Академический Документы
Профессиональный Документы
Культура Документы
[ Home ] [ Communication during sex ] [ Sensitivity exploring exercises in sex ] [ Undressing as fo replay ] [ The penis as a sexual stimulator ][ Oral sex for men and women ] [ Sounds, sight and se nses in sex ] [ Anorgasmia and erectile dysfunction ] [ General advice on how to make sex better ]
Properly developed, both the Bath and the Shower Technique can add a new dimension to a couple's sexual experience. If you haven't tried them, don't lose too much time. You may find you will need some practice to get them perfect, but the time spent on them will not be wasted. The Techniques of Oral Intercourse The mouth and the tongue, besides being sensitive zones in themselves, have special qualities as sexually arousing agents. Because the mouth and the tongue have these dual functions, oral sex is a two-way traffic. While sexually stimulating the partner's clitoris, vagina, balls or penis, the stimulator is arousing himself /herself. The aim of oral intercourse - fellatio or cunnilingus - is to turn both partners on sexually. Any combination of mouth and tongue with clitoris, vagina, vulva, balls, penis - can do it. These caresses can bring two people together in an intensity of sexual pleasure which may be even greater than that produced by conventional "penis-in-the-vagina" sex! When the man orally stimulates the clitoris and vagina of his partner it is called cunnilingus. Cunnilingus involves sucking the clitoris with the lips, licking or flicking it with the tongue or tongue-tip, licking the vaginal ridge, sucking the labia with the mouth and inserting the tongue in the vagina. When a woman orally stimulates the penis of her partner it is called fellatio, and she is said to be fellating him. Fellatio involves licking and flicking the glans penis and penile shaft with the tongue and tongue-tip, and taking the penis into the mouth and sucking it. When one says, "The woman licks the man's, penis and takes it into her mouth and sucks it," and "The man sucks and licks the woman's clitoris," it sounds simple enough, doesn't it? But actually fellatio and cunnilingus are quite sophisticated techniques. Taking fellatio first, let me try to give the basic outlines of the techniques. Fellatio is not just a matter of putting the glans penis into the mouth and sucking it. Naturally, this simple activity would give the man a good deal of pleasure, but as with every other stimulating technique, the aim is to give him the maximum pleasure. To provide him with the maximum pleasure, the fellator must know the sensitive areas of the penis. These are - in descending order of sensitivity - the frenulum, penistip, coronal rim (both round the edge and in the groove under it), the base of the penis and all round about an inch and a half above the root, the whole length of the underside of the shaft, and finally, the rest of the skin of the penis. Since the frenulum, glans-penis and coronal rim lead off the list with maximum sensitivity, if the man is uncircumcised it is essential to draw back his foreskin as far as it will go before beginning fellatio, otherwise some of the effect will be lost, because the mouth and tongue cannot be in direct contact with the extensive masses of nerves in these three closely located areas. Also the warmth of the mouth and the saliva it contains are extremely stimulating in their special way. One thing about fellatio a woman must never forget is that the head of the erect penis is extremely sensitive; she must take particular care all the time not to bite or scratch it with her teeth. Should she do so, she can be absolutely certain of disaster. Nothing makes the penis more rapidly deflate than pain. A sharp nip, and within two seconds it will be completely limp, and will take a great deal of the friendliest persuasion to get it back up again. So the first technique of fellatio a woman might learn is to draw her lips down and under (or over) the edges of her teeth to shield the sensitive penis head from their sharpness. She should not draw them in so much that they are completely rigid, but just enough to cover them. Many men find being fellated standing up very exciting, and to do so the woman nearly always kneels on the floor. If she does adopt this position, the woman will need cushions to kneel on. It is a good position because the frenulum is directly available to her tongue and so is the underside of the penis. Besides, unless the man is very tall,
she will not have to depress the penis very much when she takes it into her mouth. Some men find this standing position too exciting, especially if they are fellated until they ejaculate. The rising excitement can make a guy's knees quiver uncontrollably: if so, he would usually prefer to sit down, with the woman kneeling on cushions between his knees. If fellatio is used only as a foreplay technique, and the sex session is going to end with the penis in the vagina, then it makes sense if the couple lies on the bed. The woman should have her face towards his face, so she can get her tongue easily onto his frenulum. Having said that, it can be very exciting for her to fellate him facing away, so he gets the sight and scent of her vulva and bottom in his face! Usually the penis can be brought up to stand at right angles with the rest of his body when he is on his back, without causing him any discomfort whatsoever. Knowing this, a woman can adjust her oral sex position for fellatio accordingly. Most couples agree that simultaneous oral sex is just about as exciting as placing the penis in the vagina. In order to carry out this simultaneous stimulation, one or other variations of the position known as 69 must be used. One variant is for the couple to lie side by side with their mouths within easy reach of each other's genitals. It is a restful position, but it has the drawback that the man is not very well placed to caress the clitoris and vagina. By far the most satisfactory "69" position is when the man lies on his back and the woman crouches astride and above him. Her clitoris and vagina are then directly over his face and her mouth is within easy reach of his cock and balls. If she wants to suck his cock, she can lift it up into her mouth, or she can give the frenulum, penis-head and pens rim a warming up by licking them, or teasing them with a rapidly moving tongue-tip. This can be followed by a number of varieties of caresses, as, for example, running her tongue round the edge of the rim, the tongue tip under the edge of the rim, licking the frenulum and penis-tip with the tongue, and very, very lightly nipping or rolling the frenulum between lip-protected teeth. Blowing on the penis-head and under the rim is also extremely stimulating. When the woman eventually takes the penis into her mouth she should take as much in as she can. Simultaneously with her sucking the penis, she must move her mouth up and down the shaft and head. Most often the penis must be held away from his belly, in order for this maneuver to be carried out. At the same time she should move her hand holding his penis up and down the part of his penis which will not go into her mouth. With the other hand she should fondle his balls - again very, very lightly. If his balls are not too large, she should take one or both into her mouth from time to time and suck them very gently. Most men find this extremely arousing, but good care must be taken not to nip them with the teeth or suck on them too hard. As the man's sexual arousal begins to build up, the woman will notice that his balls now and again move up towards the root of his penis, pause there for a second or two, and then move down again. When he is approaching the point of no return he will begin to breathe heavily, and will automatically push up and lower his pelvis rhythmically. At the same time his balls will rise and lower more frequently, and they will not now descend so low as they did previously. This is a sign of his imminent orgasm and ejaculation. A woman who wishes to give her man the ultimate pleasure will have no compunction about letting him ejaculate in her mouth. However, some men's semen has a distinctly acid taste which very slightly stings the back of the throat as it is swallowed. If a woman is not keen, for this or any other reason, to accept the semen in her mouth, as soon as his balls begin to move up she can withdraw her mouth and finish him off with her fingers. However, if she does this she will deprive him of some of his thrill. If the semen tastes at all, it is not a strong taste, and a drink of water - or champagne - will immediately dispel any slight stinging sensations there may be. Certainly swallowing semen never did any woman any harm. It can't, because for the most part it is made up of sugar and salts. The art of cunnilingus is just as rewarding and just as subtle. If it is not to be performed simultaneously with fellatio, the woman should lie on her back, her knees drawn up and spread, the soles of her feet resting on the bed. The man places himself below her, his face over her genitals and his hands parting her labia. He begins by running round the rim of her vaginal entrance with his tongue-tip, from time to time putting his tongue into her vagina as far as it will go, and moving it in and out, in the same way that his penis would if it were there. After a few minutes he runs the flat of his tongue up the vaginal ridge until
he reaches the clitoris. Having got there, he varies his caresses between (i) licking the clitoris slowly with the flat of his tongue; (ii) teasing the clitoris-head with rapid flicks of the tongue-tip; (iii) taking the clitoris head between his lips and sucking strongly on it; (iv) rolling the clitoris-head between his lips; (v) any other technique he may invent himself. The secret is to devote, say, a couple of minutes or three to direct stimulation of the clitoris by one or a combination of these methods, then return to the vagina for a moment or two and then come back to the clitoris. When the woman comes up to the point of no return in her female sexual response cycle she will begin to breathe heavily and the man will lose contact with the clitoris, because at this point it draws back into its hood. He is now faced with two alternatives: either he can apply a strong suction on her clitoral area, which will make her come within a few seconds, or rapidly pull himself up on to her, slip his cock into her cunt, and with a dozen thrusts or so, bring her to orgasm, and he will ejaculate as well. This is a superb way of making it easy for women to reach orgasm during sex although it does require some self-control on the part of the man. All these maneuvers, except the last, can be carried out in the "69" position in which the woman crouches over the supine man and goes down on him while he is simultaneously carrying out a blow job on her. The couple, who occasionally want to come with simultaneous cunnilingus and fellatio, should be able with a little practice, to time their climaxes to coincide. And that is quite an experience! Either as foreplay or as complete intercourse, oral sex is never a disappointment, and, more often than not, provides a truly wild and deeply satisfying session of sex.