO DIVORCED HER FOR ADULTERY .
///If she is under God's command to be reunited with her

husband, he seeing her need and shutting up his
compassions (1John3:16,17), that husband is then in
***rebellion against God,
***refusing to accept the fact that he is maritally bound
to her as long as they both live,
***refusing the authority God has given her over his body
(Rom 13 and 1 Cor 7:2,3,4),
***refusing to obey 1 Cor 7:5, ***refusing to enable her to
obey 1 cor 7:9, AND SO
***CAUSES HER TO COMMIT ADULTERY
(" But *I* say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his
wife, except for cause of fornication, makes her commit
adultery,"). I count six grounds for doing matt 18:15-18.
Surely since the grounds for 1 Cor 5:3-11 action is
fornication, then making a sister commit adultery is also
grounds for such action.
>>>>>I think that if you check carefully, Paul talked

about separation, and remaining single or getting back
together. He was not altering the rules of Torah on
divorce, and had no authority to do so.
////Jehovah-Jesus, the Torah giver and Maker of the New

Covenant (Jer)
has the authority to do so and did so.
>>>>>It may well be that the woman wants back in.

And that she's truly
repentant. But what does true repentance look like, as
opposed to mere
sorrow over the CONSEQUENCES of the sin? True
repentance, so far as I can
tell, bears the consequences with sorrowful grace.
///2 Cor 7:9 Now I rejoice, not that ye have been grieved,
but that ye have been grieved to repentance; for ye have
been grieved according to God, that in nothing ye might
be injured by us. 10 For grief according to God works
repentance to salvation, never to be regretted; but the
grief of the world works death. 11 For, behold, this same
thing, your being grieved according to God, how much
diligence it wrought in *you*, but what excusing of
matter.
***Prov 28:13 ¶ He that covers his transgressions shall
not prosper; but whoso confesses and forsakes them shall
obtain mercy.
>>>>>The fact seems to be that there ARE

consequences to our actions, and while
we can indeed sorrow, and be restored to fellowship with
God, or even with
our mate, consequences do still occur.
///Agreed
>>>>>Amongst them is the reality that we can't
legislate compassion. And have no apparent right to do
the whole "by yourself, then with another, then with the
elders and then the whole
congregation then cast him out" thing when he has
exercised his valid right, whether due to the hardness of
hearts or not.

husband,
he seeing her need and shutting up his compassions
(1John3:16,17),
that husband is then in
***refusing to accept
the fact that he is maritally bound to her as long as they
both live,
(Rom 13 and 1 Cor 7:2,3,4),
Surely
since the grounds for 1 Cor 5:3-11 action is fornication,
then
making a sister commit adultery is also grounds for such
action.
To: oldservant8@aol.com
Subject: Re: Sister Needs Some Help
Date: Thu, 14 Feb 2002 21:52:49 -0800
>>>>>The idea that the person who says "Sorry" must
automatically be taken back, in a family setting, is a pure
setup for protecting the abuser at the expense of the
abused. How many women have had a husband beat the
ever living hell outa them, then say he's sorry, and she's
been told to take him back by her church? Only to have
it happen again.
////Agreed
>>>>>GOD looks upon the heart. We can't. GOD

knows whether someone is truly repentant or not. We
don't. We might take someone back into church
fellowship, and that's fine. But that's a different thing
than requiring
someone else to instantly place new trust in someone
who has proven
untrustworthy and has broken the sacred bond of
marriage.
////First true repentance has to be evidenced.

***2 Cor 7:9 Now I rejoice, not that ye have been grieved,
but that ye have been grieved to repentance; for ye have
been grieved according to God, that in nothing ye might
be injured by us. 10 For grief according to God works
repentance to salvation, never to be regretted; but the
grief of the world works death. 11 For, behold, this same
thing, your being grieved according to God, how much
diligence it wrought in *you*, but what excusing of
matter.
***Prov 28:13 ¶ He that covers his transgressions shall
not prosper; but whoso confesses and forsakes them shall
obtain mercy.
////////When true repentance has been evidenced, the

word is restoration and reconciliation.
***2 Cor 2: 5 ¶ But if any one has grieved, he has
grieved, not me, but in part (that I may not overcharge
you) all of you. 6 Sufficient to such a one is this rebuke
which has been inflicted by the many; 7 so that on the
contrary ye should rather shew grace and encourage, lest
perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with
your love. 9 For to this end also I have written, that I
might know, by putting you to the test, if as to everything
ye are obedient. 10 But to whom ye forgive anything, *I*
also; for I also, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven
anything, it is for your sakes in the person of Christ; 11
that we might not have Satan get an advantage against
us, for we are not ignorant of *his* thoughts.
>>>>>David heartily repented of his sin in the matter of

Uriah the Hittite. God
took him back into fellowship. There's no doubt of this.
He still lost 4 sons. Tough.
///He forgives us of the eternal penalty of our sins, and

gives us grace
and mercy to endure the human and natural
consequences of our sins.
The sweet Christian sister was seduced one high school
night by a slick and smooth talking friend, and she got
HIV without even knowing it, from just one
mistake. She reconciled with her true and long time
Christian love and they married. She discovered she had
AIDS and died, cared for with loving devotion by
her husband. She had unwittingly infected her beloved
husband and he died
of AIDS, cared for with loving devotion by his parents. I
believe they are both now in Heaven where they will
forever be safe and together. He forgives us of the
eternal penalty of our sins, and gives us grace and mercy
to endure the human and natural consequences of our
sins.
>>>>>In my opinion, 1 Co 7:10,11 specifically is talking

about separation, not divorce. A man and woman can
decide that they just can't get along, and can go their
own ways. If that happens, she is required to remain
unmarried or else they are to work it out and get back
together. But that's a far different matter than a man
divorcing a woman for adultery. Scripture NOWHERE
declares that he's required to take her back,

husband, he seeing her need and shutting up his
compassions (1John3:16,17), that husband is then in
***refusing to accept the fact that he is maritally bound
to her as long as they both live,
(Rom 13 and 1 Cor 7:2,3,4),
Surely since the grounds for 1 Cor 5:3-11 action is
fornication, then making a sister commit adultery is also
grounds for such action.
>>>>> nor that a woman divorced by a man is still

bound to him, regardless of the reason.


us back to the "married for life" rule under
which Noah, Abraham, Issac and Israel lived.
Rom 7: 1 ¶ Are ye ignorant, brethren, (for I speak to those
knowing law,) that law rules over a man as long as he
lives? 2 For the married woman is bound by law to her
1 Cor 7:39 ¶ A wife is bound for whatever time her
YET ANOTHER ON DEUT 24
Subject: Re:BelieversMarriedForLife
Date: Fri, 15 Feb 2002 10:45:18 -0800
From:A critic@.org>
>>> = The critic

/// = Ron
>>>The error Ron has is in assuming that Yahshua came

to "change" Deuteronomy.
////That is exactly what HE SAID HE DID.

higher, in
commits adultery.
>>>Yahshua was simply responding to the Pharisees
who were saying that Moses
"let" them use Deuteronomy as a "pretext" for divorcing
their wives for
"any" reason. That is the CONTEXT. The simple fact of
the matter is that
Yahshua was challenging their Beit Din rulings
concerning divorce using
Deuteronomy as a "pretext" for it in "every occasion."
With this
understanding in mind, we can then reevaluate what
Yahshua said about
marriage.
////Mat 5: 31 It has been said too, [IN DEUT 24]

Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a
letter of divorce. 32 But *I* say unto you, that whosoever
shall put away his wife, except for cause of fornication,
makes her commit adultery, and whosoever marries one
that is put away commits adultery.
>>> "fornication" comes from porneia which has

multiplicity of
definition.
/// THE KEY TO UNDERSTANDING A WORD IS TO KNOW

HOW THE SPEAKER USES IT. GOD IS THE SPEAKER AND
HE USES THE WORD FORNICATION OF SEXUAL SIN AND
THE SPIRITUAL SIN OF BEING UNFAITHFUL TO GOD, AS IN
EZEK 23.
>>> It can be "porneia" for a nation to reject Yahweh

and follow after other gods. What is the parallel? A wife
who consistently rejects her husbands headship can
indeed be qualified for a divorce.
/// NOT ACCORDING TO JESUS. LOGIC WOULD SHOW THE

FALLACY OF THIS REASONING. THE CORRECT LINE OF
REASONING WOULD BE THAT IT WOULD APPLY TO A
WOMAN WHO IS SEXUALLY UNFAITHFUL TO HER
HUSBAND OR SPIRITUALLY UNFAITHFUL TO HER GOD.
PARAPHRASED FOR APPLICATION = FROM Mark 7: then
the Pharisees and the scribes ask him, Why do thy
disciples not DIVORCE THEIR WIVES FOR ANY REASON,
LIKE DISOBEDIENCE? But he answering said to them,
Well did Esaias prophesy concerning you hypocrites, as it
is written, This people honour me with their lips, but their
heart is far away from me. But in vain do they worship
me, teaching as their teachings commandments of men.
For, leaving the commandment of God, YE SAY THAT A
MAN CAN DIVORCE A WOMAN FOR DISOBEDIENCE AND
OTHER SUCH REASONS. And he said to them, Well do ye
set aside the commandment of God, that ye may observe
what is delivered by yourselves to keep AS IN THE BOOK
OF JASHER. For JESUS said, "that whosoever shall put
away his wife, except for cause of fornication, makes her
commit adultery, and whosoever marries one that is put
away commits adultery." But *ye* say "it is lawful for a
man to put away his wife for every cause" in view of your
hardheartedness.. making void the word of God by your
traditional teaching which ye have delivered; and many
such like things ye do.
THIS IS CLEARLY NOT WHAT JESUS SAID.
///IN CONCLUSION-----------------------
Jehovah-Jesus gave Deut 24 divorce regs for the hardness
of their hearts,
***Mt 19:8 He says to them, Moses, in view of your
hardheartedness, allowed you to put away your wives;
but from the beginning it was not thus. .
Deut 24 was given to the mixed multitude, including the
survivors of the golden calf, the plague of snakes ,
Korah's and Miriam's rebellions, etc.
What kind of child of God wants to live on the plane of

hardened hearts? If God hates divorce and them that do,
Malachi 2, shouldn't we? Shouldn't we live on that higher
plane, and be holy like He is holy in this?
"but from the beginning it was not thus" indicates that
Noah, Abraham, and Israel lived on the higher plane of no
divorce. "9 What therefore God has joined together, let
not man separate."

higher, in
commits adultery.


us back to the "married for life" rule under which Noah,
Abraham, Issac and Israel lived.
***Rom 7: 1 ¶ Are ye ignorant, brethren, (for I speak to
those knowing law,) that law rules over a man as long as
he lives? 2 For the married woman is bound by law to her
***1 Cor 7:39 ¶ A wife is bound for whatever time her
Peace in Jesus,
Ron

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A BELIEVER’S MARRIAGE TO A BELIEVER LASTS UNTIL

THEY ARE PARTED BY GOD BY DEATH

•1. Marriage of two unbelievers lasting for the life of

*St. Augustine (4th Cent AD) had a powerful way of

*When I have approached Christian leaders here in my

*I submit that those passages mean exactly what they

*I believe the Scriptures stated above that a Spiritually

>>(1) From the following it is clear that it means leaving

>>(2) Cleaving is the act of the will making marital

>>(3) Becoming one flesh is the sexual act of coitis or

•The Jewish Septuagint (third century B.C.) for Gen. 2:24

• Consider Jehovah-Jesus and the nation Israel. Israel

• Before we go any further, we must see how the Bible

>>>>>>>Adultery for the woman:<<<<<<<

• 1. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits

• 2. Mt5:32 But *I* say unto you, that whosoever shall

• 3. "And if a woman divorces her husband and marries

• 4. "if, while her husband lives, she marries another

>>>>>>>Adultery for the man:<<<<<<<<

• 1. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits

• 2. "Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual

• 3. "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another

• 4. "You shall not covet your neighbor's wife.">153.

• Adultery for the female is sexual intimacy with anyone

• He gives no qualifier or exception except for 1 Cor.

• Yes we know that Jehovah-Jesus commanded the

• David’s wife was given to another while he lived,

• David’s taking back his wife from an adulterous

• On the other hand, when David committed adultery

• So here Jehovah-Jesus could have executed His law of

• Does adultery dissolve/break the marriage union, as

• Does adultery dissolve/break the marriage union, as

• Hear yet a third witness, who shows us that adultery did

• Our King is the Shepherd who leaves securely the safe

• 2. As a believer, what do you do about your believing

*There is not one Scripture in the Old Testament that

* In Matt. 5 Jesus made it plain divorce was permitted for

* In Matt. 5 Jesus permits the husband to divorce his wife

***2 CORINTHIANS 7: 8 For if also I grieved you in the

• These show that such a separation can be an exercise

• Even though Jesus apparently allows a genuinely

• Being forgiven by God for sins worthy of death (Rom. 1)

• There is a parallel in the relationship of the Body of

• We have seen the precedent of Jesus and the nation

• What if the sinning mate doesn’t repent even after all of

• All of Jesus’ children are chastened for their sins and

• At that point, the believer married to such a professing

• 3. Can we trust Him that we are married to the one to

*Every legal>26 and moral>27 marriage of two who are

****Romans 8: 27 But he who searches the hearts knows

*That's why we can trust God that we are to remain

****1 CORINTHIANS 7:17 17 ¶ However, as the Lord has

*So Jesus makes binding>28 the cleaving >29 and the

*They say it would do more harm than good to tell

• 4. When are we to separate though married?

*What are the responsibilities of still being bound to

*There is a commanded separation or standing back or

*Yes there is an avoiding or withdrawing from such

*I believe the saved wife of an unsaved husband, who is

*In American reality, because of the wretchedly poor

• 5. What does the Bible mean by “divorce”? DIVORCE

*Let me try to clarify the word "divorce" at this point

The Greek word "choridzo" >2 , used in Mark 10:9 of the

• 2. Mt5:32 But I say unto you, that whosoever shall