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by Lisa B. Marshall Every night when I was growing up our family of seven ate at the dinner table. Each night was an opportunity to share things we learned that day. My Dad always had a story for us. However, many times, he included details that just werent true. He wanted us to pay attention and decide if everything he was telling us made sense.
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The point is that sometimes youll need to ask open-ended questions to confirm your understanding. Such as, When you said X, what did you mean? Why do you think X, is it because of A? Can you give me an example of what you meant by Y? Tell me more about your feelings regarding X
Avoid Miscommunication
Step 3: Paraphrase to confirm understanding. The final step to effective listening is to confirm your understanding. To do that youll need to paraphrase, or reword what you heard including the content and the emotion. For example, the speaker might say, I cant stand that I need to repeat the instructions three or four times in excruciating detail and she still doesnt seem to understand how to complete the task. The listener might respond, It sounds like you are frustrated because shes not following instructions even after the steps of a task have been explained more than once. The structure of paraphrasing is: lead-in plus feelings summary plus content summary So, again, another example might be, It seems (lead in) that you are angry and perhaps resentful (feelings summary) because youre being asked to work overtime (content summary), is that right? Be careful to be accurate and not overstate what you heard. By repeating back the others persons meaning in your own words, you are letting the other person know you understand what they are telling you. In short, it prevents miscommunication.
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Paulina
3/2/2011 5:03:05 PM
Hello :) I'm an English teacher from Poland and want to say that I love your show! It was a great episode and I'm happy that you pointed that gestures play a very important role, I totally agree with that!
yusuf
2/23/2011 6:45:07 AM
I am still confused with my reference about listening for my thesis, can you help me every body
Catherine
10/14/2009 2:24:46 AM
Thank you very much for this episode! I am a teacher and in language teaching, listening is considered to be the most difficult skill to learn for the students because it is equally difficult to listen to others even when they speak the same language. Love your show!
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