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How to Meet
Women
Edited by Jon Jensen, R.A.
Introduction
Introduction
You always wanted to be a spy, right? Finding out the top-secret
information, the stuff that’s really, really valuable, the stuff that will
make all the difference. Then bring back that top secret informa-
tion and use it to win the war.
That’s what this book is. It’s the top secret information
that’s been kept from guys far too long. It’s the information
every guy needs to pick up the woman of their dreams.
Sure, there are other books on meeting women, but they are
always written by some guy who claims he has met and bedded
thousands of women. He claims that his tricks will work for you.
But how can they? You’re different from every other guy. Maybe
that guy is taller than you are. Maybe he’s thinner, or drives a bet-
ter car. Maybe he’s attracted to different kinds of women than you
are. How are his techniques ever going to help you?
By the way, I underlined things that I think every guy should know.
The Women
Kelly: Mid 20s, light blond and blue eyes, athletic, dates tons
but never seems to make it to the second date. This
love-em-and-leave-em gal has traveled the world and
loves the online dating scene.
Lori: Blond, mid 30s but looks like she’s straight out of
college. Has a great job but plays it cool – never lets
the guys she picks up know that she made more
money this year than they’ll make in the next ten.
JJ: I agree. So let’s start with you, Kelly. What’s the best way
for a guy to meet you?
Kelly: Oh, I didn’t say that’s how he picks me up. That’s how
to meet me. Most of the time guys have nothing to say
after I dance with them. They’re like fish – I just throw
them back.
Kelly: Sure, if he’s the right kind of guy and says the
right things.
Lori: Guys can be stalkers. The last thing you want is a guy
stalking you. Most guys seem okay when you meet
them, really quiet and unassuming, but then they
become stalkers.
Calling Etiquette–
Guys Don’t Get It
Kelly: Guys just don’t
get it. They think
because you
give them your
number they can
just call and call.
I hate that. Guys
should realize
that if they call
and leave a message that we got the message and that
if we really want to call them back we will.
Confidence, Man
Lori: But it’s true, sometimes women don’t want a guy who is
too eager. Women are sometimes attracted to guys who
are aloof. The last thing you want is a guy who is up
your butt.
Kelly: Rene and I lied to some guy the other night. We said we
were both students at Harvard home for a break. We said
we were roommates.
Rene: Kelly will lie about her age, her name, school, address –
you name it, Kelly will lie about it.
JJ: Why?
Kelly: Hey, guys can do it, too. Why not pretend to have
an accent.
JJ: Is he a cardiologist?
Lori: It’s not the line, really. I mean, we’ve heard them all. I bet
between us all we’ve heard every line that ever existed.
What really matters is what works for that moment.
Lori: One time in a bar this guy walked up to me and said “do
you really need to wear those glasses, or do you just like
looking sexy?” That was great. I hate my glasses and was
only wearing them because my contacts were out of
commission. Compliments like that work great.
Rene: You know, I heard the train is a really great place to meet
guys. Like instead of taking a plane you take a train.
Guys can approach you on the train because it’s more
relaxed and there are no assigned seats.
Eye Contact:
Better Than Words?
Rene: The sexually charged look always gets my attention.
Kelly: I know. It’s better than a pick up line for a lot of women.
Rene: Well, it’s all about eye-to-eye contact. And not saying
anything. The key is to hold off saying anything as long
as you can. And gentlemen, it’s eye to EYE contact, not
eye to BREAST.
Rene: If the look goes on for a solid five minutes then it’s okay
to approach the woman. Also, you’ve got to break away
from the look for a count of 30 at least once and then
look back. If she’s looking back at you then you’re in the
clear. If she isn’t then it’s over.
Online Dating
Kelly: I meet a lot of guys online these days.
Lori: Really?
JJ: But how would a guy know what you have in common
if you’ve never met?
Kelly: I guess it’s just best to list a lot of hobbies and interests
and figure that something will make an impression. Also
you’ve got to stand out somehow. To me 90% of the guys
online say the same stupid things. I mean, you can say
some of the same stuff, but don’t repeat everything.
Kelly: Yeah, it’s too easy to say “no, not you.” There are just so
many guys to choose from that if there is any reason to
screen a guy out I will. The guy just has to make sure he
doesn’t give me a reason.
Kelly: Funny will work. Smart will work, but not TOO smart.
He just has to stand out.
Kelly: No. Just get to know me via email. Don’t rush things. If I
trust you I’ll trade phone numbers with you. Then after
we talk on the phone you can ask me out. But I’m not
going to meet a guy unless I talk to him on the phone first.
Kelly: Of course not. A romantic dinner for the first date is the
last place I want to go with a guy I don’t know. If I’m at a
fancy restaurant I can’t just leave if I don’t like the guy,
I’ve got to endure hours of him droning on and on about
some boring thing or another.
The worst guys are the boring guys, the ones that only
talk about themselves. And also, the last thing I want is
to feel as if I owe you something at the end of a date just
because you took me to a fancy restaurant. I’m not
owing you anything, buddy.
Do You Have to be a
Supermodel?
JJ: Something Kelly said when we were taking about online
dating really stuck with me: you said a guy has to be
handsome for you to go out with him. How important
are looks when a guy is trying to pick up a woman?
JJ: Really?
Marie: I mean there are some obvious turn offs, like bad breath
and dirty teeth. I don’t care if you’re Brad Pitt, bad breath
is going to turn me off.
Rene: There’s this thing called sexy-ugly. You can be ugly and
sexy at the same time. Like Willem DaFoe. I think he’s an
ugly, ugly man, but he’s also incredibly sexy. Well, maybe
he’s not as ugly as he is unusual looking.
Rene: If you’re not a great looking guy, it doesn’t mean that you
have no chance. Just try to find something that is good
looking about yourself and bring it out. Like your eyes or
your lips. Then wear clothes that really bring that out.
And have some confidence in yourself, dammit.
JJ: Okay, I’m not sure I can believe this. The rest of you, do
you believe in this sexy-ugly theory?
Brenda: It’s not a theory, it’s the truth. Most of the guys I’ve dated
have not been your traditionally handsome kind of guys.
Hell, my husband is bald, for God’s sake. But he’s
very sexy.
Lori: It’s all about the way a guy looks when he approaches
you, not just how good looking he is. It’s all about how
he acts, if he feels he has confidence.
Lori: Yeah, guys, stop biting your nails. But don’t get a
manicure either, that’s no good.
Cologne or No Cologne?
JJ: Do you like cologne on guys?
Lori: Depends on the guy. I guess it’s okay as long as it’s light.
Rene: Yeah, you don’t want to smell the guy’s cologne unless
you’re pressed up to him.
Rene: You see, I disagree. I like cologne. But just not too
much of it.
Final Thoughts
Marie: Be confident.