SEDUCTION SECRETS of SEX SIRENS

How to Win and Keep Your Man

Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Understanding Yourself . . . . . . . 5 Understanding Your Man . . . . . 21 Keeping Your Man . . . . . . . . . . 30 Tips and Tricks . . . . . . . . . . . . 39

PREFACE
Okay, ladies. changed. Its the 21st Century, and things have The timeless ways of getting a mans

attention will never change, but the ways of losing him keep increasing every day. Just look around, or turn on the TV. Tiger Woods

cheated on one of the most gorgeous women on the planet. John Edwards violated his vows and any sense of human decency to play with another girl. He knocked up his mistress while his life partner was suffering and dying from cancer. Im no prude (trust me) but that man is a dog. Even old fuddy-duddy, Al Gore, divorced Tipper now that hes got his billion dollars and his jetsetter lifestyle. And its not just celebs. America has Even the highest divorce rate in the world. People are getting divorced younger, and marriages are shorter. second and third marriages arent doing so well. A bad economy with unemployment and money problems just makes things worse. So, are you next? Is there a way to keep your man

happy before that slut next door grabs him by the belt

buckle and unzips your relationship? Lifes not prefect, and men do love to take a bite from every cookie in the jar. But you can win. Ladies, Ive been around the block. Im a

psychotherapistnot to mention my doctorate from the School of Hard Cocks, if you know what I mean. Let me teach you the tricks and techniques that the mistresses, courtesans, and other alluring sex sirens have developed into an art form for winning and keeping a man. Ill teach you the male psychology and the You can let irresistible moves that will make your man want to get all of his candy from you, and only you. another girl steal him away and get 27 cats to keep you warm, or you can come along with me and keep him begging for more.

INTRODUCTION
Seduction Secrets is every womans guide to getting the man she wants, and then how to keep him eating out of her hand. There are only three reason why a man will not want to settle down with you and why he cheats after hes committed: you, him, and other women. I will show you your flaws, weaknesses, and mistakes and also your superpowers and irresistible charms. You will learn the secrets of what really makes the male animal tick and how to use that to your advantage. I

will unveil and teach you how to use the secrets of the sex kittens and goddesses who get what they want whenever they want itfor as long as they want it. So, get a glass of wine and some chocolates, put your hair down, lie on the bed with me, and take off your panties. Lets go for ride . . .

Understanding Yourself
Life as a woman is such a paradox. We are brilliant and capable creatures, but we are packaged in what can only be described as the as the most beautiful work of art imaginable. Our image as fragile and tender flowers hides the underlying strength and power of our

character.

We are supposedly needy, yet we nurture

and fulfill the needs of children and grown men in ways that nothing else can. Lets face it girls: were freaking awesome! Nothing could be more challenging, exciting, and just plain fun than living life as a woman. So, if we have all the power and hold all the Aces (and, believe me, sweetheart, we do) how do we get to the point where we are desperate for a man and find ourselves in tears because of those furry beasts so often? The short answer is: hormones. Do you remember back when you were a schoolgirl in elementary school? There were 30 kids in the class, half boys and half girls. But there was only one really smart boy, and a couple more that were okay students. The boys were mostly overactive, fun-loving troublemakers
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that never did their homework.

On the other hand,

there were like six brilliant girls, and all but two of the remaining girls were pretty good students that studied hard. We were smarter and much more responsible

than the boys. Our projects and posters looked great, our handwriting was clear and pretty, we sang like angelsthe boys couldnt hold a candle to us. Then, maybe somewhere between seventh grade and ninth grade something happened. It didnt matter that half of us were geeked out with braces and six inches too tall for our gangly frame. Our hormones started to kick in, and the puberty fairy arrived with a vengeance. For the boys, it was just a lower voice and hairy armpits big deal. It was a lot more for us. Our lives became all about hair, and nails, and lip gloss, and fashion. We had to keep up on the teen idols and the music. We had to go to dances and concerts to stay cool and get noticed. We thrived on the looks the boys gave us, and we had to look greatall the time. Studies became Our

secondary to showing off our lovely lady lumps.

brains became a little bit less needed, and we were too boy crazy to think about anything else anyway. We had
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discovered a new reality that was a lot of fun and that seemed to provide a shortcut to our dreams. We had

everything we needed to get ahead with little need for excessive studying. We were still responsible and did

our work, but the quality sometimes suffered so that we could spend more time on the scene with the cool crowd. Since then, of course, our lives have been brought back into more of a balance between our sexiness and the down to earth realities of every day life and the workplace. But something did change forever. Some of the power that we had as little schoolgirls was forever washed away by the flood of hormones. Our feminine

hormones make us sexy and gorgeous, but they also give us vulnerabilities and blind spots that we cant think aroundunless we consciously remind ourselves to think with our heads instead of our emotions. The

head is above the heart for a reason, ladies. We need to let it guide our feelings and tell us the truth about the men we are interested in. Know Whats in Your Package

When the goodies were being passed out, we got them all! If you want to empower yourself again, like a

mature version of that powerful young girl that is still inside of you, then you have to understand what a man sees, thinks, and feels about women. We dont always see ourselves as natural beauties, and we all notice our flaws before we see the good things about ourselves. Remind yourself right now that you really are beautiful. As a woman, we also get to enhance our beauty with hairdos, color, and highlights. We have makeup for

every feature of our face; we have creams and lotions and scrubs for any imperfection or wrinkle; and we have fragrances that make us irresistible. We decorate our

nails, display our legs in fabulous stockings, wear dresses that show off our alluring curves, move like devilish angels, and are covered from head to toe with the most luscious silky smooth skin that makes men weak in the knees. You better believe we have what it takes to attract a manand we havent even mentioned the centerpiece of our appeal that lets a man actually become a part of us for some precious moments when we decide hes earned it.
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You need to know and understand your weapons, ladies, if you intend to be successful in attracting the man you want. You have to pull the right weapon from your

arsenal at the right time, like choosing the right golf club for your next shot. Dont use a driver for a chip

shot, and line up your puts before you take the stoke. Are your ready? Lets go. Make Him Want You Youve got your eye on the man of your dreams, and now youve got to get his attention. You may have the sweetest personality in the world, but Round One is all about your physical charms. After all, he is a man. But his first impression is only 50% about your great legs and perfect derrire, and 50% about your presentation. Of course, youre going to look your best and smile. But you have to show him a confident, independent woman if you want him looking beyond the pleasures of a onenight stand. If youre just looking for a guy to shiver

your timbers for an hour, then go for it. But if this guy is something special, then you have to do it right. The only thing sexier to a man than a perfect ass and long
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legs is the look of confidence in a woman.

Hold your

head up; give him full, steady eye contact without a lot of blinking; keep an engaging smile on your face; and move just ever-so-slightly into his personal space or that intimate zone that is just a little too close for business and friendship. That will gradually trigger his urges. If you think you arent confident, then just fake it for a while, and pretty soon it will be natural. Think back to those times when you were a little girl with cheeks full of tears. Mom would tell you just to smile, and then you will be happy again. It really does workyou cant be sad when you smile. Smiling will actually make you

release endorphins to make you feel better. Try it right now; its true. Confidence works the same way. If you act confident, you will feel confident. Walk with a

purpose; hold your head like a confident woman; move your head and arms with strength and purpose during a conversation; use engaging eye contact. Confidence

really is just that simple: When you fake it, you feel it; if you feel it, then its real. It would be great if orgasms worked the same way. Oh, well!
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As you are showing your man this complete woman, you are already using some of your best tools of attraction your beautiful face, your eyes, and your smile. It is a well-documented fact that a smile will enhance your beauty and your power of attraction by a factor of ten. A smile makes your face glow and your eyes sparkle. It takes an ordinary face and makes it enchantingly beautiful. It humanizes you and releases some of your personality, and it actually creates a connection with the person you are smiling at. It will make him smile too which, remember, will make him feel happy as well. Use your smile all the time. A man has enough

pressures, and wants to spend his time with a happy woman that will make him feel relaxed and comfortable. Now that youve gotten him to buy into you as a threedimensional real person, who is so much more than the sum of her gorgeous assetsand who has so much more depth than just three bases to conqueryou need to really get his juices flowing with desire. Every

woman has candy, but now you want to make him crazy to taste yours. You want every fiber of his manliness to

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feel an incredible urge that pulls him closer and closer to you. No, you are not going to satisfy that urge quite

yet, but you are going to tease and tantalize him like the enchantress that you are. You are already very close, inside his space. You are

listening intently to his stories, laughing on cue and joining in the conversation. Now you are going to give him just a little sample of one of your most powerful weaponsyour touch. Perhaps all that soft girl skin

means nothing to you, but his whole body is aching to feel your sensual touch. So, at the right moment, you have to use your fingers to brush his hair back just a bit. Maybe lean out a little so he doesnt move in for the kiss. And then, before your take back your hand, make sure your rub your full palm across his cheek, and withdraw it like nothing happened. Smile and tell him Keep the

he has nice hair or nice cheekbones.

conversation friendly if it is going well, and touch his arm or knee or shoulder from time to time as part of the conversation, leaning in slightly with your head at the same time, with your eyes locked on his. He will start to become a bit more tactile too, as your touch gives
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him permission to touch you back. For now, try to avoid long touches (from him or from you) or even long handholding. You have to make him crazy with desire, so be stingy with the doggy treats you give him at this point. Make Him Need You Now Im going to let you in on a very powerful secret that will help you make the transition from making him want you, to making him need you. This is a secret that only the most seductive sex sirens know, and its something you can use throughout your relationship for your whole life. Okay, so now youve got him revved up. His heart is

pumping, hes lost in your eyes, his little man is standing eagerly at attention. He is feeling everything This is

you want him to be feeling for you physically. what you do next.

You lean back just outside his

intimate zone and become very matter-of-fact. You tilt your head just a bit and, nodding slightly, with a firm jaw and a bit of a squint, and you give him a logical kind of compliment that a man might give him. Perhaps you can draw on something from your conversation. You

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know, I really respect the way that you took care of that situation at work. It was a very smart and fair way to handle it. Whatever fits. Just make sure it is not about his rock hard abs or rugged good looks. And make sure there is no giggle or smile. This is a serious reach into the depth of his soul. Now all of those happy endorphins and bubbly things he is feeling for your body have just been transferred from his penis to his brain, and all of those good feelings have now become goodwill and admiration for the woman inside of you. For the moment, at least, he will forget all about his obsessive thoughts of sliding his hand up your skirt. You set him up with the perfect

accepting frame of mind, and then you march right into his life with all the status of a male friend, but all the perks that only a girl can offer. Its like teeing up your golf ball and then driving it down the fairway; or perhaps like a boxer, you lead with your tender, enticing, feminine left jab, and then follow up with the masculine, roundhouse punch that knocks him out. Never ever forget this tip. It is magic.

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This kind of reach into his soul is really the entire key to transforming his lust into love. Complimenting a

mans competence and ability has the same power as complimenting a womans beauty and charm. We will

more deeply explore the way that men fall in love in the next chapter, but for now you need to remember that the special difference each woman has to offer is not whats between her legs; its whats between her ears. The flesh is the bait, but the personality and spirit are the hook that will keep him by your side. Men are

attracted by the sweetness of the candy, but they stay around for the meat and potatoesthe depth of a supportive relationship. As we will see in Chapter 3,

once you have been together for a while, you will need to shift the balance back to the physical side to keep life fun and exciting. The way to make a man need you is to get into his head and become part of his life. When he thinks about

himself, he has to see images of you there with him at his happiest moments. Try to work yourself into aspects of his daily and weekly routinesthe things he has to do and the things he likes to do. Become part of the story
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of his life. things.

Be there for the little things and the big

Share laundry day and grocery shopping day By the

togetherbut make sure he pulls his weight.

way, ladies, if youre going to do his laundry and then slide down his pole before you go home, make sure youre getting paid by the hour. This is a very good way for you to become small in a mans mind. Angelina

Jolie and Paris Hilton arent going to turn sex into a menial service, and neither should you. You want him to ache for you, not take you for granted. Laundry day is not sex dayand let him load the washer and move the wet clothes to the dryer. You can fold and fry up

some burgers. Give him a fabulous goodbye kiss, stick your hand down his pants, and walk out the door while hes throbbing for you. Just do it. Do other things togethergo to the museum, throw a Frisbee at the park, find a county fair or a rodeo in the next county, go to church together if thats his thing, watch his ballgames, do beer and billiards one night a week. Just make sure that every date doesnt end up in the bedroom. Hey, if you meet a guy and you both just
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You want to be a sex siren?

want a playmate for the moment, go for it.

Thats

great. But if this is the guy you want to keep around, then dont let him have that instant gratification, because you will quickly be relegated to his fling list. And dont let sex become the automatic end to every date. If you do, it will be expected every time, and soon the date will become shorter and the bedroom time will become longer. bedroom. Relationships cannot be built in the

They can be cemented there, if they are

already in full bloom; but they cannot grow to maturity there. Its just a fact of life. Have some daytime dates, and have a headache once in a while. Give him a

reason to keep coming back. Men like a moving target. Never become predictable. Take pictures when youre having fun at the park or on a rollercoaster. Give him a good picture of the two of

you for his wallet, and frame a small one for his room. Dont give him a whole pile of pictures that hell just throw in a drawer. Just keep a pleasant image of you in front of him.

One of the best ways to keep a man interested long

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enough to give him time to discover his love for you is to remain an independent woman. Dont be like the A constant

nerd that worshipped you in high school.

shit-eating grin on his face, an adoring gaze, creepy vapidness, and being hard to get rid of is not a recipe for love. He has his nights out with the guys, and you need your own time as well. And even if you don't, let him think so. Go to a girlfriends, catch up on gossip over coffee (dressed as we girls do when we go out for a night on the town) and let him wonder a little. Not a

mind game as much as letting him think about the sexy, amazing woman he has. Let him wonder what you are doing and how many men are checking out his girl. Men want to get their candy from a sexy, confident, challenging womannot from a needy loser.

You should continue to have and run your own life. Go out with the girls, and set your own schedule. Dont

cancel your plans just to be with him. Have dates with him that dont end up in bed. Give him your touch, your scent, your smile, and your tenderness. But dole it out in teaspoons, not in the heaping helpings of an all-youcan-eat buffet.
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Now here is another secret that the sex kittens use to make their men ache for them. Youre an independent woman, not a Teddy Bear or a lapdog, so act like one. Next time youre snuggling with him on the sofa, be sure to make a few clean physical breaks, like rounds in a boxing match. You generate a lot of heat when you are up close for a while, so when you pop away to feed the dog or get a Coke, he is going to feel the coolness of the world without your tender warmth, and he will long for your return. Stay away for a little while, and then do a fake return. Walk close as if you are returning, and then, when he puts his arm out to pull you back, you suddenly remember that you have something else to do really quick. Dont be surprised if he begs you to come back. If youre always there, he will never feel his need for you. He will never miss you. He will never ache for you to return to his side. Be a complete woman all by yourself, and he will be happy to be included in your amazing life. Beauty and booty are what your caveman thinks hes looking for, but once youve become part of his history and part of his thoughts, he will discover that he needs
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you. That is the turning point for a man. Men take a lot of the bumps and bruises in life, and they need tenderness and comfort. It will gradually sneak up on

him, the way you make him feel relaxed and whole. He will seek you out when he has good news or sad feelings. You will be the one he turns to when he just wants a good conversation, an ego boost, or a hug. Only you can fulfill these emotional needs for him. Youre getting under his skin. He needs you now.

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Understanding Your Man

Until you understand the way men think and the way they fall in love, you will be doomed to a life of confusion, frustration, failure, and tears. Men are not as complicated as we are. Women are more like

mysterious, cunning cats. Men are, for better or worse, a lot like dogs. They follow their nose, plodding along in a straight line, until a pussycat or a squirrel turns their head. They will stop only if they find something

interesting to sniff. If it smells tasty, they will eat it. If it smells horny, they will have sex with it. If they cant eat it or screw it, they will lift their leg and piss on it, and be on their way. Why beautiful women find such

creatures irresistible is one of the mysteries of life. In order to understand men we have to go back to the beginning, when nature ruled everything. Nature gave women one egg with which to continue the bloodline. It was up to her to ensure that her single egg would be fertilized with a seed of excellent genetic quality, allowing the egg to develop into a strong and resilient human that would survive and carry on the species. To that end, she needed to find a man that was big, brave,
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smart, and handsome. It would also be nice if he would stay around to provide wild game for her and the offspring while she nurtured him to adulthood, and to protect them against beasts and warring tribes. For men, however, the game of life is not about quality at all; rather it is all a numbers game. Quantity is the key. He has a billion swimmers that each want to

fertilize a different egg. If he can impregnate a hundred women, then surely a few of the young ones will survive in the jungle. The strong ones and the smart ones will be able to find food and protect themselves against predators. Survival of the fittest will result in the best of the offspring surviving to breed a new generation of stronger, smarter humans. The more babies he creates, the better are the odds that some will survive.

Until a man needs you emotionally, nature is telling him to have sex with you and move on. It doesnt matter if your man is David Archuleta or Snoop Dogg; they are all ruled by the same forces of nature. The reason you

dont drop your panties on the first date is because, for men, the relationship ends with the conquestunless he
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needs you emotionally. Sure, the thrill of the infatuation can keep him coming back for a whilehopefully long enough for him to find true lovebut its a not a sure thing. You will always have to find ways to intertwine

your life with his and weave your nurturing web of compassion and support, or things will inevitably erode and fall apart if there is not a strong foundation. Every man has the ability to kiss you passionately for an hour and then walk across the street and kiss another woman passionately for an hour. Its just as easy and natural for him as having a juicy, delicious steak and then topping it off with apple pie and ice cream. This is not to say that he is not totally swept away by the charms of each woman in the moment that he is with her. But he is always ready to feed his voracious sexual appetite. Sharks eat. Men screw. The only way to

modify their behavior is to make sure that they only want one flavoryours. The only way to ensure that is to get them to fall in love with you, on their own terms and at their own pace. Think of love like a race on a racetrack. The man is at

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the beginning of the straightaway on the left, as we watch from the grandstand bleachers. You are on the

right hand side of the straightaway, going into the first turn. Love is halfway around the track, in the middle of the straightaway on the other side of the track, heading for the second turn. object is love. The mans object is you; your

As the race begins, the action moves Love moves quite The man is

around the track, counterclockwise.

slowly, and so you catch it very quickly.

fast, and he soon catches you. You have already found love, but the man has only found you. Now is the hard part. You have to let go of loveand this is a really

tough issue for some of usand let it slowly walk all the way around the track until it catches up with the man from behind. You need to slow him down and keep him on the track long enough for love to catch him. Let me explain. As women, love is our goal, and the

man is kind of incidental, a necessary imperfection if you will. For a man, love is not the goalyou are. That is the script that nature has written for him. He will

surely think that your body is wonderland, and maybe he will even mistake that sensual desire and satisfaction
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for love.

But you know that its not.

The fact is that

most men have no idea what love really is. They think of it as a scary, frightening monster that threatens their freedom. Happily ever after for a man is a million miles from monogamy ever after. Commitment is the end of their manhood in their mindseven if they have no desire to be with other women. The closer they get to the point where it is one woman forever, the colder their feet become.

But all of the fear goes away once they discover real love. This is why you have to make him need you. Men cannot fall in love with your perfect and generous body any more than a person can fall in love with a perfect tenderloin steak. Its really good, and you want to taste it again, but its not love. It is those emotional bonds It is the way you

that change everything for a man.

work your way into his life and become part of him that captures his mind. A man is a logical creature, and if

you capture his mind, it is a short walk to his heart. You cannot nag a man into love. You cannot guilt him into love by reminding him how much more affection
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you give him and how much more you put into the relationship. You cannot drag him kicking and

screaming into love against his will. You might as well just stick him with a glowing hot fireplace poker and expect him to love you for it. You are really just chasing him away. You just have to wait for love to get around the track and catch up with him.

Remember girls, men dont chase after love; they chase after women. We find love, but love has to find a man. Love may be your goal, but you are his goal. For a

man, love comes as a surprise to him one day in the shower when he realizes that his whole existence and life are now built around youand it feels good and natural. The fear is gone because you are part of him. Yesyou complete him. Now, it has to be you. He

never knew about this part before. Its like a doorway to a beautiful paradise has been opened up to him. Your love now represents unlimited freedom for his soul and his spirit. This is not at all what he was looking for or expecting, and it is just so incredibly better than anything he had ever imagined. It is a special gift that only you have given him, and it is a feeling that only
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makes sense when he is sharing it with you. You were patient. You let go of love so that it could slowly track him down. You gave him time to discover love. Love sneaks up on a man from behind and surprises him. That is the only way a man can find true, non-

frightening, liberating love. And he will understand that the source of all of that limitless happiness is you. Dont start the celebration just yet, girls. This is where the hard part begins.

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Keeping Your Man

Well, youve got your prince, but the happily ever after part is a lot harder in real life than it is in the storybooks. This is not the end; its just the beginning. And guess what. All the rules change. Keeping a man is not at all like winning him, and you have to be ready to switch gears for the long uphill ride. Chances are, after 300 passionate rolls in the hay, your lovemaking is falling into a familiar routine. The touch of his naked chest doesnt make you tingle the way it used to, and the magic of what you had buttoned up in your blue jeans is just a nice wet spot to him now. The 300th chocolate chip cookie is never quite as good as the first one, even though it is exactly the same cookie. This is normal, but you still need something to make it new again. If you didnt take the time to build a solid non-sexual basis for your relationship, chances are it will end soon. Passion is a hot flame that consumes everything that touches its fiery heat. It burns hot and it burns fast, If you were smart

and it leaves nothing but ashes.

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enough to build your love on compassion instead of passion, then you will be in good shape. Compassion is the big logs in the fire that burn slowly and keep you warm for a long time. When the burning log settles

down and becomes covered in glowing embers, you can still poke it to get flames to shoot up, and you can rekindle it with more logs and a little passionate kindling to keep the fire going and going. Always remember to poke your logs frequently. him poke you. First, you made him want you. You attracted him with your girl candy and got his attention. Then, you got him to need you and love you. You got under his skin, into his life and support system, and became part of him. So now he still needs you and loves you. dont just go away. Those things Poke his log often, and let

Unless youre Satan, you havent

totally turned him off to your affection. So now we have to go back to step onemake him want you again. You are still the same fabulous babe, but forever is a long timefor you and for him. Variety is the spice of life, its true. You can either let him find that variety in other women, or you can change things up in your everyday
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life. The first changes need to be outside of the bedroom. The practical necessities of everyday life are difficult whether youre rich or poor. If it is difficult to make

ends meet, you will find your selves arguing from time to time. Men really and truly want to be the indomitable superhero that can take care of you and the whole family in a way that makes you happy and makes him proud. If he is having a hard time being that superhero, he will feel depressed and like a failure. You might find yourself reinforcing that feeling of inadequacy in him at times. Dont. Dont let the hardships of life destroy the wonderful bond you worked so hard to develop. You

know that little boost you get when a man tells you youre pretty? Men get that boost when you tell them that they are competent and needed. Remind him often tenderly and lovinglythat you need him, that you are proud of him, and that you are amazed by the huge things he accomplishes everyday that you could never do. Men are soft, needy creatures too, just like you. The

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difference is, you have a support system. Your mother, your sisters, your girlfriendsyou can all get together or on the phone to talk and cry until you feel better. Men dont have that support systemthey only have you. You are their entire support system. He will always tear himself down anyway when he knows he is not pulling miracles out of his hat to give you everything you need and want. You dont have to remind him. You need to hug him. Otherwise he is all alone in the world, with a poor self-image when he looks in the mirror and a worse self-image when he looks at you. His options arent

good ones: booze, gambling, overeating, drugs, ulcers, clinical depression, escaping into the TV, suicideor other women. There may be other possibilities, but

none of them are very good. You brought him into your world, now dont abandon him if you want to keep him. For a man, nagging is the same as emotional

abandonment, because it leaves him with nowhere to turn and no one to turn to. Think about it. You know its true. Youre it for him. It is impossible to avoid arguments all together, but they dont need to destroy your love and intimacy. Try
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this.

Next time you notice that you are fighting about

the bills or whatever, just take a chill pill and switch over to his side, especially if it is something that arguing is not going to fix. Make the fight about the outside evil thing that is vexing both of you; dont let it be about him. Say something like, Ugh, I hate this too, but I

know its not your fault, honey. Then go over and give him a shoulder rub, say something about how we are going to find a way together to make it all work out. Maybe run your hand over his chest and whisper in his ear, Let's fuck. Actually, the reason that make-up sex is always the best, as they say, is because of the built up tensions in you bodies. Sex is not what your body

has been anticipating and preparing for, so the man is likely to have more stamina, and you might start shaking as soon as he enters you. Use your common

struggles to reinforce your physical and emotional relationship, not to destroy your intimate connection and pull yourselves apart. This might not sound sexy, girls, but it is the way that smart sexy women have been keeping their man happy and close through the ages.

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Remember, he is a caveman ruled by testosterone. He is a conqueror and thrives on winning and success. And, like our pet dogs, men are very loyal animals when they find contentment at home with their masteryou. Dont make him hold the whole world on his shoulders by himself; share the effort, and most of all, share the blame. You are part of a we nowfor better of for

worseremember? You both will be better able to deal with the pressures and problems of your life together if you tease and take care of him sexually at least a few times a week. Never think of it as a chore or as an item on your to-do list. Remember being single? This is the man you want. Satisfy him, entice him and continue to be that sexy vixen that he can't predict. shower, give him a mind-blowing Jump in the intended)

(pun

blowjob when he least expects it, and then go back to business as usual. Just because he gets a taste does not always mean he gets the full menu. Go back to your original techniques when you first wanted to attract him. Look good; be flirty and sexy;

smile. Men love a bitchas long as that means a strong independent woman who is Being In Total Control of
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Herself. But they hate a Harpie. Your beauty and body are not enough to overcome the downside of being an evil crunt. Unless he is physically abusive, you can

tame him and get your relationship back on a healthy track. Patience, and tenderness, even pleasantness, are the

supportiveness,

submissiveness

biological roles that we need to act out, as the emotionally smarter love doctor of the couple. A

desirable wife or lover focuses on the homefront and the relationship, while letting him think that he is wisely managing our financial wellbeing. You have heard since childhood that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. There is rarely a If his belly is

reason to chide or berate you lover.

starting to bulge out from under his T-shirt, tell him that you are feeling sluggish, so you should both go for a walk or join a gym to stay healthy. If he is going out with the guys too often, invite them all over for poker night, with some of your famous treats. Or just give

him a soft and wet reason to stay home and watch a movie in bed. Every time you want to criticize him, say something nice instead. Use the carrot instead of the
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stick; your relationship depends on it.

The sexiest

women with the most successful relationships have the most bite marks on their tongue. And they always get what they want. My grandparents had a long, happy marriage and life. Let me share some corny childhood memories with you. When I was little and Grandma would catch us kids fighting or crying, she always had wise words. She told us that when we are angry or sad, we are just doubling our pain. If there is something bad in our life, thats

bad enough. But when we internalize that bad thing to make it part of our emotions, then we are choosing to suffer. That makes it harder to handle the bad thing Grandpa called it our

and it makes our life miserable. dying time.

When we are happy and laughing and When we are

enjoying life, thats our living time.

angry or sad, that is our dying time. So, it is just foolish to spend our living days dying, and they never did. Sure, its a corny story. I know that. But the wisdom and truth are undeniable. If you want to keep your man and yourselfhappy, then always let your home life

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together be above all of the struggles and problems that life throws at you. Share the problems and keep them separate from your feelings for each other. Let home

and the comfort of your arms be a safe haven for his emotions, and let him enjoy the warmth and comfort of his kingdom. When youre experiencing the bumps of

life, thats when you really need the comfort of each others arms, and that is the most important tip for you to know if you want a long, happy, and successful life together.

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Sex Tips
Have you ever thought that sex is overrated? Have you wondered why so many people go crazy over something that seems so fleeting and anti-climactic? If so, there is a simple explanation: Youre doing it wrong. Good sex is the highest high, most volcanic, earthshaking, out of body experience imaginable. If thats

not your experience, then lets fix that. It might be him and it might be you, but it affects both of you. Yes, the foreplay is important, as is a romantic mood and a warm attraction for each other. But for now lets leave

making love aside, and just focus on the old in-andout. If your man can give it to you for at least ten

minutes, then youll both be able to reach those incredible heights. Him No man can be Superman every time. Unless your man is a porn star, he probably is subject to some kind of performance anxiety from time to time. learn the signals. You need to

Men want to get into your flesh as

quickly as possible, so if he is exhibiting signs to the

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contrary, there is a reason.

Especially if this is a new

relationshipor any guy who hasnt had it for a while his little helmet head has been anticipating this moment since the date was set three days ago. And age impacts a man's ability more often than we girls recognize too.If he is taking it really slow and doesnt want you to touch his manhood, he is almost certainly feeling so turned on that he is afraid that your touch might cause him to embarrass himself. Likewise, if he goes down on you in a way that wont allow you to pleasure him orally or manually, he is probably solving math equations in his head to settle himself down. The truth is, it probably

wont work. Suck him to full release, or jerk him into a towel or onto your belly, and be excited about it. Cum on me, baby might be a good way to broach the subject. But be prepared, because it may be coming

fast. He will come around again, relaxed and ready for controlled action. Have him place one hand above his head and ask him to hold back the other free hand so he is in a position to experience. He can watch and enjoy, but hes not

invited to play yet. Rub your breast over his face, barely
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grazing his skin. Do the same with your stomach and any other body part that you know he loves or where you know you rock. Kiss him gently but tell him, at

least for the moment, not to kiss you yet. Build his anticipation. Run your breast and your hair over his cock. Teasingly kiss and lightly nibble his chest, tongue his belly button, and kiss his inner thigh. Caress his testicles with a barely there touch. Be his irresistibly seductive temptress. Your clit is the part of you that would have become a penis if you were destined to be a man. Think about

that little super-sensitive pleasure spot swelling up to the size of a throbbing erection with a million more exposed nerve endings. Now think about him stoking

every tingly little millimeter and then sucking it. Control is a lot harder for a man than it is for a woman, so have a little patience and understanding. time. One thing you know for sure: You turn him on. So do it. You have a lot of womanly ways, so spice it up and make sure you create the anticipation of the unknown It will pay off big

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every now and then. It can be something as simple as a sexy text message or a naughty and suggestive

compliment about what you wish you were doing while standing in line or out running errands. To really get his juices flowing with anticipation, playfully get his

attention when you know that the circumstances will not allow him to act immediately. waiting creates wanting. He has to wait, and

During intercourse, a woman often just wants her man to keep dishing out the long strokes over and over and over again, until she comes. If he switches from a push to a grind style for a while, you may feel like you are coming down from your rise toward orgasm and like you will not be able to get it back. You may be temped to say, Dont stop. Keep in mind that men only get so

many long strokes before they have to grind on your clit for a while so they can put off ejaculation; then he will go on to bring himself and you to a higher level. Just squeeze your butt cheeks tight to keep yourself as excited as possible and then coax him with hip thrusts to get back to business as soon as possible. Once men get in the comfort zone,
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which

usually

involves

overcoming one or two close calls, they can often keep going for a very long time. You may not be able to get back on your orgasmic track, but you may also discover that you reach a higher plateau leading to a more amazing orgasm when he gets back into gear, pumping that piston longer and harder. When your man is

proficient, you can let yourself rise and fall and then rise even higher a few times, building to a better finish. Once you have trained your main to get control of himself, you can have longer, incredibly satisfying sex that can sometimes culminate in a strategically designed simultaneous orgasm. Bu it's the journey, not the destination that really counts. Rarely do couples orgasm at the same time, but if you want to stroke his male ego then by all means fake it till you make it. And while you are at it, a firm slap on his ass is usually a welcome surprise. Ysometimes, your moans and grunts and fingernails can cue each other to synchronize your pace, allowing you to reach those glorious fireworks together. If possible, get on top like a sexy cowgirl, have him grab your hips to guide the thrusting and, for extra

excitement, turn around. Face your ass to him in

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reverse cowgirl. Sounds like it could be difficult but it isn't. With a little practice, youll be able to make the turnaround while he remains inside of you. He'll see the curve of your back (arch it if you can because that is very sexy). He'll get an occasional glimpse of your

breast and see a side of you that drives him crazy. If you have long hair, you can lean back on your arms and use it to tickle his face or chest, or throw it forward to tickle his thighs and balls. Dig in your nails, scratching his legs lightly so he knows you are having just as much if not more fun than he is. Its easy for him to take you from reverse cowgirl to doggy also, which is a way men love to finish. Men feel like men when they know that they have satisfied their woman. Let the man know!

Grab his legs firmly and go for the ride. If a man holds back too many times, it is possible that he wont be able to come at all. But the good news is, he doesnt mind because he really wants to please you (thats why hes holding back), and he may be able to pump you into multiple or even continuous rolling orgasms. Yum.

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Boner Pills Whether your man is young or old, the so-called erectile dysfunction pills, like Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, etc., have added a new and higher dimension to sexual routines for millions of men and women worldwide. Hugh Hefner called them recreational drugs when they first came out, and he ought to know. I've been to the Playboy Mansion on many occasions, and let's just say the older bunnies have given it to me on first-hand authority that the man knows his way around a moist vagina and has no problem pleasing a woman. But just as the rest of the body ages, so does the penis and the ability of blood to flow and fill the chambers. I have also been told by male doctors and other men that ED medications decrease their sensitivity and can make having an orgasm more of a challenge. So, does a man want a hard cock to please you, or an orgasm? A win-

win solution can be achieved by building anticipation outside of the bedroom with lots of sexy teasing, so both of you can have the best of bothhard cockthrusting sex and great orgasms. But dont worry; most guys will gladly give up their final splash if they can impress you by fucking like a porn star for half an hour
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or so.

And you can still finish him off later with a

prostate massage (full instructions coming up in a few pages!). If you have a young guy who tends to come as soon as he puts it in, then you can both benefit in a big way from erection pills. First of all, the penis will probably

get harder than usual. A hard cock has more stamina (because of less sensitivity) than one that is not as firm. It is more the way nature intended it to be, and it will tend to be less sensitive to the initial thrust. Guys that work out a lot sometimes have trouble getting rock hard too. But here is the really amazing part that you and

your partner dont know, because they dont put it in the ads: The men I know tell me that a man can stay hard for ten minutes or more after he ejaculates if he is using one of these wonder drugs. difference between sexual Ladies, that is the bliss and frustrated

disappointment.

Even if he spills his load after three

stokes, you still get a pretty good ride that can take you where you want to go. And he will gain the confidence of knowing that he can satisfy you and get more experience in the saddle, making him a mature lover in
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short order. Whether your man is young or old, he will also be able to come around again for a second helping in about 15 minutes. You may need to suck an older guy hard for the fastest results, so jump in the shower with him after the first go if you dont like the taste of your own juices. [Or just get over it. We taste a lot like what we consume. Want to be really sweet? Eat a lot of

pineapples and steer clear from salts and anything with spice for about twenty-four hours. There is no fishy

taste and we are, according to most men, their favorite dish to dine on.] Be prepared. The second time is likely to go for 30 to 60 minutes. Better living through chemistry, ladies.

Enjoy it. Use KY Jelly inserts to slowly dissolve to keep you extra wet. He won't feel them and you will feel them less than a tampon, though you insert them in a similar fashion. If you are going to have a lot of action, stay well lubricated so your girl doesn't get sore, and he doesn't think you've lost interest. Be creative. There

are all sorts of his and her lubricants on the market sold

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in the family planning sections of stores near the condoms.

Every magician has his own little black bag of tricks. Here are a few suggestions to start yours. First, just use something like one of the freebies the cosmetic giants give away. It's all about illusion, and if he goes looking at the contents some of the thrill is gone. Stock up on an insertable lubricant for vaginal dryness. Some last three days. Even if you get wet easily. Now, you will

really get wet and he'll really think he's turning you on. If you, like a lot of women, are concerned about the taste or smell of their girl, add Summer's Eve to your kit and get an all-over edible body lotion such as Kiss Me, which is sold at Victoria's Secret. They make his cock a lollipop so oral sex becomes a lot more fun. It will also lube him up, which in turn makes the longer sessions in bed more enjoyable for both of you. And of course, as Bill Clinton made so popular, try Altoids. Chew a few

with just a few particles in your mouth and then go down on him. It's a whole new sensation and another trick to put in your magic bag. But never feel like you have to use every trick every time.
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It's just good to

have some options to consider and find what might feel comfortable for you when he needs variety.

And dont worry that his boner is not rising for you. Some women believe that Viagra and the other similar drugs give the man a hard-on. That is simply not true. He will only get hard if he is aroused by you. The pill just allows him to get hard when he is stimulated in the usual way. His erection is just for you, honey. Take the Boredom Out of the Bedroom Whatever you can do to keep things new, exciting, sexy, and fun is something you need to do, once the initial sizzle has faded. Better yet, dont wait for it to fade.

Our generation is fortunate to have easy access to porn, toys, oils, and a host of accessories and information that can increase sexual pleasure. Don't be shy. Get

educated. You know the other woman, the high-end call girls and the sexual tigers among us aren't timid about learning new ways to entice your man. game, and play to win. For starters, no bedroom nightstand is complete without Get in the

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a drawer full of ribbed condoms, vibrators, dildos, beads, lotions, gels, and a copy of the Kama Sutra. Its your little black magicians bag. Candles, music, wine, and burning aromatherapy oils go without saying. Open the Kama Sutra to a random position, and give it a try, maybe for your second round. If it feels uncomfortable, don't. You are sexy and beautiful, and like makeup and perfume, these are just added ways to enhance the sex kitten you all ready are.

Ribbed condoms will give you newfound pleasures and will be fun for him too. The new fire and ice gels offer fun and variety for both partners as well. Sexy showers can be incredibly entertaining and reduce inhibitions. Just be careful when youre mixing champagne with a slippery showersafety first! If youve never tried anal sex ladies, now is the time. Especially if you have trouble reaching orgasm, there is something about the forbidden that can bring the screams out of you like nothing else. Make sure you are well lubricated and that he is wearing a condom, and take it slow. If it hurts, stop and playfully go down on
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him as a nice way to transition. Make sure (baby wipes in your goodie bag are perfect for this) that his cock does not go from you ass into your girl or you can get bacterial infections which will itch, burn and take all desire out of trying this one again.

So, you want to give anal sex a try, but are a little afraid that you might not be clean or that it'll hurt? Prepare.

Prepare. Prepare. You can buy over the counter enemas that are similar to a douche and will take care of any cleanliness issues that may be on your mind inhibiting your fun. Practice by yourself alone when you have a private moment; insert a lubricant bead a few hours before you plan to get busy, and you can always practice on yourself with anal beads that come in a lot of sizes. He never has to know. I find that being relaxed

and totally into him is key. This is a skill that is a little like riding a bike. If you don't prepare and practice, it can hurt. It is best to have him play with it for at least 10 minutes first to allow you to relax your muscles. You may well come like youve never come before. Some

girls never want to use the front door again (but lets not get carried away).
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A man can also come easily when you massage his prostate. He might not like the idea of your finger up

his ass at first, but run your fingertip around the hole a few times and he will have no choice but to love it. Lubed and trimmed, smooth nails and a gentle touch while kissing and nibbling his ear go a long way in helping him to relaxing so he can enjoy as well. You can lubricate your finger with your own juice if you dont want to stop to apply something. might not be the best for this. A long fingernail

But put your finger in His

gently, working it in with slow in-and-out probes.

prostate is on the front at about your second knuckle or so. Massage gently, and he will come like crazy, even if his penis is soft. Finger-fuck him a little bit while hes coming. This is especially great for him if he gave you several orgasms but screwed himself soft before he was able to reach orgasm himself. He will think you are a goddess, because you know more about him than he knew about himself. Very few straight men have

explored or even know about the pleasures that lie just a few inches up their ass.

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Keep in mind, girls, that sex is best when its naughty and forbidden. If youve ever had a secret lover, then you know how much more powerful and exciting his forbidden touch is. For your own benefit and for your

mans, you need to keep finding naughty and forbidden ways to excite and titillate each other to keep life fun and interesting, and to keep your man happy and loyal. Body parts that have not been explored will be

especially sensitive to the touch. Suck his cock like you havent had a meal in a month, and dont forget to lick and suck his balls too. If you gave him a shower, you might want to even give him a rim job with your tongue. He will love it. Get on top for a great 69. It keeps him from having to hold himself up on his elbows to keep his weight off you, and it also keeps your head from being pinned down by his thrusting cock. Remember that in the 69 position, his nose will be in your, well, other hole. So make sure it is clean and sweet for him. If he doesnt spend much time licking, it might be time for a douche. Also, when you are in this position, your head and neck are lined up perfectly to practice your deep throat technique. If you
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can control your gag reflex, your man is in for a special treat. Playtime should include selfish times for both of you too. Make him come all over your body, or even on your face if you want to try that. Then rub his love batter all over your body and lick you fingers. It is very intimate and personal and special. And it is delightfully naughty. Let him use your vibrator to pleasure you while youre watching porno. Guide his hand to push it in harder and deeper, and guide it to your clit so he can see how you respond to that stimulation as well. Explore every inch of each others bodies. Practice makes perfect, and once hes screwing like a rock star you will be able to try many new positions that just seemed impossible before. Wake him up for surprise sex in the middle of the night. Men love morning sex too, and they are often at their best then. Surprise sex outside of the bedroom is also a wonderful gift that your man will love. Bring him a beer when hes watching the ballgame, and then unzip his pants and get on your knees. Suck him to completion and take his load in your mouth. Its okay then to run off and spit if you want to. Gargle, and then come back
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to kiss him.

Grab him by the necktie and tackle him Take him out for

when he comes home from work. afterwards. Be his mistress.

dinner and then surprise him with a motel room Fucking can be more exciting than making love. Be every woman that your man needs. After you make him love you, you have to make him keep wanting you everyday.

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