I witnessed an equity problem with domestic violence.

In a nutshell, the abusive women reversed her roll and accused the husband of assault and battery. It took one 911 call and a convincing story to arrest the husband.

Society view men as the dominant member of the relationship. A normal view in domestic violence is that men commit battery. Sadly, stories of men arrested for domestic violence happens all too much. Recently, a father and adult daughter argued because she continually disrespected him. While she sat in the car, the father threatened to take the car away from her if she did not change her actions. The daughter attempted to jump out of the car to attack her father. Her mother standing in between the two pushed her back into the car. Her father demanded that she leave immediately. The daughter called 911. The father yelled at her to leave the property.

Previously loading his truck, he drove over to a storage facility to put away some items. Three police cars raced to the scene. The police made an immediate arrest. The charges were not told. He spent hours in jail before he was read his rights and notified of the charges. Bond was postponed three days.

Dealing with an abusive woman can be very costly. In this case, a false police report was filed. Damages included loss of wages for the week, payment of a thirty-five hundred dollar bond, with trailing effects of losing his house and car.

The media had a field day with this story. His reputation as a positive community leader was destroyed. Continue reading to become familiar with the sneaky tactics of an abusive woman.

Abusive women enter a relationship with deceitful behavior. In most cases they prey on a good man by playing the goodie roll. The relationship takes off and wheels of a great relationship spins in the right direction. It may take a while but eventually she slips and shows you her abusive nature but as a man, he dismisses it as an isolated situation. He rationalizes that perhaps she was dealing with severe pain during

her cycle. He moves on unaware that this is the beginning of his torment experience from this hopeless relationship. However, this is when her attitude comes out of the closet.

Here are some tell tale signs that an abusive women will portray.

1.

Abusive women make friends with everyone in the man s network.

2. She is jealous of all female relationship, mothers, sisters, co-workers, classmates, etc. 3. She flirts with your male friends and her girlfriends husbands 4. She spies on him looking for evidence of an affair when it is her that is having the affaire 5. She tells lies about the relationship to get sympathy from his support network.

6. When he tries to pull away from the unhealthy relationship, she explodes. 7. She destroys his belongings and or throw them away , hides items of sentimental value 8. She verbally abuses him by complaining about senseless issues. 9. She constantly taunts him about his involvement in having an affair that does not exist. 10. She seeks to destroy this man by competing with him in career, family decision-making, finances, etc. 11. She starts stalking him on his job and causing conflict with female co-workers 12. Betting on the fact he will not strike back she physically attacks him and it becomes repetitive. 13. She begins making private matters public. In her mind, the man is doing her in so everyone needs to know about it. 14. She fabricated truth to supervisors, best friends, co-workers, siblings, and key figures in the community. 15. She waits for a disagreement and purposefully escalates it to a down and dirty high-strung argument.

16. As he attempts to walk away, she jumps in his path and may strike him. He attempts to get away from her. She throws a tantrum and attacks him. Unfortunately, as he attempts to free himself, she has some bumps and bruises. One he is free from her, she makes a demand, and of course, he ignores it. Rejection turns up the anger to a rage. She calls 911 to teach him a lesson. No one believes him and she is gratified. The cycle continues.

As a male victim, you should know that the arresting officers are on her side. They will fabricate the police report if necessary, to make the charges stick. When on the scene the officers paid no attention to the evidence, they simply took her word.

The next phase is dealing with the district attorney office. Please note that the D.A. s office uses your tax money to falsely prosecute you in domestic violence cases (that is if your are innocent). In fabricated cases, there is no evidence of domestic violence, but the case is taken before the judge.

Up front, at the arraignment, you return a plea of not guilty and judge sets the case for trial. The D.A. is smiling because in most cases, even when the perpetrator is innocent, a plea bargain may be made before the trial takes place. A good lawyer will challenge the facts of the case. However, in small districts all the justices and legal workers are close friends. They decide your case over Wednesday night bingo game. For example, they may agree to have you plead guilty to a lesser charge and take probation and a fine.

It does not matter if you were guilty or not. They do not care. The idea is to make money from you because you got involved with a nut and did not have the sense to get away from her. So the facts are, the abusive wife lied to the police, the police beefed up the report to make it stick, the D.A. views that facts of the case and with no evidence accepts it for prosecution. To keep a perfect record and make money for the system they ask your lawyer to have you plea d guilty to a lesser charge. The judge never

hears the case, but sentences you to a suspended jail sentence, a lengthy probation period, a fine, and court cost. So your are still in bad shape and there was nothing you did wrong.

To sum things up, the abusive woman calls 911 and claims that her man hurt her. The police arrest and hold him in jail. He bonds out of jail. The case is sent to the D.A. and is accepted for prosecution. You pay big bucks to a local lawyer who is friends with the D.A. and the judge. They decide your case over a snack and beverage. Your lawyer advises you to plea to a lesser charge. You pay fines, court costs, and the probation officer. No body cares that you were innocent and the inequality cycle continues with another male victim.

In the meantime, the female perpetrator continues their disgruntled lifestyle. She moves on to bring injustice to another male victim and the cycle repeats. There must be an awakening in the legislation to make domestic violence accusations be proven before anyone is victimized behind one fabrication.

The answer to this problem drives deep into the ranks of the justice system in which we believe in. For domestic abuse situations, there is only injustice for the male partner because of who he is labeled to be. For he is an adulterer, liar, drunkard, molester, rapist, womanizing beast who victimizes innocent women. A woman would not make up this, after all, she is by nature the weaker member, and even if she did attack the man, it is because he had to first abuse her.

Women who kill their husbands are viewed with compassion. Some are never prosecuted. Others are given a soft sentencing and released before the full term is served. Men whom kill there spouse are given life, death sentence and forever labeled a monster.

I encourage women who are really battered and abused to seek help immediately and secretly. However, men who are battered and abused by their wives should leave her. It is better to leave this type of female than stay hoping she will change. She will not change because the system supports her behavior. When a child s behavior is acceptable, we reward them with verbal praise, a smile, or some level of stimulation for repeating the behavior. Women who take advantage of the legal system and its inaccurate judgments continue because she is treated with kindness.

The next issue that keeps this terrible cycle of male abuse has financial merit. We know the legal system must pay their bills, make payroll, and keep the justice system operable. It is a look over the shoulder when a male is convicted of spousal abuse. The judge first threatens him with a suspended sentence. This is because; the next option sounds a whole lot better. He is to PAY restitution to the court, district attorney, and a year or two of probation. Now everyone is happy except him. Everyone was paid, another win is added to the D.A. s record, and the community feels safe knowing that a man will go through hell if the woman does not have her way, the female s behavior was reinforced, and he loses everything. The female sang praises to her god, because she got the VICTORY and he got what was deserved.

Integrity is my solution. The justice system runs on the foundation of integrity. The officers vow to keep integrity amidst their daily work to enforce, interpret, and rule on the law of the land. Should police officers be charged with perjury? Should the D.A. be dismissed for accepting false police reports and prosecuting even after witnesses confirm the inaccuracy of the case? Alleged victim drops the charges. In addition, what about the judge? Should the judge be removed from his seat and disbarred for allowing the circus of perjury and slander to continue in his/her jurisdiction?

We must rally congress to make the laws of domestic violence equal. False arrest and imprisonment behind a lying victim with no physical evidence should be investigated deeper. The

arresting officers should read the victim their rights before they proceed at pressing charges on an individual. The rights should state that you intend to tell the truth about the incident you are about to report. If the statement you give is found to be misleading or false, you will be arrested and charged with filling a false police report and perjury under the law. Please proceed when you are 100 percent sure that the account you are about to give is factual. The penalty for false reporting is three thousand dollars and no less than six months in jail. I am sure that after reading these rights, the false accuser will recant their story.

By now way am I condemning women who are truly battered. I have five sisters. Some of my sisters have been stalked, battered, and forced to relocate because of crazy men. However, both male and females have equal rights under the law. Men are less prone to press charges on a female because he simply moves on or breaks off the relationship. He may also be dealing with ego issues as a means not to pursue battery charges. I was told by a close friend that he tried to press charges on an abusive stalking girlfriend. He said that when he called 911 they officers laughed and hung up. He went in person and they laughed again allowing him to write his account and press charges but they never pursued to arrest her. As a result, he relocated to avoid continued conflict.