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Sexual Fitness is an exciting new concept coined by a psychologist with expertise in human sexuality, health/fitness, and dating /relationships. Sexual Fitness encourages men and women to engage in cognitive and behavioral sexual exercises with the same vigor as people who engage in physical fitness activities. Just as physical fitness, sexual fitness is a state of being and a lifestyle. Embarking on a sexual fitness plan can be done solo or better yet, as a couple. Sexual fitness is attained in the same fashion as physical fitness but much more enjoyable. Cardiovascular activity and regular physical exercise supports the growth of heart muscles, thereby increasing the speed and volume of blood bringing nutrients to the rest of the body. A physically fit person maintains body nutrient absorption at an optimal level. The result of optimal nutrient absorption translates into stronger anatomical systems and quicker curative processes. Health and fitness of the body can be determined by regularly evaluating nutritional habits, patterns of lifestyle, types of food consumed, and frequency of physical exercise. A monitored physical fitness exercise plan is essential for keeping the body fine-tuned despite lifestyle, age or physical abilities. Physical fitness helps people maintain and sustain a focused frame of mind by boosting mental sharpness, perceptual clarity and greater concentration. In relationship to sexual mastery, the same need for active monitoring and consistent focus applies. All the physical and psychological benefits of being physically fit parallel sexual oriented fitness. The only differences between these two realms are regions of the body focused upon and areas stimulated within the brain. To practice sexual fitness means giving the sensual self equal time and attention as delegated to physical health. Once a man or woman has made sexual oriented fitness a priority and practicing daily cognitive sexual exercises, the next step is active practice and education. The education and practice of sexual fitness is multifaceted and sexual exercising the mind and body has many avenues. The goal of education is spending time engaged in academic pursuits learning about sexual anatomy, non-genital sexual stimulation, communication skills building, nutritional foods and supplements optimizing sexual prowess. The goal of education is consistently accessing all forms of study in the pursuit of becoming adept at knowing the sexual self and the other gender when warranted. For women, subjects for study should include how society sends mixed messages to women regarding being a sexual being, the impact of past traumatic experiences on sexuality, sexual fulfillment techniques and benefits of living as a sexual creature. For men, subjects of study should include arousal skills building, non-genital sexual stimulation techniques, communication skills building, and any subjects related to how sex is not a mission of conquest. Education is crucial to sexual fitness. Radio talk shows, relationship expert seminars, online surfing and many other formats for education are available for consumption. At the same time as engaging in education, the sexually fit adult practices physical sexual exercises. Self-stimulation is one exercise which men and women can engage in whether single, dating, or in

2 a relationship. If religious and/or moral reasons prevent someone from direct genital stimulation, than indirect sexual stimulation by not touching their genital region is just as effective. The active practice of self-stimulation, whether direct or indirect, serves the goal of developing self-awareness in the realm of learning to identify regions of the body, which start arousal. During these sexual exercises, it is paramount to practice self-stimulation void of being preoccupied by stress or thoughts of time management restrictions. If making this type of fitness a priority, then time management should rarely be a reason to not practice exercises. The frequency of self-stimulation is not the aim, but the consistent conscious effort to do so is of greater value. The combination of a conscious effort to schedule self-stimulation along with consistent frequency is the best formula. It is not the quantity of self-stimulation episodes, but the quality and benefits gained from each event. For men and women dating, in relationships, or married, practicing sexual fitness adds an exciting additional dimension. This dimension is the potential luxury one experiences when a loved one becomes as an active participant in sexual fitness training. Just as physical fitness and sports are far more enjoyable and invigorating when there is the social element of others involved; the same principle applies to couples. Having a partner to agree in prioritizing sexual oriented fitness is the ultimate tandem team activity. This approach has a vast array of positive benefits. The team approach to sexual fitness offers crucial dynamics not afforded to the solo participant. One benefit is the potential for deeper intimate connections. Sexual fitness and physical fitness are the same in practice and understanding. The only difference is sexual fitness is genital and arousal regions specific. Just as physical fitness, sexual fitness requires a commitment to prioritize and willingness to stay focused.

3 Author Bio: Dr. Michael Nuccitelli is a New York State licensed psychologist and certified forensic consultant. He completed his doctoral degree in clinical psychology in 1994 from the Adler School in Chicago, Illinois. In 2006, he received the Certified Forensic Consultant, C.F.C., designation from the American College of Forensic Examiners (ACFEI.) Dr. Nuccitelli is a New York State resident residing 65 miles North of Manhattan. Dr. Nuccitelli has many career and academic experiences. His areas of expertise include forensic psychology, theoretical criminology, digital/computer forensics, human sexuality, human development, psychiatric illness and psychological issues. He is an avid follower of national news and enjoys interfacing with the media. At present, Goliath Labs Inc. and Herberex Inc. are two of the companies he provides educational information on integrative medicine, dating/relationships and human sexuality. Michael Nuccitelli Psy.D., C.F.C. NYS Licensed Psychologist Email: drnucc@hotmail.com Blog: http://darkpsychology.co/ Scribd: http://www.scribd.com/iPredator Facebook: The iPredator