Nora and Krisztian

Dear Andrea,
I would like to share with you and your readers our story which began on the int
ernet chat.
I am a 20 year-old girl from Miskolc who arrived in Georgia, USA on June 21, 200
0. On the 22nd I logged on to the Hungarian chat under the nick NoraBaBa. Noth
ing interesting happened for a while. I talked with the boys, the usual how old
are you? where are you writing from? stuff. A few minutes later a boy with the n
ick KrisztianFl sent me a personal greeting. I did not respond until he did for
the third time. That is from where our story begins - the unbelievable story of
Nora and Krisztian. We continued talking until 5 a.m.
We were getting acquainted, just talking and it was clear to both of us that we
had a lot in common. He sent me a photo of himself in an e-mail. When I saw it
I thought what a good looking boy and on top of that he is nice too. It was on
June 24 that he first called me. I was busy in the kitchen, cooking and hurryi
ng around. The phone rang. I liked his voice, it sounded warm and confident.
We talked a lot about things in general. We were both very happy for each other
to have connected in the big US of A.
Krisztian is 18 and lives in Florida with his mother, six hours away from me by
car. That is not a great distance here in the US.
Back home in Miskolc I had a very active life. My girlfriends and I were consta
ntly out partying and having fun. There was a different boy to dance with each
week-end but none of them meant anything to me it was just for the sake of a goo
d time. We were enjoying life. I fall in love very easily and love a good look
ing boy. I like it if a boy takes care of himself, his hands, and makes an effo
rt to look good. Before Krisztian I found fault with every boy. For me HE WAS
PERFECT.
We've called each other several times a day and after each conversation we felt
closer. I sent him a picture of me and when he received it he called me immedia
tely to tell me how much he liked it and that I was perfect for him. We were ha
ppy for each other. I told Krisztian many things perhaps even some that I shoul
d not have. As he listened to these things he became sad and somewhat shocked:
how could so many things happen to a girl of 20? After all of our conversation
s, whether on the phone or chat, we felt a stronger desire to finally meet. We
were planning and guessing what it would be like when we first lay eyes on each
other.
We've made plans for the big meeting - July 27. I was nervous throughout the 6
hour trip as my mind alternated between what if I don't even like him? and what if
he doesn't like me? Just what will our reactions be to each other? We've agreed
to met at a Texaco station in Altamonte Springs, Florida. I called Krisztian t
o let him know that we've arrived and he was there within 10 minutes. When he a
rrived I just stood and looked at him. I didn't know what would happen and coul
d not think of anything. He got out of the car and then I relaxed. It was the
same boy I fell in love with from the picture. He locked his car door and we st
arted out toward each other. We were smiling at each other, fixed at the eye an
d when we met we melted together in a kiss. Krisztian then met my brother and s
ister who insisted on coming with me or else they would not have allowed me to c
ome. After that I sat in the car with Krisztian and we headed to his house with
my siblings following us. In the car we were holding each others hand. It was
difficult to believe that the well known voice now, finally has a face and a bo
dy. It was unbelievable to both of us and I was reconciling the thoughts that I
've found such a treasure - a boy who feels about me the way I feel about him an
d we like each other. I've never felt such things before meeting Krisztian and
could not believe that I've found the boy of my dreams. I could have cried I wa
s so happy.
The day was beautiful, we kept caressing and kissing each other. We set out for
home around 6 p.m. and parting made both of us sad.
In August I went to visit him for a week. It was tremendous, everything was per
fect. We made each other happy and didn't care about anything. When time came
for me to leave we cried together and comforted each other. We never wanted to
be apart.
After I came back the problems began. We were constantly misunderstanding each
other's words and thoughts. Nothing seemed all right and yet we loved each othe
r. We were fighting on the chat and the phone about the simplest things. It wa
s only because we were both suffering from the loss of the other.
In September I will be going to N.J. to work and we will be further away from ea
ch other still.
The saying goes that love conquers all and I used to believe that too, but the end
for us was a terribly misunderstood sentence. We were perfect together, everyo
ne was jealous of our happiness and yet it was over. Unfortunately. We still l
ove each and miss each other terribly and continue to write e-mail but they are
no longer filled with loving words.
It is finished. Both of us will live with the knowledge that we've found and ye
t lost the person of our dreams.
Nora

Story Story 52
Finding a Partner on the Net?
Finding a partner on the net? Yes, it sounds great especially since you can wra
p yourself in anonymity. For a while anyway, at least until the first actual mee
ting, which can then be a really disillusioning experience. Just when everythin
g comes together, the writing style, proper use of grammar, then the voice on th
e telephone, the thoughtfulness. You actually believe that reality will be this
great.
Then you see him and suddenly wish you could disappear. Yieks! The way he dre
sses, the pot belly, he is balding. To be diplomatically brief he's not your typ
e. He didn't look like that on the photo! It's not fair, the photo he sent had
to be at least 15 years old! Forced conversation, uncomfortable, strained. Th
e only decent thing to do would be to say good-bye right here and now, but no.
Maybe tomorrow I will be bolder behind the monitor when I don't see his face, he
ar his voice.
Ouch! The next day he beats me to the punch with a letter in which he tells me,
sorry but things will not work. Sigh of relief! That was close. I respond te
lling him, it's OK, no hard feelings. So I continue to search on the net hopefu
l as the offering is abundant, just like a market.
From now on it will be an important factor that the photo be recent. This time
I won't rush it but correspond longer. It's interesting that without knowing wh
o is on the other end I entrust the person with my secrets and intimacies. Perh
aps I shouldn't but that's just me, I don't want to bore him with routine stuff.
The mail exchange becomes more frequent and I anticipate his responses with exci
tement. Then the tone of the letters takes on a more intimate style indeed the
topics become increasingly more exciting. By this time I feel as though I've kn
own this person for thousands of years and am willing to believe that I'm in lov
e. He confesses the same to me.
All right then, I ll venture out from behind the safety of my monitor. Let's see
each other face to face. The meeting came abruptly and in my excitement I had n
o idea what to think or feel. It felt as though my head was empty, but around m
y heart there was a slight but warm glow. A quick kiss that almost made me melt
in his arms. The next date followed quickly and was much smoother. It was als
o hot, passionate and beyond reason.
It was then that I really thought about it: dear God could this be possible? Co
uld we really have found each other, being mutually satisfied with each other?
I was really given this gift in my lifetime? And - continuing to trust in his
honesty he claims the same about me. This is so beautiful, I could cry from hap
piness.
And the changes began. My surroundings became aware of the fact that I was diff
erent, that I no longer hide behind my mousy gray facade, but that I'm happier a
nd more colorful and even dress better. I gave up smoking (this is significant,
even I never thought I could), I'm concerned about my looks and what's most imp
ortant: I'm HAPPY!!!
He can see the difference but says nothing. I, on the other hand, can't hide my
feelings and have to tell him!
It happened. Deadly quiet. Oh, no, where did I go wrong? Maybe I overwhelmed hi
m with my feelings too soon? He never said there were no limits, that anything
was possible. No, that this!
Something broke between us, the line clicked then it was busy. The number can't
be connected. I can't believe this, how could this happen? He could not have le
ft me without so much as an explanation? I can't survive that...!
I cried for five days, hiding from the eyes of the world. On the sixth day I co
uld not even cry anymore, my throat was in a spasm if I heard a telephone ring.
I was waiting, still waiting, hoping that it was just a misunderstanding. I wa
s suffering and could not even imagine how to go on. I've attempted to telephon
e him several times but before he could answer I hung up. I wrote several e-mai
ls but he did not respond. This is terrible, he discounts my feelings completel
y?!
Then once I did wait until he answered the telephone and by then there was no tu
rning back. I've put the question to him briefly: is it over? He was a bit su
rprised and couldn't understand where that came from. His voice was upset and e
xplained what he had gone through during the past few days. As he talked I bega
n to feel more and more embarrassed. My problem although it was not small vanis
hed compared to his. While he talked the clouds from around me have lifted as f
rom the sky of our relationship. I felt that I loved this man even more than I
thought I did. He means so much to me that I'm willing to fight for him. He di
ssolved my doubts and told me that I too was important to him and that there was
no problem between us.
I learned something very important from all of this: patience, patience. They
do say it is a virtue!
Erika

51
Met my Future Husband on the Internet
On July 21, 1999 I met my future husband on the internet. I had been recovering
from divorce and believed with all my heart that there had to be a soul mate ou
t there just for me. I've heard stories about people who met someone and "just
knew" that they were the one, but I never dreamed that I would actually get to e
xperience it.
That day I was surfing around. I decided on a whim to look through some persona
l ads. That was something I didn't normally do, but thought "what the heck". I
answered several ads that day, just for fun. One ad caught my attention. It sa
id "looking for good Christian woman". I thought that was nice because a lot of
the ads were looking for things that weren't so good.
I answered Jean's ad, and within an hour he had written back. We started chatti
ng and then he asked me for my phone number. Normally, I would have never given
that out so soon but something said to me that it was okay. He called and we t
alked for 5 hours straight. I knew that he was something special and I had to m
eet him.
He lived about 3 hours away, and the very next day I drove to his apartment. Th
is was something else that I wouldn't have done normally. We hit it off, and ha
ve been together ever since.
Jean & SherriHe has totally swept me off my feet and is truly my soul mate. We
are now married and are raising our children together. He has 2 boys and I have
2 boys and 1 daughter. This past September, we affirmed our love even more by
welcoming a precious baby girl into the world. Baby makes 6!!
Life is good. People often say that they would never meet someone off the inter
net. You do have to be careful, but it is possible to find exactly what you're
looking for. I'm thankful every day for answering that ad and taking a chance!!
Sherri Powell

Story 63
Long Distance Love
Hi, I am at work and was spending my lunch perusing your website regarding Onlin
e Love Stories.
I am a young woman 29 years old, single with two children, living in the United
States, and I have met a man from Germany online. We have spent many hours "tal
king", sharing photos of ourselves, our children, our friends and talked about e
verything under the sun. We have become very close, and have let down our respe
ctive walls with each other.
One evening, unknown to me, my friend fell ill while online, and was taken to th
e hospital having had heart failure at 37yrs old. I messaged him - with no resu
lt. His friends immediately got online to let me know what had happened, and af
ter asking them numerous times, they actually called me several times to tell me
what was going on. I guess I just needed to hear a real voice of someone who a
ctually knew him. I was online with them when the doctor was there with him, as
king the doctor questions for all of them, as well as for myself. Since then, I
have become close to most of them as well.
When he was well enough to be online when I could be, we again became closer and
closer. He will be here in the States in May, being able to spend some time her
e with me. He told me that it will be difficult to leave me, and then asked me,
if I and my children would go back to Germany with he and his son. I have serio
usly thought about it, but am a little afraid of what I would have to do to make
this happen. We are both getting negative opinions from family and friends, an
d are not sure of the steps to take in order to be together. I feel that if I h
ave found someone I would be happy with, my soul mate as some would say, I shoul
d pursue it. But at the same time have heard all the horror stories. I suppose
in writing to you, I am seeking some advice, or perhaps stories of those who hav
e been in this situation. I have read several of the stories on your site, and
it is a validation to myself that I am not absolutely insane.
It is truly possible to care for someone albeit online and long distance!
CeeJay

Story 76
He is the One with Whom I Want to Grow Old
Hi Andrea,
I met a man on the Internet last summer. We exchanged letters and telephone call
s for a little over a month, then decided to have a face to face meeting. I made
reservations for two rooms. That Friday I left work, and took a bus to the hote
l. My new friend was waiting in the lobby when I arrived. We greeted one another
, and began what turned out to be a two day marathon of great conversation minus
time out for sleep. We walked over to Costco for the hot dog special, then back
to the hotel where we drank tea and coffee in the restaurant.
The second time, his visited the city where I lived lasted six days including th
e Thanksgiving holiday in late November. We did some sightseeing. He visited my
place of employment and met my friends. After that, we decided to spend two week
s with my family during Christmas. I enjoyed the second and third visits even mo
re than I could have ever imagined.
One of my sons made a trip to meet my friend's adult children. They took him to
visit interesting places during his stay. Upon their return from that journey, I
made a trip to visit the city where my friend lived. I visited his place of emp
loyment, and met his coworkers, friends, and neighbors. Now it was my turn to me
et my friend's family. We had the airline tickets tucked away and ready to go. M
y family wanted accompany us for a two week visit with his parents, siblings, an
d friends.
A coworker asked me if I truly and passionately loved this man whom I was planni
ng to marry. I simply smiled in rely to this very personal question. In retrospe
ct, I realized that I firmly believed that this was the person with whom I meant
to grow old.
What precautions did we take to protect ourselves against the dangers involved i
n meeting a total stranger? First of all, we exchanged telephone numbers. Second
, during the time we spent together, both on the Internet and the telephone, muc
h of our conversation dealt with goals, objectives, and values clarification. Th
ird, we checked identification, credentials, education, employment, FBI, credit
reports, and exchanged resumes. Fourth, my family and friends were fully aware o
f my activities and movements, and had full knowledge of his identity and person
al information. Fifth, the sole, direct, and explicit purpose of the initial con
tact was legal marriage. We were searching for life long mates.
I look forward to talking to him. I think he is has a great sense of humor. He i
s quite intelligent, and a great conversationalist. He is an attractive individu
al. He likes to talk as much as I do! We both have broad interests and adventure
some natures. I am much happier now that I've found him. He is not the type of p
erson I might find at a museum, night club, local bar, in a college course, on t
he ski slope, or sitting on a towel at the beach. We are both busy people with a
great deal of responsibility. I can get along without a husband, and he can con
tinue on without a wife. However, we both agree that together, life sure is nice
.

How can you love someone you have never met?

I was trying to put the pieces of my shattered life back together after the deat
h of my husband by a sudden fatal heart attack while on a hunting trip in Colora
do in September of '97. I took a 6 weeks leave from work, couldn't stand to be a
round people in my grief! Tried to take care of things that had to be done and j
ust get through each day.
I decided to go ahead with the plans of the home we had always talked about, thi
s helped to fill my days and to give me a purpose to go on with my life, of cour
se I had a few other reasons too, a wonderful daughter and a beautiful grandson
who was only 3 1/2 months old! He would need grandma now and vise versa! My daug
hter and her family decided to move in with me in April of '98 (so that they cou
ld save to buy a house). Needless to say along came a computer with them!
In July I placed a personals ad, I decided it was time to try to go on with my l
ife, dated a widower twice and wasn't attracted to him at all and felt I wasn't
ready for the dating scene yet! Big Mistake! I wasn't looking for a man, I praye
d to God that if there was supposed to be a man out there somewhere to share my
life with, then I would meet him somehow, somewhere, someday and I was leaving i
t all up to him!
August the 10th, the day we decided to go online changed my life forever! That e
vening we were doing random chat on ICQ, talking with a few guys, making new fri
ends, not looking for a relationship - just friendship, when I spotted RB_Tony f
rom NC who liked a lot of the same things that I did. So I decided to message hi
m and chat to find out more about him! We seemed to hit it off right away, so mu
ch more in common and I felt it was safe, him being so far away from Penna and t
hat we would never meet. I enjoyed chatting with Tony but we didn't chat much be
cause I had to work the next few days.
When he found out I was a widow he was so compassionate and caring towards me an
d asked if I wanted to talk about it, so I told him what happened. This was the
starting point for some feelings towards him. The more we chatted the more we we
re drawn to each other. I could pick up vibes and feelings through the PC for th
is man and vise versa!!
By Thursday night of the first week he asked me for my phone number. I was shock
ed and asked him "why"? I said we could talk cheaper this way! He says he likes
to put a voice with a person. I told him I would have to think about it and let
him know. I being a woman alone I had to be careful (he could be a rapist or ax
murderer) anybody he wanted to be! I thought long and hard and decided it would
be safe for me to call him because then I could block my number.
The next time I went online I was going to tell him I would call and low and beh
old he messaged me that he had to go away for the weekend. I was devasted and it
was the longest weekend I had put in since my husband died! Every time I went o
nline and he wasn't there I was disappointed and sad. Finally the long weekend w
as over and he came on about 11pm Sunday night, we chatted awhile and then I ask
ed him for his number so I could call him and I explained why. He gave me his ho
me and work number so I could check him out to be who he said he was! I felt fro
m the beginning that he was telling me the truth all along. I just knew this in
my heart!
I was so excited I felt like a teenager with a crush, he said to hurry that he w
as soooooooo excited too! I could hardly talk I was so nervous! The first time I
heard his voice with that thick southern accent was fantastic! I could listen t
o Tony talk all day! It was a beautiful ending to a perpetually bad day (it woul
d have been my 29th anniversary) Tony made it a lot better just being there for
me! This was a turning point in the relationship and we weren't content to chat
on the PC anymore, we had to hear each others voice thus the start of some HUGE
phone bills for the both of us!! By the beginning of the next week he told me he
thought he loved me, shocked the hell out of me! How can you love someone you h
ave never met? Even though by this time I was having very strong feelings toward
s him too! It was really weird the bond we felt for each other!

Dear Andrea,
Thank you for the beautiful homepage. After reading some of the stories - I thou
ght I would share my story with you. I think - no I know that on the net - I hav
e found some very good friends and also (well we will see soon) my love.
I live in Denmark and chat on Yahoo. My English is not perfect but I still prefe
r to write in English when I chat. I am 44 years old and have always been a girl
with both feet on the ground. If anyone have told me just half year ago that yo
u could have feelings for a person you only talk with on the internet I would ha
ve laughed and think he/she was crazy. Now I know better.
In October of 1999 I met a man from Holland on the net. In the beginning we didn
't talk very much but after about 1 month it became more and more. We talked eve
ry day and after a while we found out that we also wanted to hear each others vo
ices. It seems it was not enough for us anymore "just to chat". I still remember
the first time when I called him - a lot of butterflies in my stomach - and the
n he answered the phone. I loved his voice. Now we nearly did not chat any more
- but talk in the phone every day and sending small sweet sms-messages on the ph
one. Soon, on February 25th he will come to Denmark to visit me. Of course I am
nervous - I know with my mind that things can be different when you meet in real
- but I also know that I feel a deep love for him. We have talked a lot about w
hat would happen when we see each other - how to act. It's a funny and strange s
ituation to feel that you know another person so well but you have never seen ea
ch other. But we have also made a deal - that no matter what happens we will enj
oy the weekend and have fun together.
Another problem ise that you don't talk about this kind of love. It's difficult
for other people to understand that you can met this way and that this kind of f
eeling can happen. So please cross your fingers for me and him.
Susanne

Story 85
Online Love Does Exist
Hi Andrea!
This is a story about my internet romance.
I have been on the Internet for 12 months and I can swear I haven't regretted a
minute of it. I am from the United Kingdom, and he is from Texas, USA. I met Ric
ardro last year on the Internet, and still after 12 months our relationship is a
s strong as ever. We have talked about marriage and family. I suppose you can sa
y we've been through love and war..lol, well...we've always overcome those hurdl
es in life, and I suppose they have have made us stronger in ourselves and betwe
en each other.
The reason for writing this, is because I know how many people do not believe in
these romances. Its true, I've heard some horror stories in my time but it has
never put me off those genuine guys out there. I can honestly swear that I have
never felt so in love with anyone as I have with Ricardo. We are meeting at Chri
stmas where I hear an engagement ring is waiting for me :D
I thank you for your web page dedicated to online love :). I feel privileged tel
ling my story to you and all that may read it. I hope this is sent on the web, j
ust to prove that real online love does exist.
Thank You!
Dawn

Story 98
We Never Miss a Day Together
I'm writing you about my love I've found on the internet. It started back in the
middle of June. I began playing cards in worldplay poker games. When I came acr
oss this image, named Steve .We started typing on Instant Messanger and one thin
g lead to another. Every night since then we spoke. I've been now talking to him
on IM, and phone.
He's now all I want in life, my destiny. It does, seem too good to be true. But
I can say I love him, and truly mean it. He feels the same. See there are thing
s in my life I have to clear up. I am married, going through a divorse. He under
stands me and says one day we shall meet. We live far away. I'm from South Jerse
y and he is from Miami Florida. So there is a distance from each other. We never
miss a day together. NEVER. We speak to each other at least 5 hours a night. W
e get along great, have the same things in common and spoke to each others famil
y members on the phone. Something brought us together, and it is a feeling deep
inside. I never experienced this before. I'm 45 years old , he's 37. My marriag
e was over 1 year before I met him. I've always had problems with my husband . H
e has cheated on me on many occasions.
I feel so fortunate to have met such a sweet , kind and gentle man. He is so ro
mantic and understanding. I'm praying each night that some day we do meet. I bel
ieve if its meant to happen, it will. And I believe it will. Everything you hear
on the net is something like you would find in everyday circumstances. People m
eet, get along, then boom its over. My feelings are genuin. I pray his are too.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I will let you know how things t
urn out that one day.
Sincerly,
Debbie

Story 29
The Net of Love
The boy returned home with his heart happily beating. He was tired, since he cov
ered half of Budapest. He s been anticipating this moment for more than 6 months w
hen his savings will pay for his internet connection and the world will open bef
ore him. The often heard, almost slogan came into his mind: The information supe
rhighway will become the most heavily traveled road of the next century.
What he felt was not quite happiness, but an emotion far more unique and noble p
layed around his throat. He was proud to have broken out of the gray circle of d
usty commonality. With the help of his computer he can even soar to places that
have never before appeared on his mind s horizon.
Ten p.m. The adventure is about to begin. He typed in his nick and passwords an
d in that instant it felt as though the sparks of his soul had just landed on
the stage of night. He was ecstatic when he typed in the first address and the w
ww page actually crackled onto his monitor. This is fantastic. From now on I can
be on the net as long as I want and never be bored. There are millions of page
s waiting to be discovered!
That is exactly how it was, at least for the first month or two. Then he felt t
hat he needed something else. The holes he felt in his soul were not patched by
the adventures. He was about to lay aside the magic net when he discovered some
thing. Someone, from among those who were up to now, in the background shadows f
or our hero simply said: chat.
The fabric that had meant the world had once again became fully charged with ex
citement. It was true, he never experienced this before.He could talk with peopl
e live , who as himself, sat hunched over a plastic box filled with microchips and
typed their questions and answers into tiny windows.
Time, once again, as a heartless thief had taken the fire from his eyes .that is,
until suddenly a small blue square flashed. It was a girl who asked for help, an
d kindness over-flown from her words. It did not take much for the boy s soul to c
omprehend perfect harmony. In this impersonal, yet in some ways far more persona
l world, two souls have touched.
The mirage of unlimited freedom had buckled his heart, into which an unexpected
thought moved in: LOVE. He felt love toward someone he met only a few days befo
re, and with whom he was able to exchange merely a few words, even those over a
monitor.
Someone he s never seen. The keyboard revealed virtually nothing, yet the girl, t
hat sweet butterfly, gave away part of her unblemished soul with every stroke of
 a key to that other heart who, with increasingly concentrated purpose whispere
d between bit-per-second that word which for humanity became overused, schemati
c, yet at the same time still represents the paradise of dreams.
Why should we always organize through the cool etiquette of reality? Why does th
e power appear silly that combined beauty with beast, and the soul with the soul
ful? Could it be that two people, two such individuals who perhaps never would h
ave met had they not been caught in the elements of modern life, could it be tha
t they are in love with each other?
A mere few hours of in-depth conversation, but the human emotion does not recogn
ize the lifeless combination of time and distance. Emotions refuse to allow them
selves to be pressed into the mold of the everyday routine, they don t give in to
the flooding emptiness and forceful attack of lifelessness. Treatherous waters f
or sure, never knowing who and when will show their real face or when they will
hide behind a pleasant mask. But the girl was herself. The boy felt, he knew tha
t his net-shine can not be false, can t be fake. They met every night spending all
possible time together.
This feeling was not present elsewhere: the boy was surrounded by his internet f
riends, and there was the Girl but still, his soul was afraid. The echo of empti
ness, the cold buzz of evil always woke him from his sweetest dreams, fragment
ing peaceful moments.These two souls still found each other. Found each other in
the fabric of a world-wide net and in such a fashion that would never have been
possible in the real world.
The same monitor that used to be seen as the surface for boring characters of a
text, at this moment came to represent Life. Real Life. The few currents of elec
tricity, the micrometer s worth of magic that was constructed by thoughtful, expe
rt hands and the hundreds of ilometers of telephone cable, like some kind of a
vein as a warm life supplying vein in the body, tied to each other the boy and t
he girl, on that stormy, and netted night.
Based on his own experiences written by Thomas L.

Story 38
Continuation to Story 4
Seven Thousand Kilometers give or take a few
Two Years Later
A dream came true. The majority of people like to dream but in most cases they
resolve the issue by a wave of a hand: Nothing will become of it anyway! The trul
y amazing goals, on the other hand, do come to pass with faith and perseverance,
especially if one is motivated by positive feelings. I'm among the lucky ones
for whom the dream came true. After a long time I've finally met in person the
girl I came to know on the internet.
That is what I would like to write about in hopes that my story will offer somet
hing useful for those who allow for the chance that they may find their partner
on the internet that devilish medium .
Perhaps some of you may remember my story two years ago that I submitted to the
Internet Love Story column. I've openly admitted to the world what my feelings
were for a girl from Malaysia whom I've never met. It was a sort of I can't tell
 anyone, so I'll tell everyone type of declaration on my part. When that letter
was published our relationship was four months old and although its future seeme
d uncertain, my feelings of love for her were already strong and certain.
My friends noticed that change in me that I was spending more time on the net an
d constantly reading or writing e-mail. I've shared my secret with them hoping
that they will understand. Most of them thought it was rather odd and some thou
ght it downright nuts. Long distance relationships don't work. What do you thin
k how long can it last? Those were the kind of comments I was hearing. Perhaps
it was only my female friends who displayed a bit more empathy. I waived them o
ff and forged ahead still deeper into the relationship. As time went by, our co
mmunication became more in-depth and intimate. Christmas arrived and after havi
ng received some faxes, one afternoon what I had feared yet anticipated had happ
ened. She phoned. My heart was beating in my throat and I thought I would pass
out. Her voice was so beautiful and charming yet completely different from what
I've imagined. I found myself unable to utter a complete sentence and the litt
le English I knew seemed to drop as mosaic pieces from my head.
After the phone call I was sort of embarrassed and wrote an e-mail to her in whi
ch I apologized for disappointing her. To my surprise she responded that she wa
s not at all disappointed and that she liked my voice. We agreed that next time
I would try to be less nervous. Then I rushed out to buy some small surprise C
hristmas gifts for her. I've sent the package off and with it I've succeeded in
surprising her. She was very happy and said that she'd never received such a g
ift from a boy before. They were nothing much really, a clay figurine, a silver
necklace with her zodiac sign as a medal and some greeting cards. From then on
we've taken every opportunity to surprise each other with something small. For
Valentine's Day I've sent her a series of seven cards with huge letters in each
, when all gathered she could spell the most beautiful sentence. By then she be
lieved what I'd known for months. She loves me and I love her. But I've still
not seen her!!! Sometime around Easter, I've tried to convince her to send me a
t least a tiny picture of herself. She rejected the idea saying that she was so
fat and ugly and hated to be photographed. I did not leave it at that, but con
tinued to badger her gently for photos. A while later she wrote an e-mail that
soon I would be receiving photos in snail mail.
When the yellow envelope finally arrived Id taken a long time to debate whether
I should open it. I kept thinking what if she is telling the truth and looks the
way she said? I finally got through that hurdle and decided that it was not her
that attracted me to her. At that point I realized that I could accept her eve
n if she was not beautiful. I opened the envelope slowly and when I saw the pho
tos my blood went cold. A delicate, unbelievably beautiful, fine featured china
doll was looking at me. She was like a model!!! It had stunned me so much tha
t for hours I could not believe my eyes and had to look at the photos again and
again.
I've felt such a tremendous pride that I was able to charm such a beautiful girl
and in a foreign language, at that was all I could think of. I could not imagine
how it could have happened. I simply had to show the photos to those who earli
er were raising my doubts by saying such things as I bet she has a bigger mustach
e than you! I've had no doubt, I knew that the photos were of her. She was perf
ect!! That summer we often spoke about the fact that we should meet, but I told
her that there is no way I could save that much money in such a short time. We
've spent a lot of time thinking of ways to resolve the problem and finally she
said that I should not worry about the ticket, but that I should bring enough sp
ending money.
It was fall by that time and a trip could have became apropo for another reason.
Chew Peng, that is her name, had a aunt getting married and she invited me to
the wedding. Unfortunately that trip fell through and it made both of us very s
ad. She became a little pessimistic then, but I had the opportunity to share al
l the strength that she's given me all along. During the winter she called me a
nd admitted that she was in Vienna as part of a European tour but she didn't tel
l me earlier as she was afraid I would go there and she was afraid of the meetin
g. She felt it was not the right time. I thought it odd and was a bit angry wi
th her. We were a few hundred kilometers from each other and we could not arran
ge to meet!!!
As spring and our second anniversary neared it became obvious to both of us that
this is the year we MUST meet!! There is no doubt! I had an unbelievable desi
re to finally see her and it appeared that finally she was prepared emotionally.
Luckily by now not only the matter of the plane ticket was resolved but I also
had enough spending money that on July 7, 2000 I boarded an airplane and left H
ungary, both for the first time in my life. I went half-way around the world to
meet the girl who stole my heart. The trip went relatively smoothly and when t
he plane touched down in Malaysia my heart almost jumped out of my chest.
I've made my way through the airport administration and then I began to get a bi
t worried. What if I won't recognize her and we'll pass each other?
Fortunately, I was wrong. I've hardly taken a few steps and when I looked up sh
e was there. Exactly the same face, those eyes were looking at me that have bee
n burned into my memory from the photos I first saw. And the first sentence, th
e one I've practiced hundreds if not thousands of times (how lame) Hello, well he
re I am in real life.
Luckily two of our mutual chat buddies, Andrea and Grace, accompanied Chew Peng.
I knew she would need some time to get used to my presence. Sitting in the ca
r she pulled as far away from me as the car allowed, but I knew that was not her
reaction to me but only that she is so touched and very shy.
Talking with the girls seemed to ease her and by the time we've reached our firs
t stop, a restaurant, she appeared relaxed. We talked and laughed a lot, they w
ere asking a lot of questions. I was teaching them Hungarian words and they wer
e teaching me Chinese. We finally went to their place where jet lag caught up w
ith me and I fell asleep.
The next day I met her family: siblings, mother and soon her father. I was surp
rised by how open they were and how generous in their hospitality. They were so
nice that in two or three days I felt completely at home.
Chew Peng and I attempted to make up for all the things that in the past two yea
rs appeared only in letters or e-mail. We didn't have much time, only 25 days,
but I am happy to say that everything went as well as it possibly could. I will
not tell you what all happened during those 25 days as an entire magazine would
not be enough to describe it, but it was perfect and I am certain of our love a
nd have no doubts whatever. When time came to say farewell she cried and I must
admit that's what I wanted to do too, but I had to be strong. We both understo
od that something special had begun and this was not and will not be our last me
eting.
Chew Peng is now studying in the US. When she will finish her studies next summ
er we are planning for her to come to Hungary. If that will not work I will try
to visit her in Michigan. I am already saving the money and can hardly wait fo
r the continuation.
As far as we are concerned we would like to steer our relationship toward someth
ing more serious. We are planning to live together somewhere for a year, year a
nd a half and if that goes smoothly we are considering engagement and marriage.
But all that is in the future!
That is where the story catches up with the present. Our relationship continues
unbroken. E-mail, chat, phone constantly and when we have the time, electronic
postcards. I hope everybody will find their true love and something useful in
our story. My lesson from this had been: the world is small, there are no borde
rs. If somebody wants something with all their heart and they are persistent th
en faith will also want it to come true!
I wish all internet couples the best of luck! At least as much as I've had.
Greetings from Gabor
alias Coventus
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