The How to Guide

Fo r
Aspiring Brides

March
2011

By

Latosha Long

By
Latosha Long
The How to Guide For Aspiring Brides

After years of, low-self esteem, relationship failures and attracting all the wrong

men I decided to get real with myself now I am sharing the lessons I’ve learned

with you

Is a frank discussion between girlfriends about the issues that concern single

women; men, heartache, and finding the contentment within. Using a faith based

approach to get rid of the excess baggage and to attract a healthy Godly marriage

relationship into the reader’s life

This is a big promise that’s where you come in there; is work to be done this book

gives you the tools God has already given you the key.

Ladies until then here are just a few excerpts to encourage you in your journey
until then.

Helping You to Pray:

Heavenly Father,

I am so grateful for the continued faithfulness and the mercy you have shown me. I thank you
that you have healed my heart of past hurt and disappointment and have prepared me to love as
you first loved me.

Lord I am so grateful that you have granted me the desires of my heart and given me a husband
to love me as Christ first loved the church. I thank you to honor and glorify you through our
commitment to each other. Help us to Love one another and to grow closer in our love for each
other daily. As our bond of love is strengthened for each other continually renew our faith in
you Lord.

In Jesus name I give you thanks

Helping You to Recognize Wrong thinking:

Lie #2. I'd rather have a piece of a man than no man at all.

"Yes, Lord, Yet even the little dogs eat the crumbs which fall from the Masters table". The

woman of Canaan in Matthew chapter 15 cried out to Jesus to have mercy on her and to heal her

daughter whom was demon possessed. The bible describes her as being a gentile (worldly)

woman that was not in covenant (relationship of promise) with God. Reading the story Jesus

initially denies her request for this very reason. Jesus answers her saying "It's not good to take

the children's bread and throw it to the little dogs." But she is desperate to heal her daughter and

responds to Jesus saying "Yes, Lord, Yet even the little dogs eat the crumbs which fall from the

Master's table."

The crumbs which fall from the Master's table meaning that the Master's children receive the

Whole meal.

Know and understand your position in the Kingdom of God. You are a Kings kid! You are a

child of the Master! Don't settle for pieces or crumbs when you can have the whole meal.

Remember you believed God for a husband. You want a Whole Husband; a piece of a husband

would be useless. Think about what you are saying. What piece is going to go to work? What

piece is going to cut the grass? What happens when you don't get the piece that nurtures your

children? Your poor imaginary children grow up fatherless; while your piece of a husband is

sitting there the whole time.

You Deserve Better!

Helping You To Stay Encouraged:
Illuminate
Sister you are inwardly beautiful a precious pearl of high price.
The brilliance of your luster infused by the Almighty.
Your beauty defies your physical shape
Out of your belly flows living waters
Giving birth to life
For He that created you have completed you.
You are NOT characterized by
Who stayed or Who left
What THEY said you could or couldn’t be
Sister if you shove that debt into a box
Put it away beneath your bed
Will the debt not have to be paid instead
Sister come let us reason together
How long must you owe this deficit
Sister what more must it cost you
Who first established your worth
Was it not Him that created you
Be encouraged Sister
Sister you are WORTHY
Sister you are LOVEABLE
Sister you are Gifted
Sister be encouraged pull yourself up
by your own bra straps
The world awaits the
Revelation of YOUR gifts
Sister who shall a hidden light set free
Share YOUR light with us
That we maybe uplifted encouraged
Through the light the Lord has illuminated in YOU
Sister unstick the what ifs that stuck you
Illuminate us with the light of YOU
That we may live life more abundantly through YOU
Giving You The Keys to The Kingdom:
Kingdom Key: FORGIVENESS
“TO FORGIVE IS TO SET A PRISONER FREE AND DISCOVER THAT THE PRISONER WAS
YOU”
-Lewis B. Smedes-
The full meaning of the word „forgive‟:

 To grant as a favor  Joy

 In kindness  Break-up
 Pardon  Liberality
 Rescue  Destroy
 Deliver  To be cheerful
 Freely give  Dissolve
 Divine influence upon the heart  Calmly Happy
 Its reflection in the life  Loose
 To give vent to joyful emotions  Well-off
 Break(forth)  Melt
 Crack apart  Be well
 Separation  Put off
 Departure  Be glad
 Cessation  Break
 Completion  Joyfully
 Reversal  Relive
 To free fully  Release
 Let go  Dismiss
 Put away  Let die
 Set at Liberty  Lay aside

The Lord has called us to freedom if God sent His beloved Son into the world to set the captive

free what gives you the right to keep yourself enslaved to dead memories when the mess

happened it killed you what makes you think that it’s going to bring life to you now.

Let Go! Let God!

“IF THE SON SETS YOU FREE, YOU WILL BE FREE INDEED.”
JOHN8:36(NIV)

Until Then Be Blessed & Be a Blessing

 A Saint Louis,
Missouri native Latosha Long is a single mother to
her daughter NaTyla age 1. After numerous failed
attempts at love “Tosha” as she’s affectionately
called decided to learn what she didn’t know
about relationships. Tosha’s quests for love lead
her down a path of self discovery, healing, and
personal contentment. While she remains alone
she is no longer lonely in her singleness. A teacher
at heart she discovered a passion for writing
‘Tosha’ has written a detailed account of her
intimate journey in ‘The How to Guide for
Aspiring Brides’. To help other single women
identify the reasons why they; continue to date
the same wrong guy in different relationships. In a
no holds barred discussion ‘Tosha’ reveals the
culprits behind choosing the wrong men and bad
relationships. The book reads like an intimate
chat between girlfriends with a spiritual overtone.
‘Tosha’ tackles the wrong thinking and beliefs that
have caused years of emotional damage to single
women. Discover yourself in this interactive guide
and deal with the tough issues that your mother
should have told you about; but didn’t know how
to talk about.