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Paradoxically, in grief you have to go backward before you can go forward. Our
cultural misconception about moving forward in grief stems in part from the
concept of the “stages of grief,” popularized in 1969 by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s
landmark text, On Death and Dying. In this important book, Dr. Kubler-Ross lists
the five stages of grief that she saw terminally ill patients experience in the face of
their own impending deaths: denial; anger; bargaining; depression; and acceptance.
However, she never intended for her five stages to be interpreted as a rigid, linear
sequence to be followed by all mourners.
Grief is not a train track toward acceptance. Grief is not even two steps forward,
one step backward kind of journey it is often a one step forward, two steps in a
circle, one step backward process. It takes time, patience, and, yes, lots of backward
motion before forward motion predominates. [CITATION Jef11 \l 1033]
In my experience, remembering the past is the very thing that eventually makes
hoping for the future possible. Your life will open to renewed hope, love, and joy
only to the extent that you first embrace the past. Those who fail to go backward
before marching forward after a loss often find themselves stuck in the morass of
carried grief.
The person you are today is the sum total of all the experiences that have touched
your life. While your genetics also come into play, all the things that happen to you
and all the people you interact with shape you. And because time is linear, your
core is shaped in your earliest years in childhood.
Reflect on the past. The word “reflect” comes from the Latin words re, meaning
“back,” and flectere, meaning “to bend.” When someone reflect on the past, is
bend backward. They turn their gaze to that which is behind because it is not
actually behind them, it is still a part of them.
Carl Jung in Freud Letter Vol 2 The reason for evil in the world is that people are
not able to tell their stories.
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A narrative, story or tale is any account of a series of related events or experiences, whether
nonfictional (memoir, biography, news report, documentary, travelogue, etc.) or fictional (fairy
tale, fable, legend, thriller, novel, etc.). Narratives can be presented through a sequence of
written or spoken words, still or moving images, or any combination of these. The word derives
from the Latin verb narrate (to tell), which is derived from the adjective gnarus (knowing or
skilled). Along with argumentation, description, and exposition, narration, broadly defined, is
one of four rhetorical modes of discourse. More narrowly defined, it is the fiction-writing mode
in which the narrator communicates directly to the reader.
Oral storytelling is the earliest method for sharing narratives. [CITATION The \l 1033] During most
people's childhoods, narratives are used to guide them on proper behavior, cultural history,
formation of a communal identity and values, as especially studied in anthropology today among
traditional indigenous peoples. [CITATION Hod02 \l 1033]
Narrative is found in all forms of human creativity, art, and entertainment, including speech,
literature, theater, music and song, comics, journalism, film, television and video, video games,
radio, game-play, unstructured recreation and performance in general, as well as some painting,
sculpture, drawing, photography and other visual arts, as long as a sequence of events is
presented. Several art movements, such as modern art, refuse the narrative in favor of the
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