REAL WOMAN FOUNDATION SEMINAR QUESTIONS FOR JULY 2011 TITLED YOU & YOUR FRIENDS 1.

I just finished my Secondary School education and feel I should go into a relationship just to experience what its all about. Should I go ahead? ANS: Its not about doing what you feel, the questions you should be asking are, Are you prepared enough to go into a relationship? Are you matured enough for a relationship? You need to effectively answer these questions, or else you might end up regretting any uninformed action you take. Do you think you are matured spiritually, physically, financially and psychologically? I think your education should be your priority for now. 2. I am always having this feeling about a guy I love but he is no longer in the country, I want to know how to overcome this feeling at this stage. ANS: Your sincerity is admirable; you should work on your mind because you are only living in fantasy and lust. Make new friends and prayerfully tell God to help you to overcome this feeling. 3. If you are married and your spouse is HIV infected, is it right to quit the relationship and when? ANS: The marriage vow was for better for worst, in sickness and in health until death do us part; however, you may need to seek medical advice. 4. If you are engaged to a lady whom you just discovered to be pregnant for a man who claims not be responsible for it, what would you do? ANS: What do you really think marriage is all about? Commitment is one of the criteria for marriage. If a woman is not committed and faithful to you before marriage she cant be after marriage. 5. If you have a friend who is a cultist and he is willing to quit, how do you help, and is it advisable for you to continue with the friendship? ANS: If he is really willing to change, introduce him to a church/youth leader and pray for him. However, remember that if you associate with the wrong group of people, you may be negatively influenced. 6. Is it advisable to include romance, while excluding sex during courtship? ANS: Romance is prelude to sex and they are all in the same category, if you start romancing you would soon have sex, so quit! 7. I am a 17 years old girl, but married men come after me. What do I do? ANS: Who are your friends? Maybe your close associates are highly matured people who happen not to be born again. Be conscious of your dressing and carriage. In what type of places do you hang out? If all the above listed questions can not be justified with reasonable answers, then you are more vulnerable to such advances from married men.

8. My biological brother had sex with me while we were growing up, although I went for deliverance, I still feel guilty. What do I do? ANS: If you have repented and been prayed for; you should let it go but you may need to talk to a counselor. See a counselor. 9. At what age should a young person begin to think of marriage? ANS: Although it is also put into consideration, age is not the major criteria for marriage. The most essential factors include: spiritual, physical, financial and emotional maturity. If you are convinced that you have attained all of the above, then, you are ready to go into marriage. 10. Please how do I become born-again? ANS: Being born again is simply quitting your old ways and embracing a new Godcentered life. This can be achieved by doing the following: Acknowledging that you are a sinner, Confessing your sins to God, Inviting Jesus into your life, Believing your sins have been forgiven and starting to live as a child of God. 11. I have never had sex before but I put instruments in my vagina. Am I still a virgin? ANS: First, putting objects in your vagina is a very dangerous practice that can increase your susceptibility to various infections. Second, your hymen, which makes you a virgin, could be broken in the process. However, you may need to see a counselor or even a doctor. 12. Is exam malpractice advisable, even if it is done just to satisfy ones parents? ANS: As much as God says we should honor our parents, it is important to note that love and respect for God supersedes every other law. So, which do you want? Do you want to join your parents to disobey God and face the consequence or to obey God and be blessed for it? Take your case to God in prayers and you will be amazed how He can intervene on your behalf. 13. Is lesbianism an acceptable practice for me as a girl, because I dont want to have anything to do with a man? ANS: No, it is a sin. 14. I like this boy but as a girl, I am not supposed to tell him. What do I do? ANS: Stay off it, its not dignifying for you as a lady to go after men. Let them be the ones to come after you. 15. What do I do if my friends call me a fool because of my decision not to have sex? ANS: Evil communication corrupts good manner, you may have to dissociate yourself from them, because very soon they may lead you astray. Value your virginity; dont give it away because your friends are mocking you. Once you lose it, you will never recover it.

16. As a teenager, I feel unloved because I repeated a class and my father would always use words against me. ANS: If you have a relationship with Jesus, you should know that its what God says about you that matters. Always keep it in mind that God loves you. You need to check yourself, if there is a particular attitude you possess that gets your parents angry, then you need to pray about it and trust God to help you stop. 17. If you have sex with your partner, will the sex destroy your future? At what age can I start having sex? ANS: Sex is only permitted within the confines of lawful marriage; you do not have to concern yourself with it if you are not married. 18. How do I stay away from bad friends? ANS: The fact that you know that you need to stay away from bad friends, has partly solved the problem. The remaining part of the solution lies in you becoming a child of God, being friends with Gods children and you would be better for it. 19. What can one do if valued friends and people complain about a particular friend that the person has? ANS; Please you should not disregard your parents view about your friends because they know better, they cant lead you astray. 20. How do I stop masturbating? ANS: See a counselor 21. If my dad has sex with me, what do I do? ANS: You may need to see a counselor. 22. I started dating at the age of 10. I have been involved in 2 (two) relationships, with the guys who are about 6 years older than I am, but I ended up heartbroken. I want to develop a relationship with God, how do I go about it? ANS: Go on your knees and talk to Him as you would your earthly father, he is ever willing to hear you. 23. When a lady is betrayed in about 3 (three) relationships and she has to be married, what can she do? ANS: Pray and ask God for direction. Be wise and learn from past errors and mistakes 24. I get angry easily and it stops people from relating with me. What do I do? ANS: Good, you have identified your weakness, begin to pray about it, read books about it and consciously control yourself. 25. How do I know if a guy truly loves me? ANS: He would not ask you to do what God says that you should not do.

26. Is there anything like a second time virgin even after you have had sex but you have given your life to Christ? ANS: If you are in Christ Jesus old things have passed away, and behold, all things are new. 27. How do I stop a friend from sex addiction? ANS: If he is willing, introduce him to a counselor. 28. What advice do you have for a gay person? ANS: See a counselor 29. How do I control myself when relating with girls, because I always want to sleep with them each time I set my eyes on them? ANS: Maybe you need to check what you feed your mind on, and how you see girls. If you treat a girl bad by sleeping with her, God would hold you responsible because it means you would abuse your body and that of the girl, which are supposed to be Gods temple. 30. How do I get over a relationship that just got broken? ANS: Turn to God; He is an expert at healing broken hearts. 31. How do I handle a friend who persists in demanding sex from me? I have refused to grant his request, but he would not listen and I love him. ANS: Please dont wait till he rapes or have sex with you, you should flee from all appearance of evil. If he loves you, he wont defile you 32. I got dis-virgined on the 25th of December but it happened by mistake; how do I help myself because I still find myself going back in to it? ANS: You need to see it as a sin and remorsefully ask God for forgiveness and the Holy Spirit to help you make a stand. 33. I am a virgin but I am afraid of ladies because I feel that they will spoil me. ANS: Women are caring and Gods instrument. Change your mindset of who a lady is, change your association, and change what you feed our mind on. Women are Gods extension of love. 34. How do I start telling my friends about God? ANS: Start with whatever you have around you by sharing your testimonies of what God has done for you, who God is to you.