Establishing True Islamic

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Establishing True Islamic
Sisterhood








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Establishing True Islamic

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Establishing True Islamic Sisterhood

In todays sitting, we have chosen this topic (Sisterhood in al
our Religion, which sadly, most of us fail to understand its true value hence we fail to appreciate it, let alone
make an effort to strengthen it. Pinili natin ang paksang ito, dahil sa mataas nitong katayuan at kahalagahan sa ating pananampalataya,
na siya namang nakalulungkot dahil marami sa atin ang hindi ito lubusang nauunawaan, dahilan upang hindi nila ito pahalagahan o sikapin man
lang na mapatatatag pa ito.
` ` ' ` ` ` ` ` ` ` ` '
O you who have believed, fear Allah as He should be feared and do not die except as Muslims
` ` ` `
And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become
The believers are nothing else than brothers.
I swear by Him, in whose Hands is my soul,
` ` ` ` ` ` `
you will not enter Paradise until you have faith,
and you will not have faith until you love each other.
` ` ` ` ` ` ` ` `
Shall I direct you to something which if you
Spread peace among yourselves. (
Establishing True Islamic Sisterhood
In todays sitting, we have chosen this topic (Sisterhood in al-Islaam) due to its lofty and important status in
us fail to understand its true value hence we fail to appreciate it, let alone
Pinili natin ang paksang ito, dahil sa mataas nitong katayuan at kahalagahan sa ating pananampalataya,
mi sa atin ang hindi ito lubusang nauunawaan, dahilan upang hindi nila ito pahalagahan o sikapin man


` ` ` ` ` ` ` ` '
O you who have believed, fear Allah as He should be feared and do not die except as Muslims [in submission to Him].
` ` ` `
And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided


` ` `
The believers are nothing else than brothers.
(Soorah al Hujaraat: 10)


!
I swear by Him, in whose Hands is my soul,
` ` ` ` ` ` `
you will not enter Paradise until you have faith,
' ` ` ` `
and you will not have faith until you love each other.
` ` ` ` ` ` ` ` `
Shall I direct you to something which if you fulfill you will love one another?
` ` ` `
Spread peace among yourselves. (It was reported by Muslim).
Islaam) due to its lofty and important status in
us fail to understand its true value hence we fail to appreciate it, let alone
Pinili natin ang paksang ito, dahil sa mataas nitong katayuan at kahalagahan sa ating pananampalataya,
mi sa atin ang hindi ito lubusang nauunawaan, dahilan upang hindi nila ito pahalagahan o sikapin man
` ` ` ` ` ` ` ` '
[in submission to Him].


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To begin with, let us know what the terms
Brotherhood/Sisterhood, according to the dictionary meaning

relation between a male offspring and the siblings.
this term has also been adopted by organizations such as fraternities to better define the
relationship between members as more like
people. e.g Fraternity and Sorority Clubs, Gangster Brotherhood, etc.

As for the Technical meaning in Islaam, according to Shaykh Muhammad al
brotherhood/sisterhood is the relationship
upon what Allaah commanded and what He forbade.

Imaam Abdur-Rahmaan Ibn Naasir as

So this is a knot (buhol) which Allaah has bound (
whenever a person is found possessing eemaan
the last Day whether in the eastern (silangan o kanluran) or western part of the world
becomes the brother of the Believers. This brotherhood obligates that the Believers should love for that person
that which they love for themselves, and hate for that person that which they hate for themselves.

In other words we have the bond of Sisterhood in Islaam in which ev
automatically belongs the moment he/she utters the Shahaadah.

And unlike any other brotherhood, you dont need to do undergo hazing or any initiation
rites in order to belong.
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It is the bond of faith in Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)
ta'ala) established between all believers when He said:
( The Believers are but a single brotherhood . . .)

Brotherhood is a COMMAND from Allaah, and a
us has to fulfill, as members of the Muslim Ummah.
strongest of bonds between hearts and minds.

And to be able to carry out this
required of us.
To begin with, let us know what the terms / mean.
Brotherhood/Sisterhood, according to the dictionary meaning is a:
relation between a male offspring and the siblings.
this term has also been adopted by organizations such as fraternities to better define the
relationship between members as more like family rather than just friends or a group of
people. e.g Fraternity and Sorority Clubs, Gangster Brotherhood, etc.
As for the Technical meaning in Islaam, according to Shaykh Muhammad al
the relationship (ugnayan) that is established
upon what Allaah commanded and what He forbade.
Rahmaan Ibn Naasir as-Sadee - rahimahullaah said:
which Allaah has bound (sama-samang itinali) the Believers together
whenever a person is found possessing eemaan (faith) in Allaah, His Angels, His Books, His Messengers and
whether in the eastern (silangan o kanluran) or western part of the world
he Believers. This brotherhood obligates that the Believers should love for that person
that which they love for themselves, and hate for that person that which they hate for themselves.
we have the bond of Sisterhood in Islaam in which ev
automatically belongs the moment he/she utters the Shahaadah.
And unlike any other brotherhood, you dont need to do undergo hazing or any initiation
It is the bond of faith in Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) which Allah (subhannallah wa
ta'ala) established between all believers when He said:

` ` `
( The Believers are but a single brotherhood . . .) (Qur'an 49:10)
a COMMAND from Allaah, and a RESPONSIBILITY
us has to fulfill, as members of the Muslim Ummah. The brotherhood of faith is the
strongest of bonds between hearts and minds.
And to be able to carry out this great obligation, we first need to understand what is
mean.
this term has also been adopted by organizations such as fraternities to better define the
family rather than just friends or a group of
As for the Technical meaning in Islaam, according to Shaykh Muhammad al-Maliki,
established (itinatag sa pamamgitan)
the Believers together with, such that
(faith) in Allaah, His Angels, His Books, His Messengers and
whether in the eastern (silangan o kanluran) or western part of the world then such a person
he Believers. This brotherhood obligates that the Believers should love for that person
that which they love for themselves, and hate for that person that which they hate for themselves.
we have the bond of Sisterhood in Islaam in which every Muslim
And unlike any other brotherhood, you dont need to do undergo hazing or any initiation
which Allah (subhannallah wa
(Qur'an 49:10)
RESPONSIBILITY that each one of
The brotherhood of faith is the
obligation, we first need to understand what is

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1) It is required of us to love one another
' `
None of you believe until

Dr. Saalih Al-Fawzaan (may Allah protect him) mentioned in a brief explanation of this great
prophetic narration:
Therefore whoever doesnt love for his brother what he loves for himself,
High, is deficient. What is meant by his brother isnt his brother from family relations, but rather it is every
Muslim, because the believers are brothers.
This love for the sake of Allah
being and another, whether man or woman. It is the bond of faith in Allah
established between all believers.

It is important to have love for your brother/sisters in Islam in order for
to be established easily.

Shaykh Muhammad al-Maaliki 7afidhahullaah
Brotherhood/Sisterhood in al-Islaam.
brotherhood.

or Sincerity. i.e. being sincere with your brothers (or sisters) as the authentic hadeeth
in the Saheehayn says:

, ,
"Actions are but by intentions and every man shall have only that which he intended.
and Muslim)

This is the noblest and purest form of love between human beings. This is a love which is
untainted by any worldly interest or ulterior motive. It is
women find the sweetness of faith:

"There are three things that whoever attains them will find the sweetness of faith: if Allah (subhannallah wa
ta'ala) and His Messenger are dearer to him than anyone or anything else; if
is required of us to love one another for the sake of Allaah


` ` ` ` ` ` `
.
until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself
Fawzaan (may Allah protect him) mentioned in a brief explanation of this great
Therefore whoever doesnt love for his brother what he loves for himself, then his belief in Allah, The Most
What is meant by his brother isnt his brother from family relations, but rather it is every
Muslim, because the believers are brothers.
This love for the sake of Allah is the highest bond that may exist between one human
being and another, whether man or woman. It is the bond of faith in Allah
stablished between all believers.
It is important to have love for your brother/sisters in Islam in order for
Maaliki 7afidhahullaah mentioned some of the
Islaam. And these Principles, if established
. i.e. being sincere with your brothers (or sisters) as the authentic hadeeth

"Actions are but by intentions and every man shall have only that which he intended.
This is the noblest and purest form of love between human beings. This is a love which is
untainted by any worldly interest or ulterior motive. It is the love in which Muslim men and
sweetness of faith:
"There are three things that whoever attains them will find the sweetness of faith: if Allah (subhannallah wa
ta'ala) and His Messenger are dearer to him than anyone or anything else; if he loves a person solely for the

he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.
Fawzaan (may Allah protect him) mentioned in a brief explanation of this great
ef in Allah, The Most
What is meant by his brother isnt his brother from family relations, but rather it is every
is the highest bond that may exist between one human
being and another, whether man or woman. It is the bond of faith in Allah which Allah
It is important to have love for your brother/sisters in Islam in order for brotherhood
mentioned some of the Principles of
established, will aid the
. i.e. being sincere with your brothers (or sisters) as the authentic hadeeth
"Actions are but by intentions and every man shall have only that which he intended. (Bukhari
This is the noblest and purest form of love between human beings. This is a love which is
the love in which Muslim men and
"There are three things that whoever attains them will find the sweetness of faith: if Allah (subhannallah wa
he loves a person solely for the

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sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala); and if he would hate to return to kufr after Allah (subhannallah wa
ta'ala) has rescued him from it, as much as he would hate to be thrown into the Fire."
See Sharh al-Sunnah, 1/49, Kitab al-iman, bab halawat al

The status of two who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)

It is sufficient honour (sapat ng karangalan)
(subhannallah wa ta'ala), men and women alike, to know that their almighty Lord will take
care of them on the Day of Judgement and will say
another for My glory (Kaluwalhatian)
when there is no shade but Mine.
fadl al-hubb fi Allah.

Love for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), and not for the sake of anything else in
life, is very difficult, and none can attain it except
whom this world and all its pleasures are as nothing in comparison with the pleasure
of Allah . It is not surprising that Allah
commensurate with their position in this w
see proof of this in the hadith of Mu`adh, who said that the Prophet

"Allah said: `Those who love one another for My glory will have minbars of light,
and the Prophets and martyrs will wish that they had the same."
4/24, Bab ma ja'a fi al-hubb fi-Allah; he said, it is a sahih hasan hadith.


Allah bestows upon those who love one another for His sake
greater than this status and blessing:
attain. This is proven by the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (radiallahu anhu) in which the Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said:

"A man went to visit a brother of his in another village. Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) sent an angel to
wait for him on the road. When the man came along, the angel asked him, `Where are you headed?' He said,
`I am going to visit a brother of mine who lives in this village.' The angel asked, `Have you done him any
favour (for which you are now seeking repayment)?' He said, `No, I just love him for the sake of Allah
(subhannallahu wa ta'ala).' The angel told him,
(subhannallah wa ta'ala), sent to tell you that He loves you as you love your brother
for His sake.'" Sahih Muslim, 16/124, Kitab al

We all claim to love Allaah, but what matter

Hasan as-Sumalee stated in his khutbah
sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala); and if he would hate to return to kufr after Allah (subhannallah wa
ta'ala) has rescued him from it, as much as he would hate to be thrown into the Fire."
iman, bab halawat al-iman.
The status of two who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)
(sapat ng karangalan) for those who love one another for the sake of
ta'ala), men and women alike, to know that their almighty Lord will take
care of them on the Day of Judgement and will say: "Where are those who loved one
(Kaluwalhatian) ? Today I will shade them in My shade on the Day
no shade but Mine." Sahih Muslim, 16/123, Kitab al-birr wa'l
Love for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), and not for the sake of anything else in
none can attain it except the one who is pure of heart
whom this world and all its pleasures are as nothing in comparison with the pleasure
It is not surprising that Allah should give them a status and blessing which is
commensurate with their position in this world, above whose concerns they have risen. We
see proof of this in the hadith of Mu`adh, who said that the Prophet said:
said: `Those who love one another for My glory will have minbars of light,
and the Prophets and martyrs will wish that they had the same." Reported by Tirmidhi,
Allah; he said, it is a sahih hasan hadith.
upon those who love one another for His sake a gift which is even
greater than this status and blessing: that is His precious love which is very difficult to
attain. This is proven by the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (radiallahu anhu) in which the Prophet
"A man went to visit a brother of his in another village. Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) sent an angel to
wait for him on the road. When the man came along, the angel asked him, `Where are you headed?' He said,
visit a brother of mine who lives in this village.' The angel asked, `Have you done him any
favour (for which you are now seeking repayment)?' He said, `No, I just love him for the sake of Allah
(subhannallahu wa ta'ala).' The angel told him, `I am a messenger to you from Allah
(subhannallah wa ta'ala), sent to tell you that He loves you as you love your brother
Sahih Muslim, 16/124, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah wa'l-adab, bab fadl al-hubb fi
We all claim to love Allaah, but what matters most is IF Allaah loves us.
Sumalee stated in his khutbah: The love of Allaah ()!
sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala); and if he would hate to return to kufr after Allah (subhannallah wa
Bukhari and Muslim.
The status of two who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)
for those who love one another for the sake of
ta'ala), men and women alike, to know that their almighty Lord will take
"Where are those who loved one
? Today I will shade them in My shade on the Day
birr wa'l-silah wa'l-adab, bab
Love for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), and not for the sake of anything else in
the one who is pure of heart, for
whom this world and all its pleasures are as nothing in comparison with the pleasure
should give them a status and blessing which is
orld, above whose concerns they have risen. We
said:
said: `Those who love one another for My glory will have minbars of light,
Reported by Tirmidhi,
a gift which is even
which is very difficult to
attain. This is proven by the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (radiallahu anhu) in which the Prophet
"A man went to visit a brother of his in another village. Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) sent an angel to
wait for him on the road. When the man came along, the angel asked him, `Where are you headed?' He said,
visit a brother of mine who lives in this village.' The angel asked, `Have you done him any
favour (for which you are now seeking repayment)?' He said, `No, I just love him for the sake of Allah
nger to you from Allah
(subhannallah wa ta'ala), sent to tell you that He loves you as you love your brother
hubb fi-Allah.
loves us.

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If Allaah loves you, who can harm you?
If Allaah loves you, who can plot against you?
If Allaah loves you, then who can prevent you from making progress?

Imagine a community of people whom Allaah
Allaah. They would be unstoppable, as the companions
Islam throughout the Earth and being an example for the whole of mankind.

If we do not love one another for the sake of Allaah
And if a person is deprived of the love of Allaah, then we all know how he will end up.

Anas said that a man was with the Prophet
man said, "O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa salam), indeed I truly love this man." The Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam) asked him, "Have you let him know that?" He said, "No." The Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said, "Tell him." He caught up with him and told him, "Truly I love you for the
sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)," and the man sa
who loves me for His sake." Reported with a sahih isnad by Abu Dawud, 4/452, Kitab al
al-rajul bi mahabbatihi ilayh.

The Prophet taught us a way in which if we do, love will develop amongst us.
Exchange gifts, as the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, and you will love one another.
And because of this love for one another, its effect is
such that if one is in pain, the rest of the community feels the pain.
"The believers, in their mutual friendship, mercy and affection, are like one body: if any part of it complains,
the rest of the body will also stay awake i
birr wa'l-silah, bab ta'awun al-mu'minin wa tarahumuhum.

(2) ` - Tolerance /Softness
'Aaisha: "Verily rifq (gentleness, softness) does not enter into anything except that it beautifies it,
and it is not removed from anything except that it defaces it."
The Muslim woman who is truly guided by Islam is tolerant towards her friends and sisters,
and does not bear grudges against them. If she becomes angry with one of her sisters, she
If Allaah loves you, who can harm you?
If Allaah loves you, who can plot against you?
If Allaah loves you, then who can prevent you from making progress?
Imagine a community of people whom Allaah loves, because they love one another for the sake of
Allaah. They would be unstoppable, as the companions were unstoppable, spreading the message of al
Islam throughout the Earth and being an example for the whole of mankind.
If we do not love one another for the sake of Allaah then we will be deprived of this love of Allaah.
f the love of Allaah, then we all know how he will end up.
said that a man was with the Prophet , when another man passed by. The first
"O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa salam), indeed I truly love this man." The Prophet
allahu alaihi wa salam) asked him, "Have you let him know that?" He said, "No." The Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said, "Tell him." He caught up with him and told him, "Truly I love you for the
sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala)," and the man said, "May Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) love you
Reported with a sahih isnad by Abu Dawud, 4/452, Kitab al
taught us a way in which if we do, love will develop amongst us.

Exchange gifts, as the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, and you will love one another.

And because of this love for one another, its effect is manifested in the community,
such that if one is in pain, the rest of the community feels the pain.
"The believers, in their mutual friendship, mercy and affection, are like one body: if any part of it complains,
the rest of the body will also stay awake in pain." Bukhari and Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah, 13/47, Kitab al
mu'minin wa tarahumuhum.
i.e. being soft and gentle with your brother. In a hadeeth narrated by
(gentleness, softness) does not enter into anything except that it beautifies it,
and it is not removed from anything except that it defaces it."
The Muslim woman who is truly guided by Islam is tolerant towards her friends and sisters,
rudges against them. If she becomes angry with one of her sisters, she
loves, because they love one another for the sake of
were unstoppable, spreading the message of al-
then we will be deprived of this love of Allaah.

, when another man passed by. The first
"O Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa salam), indeed I truly love this man." The Prophet
allahu alaihi wa salam) asked him, "Have you let him know that?" He said, "No." The Prophet
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam) said, "Tell him." He caught up with him and told him, "Truly I love you for the
id, "May Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) love you
Reported with a sahih isnad by Abu Dawud, 4/452, Kitab al-adab, bab akhbar
taught us a way in which if we do, love will develop amongst us. He said:
Exchange gifts, as the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, and you will love one another.
manifested in the community,
"The believers, in their mutual friendship, mercy and affection, are like one body: if any part of it complains,
Sunnah, 13/47, Kitab al-
i.e. being soft and gentle with your brother. In a hadeeth narrated by
(gentleness, softness) does not enter into anything except that it beautifies it,
The Muslim woman who is truly guided by Islam is tolerant towards her friends and sisters,
rudges against them. If she becomes angry with one of her sisters, she

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restrains her anger and freely forgives the one who has committed an error, without seeing
any shame in doing so. In fact, she sees this as a good deed which will bring her closer to
Allah ):

`
` ` ' ` `

( . . . [those] who restrain anger and pardon (all) men
good.) (Qur'an 3:134)

If a person suppresses his or her seething anger
forgive, that anger will turn into resentment and malice, which are
anger. When a person forgives and forgets, the flames of anger are extinguished,
his or her soul is cleansed of the effects
earns Allah's (subhannallah wa ta'ala) love for those who attain it:
` ` ' ` `
( . . . for Allah loves those who do good.)

Something that may help the Muslim woman to reach this difficult level of ihsan is the
knowledge that forgiving one's sister is not a source of humiliation or shame
will raise her in status and honour in the sight of Allah

"Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will not increase His servant when he forgives except in honour. No
humbles himself for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) but Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will
raise his status." Sahih Muslim, 16/141, Kitab al

(3) ` or Advising each other
One of the virtues of the true Muslim woman is that she is completely sincere, towards Allah
His Prophet, and to the leaders and the masses of the Muslims, as is stated in the sahih
hadith:
` `
` `
anger and freely forgives the one who has committed an error, without seeing
any shame in doing so. In fact, she sees this as a good deed which will bring her closer to
` `
` ` ' ` `
( . . . [those] who restrain anger and pardon (all) men - for Allah loves those who do
If a person suppresses his or her seething anger (nagpupuyos na kalooban)
forgive, that anger will turn into resentment and malice, which are more dangerous than
When a person forgives and forgets, the flames of anger are extinguished,
his or her soul is cleansed of the effects of anger and hatred. This is the level of ihsan
earns Allah's (subhannallah wa ta'ala) love for those who attain it:

` ` ' ` `
( . . . for Allah loves those who do good.) (Qur'an 3:134)
Something that may help the Muslim woman to reach this difficult level of ihsan is the
forgiving one's sister is not a source of humiliation or shame
will raise her in status and honour in the sight of Allah as the Prophet
"Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will not increase His servant when he forgives except in honour. No
humbles himself for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) but Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will
141, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah wa'l-adab, bab istihbab al

One of the virtues of the true Muslim woman is that she is completely sincere, towards Allah
His Prophet, and to the leaders and the masses of the Muslims, as is stated in the sahih
` `

anger and freely forgives the one who has committed an error, without seeing
any shame in doing so. In fact, she sees this as a good deed which will bring her closer to
for Allah loves those who do
(nagpupuyos na kalooban), and does not
more dangerous than
When a person forgives and forgets, the flames of anger are extinguished, and
level of ihsan which
Something that may help the Muslim woman to reach this difficult level of ihsan is the
forgiving one's sister is not a source of humiliation or shame, rather it
as the Prophet described:
"Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will not increase His servant when he forgives except in honour. No-one
humbles himself for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) but Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala) will
adab, bab istihbab al-'afuw wa'l-tawadu'.
One of the virtues of the true Muslim woman is that she is completely sincere, towards Allah
His Prophet, and to the leaders and the masses of the Muslims, as is stated in the sahih



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Tamim ad-Dari ( ) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (
sincerity. Religion is sincerity. They said, To whom, Oh Messenger of Allah? He (
Allah, His Book, His Messenger,
said, The leaders of the Muslims and


This attitude makes the Muslim woman sincere
them, mislead them, or conceal anything good from them.
towards them it is not merely for the sake of courtesy or to show off her social manners; she
behaves in this way because sincerity is one of the fundamental bases of Islam which the first
believers used to pledge to observe in t
(sallallahu alaihi wa salam), as Jarir ibn `Abdullah

"I gave allegiance to the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) and pledged to observe regular prayer, to pay
zakat, and to be sincere towards every Muslim."
iman, bab al-bay'ah 'ala'l-Islam.

(4) ` or humility- i.e. being humble towards each other and not displaying
`
The Messenger of Allah () said, Allah
another, so that no one wrongs another
Number 4895]

(5) ` or Supporting each other
authentic hadeeth: "Help your brother if he is an oppressor or the one being oppressed."

And the Companions asked how they
Prophet basically said that they should prevent him from doing so.

(6) ` or maintaining and keeping a connection and good relations between the

) narrated that the Messenger of Allah () said, Religion is sincerity.
They said, To whom, Oh Messenger of Allah? He (
the leaders of the believers, and the common
and their common people. [Sunan Abu Dawud,
makes the Muslim woman sincere towards her sisters. She does not cheat
them, mislead them, or conceal anything good from them. When she is always sincere
towards them it is not merely for the sake of courtesy or to show off her social manners; she
behaves in this way because sincerity is one of the fundamental bases of Islam which the first
believers used to pledge to observe in their oath of allegiance (bay`ah) to of the Prophet
as Jarir ibn `Abdullah stated:
"I gave allegiance to the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) and pledged to observe regular prayer, to pay
very Muslim." Bukhari and Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah, 1/63, Kitab al
i.e. being humble towards each other and not displaying arrogance
` ` ` `
Allah has revealed to me that you must be humble
another or arrogantly boasts to another.[Sunan Abu Dawud, Boo
i.e. you help your brother in his time of need etc., as
"Help your brother if he is an oppressor or the one being oppressed."
And the Companions asked how they should help him if he is an oppressor, and the
basically said that they should prevent him from doing so.
or maintaining and keeping a connection and good relations between the

sincerity. Religion is
They said, To whom, Oh Messenger of Allah? He () said, To
common people, or he
nan Abu Dawud,
. She does not cheat
When she is always sincere
towards them it is not merely for the sake of courtesy or to show off her social manners; she
behaves in this way because sincerity is one of the fundamental bases of Islam which the first
heir oath of allegiance (bay`ah) to of the Prophet
"I gave allegiance to the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa salam) and pledged to observe regular prayer, to pay
Sunnah, 1/63, Kitab al-
arrogance
`
humble towards one
Sunan Abu Dawud, Book 40,
., as there comes in an
"Help your brother if he is an oppressor or the one being oppressed."
if he is an oppressor, and the
basically said that they should prevent him from doing so.
or maintaining and keeping a connection and good relations between the

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brothers (or sisters i.e. among sisters). This includes
when they are ill or just simply visiting them etc, the hadeeth says:
"and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another"
wa'l-adab, bab tahrim al-zann wa'l-tajassus wa'l
"No two people who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), or for the sake of
Islam, will let the first minor offence of either of them come between them."
Mufrad, 1/493, Bab hijrah al-Muslim.

Anger may strike a woman in moments of human weakness, and she may hurt her sister,
which could provoke harsh feelings and conflicts. In such cases, the Muslim woman should
not forget that Islam does not ignore human nature and its vulnerability to changing
emotions.

For this reason, Islam has defined the length of time during which anger may subside.
time is considered to be three days. After this time has passed, it is forbidden for
conflicting parties to refuse to seek

"It is not permissible for a Muslim to be estranged from his brother for more than
three days, both of them turning away from one another when they meet. The better
of them is the one who is first to greet the other."
13/100, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah, bab al-nahy 'an hijran al

"Whoever forsakes his brother for a year, it is as if he had shed his blood."
al-Mufrad, 1/497, Bab man hajara akhahu sanah.

A slave will not cease to pardon his brother except that Allaah will honor him.
And there is not a person that humbles himself of the sake of All
will raise that individual.

`
` ` ` `
` ` ` and thereupon the one whom between
` ` `
Hence we can see that the Muslim woman whose soul has been shaped by Islam does
not persist in ignoring her sister,
bring about reconciliation and greet her with salam, because she knows that
them is the one who is the first to greet the other.
(or sisters i.e. among sisters). This includes smiling with your brothers, visiting them
when they are ill or just simply visiting them etc, the hadeeth says:
and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another" Sahih Muslim, 16/120, Kitab al
tajassus wa'l-tanafus.
"No two people who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), or for the sake of
Islam, will let the first minor offence of either of them come between them." Reported by Bukhari in al

in moments of human weakness, and she may hurt her sister,
which could provoke harsh feelings and conflicts. In such cases, the Muslim woman should
Islam does not ignore human nature and its vulnerability to changing
has defined the length of time during which anger may subside.
days. After this time has passed, it is forbidden for
conflicting parties to refuse to seek reconciliation. The Prophet said:
"It is not permissible for a Muslim to be estranged from his brother for more than
three days, both of them turning away from one another when they meet. The better
is the one who is first to greet the other." Bukhari and Muslim. See Sharh al
nahy 'an hijran al-ikhwan.
"Whoever forsakes his brother for a year, it is as if he had shed his blood." Reported by Bukhari in
Mufrad, 1/497, Bab man hajara akhahu sanah.
A slave will not cease to pardon his brother except that Allaah will honor him.
And there is not a person that humbles himself of the sake of Allaah except that Allaah
` ` And not equal are the good deed and the bad
` ` ` ` Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better;
and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become]
` ` ` as though he was a devoted friend. (41:34)

Hence we can see that the Muslim woman whose soul has been shaped by Islam does
not persist in ignoring her sister, no matter what the reason. Rather, she will hasten to
bring about reconciliation and greet her with salam, because she knows that
them is the one who is the first to greet the other.
smiling with your brothers, visiting them
Sahih Muslim, 16/120, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah
"No two people who love one another for the sake of Allah (subhannallah wa ta'ala), or for the sake of
Reported by Bukhari in al-Adab al-
in moments of human weakness, and she may hurt her sister,
which could provoke harsh feelings and conflicts. In such cases, the Muslim woman should
Islam does not ignore human nature and its vulnerability to changing
has defined the length of time during which anger may subside. This
days. After this time has passed, it is forbidden for the two
"It is not permissible for a Muslim to be estranged from his brother for more than
three days, both of them turning away from one another when they meet. The better
Bukhari and Muslim. See Sharh al-Sunnah,
Reported by Bukhari in al-Adab
A slave will not cease to pardon his brother except that Allaah will honor him.
ah except that Allaah
And not equal are the good deed and the bad.
Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better;
you and him is enmity [will become]
Hence we can see that the Muslim woman whose soul has been shaped by Islam does
no matter what the reason. Rather, she will hasten to
bring about reconciliation and greet her with salam, because she knows that the better of

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(8) ` or Co-operation i.e. coming together and working together upon righteousness
and taqwaa but not upon sin and transgression. Allaah


Help you one another in al Birr and at Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety);

but do not help one another in sin and transgression.

(9) or making supplication
sometimes that is the only thing one is able to do.
In a Khutbah by Brother Hassan as
[Here is an authentic hadeeth of the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) but first] I'll mention a story of
how the hadith was narrated.
Sufwaan ibn 'Abdullaah Sufwaan said, "I travelled to Shaam. When I got there I found Umm Darda in
her house. Abu Darda was absent. So Umm Darda said,
Sufwaan responded, 'Naa'am (yes), I want to make
So Umm Darda said, 'Supplicate to Allaah that He grants us good.
[Khateeb's Interjection: Listening to that, you may think, how will this individual making du'aa for Umm
Darda help him make hajj?]
Umma Darda explained [Khateeb's Interjection: Ag
the Sunnah, because they understood that brotherhood was from Allaah. It was a blessing, and not anything
that they directly could bring about.]
She said, the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said,
Muslim brother in his absence, then his du'aa is answered by Allaah (subhanahu wa
taa'ala).' And "Everytime a brother supplicates for his brother in his absence, an angel
by his head says, "Ameen walaka bimithl (Ameen,
i.e. coming together and working together upon righteousness
and taqwaa but not upon sin and transgression. Allaah said:

Help you one another in al Birr and at Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety);


but do not help one another in sin and transgression.
(Soorah al Ma'idah: 2).
or making supplication for the rectification and guidance of your brother, for
sometimes that is the only thing one is able to do.
assan as-Sumaali, he mentioned the following:
[Here is an authentic hadeeth of the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) but first] I'll mention a story of
Sufwaan ibn 'Abdullaah Sufwaan said, "I travelled to Shaam. When I got there I found Umm Darda in
her house. Abu Darda was absent. So Umm Darda said, "Do you want to make hajj this year?
'Naa'am (yes), I want to make hajj.'
'Supplicate to Allaah that He grants us good.'
[Khateeb's Interjection: Listening to that, you may think, how will this individual making du'aa for Umm
Umma Darda explained [Khateeb's Interjection: Again, look at the sahaaba. Look how they implemented
the Sunnah, because they understood that brotherhood was from Allaah. It was a blessing, and not anything
She said, the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, 'When a brother supplicates for his
Muslim brother in his absence, then his du'aa is answered by Allaah (subhanahu wa
Everytime a brother supplicates for his brother in his absence, an angel
by his head says, "Ameen walaka bimithl (Ameen, and may you have the same)
i.e. coming together and working together upon righteousness
Help you one another in al Birr and at Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety);
but do not help one another in sin and transgression.
rectification and guidance of your brother, for
[Here is an authentic hadeeth of the Prophet (salallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) but first] I'll mention a story of
Sufwaan ibn 'Abdullaah Sufwaan said, "I travelled to Shaam. When I got there I found Umm Darda in
"Do you want to make hajj this year? So
[Khateeb's Interjection: Listening to that, you may think, how will this individual making du'aa for Umm
ain, look at the sahaaba. Look how they implemented
the Sunnah, because they understood that brotherhood was from Allaah. It was a blessing, and not anything
When a brother supplicates for his
Muslim brother in his absence, then his du'aa is answered by Allaah (subhanahu wa
Everytime a brother supplicates for his brother in his absence, an angel
and may you have the same).'"

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10) Defending the honor of a Muslim. Yes, ya Amatallaah, defending the honor of a Muslim,
or Muslimah. [This is] something that is very rare in our time.
The Prophet said, "If someone is in a gathering,
they defend the believer; Allaah will reward them with good in this life and the
hereafter for that act. And if a believer is backbiten, and those in a gathering do not
aid their brother, Allaah will repay them with evil in this life and th
And the list is long.
Yaa Akhawaat, may Allaah bless you. This was a glimpse
brotherhood in al-Islam, and a glimpse of some of the measures
implemented.

I leave you with this. If we truly have this
is our da'wah, we want to support it wherever it is
anything in our life.

That is what we want. We want to assist the Deen of Allaah. We want to assist our
community. We want to assist our brothers and sisters. If we don't feel this way, then
obviously there is a problem. And I'll leave you with a statement
(rahimahullaah)

quote:

"The Sunnah is connected to the Jama'ah, like Bid'ah is to
splitting. So we say: Ahlus-
concerning people of bid'ah] Ahlul


Why, because - as Shaikh ul-Islaam mentions
are from the fundamentals of this religion
subsidiary branch issue.

Anything I wrote that is correct is from

References:
Quran
Hadeeth
Imaam Abdur-Rahmaan Ibn Naasir as-Sadee
Dr. Salih al-Fawzaans statement
Shaykh al-Malikis lecture on brotherhood in a lecture in the Masjid in St.Thomas Village
Hassan as-Sumaalis Khutbah
The Ideal Muslimah

10) Defending the honor of a Muslim. Yes, ya Amatallaah, defending the honor of a Muslim,
or Muslimah. [This is] something that is very rare in our time.
If someone is in a gathering, and the believer is
they defend the believer; Allaah will reward them with good in this life and the
hereafter for that act. And if a believer is backbiten, and those in a gathering do not
aid their brother, Allaah will repay them with evil in this life and the hereafter."
Yaa Akhawaat, may Allaah bless you. This was a glimpse (sulyap) at the importance of
Islam, and a glimpse of some of the measures (panukala)
truly have this mentality, and each and everyone one of
want to support it wherever it is and we want to see it spread more than
That is what we want. We want to assist the Deen of Allaah. We want to assist our
community. We want to assist our brothers and sisters. If we don't feel this way, then
obviously there is a problem. And I'll leave you with a statement of
The Sunnah is connected to the Jama'ah, like Bid'ah is to
-Sunnah wal Jama'ah, and [we say
concerning people of bid'ah] Ahlul-Bid'ah wal Firqa."
Islaam mentions - unity and brotherhood and togetherness
are from the fundamentals of this religion. A fundamental that has priority over a [fiq]
m Allaah, and anything wrong is from me. Um
Sadees statement
brotherhood in a lecture in the Masjid in St.Thomas Village.
10) Defending the honor of a Muslim. Yes, ya Amatallaah, defending the honor of a Muslim,
and the believer is backbitten. And
they defend the believer; Allaah will reward them with good in this life and the
hereafter for that act. And if a believer is backbiten, and those in a gathering do not
e hereafter."
at the importance of
(panukala) that need to be
, and each and everyone one of feels this
see it spread more than
That is what we want. We want to assist the Deen of Allaah. We want to assist our
community. We want to assist our brothers and sisters. If we don't feel this way, then
of Ibn Taymiyyaah
unity and brotherhood and togetherness
. A fundamental that has priority over a [fiq]
mmu Yusuf Iman

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