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Opening 2.0 - Transcript

Hey! What's up guys! Welcome to the First Edition of Sinn's Inner Circle. Today we are
going to be talking about Opening.

One of the things that is going to be different about this interview series is that we're
going to be redoing all of the old interview series I did but putting Version 2.0 on them,
because we need to upgrade from where they were when they were recorded. Like the
opening CD was recorded in 2005/2006, and where we are today as the face of dating
science has kind of changed. So we are going to start doing that this month. Every month,
I'm going to be coming at you guys with a new, at least hour-full of content, you'll learn
things, you'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll get to listen to me talk. It's a good deal for both of
us.

So today I want to talk about Reexamining the Opening Phase. The Opening Phase is
the phase where you begin a conversation with a new girl or a new group of strangers.
Maybe there are guys there, maybe it's all girls. It doesn't really matter. You can open
during the day, you can open at night, you can open in a strip club, you can open on the
street. You can open anywhere, and there are different openers for different situations but
one of the things you will find is that almost all openers will fall into one of about five
categories, and on this CD we're going to be giving you guys 25 separate openers that you
guys can go out and use tonight. I wanted to be very, very practical with everything that I
do. I don't want to sit here and give you guys two hours of theory on why an opener
should work evolutionarily, or why Hollywood would say this is a good opener. I don't
care about that stuff. Instead, I care about making sure that you guys are ready to start
meeting women, because meeting women in the real world is what this is all about. If you
can't start a conversation because you don't know what to think of, listen to this CD.
You'll have twenty-five different ways to start a conversation. So don't worry about that.

All of this are going to be things that I have tested. I'm a big believer in field-testing
material. I don't like the word field-testing, I like to think about it as performing
experiments, but everything that I've done on this CD has been tested by myself and guys
I've taught in real-world situations starting conversations with women. If any of these
openers are not working for you, there is something that you are doing wrong, and it could
be body language, it could tonality, it could be your facial expressions, it could be your
fashion. It could be a myriad of things, that's one of the reasons live instructions are so
important, and that's what we do in our Boot Camps and stuff like that. But if they're not
working, it is something that you've done because I have personally used every one of
these openers to go from meeting a girl to beginning a sexual relationship. So they all
definitely work; this is my secret stash, I'm literally emptying out my bag of tricks and
tactics and openers for you guys today. So I'm going to have no more new material that I
can use that students won't be using across the world. That's how much I care, so I'm
ready to do that for you guys.

But before I do, I want to talk to you guys real quick about some theory behind opening.
In my opinion, opening is both the most important and the least important phase, and I say
that because it's the most important in that you have to open. If all you do for the rest of
your life is rely on women to start conversations with you, your life will be very, very,
very lonely and sad and you'll masturbate a lot using your tears for lube. It's not a good
situation and I don't want that for you guys.

So most of the time, as a man and we have to grab our balls and we have to make the first
approach and we have to start a conversation; so how do you start a conversation, what do
you need to accomplish, what is the goal of opening? We'll get to all of those questions
and many, many more very soon. But first, I want to examine the second part of what I
was talking about before which is why it's the least important part of any social
interaction; and the reason it is the least important part is because often times girls will not
remember what you open them with 10 minutes later. It doesn't matter, it's a social
pretext, it's just an icebreaker; it's a way to start a conversation. The more clever it is, the
better it works, but you don't need any excuse to start just saying "Hi" to women. You
don't need to be afraid of that, you don't need to worry that they're going reject you, that
anyone is going to be real mean to you. If you're having approach anxiety, the first thing
you should do, is just get up, go out to a mall or a heavily-trafficked area if you live in a
city like New York go anywhere. If you live in a city like Miami, go down to Lincoln
Road. If you live L.A. go down to Venice Beach or something. In Vegas, just walk
around. Go somewhere where there is going to be a lot of people, and just walk around
and make eye contact and say Hi to girls you are attracted to. You don't need to do it to
everybody just the girls you're attracted to, and if one of them stops and tries to have a
conversation, try to keep it going, but you don't need a crazy opener.

One of the things I teach and that I really, really believe in is the idea of fundamental
social skills. You should be able to just start talking by making an observation, or by
sharing something that was on your mind, and once you really tighten your conversational
abilities and your basic social skills you will be able to do all of that stuff. But in the
beginning, especially with guys who have a lot of anxiety, it helps to have something kind
of ready. Now when I teach opening, I remind guys that they should not just use one
opener. In the beginning for the first few weeks, if this is your first time ever doing
approaches, then stick to one opener. Stick to one opener for the first six weeks you're
doing approaches just because it's less to worry about, you start to learn the contingencies
of it, you get comfortable with it, and then you're better with it and you kind of can move
from there.

But if you've been in this six weeks to two years, you'll want to kind of vary your openers
so you don't get bored of them. I personally like to have between 3 and 5 openers that I
use on a regular basis. So these range from things that are direct to things that are
physical, to things that are just funny to me at the moment; and we will get into all the
categories of openers later; but what I want you guys to do is, if you're really new, pick
one, use that one every time. If you're a little more intermediate and a little more
advanced then pick three, or four, or five openers and alternate them, and make sure that
they're of different categories, because we're going to get into all the categories of
openers and all the ways that you can open, and it's really important, that you guys
definitely understand how to differentiate openers and what openers are appropriate and in
what situations.

Now, the first thing I want to talk about when it comes to opening is what the goal of
opening is. The goal of opening is very simple, it's to start a conversation and establish
social comfort, right? Social comfort is one of the main tenents of my method of meeting
women, if you want to call it a method, it's really kind of a collaboration of a lot of
different things that I've cobbled together over the years from training with kind of the
best guys in the world, and learning from the best teachers, and hanging out with guys
who're naturally good with women. But the first step is always social comfort. You see, in
Classical Mystery Method, Mystery says, "Attraction comes before comfort, comes before
seduction;" and a lot of the time it's probably true. Like probably 60% of the interactions
you're going to have with women, attraction will have to cap in before comfort; but what
about those 40%? Of those other 40% sometimes seduction happens, sometimes comfort
happens, sometimes a million different things happen, and the law of attraction usually
predates comfort, in starting a conversation comfort actually predates attraction. You see,
the old linear idea of a linear way to meet women, going through 13 steps, or 22 steps, or
9 steps, 4 steps, 5 steps, is kind of gone by the wayside recently, when people realize that
most people are not that robotic and most women are not that difficult to pick up.

So a linear structure really doesn't take into account a lot of real life situations, such as
10-minute lays, things that happen to me on a pretty regular basis. Such as things like
physical attraction, if a girl's physically attracted to you things are going much better.
Where does that fit into the linear model? You've already gotten attraction, but if you
haven't gotten attraction yet through your signals, how are you supposed to know? So I
realize game was cyclical. A couple years ago when I realized that qualification, comfort
and seduction all kind of mingled into this flowing cyclical process, and we're going to
talk a lot about that and how all that thing works with the entire idea of seduction in later
issues of this interview series, but today, I just want to talk to you guys about the idea that
comfort is what you're trying to establish on the opener, you're not trying to establish
attraction necessarily. Now can you establish attraction? Absolutely, and I'll teach you
how to do that today as well.

But the idea is social comfort. Now why is social comfort so important, and why does it
come before attraction? Well, the first person who introduced me to the idea that comfort
had to come before attraction is a guy named AFC Adam, a friend of mine who teaches
with the company over in London, and in the overall idea of pick up, I looked at that and I
thought that's really interesting, and I looked at all the pick up lines and the tactics and the
techniques, because we know why we think they work, but a lot of the time you'll have to
remember that dating science is only about 10 years old so maybe a lot of the
presuppositions and a lot of the ideas on which we based our original body of knowledge
are not correct, or were never correct to begin with. So we want to make sure that we
know what we know for a reason. So I looked at Opinion Openers, right. Do opinion
openers build attraction? No, they're neutral. In fact one of the main points of an opinion
opener is that you don't care who you're talking to, you really just need an opinion, so
those attraction, then you look at openers like Mystery's "Have you guys seen the fight
outside?" opener, does that build attraction? Not really, no; again it's just a neutral way to
break the ice, so you look at all of these things, all these ways people were opening for
years, and years and years and none of it was building attraction, so are we really starting
an attraction, or does attraction come after a separate phase?

It all really hammered home for me when I started thinking about what comfort is,
because comfort is really just an absence of discomfort. It's an absence of the feeling
telling you, you shouldn't be doing this, because a lot of humans, evolutionarily, we have
these impulses and these drives to get away from social awkwardness or from things that
are uncomfortable, and so if you don't have that drive to kind of escape you're basically
comfortable. Bored is often comfortable, so I started thinking like, can you be attracted to
something that's not comfortable, and I thought about it like this, and I want everyone to
think about this if you're really having a problem with the idea of comfort before
attraction. Imagine that you're walking down the streets of New York City, and you're
walking down and you see down this alleyway, this shady druggy looking alleyway, there
is a girl who's dressed like a stripper. She's wearing like sparkly pants, she's basically just
decked out, and she's about halfway down alley, kind of concealed in shadows, you can't
really see all of her, but you see bits of her, and she's like. "Hey come down this alley, I
need directions. I need directions to somewhere, come down here and give me directions."
Are you going down that alley? If you're most people, you're not, and the reason is, even
though you're attracted to her, your overwhelming sense of self-preservation is stronger.
It's the same reason that you could have the best opener in the world but if you go out
brandishing a knife, people are not going to open, even if you walk up and you open over
the shoulder. If you're holding a knife in your hand; or if you're smeared with blood
people are not going to open.

So the overall idea of opening; is to open and get people comfortable with the idea of
having a conversation with you. That's it, that's all we're trying to do. Nothing fancy,
we're not trying to build attraction, we're not trying to give them our life story, we're not
to use like any Jedi Mind Tricks, or Ninja Framing or anything like that, all we're trying
to do is get them open to the idea of having a conversation with us. I'm going to talk all
about how to do that and I'm going to give you 25 examples of ways to open while we do
this. Another real quick thing I want to talk about while we're talking about social
comfort; is the idea of day game versus night game. So during the day you're going to be
a lot more turned down, you're going to use about 30% of the energy level you will
normally use, but in daytime, because people aren't in a social mode, to establish social
comfort you're going to use what's called a Pre-opener. So any of these openers that you
would use besides the direct ones, anything like a high-value opener, an opinion opener, a
low-investment opener that you're going to hear later on.
If you're going to use them during the day use a pre-opener first, and a pre-opener is just a
normal, social question like, "Hey, do you know where the bank is around her?" Or, "Do
you know where I can find a cup of coffee?" Or, "Do you know what time it is?" Just
something to get her in social mode, because there's a big difference between a girl in a
bar or a club where she's expecting to meet people and socialize and talk to her friends,
and a girl who's out on the street who's kind of in her own world doing her own thing. So
if you're going to use those three types of openers:
• high-value
• opinion, or
• low-investment
Make sure that you first use a pre-opener just to get her attention and into a social mode if
you're doing a daytime pickup.

Alright! Let's talk about a couple other things before we actually get into the 25 openers
that I want to teach you guys. The first thing I want to talk about is the idea of being loud.
You have to be loud; in fact, you have to be so loud that it is socially awkward for the
people to ignore you. There is a couple different things for being loud, the first thing is the
idea of vocal projection. Vocal project just means that you're projecting your voice from
your diaphragm not from you throat or your chest. If you speak from your throat or your
chest and you just go out and scream you will use your voice a lot, but you will get a
louder voice. Ultimately though, you don't want to be losing your voice all the time and
all hoarse, like I went through that for boot camp after boot camp after boot camp.

So instead what we want to do is we want to make sure that we're speaking from our
chest, diaphragm. If you need to find your diaphragm take a minute right now, take your
middle finger and your pointer finger and find the notch in your ribs, then take a big deep
breath and breathe until your body forces you to stop breathing, and keep exhaling until
your body forces to breathe, it will happen, and you'll feel a muscular contraction. That
muscular contraction is something known as your diaphragm, so we always want to make
sure that that's where we're speaking from. So you kind of locate it in your chest, and then
the second thing with over-projection after using diaphragm and speaking chest first is,
you want to make sure that you're using your exhale. The power for your voice comes
from your breath, so if you speak on the exhale you will have a lot more power and be a
lot louder.

The last thing I want to say with speaking loudly is aiming your voice. If you want to talk
to someone you want to aim one person behind them. So if I'm speaking to a group of 3
people I'm going to aim my voice at the person who's furthest away from me because I
know that if it carries towards that person, it will be loud enough for the other two to hear
without any problems, or anything like that. So make sure that you're speaking from the
diaphragm using the power of your air and your breathing, and making sure that you're
aiming your voice farther through, much like you punch through a board in karate. You
want to aim your voice through the group.

The next thing is when you approach you have to smile, you have to, have to, have to
smile. Being like suave and like and sexy and playerish it just really doesn't work; smile,
look like you're having fun. The way I think about it is like you've got a blow job in the
bathroom. Like you're walking around and you just had the best time in the world,
nothing can bring you down. You're enthusiastic, you're bringing the party, you're having
your own fun, you're not worried about other people's outcome or judgments, you feel
like everyone accepts you, you're having the time of your life and you don't worry about
whether or not this set is going to go well, or it's going to go badly, because no matter
what you're having a great time, nothing can ruin this night for you. Big, big smile; real
fun; if you're one of the people that doesn't smile, get the bullshit idea, like smiling makes
you low-value, out of your head and plaster a smile on your face the entire you're in a bar
or a club. It will work better tactically and you'll also feel better because it will buy
feedback and you'll start to feel in a much better state.

The last thing I want to briefly touch on is Body Language. Body language is one of the
most misunderstood myths, over studied things in dating science. There is no such thing
as Super-Alpha body language. There is no such thing as perfect body language. Good
body language is just relaxed and controlled. Slow movement, not moving too fast, not in
a hurry, just nice and slow, not afraid to take up space but not actively trying to take up
too much space. Lengthening and straightening is huge when it comes to body language,
you want to make sure that your body is completely lengthened, completely straightened.
Your shoulders should be back, your arms should be swinging. You don't want to cany
any tension in your shoulders. You also should make sure that your head is straight. A lot
of people bend their heads down or forward, don't do that. You also want to make sure
you're leaned back and that your weight is evenly distributed. One of the biggest things
I've seen from teaching 158 boot camps at this point, is that if you don't keep your feet
shoulder-distance apart, you're going to lose your balance if you're opening in a crowded
place because people are going to bump into you, and if people keep bumping into you, it
looks like you're trying too hard to stay and talk to these girls, because you're getting like,
bumped into. But if you simply shift your feet a little bit further out and you keep your
shoulders above your feet, you'll actually have no problems getting bumped and you'll
also come off a lot more confident.

Another thing a lot of guys tend to do is, they tend to shift from foot to foot, almost like
they have to pee, and they don't notice it, so if you just keep your feet further apart it's
harder to do those shifting, nervous motions that convey that you have a lot of nervous
energy. Also, make sure that you don't move your hands too much. Hands movements can
be cool, but if you do it too much, it starts to interrupt the noise to signal ratio. We always
want the signal to be what people are getting to be what we're saying verbally. Body
language is just there to not complicate that. You don't need your body language to be
sending any crazy message or anything like that, you just need it to send a clear confident
picture that you are what you say you are, and that what you're doing is what you think is
working, etc. etc. The more relaxed, the better, don't worry about this too much, don't
lean in, keep your arms in your back pockets if you have to, you can tuck your thumbs in
your back pocket. You can also cross your arms at the wrist and grab them behind your
back, you can also pinch your middle finger and your thumb together and hold them down
at your sides; and if you really, really need to you can clasp them together in front of you
like a priest kind of and just keep them low. But if you are going to do hand movements or
anything like that, be aware to keep them out of the girls' faces because guys are a little
bit taller than women and so if you're getting your hands all up in a girl's face it's not the
most comfortable situation for her, and it's something that eventually she'll want to get
out of even if she likes you.

So those are some basic primaries on opening, social comfort, what we're trying to
establish why it's important, etc. Now let's get into some actual practical types of openers,
things that you can go out and do today or tonight that will get you into conversations
with women.

The first type of opener that I want to talk about is the Direct Opener; and a direct opener
is important because it does two separate things, the first thing it does, it lets the girl know
that you're interested in her in a man-woman way. Direct openers are great because they
cut through a lot of the bullshit. You don't have to worry about going through all of these
different stages, in pretending to be uninterested and then being won over, instead you're
interested and you're confidently displaying that you're the type of guy who is totally
okay to meet girls and that she's attractive and that you're expecting her to be attracted to
you.

One of the things that determines whether a direct opener is going to work or not is your
overall level of confidence and belief in yourself. If you walk over and you run a direct
opener and you don't think that you can actually get the girl, you're going to have a lot of
problems. You have to walk over with 100% certainty that this girl would be interested in
you just because you're you. You'll also then have to deal with flinch because the girls are
going to test you to see if that's actually true. If you actually are as confident as you're
pretending to be. So you have to smile and act like everything is completely normal even
when they're giving you shit after a direct opener.

The second thing to keep in mind is that you want to make sure that you keep eye contact
as you approach, especially if they're testing you. If they're giving you congruence test, so
they're like, "You say this to all the girls." Which is another thing that can happen with
direct openers; then you have to be prepared for that and you have to be able to handle
that. We'll talk about handling congruence test further on down, but the big main thing
there is: don't disagree, and make it funny. So the girl's like, "Yeah, you do this to every
girl;" I'll be like, "Yeah, you're the first one of the night but I'm sure, you know, I'll get
to 20 or 30 in here." Or like, "Yeah, I do but I really mean it with you."

So let me give you five of my favorite direct openers. The first direct opener I'm going to
give you is what's known as an Introduction Opener. It's something that works really,
really well during the daytime, and I'll give you a couple different tweaks to use it during
the day and at night. So first, let's talk about using it in the daytime. This is an opener that
you can use on girls who are walking around during the day or any situation where you
have less than five minutes to try and get a girl's phone number. This opener is great for
daytime. I'll show you how to alter it for nighttime, but daytime is where it's really the
most powerful. It really is the best way to meet girls during the day in my opinion. It's
very quick, it forces the girl into an instant yes or no decision and it's very flattering and
allows you to do a lot of things. So I'll go, "Hey, I know this really random but I noticed
you from across the park," or subway, or wherever I am, "...and I knew if I didn't come
over here and meet you and see if there's more to you than meets the eye, that I'd be
kicking myself for the rest of the day—I'm..." and your name here.

So that's awesome for daytime, moving girls, girls in an elevator, or anything like that
really quickly, it takes a lot of balls but gets a really good response. So let's go through
that one more time; and that's, "Hey, I know this is really random," the really random part
is really important because it's pacing. She's not normally having guys approach her,
especially this directly during her workday So "Hey, I know it's really random, but I
noticed you from across from (wherever you are), and I knew that if I didn't come over
here and meet you and see if there's more to you than meets the eye that I'd be kicking
myself for it for the rest of the day, I'm..." and your name there. So that's great during the
day, now how can we use that at night?

At night, that's a little intense, you don't want to be that serious, and you don't want to be
that romantic at night, because nighttime is a little more playful situation, girls are there to
flirt, they're there to drink; they're there to not get swept off their feet. So at nighttime that
introduction opener, just change it a little bit. I'll just change it to, "Hey! What's up? You
guys looked cool and I had to come over here and meet you, I'm..." and you introduce
yourself, and that's basically it. Now with an introduction opener, you're going to want to
get the girls to introduce themselves right away. So if they're like kind of lagging or
they're laughing or they're like giving you any kind of congruence test, just go "And you
guys are?" Or, "And you are?" That will prompt them to introduce themselves.

Number 4—favorite direct opener: This one comes from a friend of mine who works for
W-Dating named Craig; and this is the Are You Shy Opener. This one is great for a bar
or a club. It's really cool anywhere though. So it's great if the girls are behind you, you
can also just walk up to them and do that though. You just go, "Hey! Are you shy?
Because I've been standing here for like five minutes and you haven't like grab my ass,
you haven't bought me a drink, you haven't asked me what my sign is, what's going on;
You guys must be shy?" Great opener, funny, still direct because you're still directly
approaching them and you're conveying interest. It's just a sub-textural interest; you're
flirting with them openly but it's not coming out and being like, "Hey! You're super hot,"
which is not a good direct opener. You 're hot is not a good direct opener, you 're sexy, is
not a good direct opener, / want to fuck you, is not a good direct opener, can I buy you a
drink is not a good direct opener, do you want to dance; is not a good direct opener. So:
"Hey! Are you guys shy? Because I've been standing here for like 5 minutes and you
haven't bought me a drink, you haven't grabbed my ass, you haven't asked me what me
what my sign is, what's going here? You guys must be shy."

Number 3 favorite direct opener: This is one of my brand new ones, so I just got it hot off
the press, it works really well, especially right now, especially with younger girls. I call
this my Facebook Opener. So you walk up to a group of girls or by herself, and you go,
"Hi! You looked really interesting and I wanted to come over here and meet you. You can
consider this like a real life Facebook friend request. So you guys want to be my friend?"
It's funny, it's charming, it's cutesy, it's witty; it's a lot of good things all at once. It's
culturally relevant especially with younger girls, and it's just kind of cute. So let's go
through that one more time. You go, "Hey! You looked interesting and I wanted to come
over here and say hi, you can consider this like a real life Facebook friend request, do you
want to be my friend?"

Number 2; my second favorite direct opener of all time; this one actually came up with by
my buddy Future, who used to work for Love Systems, with me, and I've modified it a
little bit so I'll say it's mine, and his. So you go, "Hey guys! I'm really bored, my friends
are having a stupid discussion about day jobs, or IT, or whatever they're talking about;
and if you guys aren't really interesting I'm going to pound my head against the wall until
I black out." Or, "I'm going to take 20 shots until I black out." Or, "I'm going to go home
and kill myself." So: "Hey guys! My friends are having a really boring conversation about
their day jobs, so I really hope you guys are interesting, because if not I'm going to bang
my head against the wall until I pass out." That's probably my favorite of all times. It's
only second on the direct opener though because it's a little bit longer than this first one
which is really the easiest direct opener of all times, and it works really well.

The number 1—my favorite direct opener of all time, is; "You guys look cool, are you
friendly?" Or, "You look cool, are you friendly." Or, "You're cute, are you friendly." Or,
"That's a really, really nice purse, are you friendly?" Anything—are you friendly.
Because just the are you friendly prompts a conversation, you can use that in a
supermarket, you can use it in a mall, you can use it at the bar, you can use it anywhere,
anytime, which is what makes it my favorite direct opener. So there you go; five direct
openers.

Now the second type of opener I want to talk to you guys about is a High-Value,
Humorous Opener. These are openers that are really funny, and that actually can build
value and build attraction. Most of the time, these are going to come from a higher place.
It's obvious that you're fucking with them because only high-status people mess with
people. Think like the cool kids in high school picking on nerds, think like jocks hazing
each other, think like military hazing. Only people of higher status will kind of fuck with
and abuse lower-status people. It's not necessarily the coolest human trait but it does set
the rule and set the status, so if you go into an interaction with a girl or a group of girls
and you use an opener where you're kind fucking with her or teasing her, or them, and
they accept it, you've gained status, because only a high-status person would do that. Now
most of the times these are going to have to be funny, otherwise you're not going to get
away with it. You can't just walk up and be like, "What's up guys! It's time to fuck,
which one of you hoes wants to fuck me." Obviously, you know, if a girl was going to
commit to that she'd be giving you higher value but it's just not going to happen most of
the time.

So without further ado; my five (5) favorite High-Value Humorous Openers: Number 5:
Horse Girl: this is a Brad-P opener, I love this opener, it's great. It's kind of long and it
does get a very wide range of reactions especially the more together you are, like the
cooler you come off or the better looking you are, the problems you're going to have with
this opener, because you can come off like an asshole. So, here it goes, it goes, "Hey! Do
you like horses?" And they'll say, "Yes—No—What are you talking about?" If they say
yes or no you continue to the next part, if they say what are you talking about, then
obviously just repeat it. I like to repeat it in a retarded voice, like: "doo you like horses?"
or I may go, "Okay check this out, when I was in high school there was this really dorky
girl who used to have horses on everything, like horses on her notebook, horses on her
locker, she even used to run around at lunch and pretend to be a horse, and you look just
like her." Then at that point they'd either be like "No, I'm not the horse girl." Or they'll be
laughing or they'll be like, "Yeah, I'm her," and they'd play along. If they are like, "No,"
or they're playing along, you go, "Look! I wouldn't admit to it if it was me either, I just
wanted to come over here and tell you that I was really sorry for that time that we stuffed
hay in your locker and hope that you can forgive me, can you ever forgive me?" Then you
open your arms for a hug. The reason I like this opener so much, is that it's very high-risk,
very high-reward, as are all these humorous high-value openers.

Risk-reward is something that runs throughout the game, the more risks you take the
bigger reward you potentially can get. But you will sometimes fail on the risks, and horse
girl, sometimes the girls will get insulted, they'd go, "What are you saying, that I look like
a horse," or they'll get crazy with you sometimes, but it does work really well and when it
does work, it's an amazing opener; and you go straight to a hug. Great opener, Brad-P is
awesome, definitely check his stuff out.

Next one—This one came about with myself and the Don, this is the Trial Support
Opener. This one is kind of like an opinion opener, and when we get to opinion openers
you will see how it fits the opinion opener structure and everything. This one goes, "Hey
guys! I've a really, really important question; I have to figure out which one of my kids
I'm going to pay child support for, you see I have three kids from four different mothers,
and I can only afford to pay one of them, mostly because I like to go to the track, so I'm
not really sure who I'm gong to pay. I can't pay the first one because she's actually the
mother of the second one, and then my ex-wife is just kind of a cunt, so I'm not really sure
who I should pay. What do you guys thing? It really sucks because my bastard kids really
don't appreciate shit either." Again, very risky, very offensive to some people but if the
group gets that you're fucking with them and they think it's funny, you're really in with
this opener. So again the key here is selling that you're fucking with them and not that
you're actually this deadbeat loser dad. So let's go through that one more time. "Hey
guys! A really serious question; I've got like three kids from four different mothers, and
I'm not really sure which one of their child support I'm going to pay this month. I can
only afford to pay one, because I like to go to the track. So I'm not really sure who to pay.
My ex-wife, she's kind of a cunt, and the second one is actually the mother of the third
one, so I'm not really sure who to pay there; it could be a difficult situation, plus my
bastard kids really don't appreciate shit." Really funny opener when that one hits.

Next one—The Secretary Opener; this one came up with Savoy one night when we were
out trying to see who could be the more offensive and get kicked out of girl groups, him or
myself, ended up, neither of us got kicked out of any groups and we ended up meeting
girls and getting dates out of it. So you've also got the Secretary Opener. So you go, "Hey
guys! I've been fucking my secretary for like six months, and now she wants she wants a
raise, but I told her she has to wait a year, what do you guys think, should I give her a
raise?' and she'll be like, "What?" "Yeah" I mean like look, I'm the one who taught her
you have to give head to get ahead." "But she's like, "Daddy, no, I want a raise now," and
I'm like, "Bitch you wait six months. What do you guys think?" And they'd be shocked
and give an opinion, and you can then go, "Well would your opinion change if I told you
she was my sister? What about if I told you she was only 16? What if I told you she was in
a wheelchair? What if I told you she had polio?" And you can just keep going until they
get that it's a joke and that you're fucking with them.

The next one I want to talk about is the Didn't We Have Sex Last Week Opener. This
one, I know Brad-P has talked about it, I experimented with it when I was down in
Australia, just because I was frustrated one night and I actually did think I'd slept with this
girl, and it almost worked, and so it did eventually end up working. So basically you walk
up to a girl and you go, "Hey! Didn't we have sex last week, (or last night)?" Then you
make up any kind of scenario, the one that I always do, I go, "Look, no, you did, we were
on the beach, it was me you and that young Indian lass who ran away naked and you left
me like a tuft of your hair, and I've tucked it under my pillow for a whole week. I'm sorry
I didn't call you but I was off fighting pirates and scallywags..." Obviously I have a
pirates thing; but other versions I've heard are like, "Yeah, it was you and your sister, and
I meant to call you, you guys weren't bad at all, don't feel bad, (etc. etc.)" That one's
again high-risk high reward, if the girl thinks you're fucking with her and she thinks it's
funny, that's a good one.

The last one actually comes from my buddy Jeffy who works over at RSD (Real Social
Dynamics); and this one is the Douche Bag Opener; and this one is another of my
favorites. So you go up to the girl or a group of girls and you go, "Hey! Do you like
douche bags?" and they'd be like "Yes—no—I don't know—what are you talking about?"
and I'll go, "Because I am one, do you want to be my friend?" So like, "Hey! Do you like
douche bags, because I am one. Do you want to be my friend?" Great opener.

So those are high value, high risk, high reward openers. Those are the ones to use if you
kind of plateaued and you're bored with opinion openers and you want to try to do things
to build attraction right away, start experimenting with those direct openers. Direct
openers also can build attraction right away through just confidence. These build
attraction right away through balls and outrageousness.

So the next type of opener I want to talk about is the Community Classic, The Opinion
Opener. Probably the most talked-about technique in the entire community. Basically
opinion openers are great because they're low-risk and they have no effect on your closing
percentage. Like, if you think about an opener that has like high opening percentage, low
closing percentage, it's something like, "Hey! Do you have the time?" You think about an
opener that has high closing percentage, low opening percentage, it's like "Do you wanna
fuck?" Opinion openers have a really high opening percentage and there is no effect on
closing percentage because it's all based on what you do after the opener. So let's give
you guys some opinion openers; first I want to give you guys my opinion opener structure.
So the first thing with opinion openers is you have your hook questions. You always want
to start with Hey guys, or Hey what's up, or Hi, or settle something for me and my friends,
or Yow. Something commanding, not like: Hey excuse me, do you mind, I'm sorry to
bother you; or anything like that. So first thing with an opinion opener is you have your
hook question. So I'm going to give you guys five of my favorite opinion openers.

The first one that I'm going to give you guys is my Get Ready Opener. This is one of the
first openers that I ever invented in the community. You go, "Hey guys! How long does
take you guys to get ready for a night out?" Now the second part of the opener is their
illusionary input, you're going to need them to talk back, so they'll say, "I don't know, an
hour." or 15 minutes, 2 hours, 6 hours, 9 hours, whatever they say, it doesn't matter.
Opinion openers you don't want to get sucked into a conversation about your opener. You
just want to open and transition off of the opener as quickly as possible. So then you're
going to tease whatever their answer is. The cool thing about Opinion Openers is it gives
you a reason to tease the girl so it doesn't feel so non sequitur. You don't ever need a
reason to tease girls, but a lot of guys feel like they kind of need a reason to do it and so
they look for reasons to tease girls when it is emotional communication, not logical and
you don't need one.

So you tease their answer, "Oh my God, an hour?" Or, if you want to be really mean then
you go, "So that took an hour, yikes." With a big smile obviously; then you go okay, "So
check this out..." then you're going to try to root the opener, the rooting is just the story
that answers the imaginary question, of why are you telling us this. "So check this out: My
buddy Anthony, is 3 hours late, it's taking him 3 hours to get ready and the worst part is
he's a guy, and even worse than that is that he dresses all urban, so he's going to show up
here in a Fubu sweatshirt and a backwards baseball hat, I mean, how long does that take?"
Again, just a funny little story that grounds while you're asking and then you transition
out of the opener. So that's my Get Ready Opener, "Hey guys, how long does it take you
guys to get ready. Oh my God, that took an hour. Check this out I've been waiting 2 / ,
2

hours for my friend, and the worst part is he is a guy and he dresses really urban, so he's
going to show up here, in like a sweat suit and a hat," and like, "What am I supposed to do
about that?"

The next opener I want to give you guys is my Phone Break Ups Opener. Phone break
up opener goes like this: you go, "Hey! What's the appropriate way to get off the phone
with a girl you're kind of dating?" I like this opener because it's what I call a pre-selection
opener, because it lets the girls know that you're dating other people and that you're not
an exclusive dating person, and it also shows that you have girls in your life. So I go,
"Check this out, I just got off the phone with this girl that I'm dating, sort of, and she got
really mad at me because she said I got off the phone badly." I usually like to just say,
"Okay I'll talk to you later, and she said, no. You're supposed to say goodbye, wait for her
to say goodbye, and then say—that's right, a third goodbye." That's crazy, right? Then
they'd go like; yeah—no—whatever, transition. So, "Hey, how are you supposed to get off
the phone with a girl that you're kind of seeing? Check this out; this girl that I'm kind of
dating just got really mad at me because she said I got off the phone really badly, I like to
just say, I'll talk to you later. She said, you're supposed to say goodbye, wait for her to
say goodbye, and say, that's right—a third goodbye. That's crazy, right?"

Number 3: Drunk I Love Yous, this is one of my classic openers, this is just a real classic
opinion opener. You go, "Hey guys! Do you think drunk I love yous count? Yes—no-
whatever; and again always tease their answer. "So check this out, my buddy Dave..."
You always want to give a name to any story that happened about a friend, because
otherwise the girl's might think it's you, or ask if it's you; "My buddy Dave got really
drunk last night told his girlfriend that he loved her, she totally freaked out, so this
morning he tried to take it back, can you even do that?" "Hey guys, do you think drunk I
love yous count? My buddy Dave got really drunk last night and told his girlfriend that he
loved her, she didn't say it back and he totally freaked out. This morning he tried to take it
back. Can you even do that?"

Number 2: The Set Up Opener; this is a good opener for when you're out alone because
it explains why you're off meeting people. So you go, "Hey guys! How do you let
someone know that you're not interested without hurting their feelings?" Again, always
tease off the opener. You go, "Check this out, I was with some friends tonight and they're
trying to set me up with this girl and she's really pretty, I'm just not really into her, how
can I let her know without breaking her heart, I don't want to be mean to the girl, she's
just not really my type, you know." "Hey guys! How do you tell someone you're not
interested without hurting their feelings? So check this out, my friends and I were out
tonight and they've been trying to set me up with this girl for like two months, I finally
met her tonight, she's really pretty and all, she's not really my type, you know, so how do
I let her down without like hurting her feelings? Because I mean look at me, like who
wouldn't want to be with me." That's a little cockiness you can throw in if you think you
can pull it off. Don't throw in cockiness if you obviously are not, you know, like a suave
man, or if the girls aren't going to believe it, because it will just look lame.

The last opinion opener I'm going to give you guys is my 80s Song Opener; "Hey guys!
Do you know who sang that song Died in Your Arms Tonight?" And they'd start thinking,
and I'd be, "Okay look, check this out, it doesn't really even matter, it's actually Cutting
Crew, but me and my friend, we had this bet and so, I told him I was going to ask you
guys, so just point over to my friend and say, Cutting Crew, and I'll get my free drink,
cool?" They'll either agree or they won't agree, or they'll be like, "Oh, I don't know, I
can't help you." If they're giving you a hard time, and they're like, "No I don't want to
speak to you," "Just help me out." This is a great opener for guys in the set as well, you
say, "Help me out," then point towards your friends, or if you're out alone point towards
another group, "Cutting Crew." "Okay cool. Let me just stay over here and talk to you
guys like for a minute, so that nobody suspects that I just faked them out; then I'll go get
my free drink. So where are you guys from?" The reason I love this opener is that it
creates a conspiracy between you and them. It's not really an opinion opener, but it kind
of falls into the overall structure. I didn't really know where else to put it and it's probably
my favorite opener of all time for mixed sets at least because it's just really easy, like it's
fun, it seems like a bar bet. Bar bets are another way to open, you know.
So again, "Hey guys! You guys know who sings that song Died in Your Arms Tonight?
Okay, you know what, it doesn't really matter, this is just for a bet that I have with my
friend so just look over there and say Cutting Crew, alright, now I've got to stay and talk
to you guys so it doesn't look like a set up, for a second. You guys are awesome, where
are you guys from?" Or any other question or transition.

The next type of opener I want to talk about, is the Low Investment Opener. Low
investment openers are good because they don't require a whole lot of investment from
the girl, they're not as long as opinion openers, they're not as much of a come on as a
direct opener. They're not as shocking as high-value openers, these are just really easy
openers that you can use. So the first one, I'll teach you guys is one that me and Captain
Jack came up with called The Nose Ring Opener. So the nose ring opener goes like this.
The girl has a nose ring and you go, "Hey! Is your nose ring real?' and they'll be like,
"Yes, (or no)" and you go, "Look check this out, I was just talking to this girl and I made
her laugh and her nose ring fell out, it was fake, and then she looked at me at she was like,
can you help me get that? And it was like, "I do not know you well enough for that, not
yet?" Then they'll laugh. Now if they're interested and they want to keep the conversation
going they can contribute and say something, otherwise they can just walk off. These are
really like openers that bait women to keep talking to you.

So let's go over that one, one more time; "Hey! Is that nose ring real? I was talking to this
girl earlier and I made her laugh and her nose ring actually fell out, and then she wanted
me to like help her look for it on the floor, and I was like, it is too early in our relationship
for me to be looking snot with you."

Next one: is the Rings on Fingers Opener. This is a great one for daytime, and you can
also use it in a bar. You see a girl with a ring on her finger, you just go, "Hey you picked a
really interesting finger to wear your ring on; did you choose that?" And sometimes it will
hook here, and they'll be like, "Yeah, I did." And I'm like, "Cool." They say the fingers
you wear your rings on are like a psychological statement about yourself. If she goes,
"No;" you'd be like, "Ah! That's a shame, they say the fingers you wear your rings on are
like a psychological statement about yourself and that's an interesting one." At that point
they should be like, "What is it?" And you go "Well, the Greeks believe that every finger
is like a different Greek god or goddess and the one you pick, it's like the one you
psychologically identify with. So that one actually has a double meaning, it's Athena who
is like the goddess of wisdom, and it's also Dionysus which is the god of wine and chaos.
So if you believe in such things then there is a part of you that's really together and with
it, and there's another part of you that's like whew\ That's just a little cold read; and girls
who respond to that always agree and then you can give them permission to keep wearing
that ring on that finger. That's another really good one.

So "Hey, did you pick the finger you wear your ring on? They say the fingers that you
wear your rings on are like a psychological statement about yourself, that's an interesting
one; well the Greeks believe that every finger is like a different Greek god or goddess, and
the one you pick is like the one you psychologically identify with. That one is real
interesting because it's got a double meaning, It's Athena who is like the goddess of
wisdom, and it's also the Dionysus who is like the god of wine and chaos. So if you
believe in such things, there's a part of you that's really together and with it, and there's
another part of you that's like whew\ I love that opener.

Next is my You are Very Opener; so this one started off as a Mystery opener where he
would go, "You're very little, you know, my mom when she used to point out girls that
were really short, she'd go, she'll be perfect for you, and I always used to date just really
tall girls to make her mad; and so now until this day my mom will point out short women
for me, and I always date really tall girls, so like I brought my last girlfriend to meet my
mom, and my last girlfriend was like 6 ' 1 " and she looked at my mom and my mom
looked at her and she said, she's so tall, there is a generation of small women going
dateless because of you;" and that's great, that's a great opener. But you can do that about
anything, I'll do that with like clothing, I'd be like, "You're very red" or "You're very
tall," or "You're very cute," or "You're very anything-;' and then I'll just make up a little
story to go along with it. That's a great one, like you're very anything, and then a little
cutesy story is a great way of doing this observational thing. So play along with that, make
a list of things that you can say a girl is very. Obviously very fat doesn't work, or very
slutty doesn't work, you're very shiny, is one I've used before, and then I was like "You
are very shiny; I was attracted to the light like a moth to a flame, don't get any ideas
though, I'm not going to like follow you around, I might flick you though." That's a great
one.

The next one is my—I Point Out The Obvious one, so here is where I will point out the
most obvious feature on a girl, and then say it, sometimes I'll go like, "You're very tall,"
and I wont run the full version of that opener which I just ran last time, and they'll be like
"Thanks." "I point out the obvious; it's kind of my thing." Probably like, "You have a vest
on. I point out the obvious; it's kind of my thing." Or "You have a shiny necklace—I
point out the obvious, it's kind of my thing." Or, "You're blond—I point out the obvious,
it's kind of my thing." That's a great one, it's fun, it's cutesy, depending on the reaction
you get you'll either get a conversation going or you won't if they're really not interested;
but another really good low-investment opener.
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The last one, is you're adorable is a really good low-investment opener because if the girl
is flattered by it she'll stop and talk to you; "You're adorable;" and then stand there. This
is especially good if you're in a crowded club and girls are walking by you, because if you
can get 30 seconds to a minute of conversation there you can spark something that you
can then continue later. So "You're adorable," is a very low investment opener if you just
say, you 're adorable and you tap the girls.

Now the last thing I want to talk about is physical openers. Physical openers are really,
really simple, they're just things that you do without verbally saying anything, it can start
a conversation. So the first physical opener that I have is a very use-at-your-own-risk one.
The only reason I include this one is that I actually do use this to open a fair amount. What
you do is you poke a girl on the stomach and you smile. So a girl's walking by and you
poke her in the stomach, not hard, not like in the groin area, around the belly button or up,
and then you just smile, and you look her in the eyes. Sometimes they'll poke you back,
sometimes they'll say hi, sometimes they'll be like what the hell are you doing;
sometimes they be why did you do that; but you will always get a reaction, if you get a
bad reaction, you can just try to turn it around, you know if she goes, "What the hell are
you poking me for?" I'd be like, "I like to poke people, it's kind of my thing, but don't
worry you can poke back I've got abs of steel." If they're like "Hi," I'll just start a normal
conversation, if they poke back then I'd poke them, then I'll try to tickle them and I'll just
try to escalate physically at that point and see how far I can go before I actually have to
talk.

The next one I want to talk about is the High Five. High fives are great. High fives you
can do them in a verbal or non-verbal way. Maybe both, the verbal way, I'll be like, you
guys are adorable, you get a high five." Or I'd be like, "You have an awesome shirt, you
get a high five." Or "You're cute, you get a high five." Or, "You're short, you get a high
five." Anything pointing out the obvious; you're shiny, high five. The non-verbal way is
to just like put a high five up as you're walking by, make eye contact and put your hand
up. Again high fives are a good thing for attraction. Any girl who like hooks her hand
around your hand, hooks her fingers around your fingers is attracted to you and wants you
to give her the penis, so be aware of that.

The next one is A Tap; I love this one because this one is really funny, it's like the
humorous high value opener of physical openers. It's basically what you do, is you just
tap the girl on the opposite shoulder and move to the other side. So I go, "What's
happening..." and you're behind her and tap her on the left shoulder and move right, and
then I'd tap her on the right shoulder and move left, and when she finally like notices, I'd
look her right in the eyes and wave; really funny. You can also use it as a way re-initiate
with girls later after you've been talking to them, it's great, and once they finally look at
you, I'd just look at them and be like: / can't believe that worked; or / can't believe that
worked again. I'd be like, it's Don Juan and Random Girl zero.

Next one I want to talk about is The Wave: waves are great ways to start conversations
too, they just say you're saying "Hi." They're great across the bar if a girl makes eye
contact with you, you can just wave and then go over there if she waves back, if she
doesn't wave back, you could be like, "I waved at you, what the hell." You can also do it;
when you are really close to a girl and it's just a nice way of acknowledging the tension, if
you're like making eye contact with the girl and you're really close to her, just wave. It's a
really good way to just break the ice because you can do it across subways, you can do it
across malls, you can do it anywhere, just wave at girls.

The last one I want to talk about is the idea of The Motion Over; the one finger like
beckoning them over. You'll be surprised how often that will work. If you can make eye
contact with a girl, and she's looking at you and you motion her over, what's going to
happen is, half of the time they're going to motion you to go over there, and now you've
got a really warm approach and the other half of the time they're going to walk over. You
have to make eye contact with the girls first, you can't just do this if they're not looking at
you, but if a girl's looking at you, you have a fifty-fifty chance of getting a conversation
started, by motioning them over. Don't be afraid to do it; don't feel like you need
something really great to say, I usually motion them over and just be like, "If you are
going to look at me like that you have to come say hi." Or, "You are way too cute to like
stand over there and not say hi to." Anything like that, you can even use any of the
openers that we've already talked about, except obviously an opinion opener. I guess you
could use horse girl, which is a high value, humorous opener. But any of the other ones
are fine.

So after the opener, you have to transition, and transitioning is the process of getting into a
normal conversation, because a lot of different ways to do this; in fact we're going to talk
about that on the next CD, but for right now I just want to get it into your heads the idea
that once your opener is done you have to take the reins of the conversation. Remember
you approach them, the burden of keeping the conversation fun and interesting is on you,
not on them. You cannot rely on them to keep the conversation going or keep it going in a
positive direction, so instead, you've got to be on that and doing 90% of the talking to
make sure that they're having a good time, they're entertained, they're interested in what
you're saying, they're laughing, they're getting emotionally stimulated, this, that and the
other. So that's actually going to be the subject of discussion next time. But for right now,
for this month listen to the CD, use these openers and then try to keep the conversation
going, even if you're asking boring questions.

In fact I'll give you guys one quick technique on transitioning out of an opener that is one
of my favorites from my personal stash, and that is questioning the statement. For
example, let's say you've just finished an opener, and you want to ask them where they're
from. Instead of asking them where they're from, flip it around and make it a statement;
and say, "You guys look like you're like East Coast girls." Or, "You guys have like a
West Cost vibe." Or, "I get it, you guys are from Idaho." Because questions are like
drawing money out of the bank, but you never know when you're going to overdraw, so
you want to avoid them as much as possible. Statements are better, plus you get the same
information. If they're from the East Coast, they'll be amazed that you were able to guess
that and would want to know how. If they're from somewhere else, they'll want to know
why you thought they were from the East Coast, and it gets the same thing, and you can
look for the same commonalities, and you can do all the same things you would've done
after you ask that question. So be aware of turning questions into statements and that's
your first way of transitioning off your opener. Next month we'll be back at you guys with
another CD on what to do after you open.

Until then, I am Sinn. Be sure to check out my blog at

www.sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com - that's—s-i-n-n-s; and make sure that you guys
have checked the Lay Report Book and the Game Acceleration Doctrine and we're going
to have a lot of new cool stuff for you guys in Sinn's Insider Series which will be coming
at you every month. So thank you guys for listening, and I'll talk to you guys next month.