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Interview # ___2__
Questions:
1. When you think about my general interpersonal skills, what are some adjectives or
phrases that come to mind that are good descriptions? Caring Compassionate always
willing to do what is needed for my family, Stoic, loyal, hard worker.
1. Ability to listen and convey empathy. Rating: ___5__ Comments: This is a hard
question because there are two sides to it on one side if she is upset I listen really well
but on the other hand if she is just talking to me I don’t always listen very well. There are
times that she tells me something important a I don’t listen and then get mad when I
didn’t know something was going on that she already told me about.
3. Ability to understand and communicate effectively with people who see the world
differently. Rating: ___5__ Comments: It is often hard for me to see other people’s
views and be able to see their side of things. I have good intentions but it is viewed as me
being mean or uncaring.
4. Building trust and credibility. Rating: __10___ Comments: everyone at work trusts me
and the people that I put into the Air Force trust me if they are giving up 6 years of their
life because of something I said. I usually have facts to back up my views and that helps
others view me as credible.
6. Demonstrating an awareness of own style and how it affects others, and makes
adjustments as necessary. Rating: __3___ Comments: I don’t adjust to people’s styles
well and there have been times when I have had to adjust to their style and I get mad
about doing it their way. I am able to see that someone has a different style than I do but
I am not able to accept it and move on.
11. Ability to keep an open mind regarding controversial issues. Rating: __2___
Comments: I am very bull headed on what I believe and no one is going to change my
mind. If someone has different ideals than I do I automatically think that they are wrong
even without hearing what they have to say. If I don’t want to listen to something I don’t
listen.
12. Ability to separate emotions from facts in conflict situations. Rating: __4___
Comments: I am very intact with my emotions and when I argue I am very emotional. I
use my emotions to often and I should take a step back and breath then observe what is
going on and listen then act after that. I am unable to let go of the past.
13. Resolving differences between people using persuasion, diplomacy and logic. Rating:
__6___ Comments: People listen to what I have to say and they are able to see my side
of the story however sometimes I force my opinion on people and they do not react well
to that. I do however usually have a logical reason as to why I am suggesting things.
14. Effectively handles conflict, preserving good relations. Rating: __7___ Comments: I
have conflicts at work sometimes and haven’t gotten myself into too much trouble. My
wife and I have conflicts and we still love each other so I must not be too bad at
preserving relationships.
5. Have you observed any specific instances in which I have effectively adapted my
behaviors in order to relate more effectively with others who have different personalities,
cultural backgrounds, perspectives or beliefs? Please elaborate. My wife feels that if I did
ever do this it wouldn’t be because I wanted to see where the person was coming from it
would be because I had to and I probably be because I had to and I wouldn’t necessarily
be happy about it. She can’t think of any time that she has seen me do this. If I don’t
want to go hang out with people that she wants us to go hang out with I don’t try to like
that person or their ideas I just deal with it for that day and move on.
6. If you could suggest three things I could do to improve my interpersonal skills, what
would they be? My skills with her would be to listen more when she talks to me and not
just say that I am listening. I could work on getting frustrated so quickly and step back
from the situation and just observe and make a positive difference not a negative one.
Learn to communicate better and not just think that she knows what I am thinking. I can
improve on how I convey a message as well.
7. In considering my human relations abilities, is there anything else you would like to add?
She said she loves me and although she beat me up in this she thinks that stronger
communication will help our marriage to become even that much stronger and also for
me to be an even better person.