so important that it resulted in the start of the Trojan War?
One has to be careful in putting the blame
(solely) to Helen’s adultery as the cause of the ten-year Trojan War. While the details thereof are well-known, if one reads the Iliad carefully, the cause of the war is ambiguous. Homer offered no easy explanation as to why the Greeks were willing to participate in such a lengthy conflict. While Helen repeatedly acknowledges her role in igniting the conflict (having mixed feelings because she feels some complicity in her own abduction and realizes how much death and suffering has been the result), other characters, such as Priam, did not treat her with reproach. The Greek gods —who are accused of staging this great conflict—and the Trojan prince Paris are also held responsible.
I will not delve on how Helen of Troy was
treated through the ages as well misconceptions thereof as it is already discussed elsewhere (thanks Holly Root- Gutteridge for that excellent answer), but what struck me the most was how trivial it is to use Helen’s adultery as the cause, even if it violates the code of hospitality. Herodotus himself wrote in his Histories in the viewpoint of a Persian informant on how flimsy was this excuse:
[T]he Persians consider that the Greeks were
greatly to blame, since before any attack had been made on Europe, they led an army into Asia. Now as for the carrying off of women, it is the deed, they say, of a rogue: but to make a stir about such as are carried off, argues a man a fool. Men of sense care nothing for such women, since it is plain that without their own consent they would never be forced away. The Asiatics, when the Greeks ran off with their women, never troubled themselves about the matter; but the Greeks, for the sake of a single Lacedaemonian girl, collected a vast armament, invaded Asia, and destroyed the kingdom of Priam. (Histories, Book I)
The true cause is greed.
Troy controlled a key trading position, both
in relation to it being strategically based near a narrow strait which separated Europe from Asia and also due to it being situated so close to the powerful Hittite empire. Basically, to control that region, or just part of it was an incredible opportunity for wealth and power, but to just invade and attack the city solely to gain that wealth and power would likely lead to Troy's powerful allies rushing to its defense. Homer's account states some allies did do so, but stealing a King's wife was something plenty of other nations (which were after all ruled by Kings) would not condone.
The insult was therefore an excellent excuse
to invade the region and attack Troy, under the not unreasonable expectation that a lot of Troy's allies would keep out of it. Since it could be considered as a domestic dispute, Troy’s allies would be reluctant to give aid to the city.