Prsuasion And Aittitude 20042115 Manki Kim Hi, im manki kim, student in class of persuasion and attitude change.

Now I will tell you about How we decide to be a couple. Recently what makes me feel curious was how two people get involve as "couple". Surprisingly a lot of my friends get their mate to be with. I could not understand how. At the first time when we met, all we were saw each other as brother not lover. How could brother turn to lover? In the other hand theres no such curious thing. Young man and woma n knows each other for long days then realize how they think about ea ch other. Suddenly. But what makes that sudden moment? Sudden mo ment that makes differences. Or is that sudden moment are not exist but something another is in there? Simple assumption could gave us insight. If you assume this love-relat ion-situation as "marketplace", we can suppose men are poor seller b ut women are rich consumer. Like we are not surprise when jobless w ant to get a job, Its not surprising thing that guys want to sell thems elves. As you know, Winter is getting cold and need to get warm. I wa nt to know is another perspective. Why she allow me to be with her? I got nothing but why? I had passed this question to my ex-girlfriend when we were seeing. S tupid question. Why you seeing me? But shes only gave me ambiguo us smile. I can't dig it more. After time she said that reason was I am nice to her. But that was not enough to me. Is that all? What if someo ne another did nice to her, things can be change? Theres possibility t hat another guy stand beside her? Only because of kindness? so I went to another friend and she gave me interesting perspective. Was bit different compare I heard so far. She did differentiate true lov e and to be couple. It means, to be couple can be possible even if ther e is no dramatic emotion. Bit strange but I did keep listening. Usually proposal is not the disaster to women that makes feel disgusting but a ctually nice event makes feel her good - even most of guys scared of i t - , so matter is whether this relationship have possibility of fail or not. After relationship revert to investment - like time or money investmen t - what they don't want is take risk. Then what they concern is how h e behave generally. And his reputation. how much he lovely is not mor e important than how he behave to his friends. Those information can be resource for predict applicants Behavior. And it is not unusual thing. Whenever you apply a job, you must send your resume and self-introduce to company where you want to be hire d. Like hiring, you need to show your lover that youve got capacity a nd passion. Now we get basis to assume coupling as persuasion. What I want to suggest more for this persuasion is mere exposure effect a nd foot in the door effect

Mere exposure effect is the core processing that familiarity turn to rea son why admit subject or notion. It is well introduced with Eiffel Tower case. When France Government announce to build big steel tower in t he middle of the Paris, most of French people were against of it. But af ter build it under condition that will be pull down tower after build it 2 0 years, people were getting love it. Reason was tower was very much big to all of people in Paris can see it then people were getting familia r with it. Even they got no any interest as the first time. Surely all we are can do better than this steel tower. We can find same example of mere exposure in this song. Theres one ladys singing. She said, I though you look like fool, when I saw you first time. But next time I met you I thought you are so cute. Same like this, exposure can change peoples attitude. This song is describe procedure about how people fall in love. Another one is foot in the door effect that shows strength of continu ous relationship. Renowned as strategy for salesperson, is based on p ower of mere human relationship. After make any interaction very firs t time, relationship is getting deeper. And it makes the hidden power t hat you allow something to someone who used to be stranger. this married guy who won against oppose from their lover can be the successful case of power of mere exposure and foot it the door effect. Lee won jong, well known as the most tough guy in age of gangsters was needed to propose to his wife 300 time or more. Even hes not look like never did single propose, he did 300 times. An d it provide information how his wife oppose to be with very first time. Most of people were never thought that who next to her/him can be th eir true mate. But turns out, they are. If you axing it ten times, you can take that lumber. This maxim is gen erally used to metaphor for one sided love. Actually for guys. This proverb means that if you show your eager love to your lover sev eral times, you can get your romance in the end. But you should dont confuse what tree that you face. Relationship is the most important part of human life but have fantasy on it is just include difficulty. Those strategy above cant guarantee yo u get your mate safely. Anyway above all, what you must to is do your best. So, good luck.