As salaamu alaikum wa rehmatullahi wa barkaatuhu.

A nice set of 60 points Alhamdulillah which would definitely help brothers to lo

ve their wife more InshaAllah. Sisters can share with their hubby. InshaAllah th
is would definitely help everyone to stay with peace.
1. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE
2. When you go home say 'Assalamualaikum. ' (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan ou
t of your home! 3. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) described the wife as a
fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that s fragile.Remember that
there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.
4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBL
IC as it s a type of slandering.
5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her AGGRESSIVE
6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.
7. AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa s
allam said if you are angry, sit down, if you re sitting, then lie down.Follow the
sunnah!
8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!
9. Don t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
(SAW means May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him (Muhammad).) said
'I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh
will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.
10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER.
11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al za
wai said 'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amo
ngst themselves'.
12. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said to call your wives with the best na
me, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam cal
led Aisha 'ya Aish' as an endearment.
13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one ou
t of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.
14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said the tongue wi
ll throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!
15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put
barakat in your marriage.
16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.
17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.
18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest. 19. In front of her relative pr
aise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person
in front of her family.
20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet sallallahu ala
ihi wa sallam said gifts increases love.
21. Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will
get rid of the rust and polish it!
22. Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of
people. Think good of your spouse.
23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small
mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It s like putting a hole in your memory.
Don t save it in your memory! 24. Increase the drops of patience, especially when
she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.
25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha (ra) used to get jealous.
26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after you
r children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength i
s your strength, and her success is your success. 27. Don't put your friends abo
ve your wife. 28. Help your wife at home. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam us
ed to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his
own clothes.
29. Help her respect your parents, you can t force her to love them,but she can be
helped to gradually love them.
30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife. 31. Remember your wife in your duaas.
It will increase the love and protect it.
32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It s not your business.
The past is for Allah (swt).
33. Don't try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, li
ke buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenanc
e, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It s also a way of being humble an
d thankful to Allah (swt)
34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are ta
lking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he
is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see h
im as an enemy as Allah has commanded.Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday
and sits in his office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have
made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i
have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the
best job.
35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam t
aught us this. It s a blessing. The food doesn t just go to her stomach, but straigh
t to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you. 36. Protect your wi
fe from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that
needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shaitaan.
37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT S A CHARITY. 38. Small problems/ c
hallenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn't like a
nd you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don t ignore
them as it can become big. 39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said
of prophet (saw) 'if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have lef
t you.' It confirms prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was not harsh hearted, s
o GET RID OF IT.
40. Respect her thinking. It s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and su
ggestions.
41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success withi
n as her success is your success.
42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet sallallahu ala
ihi wa sallam said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tend
erly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that
feeling.
43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear l
ess of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, es
pecially in the sight of Allah (swt). 44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet
talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the t
ongue.
45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her. 46. Let her know you are
travelling. Don't tell her out of the blue as it s against Islam. Tell her the dat
e/ time of when you are coming back also.
47. Don't leave the house as soon as trouble brews. 48. The house has privacy an
d secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you
are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays ho
me. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and
pick and choose.
49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together
. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good
deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc. 50. Know
her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in
your conscious.
51. Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives in kindness.' Treat them with kindnes
s and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness a
nd fairness. 52. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam showed that at the time of
intimacy. Don t jump on your wife like an animal!
53. When you have a dispute with your wife don t tell everyone. It s like leaving yo
ur wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes w
ith. 54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife
is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.
55. Don t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcom
ings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was proph
et sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Get rid of this disease. 56. Share your problems,
your happiness, and your sadness with her.
57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is
the fragile vessel. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that your wife is a
trust in your hand. 58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in ti
mes of hardship.
59. Accept her as she is. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that women ar
e created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will brea
k her (divorce). Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that you may dislike o
ne habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.
60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intentio
n and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He cre
ated for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and
He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for
a people who reflect.