Jamil R.

Solangon BEed IIA

How children emotionally respond to:

PARENTS' SEPARATION Separation and divorce for many children represents the collapse of a vital, archetypal structure in their world and in their experience of who they are. For infants and preschoolers separation brings substantial complexity. It is their 'developmental response' as much as their emotional response that concerns current researchers. Infants (even from a few weeks of age) recognise and react to parents' distress, and to overt conflict between their parents. Disruptions to primary attachment and patterns of care brought about by separation can de-stabilise important segments of an infant's developmental pathway. Ongoing, inflammatory and poorly-contained conflict between parents can be developmentally overwhelming for the infant. Parents need to be supported to manage these risks, to continue to provide a nurturing, steady presence within developmentally appropriate care arrangements that evolve at the infant's developmental pace. DEATH Depression Bereaved children and young people irrespective of their age or cognitive understanding will experience some sort of depression as they grieve.This depression can manifest itself physically whereby the bereaved child or young person does not feel like eating, is lethargic and does not have any interest in previous hobbies or sports. Children and young people may complain of feeling heavy or feeling weak.The grieving process although individual and unique to the mourner, is always arduous and painful. Bereaved children and young people might exhibit behaviour or make remarks that indicate they are confused or becoming absent minded. This is natural. The child or young persons mind will have been so consumed by questions, guilt, fear, anxiety, etc, following the death of a loved one that they are bound to be confused.Anxiety originating in bereaved children and young people from the loss of someone they love can permeate in to fears of someone else close to them dying or that they too might die. Anxiety can also cause some bereaved children and young people to fear that they might forget what the deceased person looked like, how they spoke and the like. Constant fretting Impact of Peer Rejection In contrast to socially successful children, those who are rejected by their peers have difficulty developing positive peer relations and tend to be deficient in the prerequisite prosocial characteristics of empathy, emotional understanding, and emotion regulation. Rejected children tend to be emotionally intense and have difficulty regulating these emotions in order to successfully get

along

with others. During the course of childhood and adolescence, most children experience some disruption in

their

relationships with peers. Peer rejection, on the other hand, occurs when children are actively disliked by

classmates. Children who are rejected have developed negative reputations over time and may experience peer victimization (such as bullying, teasing, name-calling, social exclusion, and having rumors spread about them). Because many rejected children are excluded from social situations, they are less likely to have opportunities to observe, develop, and practice age-appropriate prosocial behaviors.

Fewer

opportunities lead to fewer prosocial behaviors, fewer social skills, and fewer friendships. Rejected children are also at risk for academic, emotional, and behavioral problems.and unresolved anxiety can lead to depressive episodes in children and young people.