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Table of Contents

Chapter 1 .................................................................................................................................. 1

Welcome To Animal Orgasms! ................................................................................... 1

The Cheat-proof, Real-life, Sizzling Love Life ........................................................... 2
Who Am I, And Why Should You Listen To ME? ..................................................... 2
And You CAN Become a Sex God ............................................................................. 4
...Even If You're A Virgin ........................................................................................... 5
...Even If You Have No Clue ...................................................................................... 7
...Even If You‘re ―Small‖, or Have A Small Bank Account. .................................... 10
Get Women Sexually Addicted to You! .................................................................... 12

Chapter 2 ................................................................................................................................ 13

The Five Types of ―Loser Lovers‖............................................................................. 13

1) The "Two-Pump Chump" ...................................................................................... 13
2) The ―NO Pump Chump‖ ....................................................................................... 14
3) The ―Robot‖ .......................................................................................................... 14
4) The ―Follower‖....................................................................................................... 15
5) The ―Guru" ............................................................................................................ 16

Chapter 3 ................................................................................................................................ 18

The 4 Sure Signs That You're On the Right Track..................................................... 18

Sign #1 - She Can't Leave You Alone ....................................................................... 19
Sign #2 - She Does Leave you Alone ........................................................................ 20

Chapter 4 ................................................................................................................................ 22

The Six Mindsets of the Sexual Alpha Man .............................................................. 22

Mindset 1: I Will Be Great in Bed! ........................................................................... 22
Mindset 2: I Will Give Women Overwhelming Orgasms. ........................................ 23
Mindset 3: Fear and Shame Will Not Stand in My Way. .......................................... 23
Mindset 4: Getting Help Doesn‘t Make Me Less of a Man ...................................... 25
Mindset 5: She Needs Sex Even More than Me......................................................... 27
Mindset 6: I Can Get This Handled - NOW .............................................................. 29

Chapter 5 ................................................................................................................................ 30

The P.A.V.E System for COMPLETE SEXUAL PLEASURE................................. 30

1. PRESENCE ........................................................................................................... 30
2. AUTHORITY ........................................................................................................ 33
-Talk Dirty.................................................................................................................. 34
-Get ROUGH ............................................................................................................ 34
-Be Possessive ........................................................................................................... 35
3. VARIETY .............................................................................................................. 36
4. EMOTION ............................................................................................................. 38

Chapter 6 ................................................................................................................................ 42

Proof Women Want It: Read Hot Fantasies - Written by Women!............................ 42

Fantasy 1: I Want You Right Now! ........................................................................... 42
Fantasy 2: You Caught Me! Not So Innocent Now... ................................................ 47

Chapter 7 ................................................................................................................................ 55

Common Problems And How To Fix Them!............................................................. 55

How To Get HARD (Without Pills) .......................................................................... 55
1. Stop TRYING so hard to get hard ......................................................................... 55
2. Practice 10 count breathing when not having sex… then use it when you are ..... 56
3. More foreplay ........................................................................................................ 57
In Addition… ............................................................................................................ 57
How To Last Longer.................................................................................................. 58
How To Give Her An Orgasm ................................................................................... 62
How To Get Her To Pursue YOU For Sex! .............................................................. 66
What To Do If You‘re Inexperienced ....................................................................... 66
A Warning About Pornography ................................................................................ 67

Chapter 8 ................................................................................................................................ 68

Does Size REALLY Matter? ..................................................................................... 68

She is More Worried About Her Body Than Yours! ................................................. 68
About Pills, Supplements and Penis Pumps .............................................................. 69
It May Just Be in Your Head ..................................................................................... 70
Relax and Enjoy - It isn't all Hard Work! .................................................................. 70
Classy, Sassy, Conservative, Shy...Works for Every Woman! ................................. 71

Chapter 9 ................................................................................................................................ 73

Getting Started is Easy............................................................................................... 73

The ―Not Fun‖ But Important Stuff: Contraceptives & STDs .................................. 73
STDs other than HIV: ................................................................................................ 77
What Kind of Condoms Are Best: ............................................................................. 77
When The Condom Breaks: ...................................................................................... 78
Don't Wait. Implement What You‘ve Learned ASAP! ............................................. 79
Chapter 1

Welcome To Incredible Sex Now!

I‘m very excited that you have made the choice to become great in bed! Before we

learn and master the material that‘s going to completely change you and your lover‘s

sex life forever, let‘s talk about relationships and sex for a second. The facts don‘t lie!

Millions of guys are having problems satisfying their women sexually, and it‘s

creating horrendous relationship problems like cheating, divorce, and it‘s all because

you are having terrible sex. Ever felt like things would be better for you AND your

relationship if you got laid more often or that maybe once you wouldn‘t have to try so

hard to convince a woman to sleep with you OR maybe – just maybe – the woman,

FOR ONCE, was begging to have sex with you??. This is why you are reading this

book – to change all this! The statistics are alarming, but YOU can now live without

that FEAR — this is the new testament to an incredible sex life. All the solutions you

need are here in the coming pages. Let‘s take a quick peek at the alarming stats: 51

percent of all marriages, in which the brides are 25 years or older result in a failed

marriage, and that‘s from the National Center for Health Statistics. Also, 70 percent of

married women and 54 percent of married men don‘t know of their spouse‘s

extramarital activity. So that means that out of the millions of people who are having

affairs, 54 percent of married men weren‘t aware that their wives were cheating.


The Cheat-proof, Real-life, Sizzling Love Life
So why are women cheating? Don‘t they love you? Or are they just nasty,

unappreciative people? A guys doesn‘t want to come home from a long day at work

and see his girlfriend or wife, and not know where her lips have been. Women won‘t

tell you this, but the number one reason that they cheat is because they are not sexually

satisfied in bed. As you keep reading you‘ll learn that it has nothing to do with how

much money you make, what car you drive, or if you take out the trash; once you

satisfy the primal urges that women really have, she will be yours for life.

Who Am I, And Why Should You Listen To ME?

Hopefully you've never heard of me, as I‘ve tried to keep my life private. I'm not a

celebrity, I‘m not an athlete, I‘m not even a millionaire. I'm a regular guy who got

pissed off at myself for not being able to satisfy women. I stopped blaming every girl

that wasn‘t satisfied and started doing something about it. The first time I had sex I

was 22, and I was so excited that I lasted less than a minute. Luckily, I did end up

being able to last a bit longer but struggled for over 10 years with not being able to

give women orgasms. I selfishly thought that it was rare for a girl to have an orgasm

and even got to the point that I didn‘t care! Inevitably my relationships, no matter how

much I liked her, would come crashing to a passionless halt. My lowest point though,

was when I caught my then fiancée having sex with a guy she worked with! I

confronted her visibly teary-eyed, and yelled at her how she could do something like

that to me. She was blunt, and blurted out that it was because I wasn‘t man enough and

couldn‘t satisfy her needs! I was so devastated that I couldn't date seriously again for

3 years. When I did get back in the game, I dedicated myself to getting this area of my

life straightened out. I read hundreds of books, watched all of the how-to videos —

tried everything that I could get my hands on. Most of the stuff I read was so ridiculous

and unrealistic though and revolved around faked interactions, and the use of

expensive pills and supplements. Remember that infomercial with the guy ―Bob‖ who

couldn‘t stop smiling? Who knows what the side-effects were from his long lasting

hard-on! But over time, what happened was that through my own experimentation, I

became able to make women orgasm continuously II'm talking orgasm EVERY TIME

and MULTIPLE TIMES. I could get hard and last 45 minutes, EVERY TIME. In the

beginning I was too timid to try some things, but as I saw how it made women literally

start shaking and moaning, I got more confidence (one women broke my bed because

she was losing control while I was doing her!). Now, I still have my day job as a

business consultant, but I spend my free time teaching men how to become sex gods in

bed. Once you "get it‖—it clicks and it changes everything!

And You CAN Become a Sex God
You are about to become so good in bed that women become sexually addicted to you.

They never nag and best of all THEY NEVER CHEAT. When you are satisfied you

don‘t crave more. If you sleep with your girl and give her the best sex ever in the

morning before she goes to work, filled with guys that are hitting on her or trying to

seduce her, she doesn‘t even have the temptation. I want you to have a great sex life

like I do now, because as a man, what is more important than being able to satisfy a


After you read this book, you will feel so confident about your skills in bed that you

will not be paranoid or insecure about your lover, girlfriend, or wife leaving you for

some other guy with more money, better looks, and better sexual skills than you. Most

guys don‘t know what I‘m about to tell you and only a hand picked clan of a few

women, so take a deep breath, turn off your email and phone, and let‘s get started!

I‘m not a crazy magician or even a good pick up artist. I haven‘t always been good in

bed or good with women. In fact, I used to last under a minute in bed and couldn‘t

maintain a relationship because woman would not return my phone calls and never

wanted to have sex with me. One woman told me that I didn‘t satisfy her like a ―real

man‖ (that sucked).

You‘ll see very soon how I became GREAT in bed but I want you to understand why

I‘m revealing this sex knowledge and how I got into this whole thing.

...Even If You're A Virgin

My sexual development with women was later than the average guy. I didn‘t kiss a girl

until I was 20 and as I mentioned earlier, I didn‘t lose my virginity until I was 22. I

struggled dating and always felt nervous around women and found myself trying to say

and do things that would win them over and get them to like me..

I have to tell you the story of losing my virginity — it really sums up where I was at.

Please don‘t laugh; I‘m not proud of this. Actually, laugh all you want, it‘s funny.

I lost my virginity when my Brazilian college roommate invited me down to Brazil for

a vacation. I was a complete loser, had never kissed a girl, and he knew this. He was

like, ―Come to Brazil, anyone can have sex in Brazil!‖ So I scrapped together some

cash, flew to Brazil but my conversations with the women were going terribly.

Then after going out for 5 nights in a row down there, the most I‘d ever gone out, I met

this girl who barely spoke English. Somehow she liked me. I‘m convinced the only

reason that she had liked me was because she thought I was a rich American. I was

really only a poor college student, but what did she know, we couldn‘t even


After a few drinks we headed back to my hotel room. I was rock hard just knowing

that I might finally have sex. I was worried that I would cum as soon as she touched

me. In the hotel room, I‘m thinking in my head ‗Please don‘t touch me yet. Please


I‘m thinking, ―Calm.. calm.. Math.. Algebra,‖ anything to distract myself..ARGH!

..God, her tits are great!‖

As I sat down on the bed awkwardly, I had no idea what was happening but I followed

her lead and we both began getting undressed. Once I was naked, I put the much-too-

big Brazilian condom (monsters down there) on and nearly came right then from the


While I‘m fumbling with the loose condom she‘s lying on her back looking up at me

with expectant blue eyes. Meanwhile, I was so nervous that my hands were sweating.

After fumbling around trying to figure out where to put myself for 3 or 4 minutes, I

finally made it into the promise land. It felt so good. So THIS was it! Haha. I was so

tense that after I pumped 3 times, I came! I panicked and had no idea what to do so I

just kept pumping away. The more I pumped and tried to get hard again, the softer and

softer I got!

After a few seconds of that she started laughing, said something in Portuguese, and

pushed me off of her. My last memory of her was seeing her close the hotel room door

loudly a few minutes later as I sat on the edge of the bed, beating it frantically trying to

get hard again. I was shocked that everyone talked about how great sex was. It sucked!

I was all alone in a hotel in Brazil, and feeling like a small, pathetic little boy.

...Even If You Have No Clue

This is NOT a sob story though; I just want you to know how bad I was. It has a happy


I knew that this was an area of my life that I needed to get a handle on, but I had no

idea what to do about it. And for a long time I was in denial. I‘d watch online porn and

I‘d see guys doing crazy things like flipping girls over to get oral while they went

down on them, and then going to town on her while she extended one leg up to the sky

like a gymnast. It wasn‘t that they were so huge, even though it definitely played a part

in my mind, but it was that they‘d last forever. They could do those moves and there

was no fear of ―losing it‖. They had complete control of pleasing these women. And

they weren‘t having sex slowly; they were going fast and aggressively, making the

girls scream with pleasure.

I didn‘t know how these guys could do it; I had absolutely no control over when I

came. The first times I‘d had sex I got really hard and couldn‘t last, cumming

immediately. And the second time I had sex, I couldn‘t get hard at all. So either way, I

looked down at my penis and I was not happy. I was like, ―What is wrong with


It sounds comical, but I‘m guessing that you know what I‘m talking about because all

my guy friends say, ―Yeah, I remember that. That‘s what happened my first time.‖ But

for them, their first time was at 16, and I was at 23, struggling with this issue!

So it‘s one thing to get this part of your life handled when your 15, 16, 17 years old

like a normal guy, but when you wait longer, this really makes you feel depressed

about being just plain bad in bed. So to try and turn my sex life around, I started

reading every single book that I could about sex, and I figured I‘d do trial and error

until something works. I‘m going to take all the stuff that I‘ve learned from all these

books, videos, seminars, and make as many mistakes as possible and then correct them

until I got it right. I knew that I had to do whatever it took and I had to invest in skill-

training to learn this area of life. It was the same as when I was in college learning how

to do computer-programming; I had to learn how to do it. It wasn‘t one of those things

you were born with.

After three years of wild experimentation, I got to the point where even though I

couldn‘t last very long, instead of just immediately putting myself inside the girl, I

would kiss her for a while. I would massage her breasts and I‘d squeeze her ass. I‘d do

all sorts of other stuff, but I didn‘t get to the point where I could actually have sex with

her with any type of stamina.

Finally, when I started reading books on psychology and focusing a lot more on the

emotional side of sex, that‘s when I actually GOT GOOD with women. I quickly

started getting to the point where I could consistently give her orgasms — over and

over. From dirty-talk to just the sound of my voice, learning where her trigger spots

were, through to penetration where I was able to last as long as I wanted every time —

40, 50 minutes — even an hour. I‘d last so long that sometimes she‘d even moan, ―Oh

goddd.. I‘m not going to be able to walk tomorrow!‖ It was like I was in complete

control of my body and how the girl felt emotionally and physically, EVERY SINGLE


I got really good by basically practicing on a girl I was friends with who wasn‘t that

hot (I hope she isn‘t reading this!) but she seemed to want to have sex. We did wild

things in public but then she moved away and I thought, ―oh great the one girl I was

getting good with skips town!‖ But now we‘re friends because she still really wants me

to have sex with her. No question I was the best sex that she‘s ever had! For me

though, I wanted to have sex with other girls and do more shall we say ―hands-on‖

field study. So I moved on and started dating other girls. Most importantly though,

regardless of the girl I ended up with, I wanted to make sure that I was satisfying them

completely when I was in a relationship with them.

I had finally shed some past feelings of humiliation and insecurity about my

performance, but having sex with a hot girl was different for me and for the first time I

was ready to meet the challenge. These girls started to love it. They‘d literally say ―I

LOVE having getting it on with you!‖ I almost couldn‘t believe my eyes and ears.

They would want to have sex with me all the time and I felt like I was a sex god.

...Even If You‘re ―Small‖, or Have A Small Bank


So These hotter girls would want to come over and after we‘d had sex a few times I‘d

be like, ―Hey, let‘s go out for a fancy dinner. Here, I bought you a necklace,‖ I‘d try

and show them how special they were. But something started to happen. They

wouldn‘t be interested in dinner. Sure, they‘d take the necklace, but they didn‘t seem


I‘d hear ―I want to take a nap,‖ which would be a code-word for let‘s just go into your

bedroom and have sex. Or they‘d be like ―Oh, I need a hug,‖ which was always a code

word for hugging me and then they‘d start grabbing me and rubbing me, practically

tearing my clothes off. This could not be my life! I'm far from huge and I‘m not great-

looking or rich or even funny. But I now had something that most other guys don‘t

have. I was beginning to find out there was a system for making women sexually

addicted to me, something that seemed to work with every girl, every time.

I started getting it on with more girls and my skills got much better. I was having sex

whenever I wanted, getting text messages from girls I was sleeping with, phone calls

from other girls when I was with each girlfriend. It was getting out of hand. I had to do

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something with this power I had developed. I decided to take up sharing my tips as a

hobby. I wanted to make this amazing information I had personally learned available

to guys like me, who have given up and faced rejection, humiliation, and had either

been dumped or had relationships and marriages fail because of a bad sex life. So I

figured I would put together a system for how to have great sex with women. How to

give women the best sex of their life. It changed who I am. I feel like I now have this

power to give any woman an orgasm and never have to worry about getting it up or

―busting‖ too quick. I walk around with a new feeling of confidence I never had. No

more depression and feeling inadequate in bed. No more not feeling like a man. I don‘t

want guys feeling this pain.

You‘re here because of sex. It‘s what we think about all day long. It‘s what I‘m

thinking about at this café I‘m writing in while a really hot blond girl is reading some

lame fantasy novel. If she only knew! More importantly, after you mess around and get

to the point you want a more serious relationship that lasts, you‘re going to have to

last. It only makes sense and if you can last longer, she will want you more and more,

and you will get the sex you‘ve always wanted, more and more. And if you can‘t give

a woman good sex, she‘s not going to want to have children with you, she‘s not going

to treat you well, and she‘s going to be looking for other options. Chris Rock once

joked, ―A man is only as faithful as his options.‖ Well that‘s definitely true — but the

same goes for women. You don‘t think they get hit on and asked out every day of their


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Get Women Sexually Addicted to You!
What you‘re going to get out of this book and out of anything that I ever share with

you, just make sure it stays between us, is that you‘re going to get the ability to give a

woman as many orgasms as you want, to where she‘s always begging you for sex

instead of you chasing her for sex. Have you ever tried to convince your girl to have

sex with you? Is that what you want? I sure don‘t want that for you. You‘re going to be

able to have unlimited stamina, last as long as you want, and get hard at any time at the

drop of a hat. None of this is out of your grasp when you know what you‘re doing.

These problems you‘re having, problems I used to have, these are the problems of an

inexperienced lover. You don‘t need to have sex with 5, 10 or 50 girls to be

experienced. When you‘re actually experienced and you‘ve studied my method, you‘ll

know the psychology in what‘s actually going on during sex, and then all of these

things which seemed so out of reach are actually really, really easy for you.

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Chapter 2

The Six Types of ―Loser Lovers‖

Learning what women DON'T want in bed is the first step towards doing what they

DO want. So to get started, I'd like to share with you the 6 types of ―loser lovers‖ that

all women secretly HATE.

Often guys are a combination of some of these performer-types, so really think

carefully, ―Is this ever me?‖ Be honest with yourself, I have been EVERY one of these

and turned it around. So can you!

1) The "Two-Pump Chump"

The most common problem men have with women is that they just don‘t last the

required time to give women deep, full-body orgasms.

This affects nearly EVERY guy I‘ve ever worked with, so don‘t feel alone! Think of

the analogy that women are like cars. You can‘t turn your car on in the middle of the

winter and start driving really fast immediately. You have to warm it up…and get it

ready for the faster speeds. Women are the same way. If you‘re not lasting AT LEAST

10 minutes she is probably not going to orgasm and may even fake it. The good news

is that stamina is a not a difficult problem to fix. We will address that in a moment.

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2) The ―NO Pump Chump‖

The situation many guys find themselves in is that when the

time comes, they can‘t get hard. And what REALLY sucks

about this situation is that usually the harder you TRY to get

hard, the limper you become!

But don't worry, we're going to talk about how to conquer

this as well.

3) The ―Robot‖

The next reason why a lot of guys suck in bed is that they

are emotionless. And women can tell! Women thrive on

emotion, in the bedroom and outside it. Many guys are like

an assembly-line robot. They are thinking of ―Touch this,

now touch that, keep a straight face‖…beep beep beep!

Women are constantly talking about how they feel and how

a guy makes them feel. If you are unable to make a women

feel strong emotion (other than nagging you !) it is very difficult to please her.

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4) The ―Follower‖

Guys who don‘t show they are in charge look weaker, not confident and slightly

feminine. The sex will be less exciting and she won‘t think you‘re a real man. ―Does

this feel ok?‖ Once or twice is good, but it kills the moment!

Women are looking to be led in bed. Show her you know what you want. Show her

how much you want her. They want you to be in charge. It doesn‘t matter what they

act like outside the bedroom. When you are passive and unsure of yourself, it radiates

deep in the core of her femininity and shuts down her attraction for you. Obviously, at

some times the emotional, romantic sex is good because you let down your guard and

she can see a sensitive side of you —and you don‘t have to be dominant while feeling

emotional — but other than that, it‘s important that you be the one leading the sexual

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interaction. I noticed this a lot in my own life when I was starting to have more sex. I

thought that doggy-style might be demeaning and that maybe my lover wouldn‘t feel

good about doing it. Then when I started experimenting and asking women what their

favorite position was, almost every woman said ―doggy-style.‖ They loved it when I

did them really hard and even spanked them! When you take an authoritative position

with a woman, you will often find that this is when they get the most turned on.

6) The ―Guru"

Last is what I call the wanna-be sex-guru, and the sex guru has read all these

magazines and books and they‘re all based on

the physical, they‘re not based on feelings. So

the sex guru thinks if I move the clitoris in this

direction or I squeeze her breasts in this way, or

I flip her at this angle and I touch this body part

right here and I say this in this weird hypnotic

way, she‘ll be sexually pleased. They‘re always

trying to do something weird because they think they‘re this guru that knows these

crazy tricks when in reality they don‘t really know anything... and their girl gets really

turned off because she thinks ―What is this guy doing?‖ He‘s trying so hard, he thinks

he is this guru and he‘s doing all sorts of weird, crazy shit, and none of it is attractive

because he just looks like a dork.

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So if you think that you‘re any of these, and everyone is one of them at times — I‘ve

been all of them — you‘ve really got to examine what you‘re doing wrong and then

we‘ll adjust to the right way of doing things.

To Sum Up:

Now you know what women DON'T want in bed. Of course, they will never tell you if

you are one of these guys to your face, but when no one is around and they talk with

their girlfriends, this is what comes out.

But fortunately, it's easy to transform yourself into the type of guy who drives women

CRAZY in bed... so now let's talk about how to do that!

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Chapter 3

The 4 Sure Signs That You're On the Right Track

When women are sexually satisfied they act completely different. There is no nagging,

no complaining about you sitting on the couch too much, and there is a closeness and

appreciation that they exhibit towards you. I remember when I was a poor lover I‘d

always want to see my girlfriend. But invariably she would have something else to do

and I felt like I wasn‘t important enough or was acting needy. Then, at the times that I

did see her I would try and have sex with her but she would make up excuses. If I had

a penny for every time I heard that she was tired, had a headache, or was stressed and

not in the mood, I‘d be a very rich man today! In reality, looking back on it, what‘s sad

is that she DID WANT to have sex, just not with me, because I couldn‘t satisfy her. It

was so painful to admit that to myself, but I had to face the truth.

Think about when you‘re in public and you see a woman that is draped all over her

man. She is sitting on his lap, or kissing him, or always trying to hold his hand. It‘s

because he is sexually satisfying her and this causes the highest level of female

attraction. Sexually attraction far outweighs money, looks, charm, or even social

status. Now let‘s get into the visible signs that you‘re going to see when you‘re

sexually satisfying her.

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Sign #1 - She Can't Leave You Alone

When a woman initiates sex with you it means that you are fulfilling her sexually.

Unlike many men, most women do not have sex just to ―have sex.‖ They have to be

able to orgasm or at least feel very strong emotions. When a woman is initiating sex

with you, you know that she is enjoying it and wants more. The more that she initiates

sex, the more she is sexually fulfilled by you. Take note however, that there are some

women who for psychological reasons are not comfortable initiating sex, so in this

case, if they ACCEPT when you initiate sex, that is the same thing. Note also that in

some cultures the women do not initiate sex for cultural reasons, so if you have a

foreign lover or girlfriend that may be the case as well, so read her reaction when YOU

initiated sex.

You need to realize that women initiate sex very differently than guys. Many guys will

start groping a woman and kissing her in an attempt to turn her on! (I certainly tried

this). Also many guys will bring up the topic of sex and basically ask their women if

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she wants to have sex right now or that night. When women initiate sex they usually

do it very subtly. They will say things like, ―Let‘s take a nap,‖ ―I need a hug,‖ ―I need

a massage,‖ or ―Lets watch a movie.‖ If you are hearing things like this, chances are

that she is initiating sex. Just stay calm, and don‘t try and skip that step. In her head

she is seeing this as the PRECURSOR to sex, and if you try and skip the nap or the

hug, the sex won‘t happen. She doesn‘t want to seem like a slut or sex-crazed, so she

tends to subconsciously trick herself and hide what she really wants! So don‘t put the

cart before the horse!

Sign #2 - She Does Leave you Alone

Another way you will know when your girl is sexually satisfied is when her behavior

changes outside the bedroom. Many guys tell me that they are rarely having sex with

their wives and can‘t ―get‖ her to have sex. When I ask how she is treating him outside

the bedroom the answers are almost always universally not positive. They complain of

things like:

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―I‘ m always getting nagged to do chores.‖
―She tells me that I watch too much TV.‖
―She says that I don‘t make enough money.‖

When you are completely satisfying a woman sexually these issues resolve themselves

very quickly. They often completely disappear because the unhappiness concerning

sex with you is the CAUSE of their problems. Poor sex manifests itself in all of these


Sign #3 - The Proof is in the Orgasm

Later in the book you will learn about what an Overwhelming Orgasm™ is and how to

give it to her. When a woman is having multiple orgasms, an overwhelming orgasm, or

an orgasm so strong that she is very sensitive to the touch, she is REALLY into the

sex. Strong orgasms and strong emotions are connected for women, so if you are

giving her strong orgasms, she will be showing a very strong feeling of attraction

towards you.

Overwhelming Orgasm, Multiple O Feeling of Attraction towards you

Strong Feeling of Attraction Towards You Improved Behavior towards you so that

you will keep having sex with her

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Chapter 4

The Six Mindsets of the Sexual Alpha Man

Now, I‘m going to lay out for you the 6 mindsets that sexual alpha males ALWAYS

possess. These are 6 things you HAVE to get your mind ―set‖ on. If you‘ve been ―set‖

on being a loser in bed until you picked up this book, that‘s been your mindset. Before

you get into any physical techniques, any verbal techniques, any kind of wild and

crazy sex stuff, make sure you read and internalize these 6 mindsets:

Mindset 1: I Will Be Great in Bed!

You can be good in bed no matter where you're at today.

If you‘re going to change everything around and become good in bed, it is absolutely

essential that you adopt this belief! I personally hold this belief above all others. I‘ve

seen incredible change in myself, and I‘ve seen it in others.

Just a few short years ago I didn‘t even think change was possible. I thought that some

guys just had it and other guys didn‘t. That I would always be ejaculating in under a

minute and that I would have struggles with women and sexuality the rest of my life.

The crazy thing is that there‘s proof everywhere that people can change, and they do

change, but you just don‘t see it because you don‘t watch your next door neighbor

having sex. You don‘t watch other people having sex. The only sex that you see is with

your girl or in pornography, which is completely different. You have to learn the skills.

You won‘t see the change unless you believe it. If you‘re thinking ―This isn‘t going to

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work‖ then it won‘t! But if you keep doing what you‘ve always been doing, you‘re

going to get the same results!

START TODAY actively believing that you can have good or great sex with women

no matter where you are today. That is mindset #1.

Mindset 2: I Will Give Women Overwhelming Orgasms.

Many guys have this fear that they can‘t give a woman an orgasm. They think that

they‘ll be good in bed, but she won‘t orgasm. Guys — if you‘re good in bed she will

have orgasms, I guarantee it. She will be having orgasms over and over and be madly

in love with having sex with you. You just need to see it once to see it in action to

really internalize this.

So Mindset 2 is both that you CAN give women orgasms and THAT your girl is

capable of having mind-blowing orgasms! Your girl may have struggled to have

orgasms in the past, but once you know the secrets she will surprise both of you with

how sexual she can get. Trust me on that!

Mindset 3: Fear and Shame Will Not Stand in My Way.

I had a very successful sexual mastery summit I did — basically a superior man

sexual-transformation weekend. And the guys were awesome guys. They reminded me

a lot of myself, exactly where I was at and ready for change.

But I noticed a few guys getting snared by the same ego-trap. This guy came in and

said, ―Yeah, when I have sex with women, my problem is that they fall in love with

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me. They really love me, and they want to be with me all the time.‖ I was like, ―Mike,

if that‘s what‘s happening I‘m going to give you your money back, and I want you to

teach the course because you‘re so good with, and they really like you. I can‘t help


I felt like there must‘ve been a reason he was there though, so I said, ―Well, tell me a

little bit more.‖ And he goes, ―Well, when I start kissing her, she immediately starts

cumming.‖ So, ―Well, Michael, I don‘t really think that‘s the case. How many girls has

that happened with?‖ He goes, ―It‘s happened with 37.‖

―So you just paid me $5,000 to come to my inner circle mastery seminar to learn

sexual skills, and you‘re telling me that 37 girls that you‘ve hooked up with started

cumming right when you started kissing them?‖ I‘m like, ―That is possible — maybe

some guys can do that — but they don‘t come to the seminars and pay five grand to

tell other people about it.‖ To make a long story short, I took the guy aside and he

finally revealed to me he‘d only had sex once and he came in under a minute. He

looked like a wounded animal and his tone was very sullen. But I told him everything

would be ok. After some work, we got him the skills he needed and 2 months later he

emailed me to say he was lasting 25 minutes and starting to give his new girlfriend


The takeaway from Michael:

You need to admit that what you‘re doing isn‘t working. If you think you‘re a full-

fledged sex god porn star, this program‘s not for you. You‘ve got to realize that you

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CAN improve your sexual skills. No matter how bad you are, they WILL improve.

And no matter how good you think you are, you can still get better.

If your girl isn‘t trying to have sex with you all the time, and she‘s not addicted to

having sex with you — remember, women need sex — then hey, you‘re not where you

need to be.

Mindset 4: Getting Help Doesn‘t Make Me Less of a Man

It‘s ok to get help.

I used to think, ―If I learn how to have better sex rather than just figure it out on my

own then I‘m a loser.‖ I‘d think, ―I‘m not a cool guy because I got help.‖

That‘s not true. Any skill in life is learned. You didn‘t wake up and know how to drive

a car. You didn‘t wake up and know how to play guitar. Any skill that‘s worth

knowing, learning a language, programming a computer, anything, you had to learn.

NO ONE IS A NATURAL. Guys that have a lot of sex really early in their lives and

get experience with a wide variety of women might seem natural, but they are not.

Here‘s why:

2 Generally Accepted Ways Guys think they Get Good in Bed

Have sex really early in life and with multiple women often so

you have tons of experiences (very few guys). That‘s basically

―experienced-based learning.‖

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Learning the material from guys who say they‘re good in bed

and implementing unproven methods.

The guys who really ―GET‖ female

sexuality are the ones that had poor sex

―The Worst Enemy of Being Great
skills to start with. These guys (like me)
Is Being Good‖
have the most incentive to learn and don‘t

have that ego that shields them from obvious

shortcomings. Guys that aren‘t that good HAVE TO learn how to be good in bed.

There is a saying that I love, and that you‘ll love too. It is one of my favorites.

Really think about that. The Worst Enemy of Being Great is Being Good. Starting out

NOT having good sexual skills means that you have the desire and the need to

improve. You‘ll be GREAT and blow past even the best ―naturals‖ and ―experience-

based learners.‖

So it‘s okay to get help. When you‘ve got an issue in your life, you‘ve got to embrace

it, realize you‘re going to get it handled, and then boom, take care of it. Because you‘re

forced to fix it, you will. You can be better in bed than any guy you know. It is

possible. I guarantee it.

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Mindset 5: She Needs Sex Even More than Me

That may sound unbelievable because many guys say ―My girlfriend‘s not that

sexual." She doesn‘t get horny.‖ Or, ―She likes to cuddle and she‘s very romantic, but

she doesn‘t like sex. She is more interested in whether I do the chores and take out the

trash and do things around the house more than having sex.‖

That‘s because you‘re not satisfying her sexually. Women give up if they can‘t be

sexually satisfied, and they move on and pretend it doesn‘t matter. Then eventually

they start flirting with other guys, cheating and then there‘s the divorce and the

humiliation that you weren‘t man enough to satisfy her.

So, again, women need sex more than men. The sooner you realize this, the better off

you‘ll be. I‘m inserting in some quotes from women that I talked to, with their picture.

These are normal, real women. And they‘re telling you exactly how much they need


If you think that you need sex, ―Hey, I‘m a guy. I need sex.‖ Yeah, you do, but think

of women. Their main goal in life is to have children, to be child-bearers. If they can‘t

have sex and good sex at that, the guy that is supposed to sexually satisfy them

sexually is letting them down at a primal, instinctual level. That‘s something that‘s

really got to be addressed. So recognize the mindset that women need sex more than


This is everywhere. What do you think women read? Look at Cosmopolitan. Look at

YM. Look at all these women magazines, the stuff that you look at, and you‘re, like,

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―That‘s trash.‖ What do they talk about? Its all sex tips and sex headlines on those

magazines! (insert screen shot of one of them).

Look at all the time they spend buying shoes, buying underwear, make-up,and other

products to look good. You ever look at a man‘s underwear, compared to women‘s

underwear? Not to be graphic or weird. Dudes just throw on a pair of boxers or tighty-

whiteys. ―There it is. It‘s my underwear.‖ Women spend hours, ―Is this the right

underwear? Does it look good? This shirt, these pants, do I look fat in this?‖ It‘s

because they‘re sexual creatures. They want to look desirable. They have all this

sexual desire, but society represses it, and the examples of this are everywhere.

And You Don‘t Think Women Want And Care About Sex?

So now that you know women are sexual creatures, and hopefully you‘ve internalized

this, let‘s move on to the next mindset.

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Mindset 6: I Can Get This Handled - NOW

The final mindset is that the time to act is NOW. The reason that you‘re not good in

bed NOW is by not addressing this area of our life the right way, with proper

education. It‘s not your fault; society makes it very tough for guys to know where to

turn on such a sensitive and personal issue. Whatever the reason that your bedroom

skills aren‘t up to par, it‘s not your fault and you are going to handle this problem once

and for all. Congratulations on manning up and fixing this problem! Most guys don‘t

have the balls to admit it to themselves let alone solve the problem! Great job, your

lover will scream your name in thanks!

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Chapter 5


Now we're gonna get into the 4 characteristics that are going to make you a rock star in


To start, I'll run through all four, then at the end of this chapter, we'll talk about how to

COMBINE them and take your skills to the next level!

The first component is PRESENCE.

PRESENCE means being in the moment and not worrying about anything else other

than what's going on. It's not just you being in the moment, it's HER being in the

moment. PRESENCE means that all you're thinking about is….. actually nothing!

You're not thinking about anything, and she's not thinking about anything. Often,

you'll know that she's in the present when her eyes are closed. If her eyes are open, and

she staring at you or looking around the room like, "Oh, should that painting be over

there?" she's not in the present, and she's not in the moment at all. This is a bad thing,

because you want her not thinking anything, but feeling. Women are feelers.

Don't Think, Just Do!

One of the signs that you're both in the present is that you are THINKING too much.

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And more specifically, you are thinking too much about the actual sex!

One of the big mistakes... that is totally NATURAL when you are first learning this

stuff, or having sex with a woman for the first time, is to keep thinking to yourself over

and over, ―Is she enjoying this?"

Now don't get me wrong. Of course you want her to have a good time. But the key that

once you start doing the other things we've talked about, you won't have to worry

about that any longer... because you'll KNOW she's enjoying it!

Not Thinking About Penis or Performance

We're gonna move into the next part of presence, which is not thinking about your

penis and your performance. Nothing about, "Am I big enough? Am I hard enough?

Am I lasting long enough? Am I good?" As soon as you start thinking these questions,

"Am I hard enough?" What happens? You get soft. "Am I lasting long enough?" What

happens? You cum, or you get soft. "Am I good enough?" You start trying harder.

You lose every feeling of being in the moment, and you lose your presence and your

authority. It's game over, because all of a sudden, you've lost all aspect of being good

in bed, and you're no longer good at all. It's a big problem, so you got to make sure that

you aren't worrying about any of these fears about your penis, or about different

aspects of your sexuality.

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Using Primal Instincts and Desire

You don‘t want to be thinking. You want to just be going by instinct. So, in the

beginning, while you're learning this stuff, you're definitely gonna be doing a lot of

thinking. There'll be a learning curve. Just like anything else. Like when you learned to

drive a stick shift, when you learn a language, anything, you're thinking about it at the

start. "What do I say now? Which gear to I shift into?" You're learning. But, once you

get past the learning stage and pass the learning curve, you no longer want to be

thinking about what exactly you're doing, and what's going on. Always instinct. Think

of a bear that's gonna pull a salmon out of the river. He's not thinking, "Maybe I'm

gonna move my head in this direction. Maybe the salmon will move to 42 degrees, and

I will grab him here, and the wind is this variable." Think of just pure instinct, just

getting in there and grabbing that salmon.

The bear just jumps into the river and grabs it. It does it out of a primal instinct. That's

how you wanna be when you're in the present. You're just primal. Just going right after

it. That is PRESENCE.

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The 2nd trait is AUTHORITY. Why authority? Simple: because women don't want

another woman!

Take that one in: Women don't want another woman.

If they did, they would be with one! No, a woman wants a man.

So what does being a man MEAN?

You need to be authoritative in bed. You need to show that you're in charge. This

doesn't mean you should be super aggressive. You should always treat women with

respect, but you need to be authoritative. Here‘s how:

-Take Charge

Show her you're in charge by leading. By having that mindset of leader, you'll begin to

naturally think, "I'm in charge. I'm the boss here. I'm gonna do what I like." You

wanna show that you're in charge, and you're the one leading the sexual interaction. It's

much more attractive for women, whether it's during sex or during a date, to be led by

the male. That's how it's been since the caveman days. Evolution has shown that men

have to be the stronger, more dominant, and the woman is, going to follow the lead of

the man. Being authoritative is a mindset and a way of action. So, you've gotta show

that you're in charge. Doggy style is a perfect way to show you‘re the boss of the

interaction. Don‘t ask to do doggy style. Just pull her into position and get going!

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-Talk Dirty

The second trait of being authoritative is to TALK DIRTY. This shows that you're

confident in your sexuality and in your manliness. Try saying things like, "You look so

fucking hot right now‖ or "You like this? You like it hard? I'm gonna make you cum

so hard‖ And just saying things that are dirty, like "You like it when I fuck you don't


Nearly all women will respond to this kind of basic dirty talk. If she seems to

REALLY get off on it, slowly take it to the next level.

I like to have guys start with something like "You like how I feel inside you?"

Something like that, and then ramp it up from there. I know it can feel a bit awkward at

first, but as you see how well she responds to it, you'll get comfortable REAL fast!


The third part of authority is getting just a little bit ROUGH with her.

Now, I DON'T mean rough as in tieing her up and whipping her (though some girls

DO like that!)... what I mean is things like lightly slapping her ass as you are doing

her, or reaching up the back of her neck and gently but firmly pulling her hair. If you're

in missionary position, pin her arms behind her head. And by all means, after you've

started gently and she is warmed up, give it to her HARD while you are doing these

things! Move faster and go in deeper. That's very authoritative. Push her down into the

bed. That's authoritative. Get it?

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What you are trying to do her is to make her

feel like she is being TAKEN by a strong and

powerful man. There is nothing you can do in

the bedroom that will get a woman more

turned on that this!

-Be Possessive

The next key to blowing your woman's mind

in the bedroom is to let her know that she

belongs to YOU.

You want to say things that are really authoritative that make her understand that she

is yours. Start with things like, ―You are ALL MINE right now‖... which is something

all women want to hear. If this excites her, move on to telling her that certain body

parts of hers belong to you; ―These are my lips to kiss‖... ―Your ass is mine right now‖


The reason this gets such a strong reaction from women is because you are being

TERRITORIAL... which is a very MASCULINE characteristic. And the more things

you do in the bedroom to remind her that she's YOUR woman and YOU are a strong,

powerful man... the more enjoyment she is going to get out of the experience.

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The 3rd part of the P.A.V.E. system is VARIETY. And while physical variety is nice,

what I am really talking about here is EMOTIONAL VARIETY.

It's being a different type of lover who keeps things fresh and exciting.

Sometimes you want to be that really romantic guy, that Casanova, that comes in and

sweeps her off her feet, saying "Baby, I love you so much. I love being inside you."

That's one kind of a lover.

Then, sometimes you need to be the bad boy that's doing her really hard. You're doing

her doggie-style. You're slapping her ass. Maybe you're doing her in a place you

shouldn‘t be, like in public, or sneaking off somewhere.

This creates a very different emotion for a woman than plain ole‘ ―bedroom sex‖…

and women LOVE IT!

Another idea is to narrated a very emotional fantasy. Something like out of a romance

novel. You could be telling her how much you love her and how much you want to be

with her. This type of sex can be all about you being connected as one.

The point from all examples is that emotional variety by being different kinds of lovers

is highly important!

VARIETY is about giving her a different sensation of feelings. It's not solely about

different positions. Different positions definitely help, because different positions give

her different emotions. If you do different positions, and you say different things, and

you have different interactions in these different positions, it's definitely gonna add

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variety, because it's adding emotional variety AND physical variety. But, positions

themselves aren't really that different. You only really need about four or five sexual

positions. You need to be able to give her different emotions and variety of sexual

experiences from the same sexual positions. So, being different type of lovers is one of

the keys to variety.

The second key to variety is that positions aren't that important. And I just touched

upon it, but positions aren't as important. Why? It‘s because you can have massive

variety within one position. Many of my students have made multiple girls have

orgasms, repeatedly, just from changing their emotional status by being in the

missionary position. In the missionary position you can make love to her. You can

fuck her. You can talk emotionally. You can talk dirty. There's so many different

things that you can do just from missionary position, that really changes how she's

feeling and what kind of orgasm she has.

Being Spontaneous

So, another issue to variety is SPONTANEITY. If you're always having sex at 9:00 at

night, on Friday night, that's not very spontaneous. You want to be having sex at

different times. Sometimes you want to have sex in the middle of the day, if you can.

Try and rendezvous in the middle of the day to have sex. Try to have various times

where you have sex. Be Spontaneous! You never wanna plan sex. If it's planned, it's

not gonna have that variety. It's not gonna have emotion. It's gonna seem monotonous.

So, you wanna make sure that the sex is very spontaneous as often as possible. Y eah,

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you're gonna have a lot of sex at night after you go to bed, and in the morning when

you wake up, but as much as possible try not stick to a schedule. Do it in the shower,

or take a little trip together and have sex when you get there. You want as much

spontaneity as possible.

Using Fantasies

A Great way to add in variety is through USING FANTASIES. There are lots of

different fantasies. (In a moment, you‘re going to read some fantasies from real

women!) Fantasies are a great way to add in variety, because you can make her feel a

wide range of emotions, as well as have a lot of fun yourself, and it‘s a very enjoyable

thing. And again, when you make her feel a variety of emotions, you're going to give

her a lot of orgasms, and she's going to be madly in love with you.

So in summary, the main way to have more VARIETY is to change her emotions.

Change the feelings that she has. Keep things fresh, be a different kind of lover, be

spontaneous, and use fantasies as a way to make sure your sex life doesn‘t get boring.

The 4th trait is EMOTION. Here‘s how to put it into play…

You Must Be Emotional Yourself!

It takes two people to have great sex. So you have to BE EMOTIONAL YOURSELF.

If you can't be emotional yourself, she's not going to feel emotion. So, when you're

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telling her things, make sure that you really mean it. Emotion is pretty hard to fake for

most guys. So, if you're not with a girl that you like, even sexually or in any manner,

you need to be. If it's your wife, you should be pretty emotional, because you married

her. Remember back to the emotions that you felt when you married her. So, you need

to be emotional.

Make Her Feel a Range of Emotions

EMOTION is all about giving her a range of emotions. Sometimes she wants to feel

really wanted in a caring and loving way. Sometimes she just wants to feel like a piece

of meat. Women want to feel different emotions during sex. Emotion also explains a

lot of guys sexual problem. They‘ll get married, or they'll get a girlfriend, and in the

beginning the sex is really good. And then the sex peters out. It's because in the

beginning, there's so much emotion for both of you. You're madly in love. Your bodies

are new. There's a lot of emotion in the beginning. Then that emotion dips over a time.

So now, after the initial emotions have dipped, you don't want it to end in a weak "I

love you." If you're saying ―I love you,‖ you want to say it with passion. The stronger

the emotions, the stronger the orgasms are gonna be.

The Stronger the Emotions, the Better

Women are attracted to strong emotions. They love guys that make them feel strong

emotions. If you've ever seen a bad boy with a really hot girl, he makes her feel a lot

of strong emotions, either inside the bedroom, or outside. And it's not that she loves

each emotion that she feels, it's that it's this wild roller coaster of various emotions.

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And you want to do that in bed. Different emotions. Feelings of being loved. Feelings

of just being fucked. Different and strong emotions are what YOUR girl wants.

You Must Be Verbal in Bed

Third thing on emotion is that YOU MUST TALK. If you're not talking in bed, there's

no way you're conveying any emotion. What you don‘t realize is that good sex

involves verbal communication during sex at times. It's not that having open dialogue

or a convesation. It is a few select words used here and there that have a purpose.

Emotions are best shown through words. Once you learn what to say you‘ll be able to

create strong emotions very easily


TEASING is a great way to create emotion. If you're teasing a girl, and you're really

slowly building up…and you're building up…and you're building up, all that teasing

creates anticipation. Anticipation creates excitement So, teasing, anticipation,

excitement. And the way that you can do that, I just keep kissing, keep kissing until all

of the sudden she starts grabbing you, and then kind of push her away. Play hard to

get. Do what a woman would do when you're trying to get her. Just keep going with

the foreplay, and keep gently pushing her away in a teasing manner, until finally she

can't take it anymore, and she really wants you inside of you.

Be Emotional But Authoritative Outside of the Bedroom

Try and work in a little bit of emotion into your relationship outside the bedroom, and

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here are some ways you can do that:

Romantic/Emotional Talk with Her

Romantic talk with her is a great way to add a lot of emotion. Romantic talk means

things like, "I love you so much, baby." If you're not calling your wife or girlfriend

baby, you need to start now. Kind of ease it in there, otherwise it sounds a little weird.

But romantic talk is, "Oh, I miss you so much.‖ ―How much do you love me?" Stuff

like that is romantic talk. You need to add in a lot of romantic talk.

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Chapter 6

Proof Women Want It: Read Hot Fantasies -

Written by Women!
To show you just how powerful this stuff is, I wanted to share with you some fantasies

written by REAL WOMEN… so you can get inside of their heads and see just how

important using the elements of the P.A.V.E. system really is!

Of course I couldn‘t ask women I know because they wouldn‘t tell the truth… as they

wouldn‘t want me to think differently of them. So I went and posted ads on Craigslist

to have women write in with their fantasies, offering to pay them with Pay Pal so there

would be zero embarrassment… that way I knew they would hold nothing back! What

you are about to read are 100% true, anonymous, unedited fantasies that prove how

much women want and need sex.

Pay close attention when you are reading these. This stuff is so close to the P.A.V.E

system its unbelievable. Look for all the elements of P.A.VE. within these fantasies

and you will be able to copy these fantasies.

So without further ado… here some real fantasies from women. Warning: These are

UNEDITED and EXPLICIT… so read at your own risk!

Fantasy 1: I Want You Right Now!

I come home from work and there you are lying on the sofa in your boxers. As usual, I

catch my breath when confronted with your masculinity. Even though you are not

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physically big, you fill the room with your sexual presence. You look up at me with

that familiar mixture of innocence and desire that crumbles my resistance every time.

Your enormous brown eyes beg me to join you.

I set my briefcase on the counter, walk over to the sofa and stand in front of you. The

pinstripe skirt I am wearing stops about mid thigh and stretches tightly across my

ample bottom. I feel your hands slide up over my hips, pulling me against you. I

straddle your lap, kissing you softly, sucking on your bottom lip. Wrapping my arms

around your neck, I lean into your strength and warmth. I can feel the desire pool

between my legs, as I grind my hips against you.

―Do you know how badly I want to fuck you right now?‖ I murmur. You feel my lips

graze your neck and you shiver.

―Baby,‖ is all that you can utter. You pull my suit coat off, revealing a tight, satin

camisole. My rock hard nipples poke through the smooth fabric, and before I can stop

you, you lean forward and suck on one through the thin material. I gasp as you nibble

at its stiff peak.

―Not yet, darling,‖ I whisper in your ear. ―I want to learn every part of your body

tonight. Just lie back and let me pleasure you.‖ My hands trail down your abdomen,

coming to rest on the waistband of your boxers. You help me remove them. I step

back, still in my 4 inch heels, and appraise your amazing body. ―Here are the rules: I

touch you. You cannot touch me until I tell you its okay. Got it?‖

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You swallow hard and nod your head. I‘ve never taken control like this. I straddle your

lap again and nibble at your earlobes. I can feel your erection pressing against my

thighs. I resist the temptation to just climb onto your cock and ride you. I trace the

lines of your jaw with my thumb and kiss your neck softly. I run my fingers across

your shoulders and down your arms, paying special attention to the outlines of your

muscles. My touch is light and tentative, and is driving you wild. I‘m trying to drink

you all in, I can‘t get enough of your different textures.

I grab your left hand, and plant a kiss in your palm. I run my tongue between your

fingers before taking one into my mouth and sucking, gently at first, then with a bit

more strength. You grab me around my waist, and kiss me breathless. ―You‘re a

naughty boy,‖ I manage to get out between pants. ―I‘ve got something that will help‖.

I go into our bedroom and find a silk scarf. I can see the skepticism on your face.

―Don‘t worry, baby. If at any point it gets to be too much, just say yellow.‖

I tie the scarf loosely around your eyes. The material is cool and smooth against your

skin. I stand up and slowly unzip my skirt. You hear it hit the floor. ―Baby, where are


―I‘m here. Just try to relax.‖ Your breathing has gotten shallow and your cock is so

hard, it looks like it might explode. I pull the camisole off too. It‘s driving you wild

that you cannot see me, nor do you know what I‘m going to do next. The scent of your

arousal teases my nose. I want to take you in my mouth and suck you dry, but tonight

is about control, so I continue with my lesson.

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I get down on the sofa again and lay a trail of kisses down the inside of your arm. You

shudder when my soft lips brush across your bicep. I continue my assault, running my

tongue along your side, down to your pelvic bone. I inhale deeply near your navel,

causing your abdomen to quiver. I pinch your nipples, they‘re so different from mine,

and you moan. I slide my fingers through the thin coarse hair on your chest and follow

it to your smooth stomach.

I begin to nibble at your thighs, breathing on your balls and shaft, but not touching

them. I flick my tongue across the tip of your cock, lapping up a drop of precum. You

squirm a little and cry out my name. I run my fingers across your lips and press them

inside your mouth. You suck on them a little and realize that they are soaked with my

juices. You grab my wrist and suck harder. I cannot take another second. My aching

pussy has to have you now. I lower myself onto your cock and remove the blindfold.

I start kissing you as I grind my hips, riding you. You grab my hips and force me down

onto you harder and harder. I can feel your fingers digging into my flesh, as our

movements become frantic. You slap my ass - hard, first one cheek, then the other. I

cry out, loudly. The slick walls of my pussy clench you tightly as you start to suck on

my nipples again.

You roll me underneath you, and slam into me. My legs are over your shoulders so you

can get as deep as possible. I can feel my orgasm rising as you possess me. I run my

fingernails down your back, as you fuck me. The sting of your broken skin excites you.

I am yours now. I cry out your name, nearing the verge of my climax. A flush has

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spread from my face down to my abdomen and I‘m whimpering now, begging you to

make me cum.

You pull back and look in my eyes. ―Roll over,‖ you say roughly. I get on all fours for

you, my pussy throbbing with excitement. You grab my hair and jerk my head back a

little. ―Tell me that you want me.‖

I take a sharp breath in. I feel so exposed with my ass in the air, yet I‘m excited. I can

feel my juices running down my legs. ―Fuck me…now.‖ I feel so wanton. I touch my

clit as you slam into me, bruising my tender skin. You grab my hips and pound harder.

My breasts are bouncing back and forth, causing my nipples to rub against the rough

upholstery of the sofa.

You start to orgasm, and the delicious sounds you make are enough to send me over

the edge. I soak you with my juices and you are eager to lick them before they are

wasted. Your five o‘clock shadow scrapes my sensitive inner thighs. Your tongue

slides across my aching clit, causing me to moan, almost scream your name. I shudder

my completion, but you refuse to let me go. You hold my hips down so I cannot

squirm away. You lap at me slowly, never changing pace or pressure. I whimper again.

The orgasm is different this time. It builds and I beg you to finish, but you keep that

same pace. It is so intense that I soak your face and the sofa.

I collapse onto our oversized sofa, trying to catch my breath. You cuddle up next to me

and pull the afghan from the back of the sofa across our naked bodies. You wrap your

arms around me, pulling me against you. You are so strong, I have never felt so safe.

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―What brought that on?‖ you whisper lazily into my ear.

―I wanted to do for you what you do for me every day.‖

―What is that?‖

―You worship my body in your own way. You make me feel safe and loved and

protected. You cater to my whims. I feel like a goddess every time we make love. You

can never seem to get enough.‖

I feel your thumbs brush the underside of my breasts as you snuggle even closer. Your

breath is warm on my neck and I can tell you‘re getting sleepy. I close my eyes and

drift off too, but not before hearing you say softly, ―I love you‖. I smile – that‘s the

first time you‘ve said that.

Fantasy 2: You Caught Me! Not So Innocent Now...

From the anonymous female author: "Telling people about my fantasies isn‘t

something I thought I could ever do. But when I saw the ad for fantasies, I thought,

what the hell.‖ This is what I fantasize about - for real!

I am flying down the highway in a little white GTO. It is a winding highway

someplace rural, probably western North Carolina. There are tall pines on either side

of the road and I am going way too fast. I love the power of the car and the thrill of

speed. This would be a lot of fun if I didn‘t have to pee. Really badly. Mind numbing,

can‘t think, I have to pee. There is no freaking way I am going to pee in the woods,

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especially dressed in a mini-skirt and strappy sandals. I know my motel is around one

of these hair-pin corners.

At least I hope it is.

As I round yet another turn I see a cop car. ―Oh shit!‖ I am terrified and my over-

beating heart cranks it up a notch but I can‘t slow down. I must keep driving. And oh

shit, there are the lights. He is coming after me. I keep my foot nailed to the petal. We

go on like this for a couple miles when I see the entrance to the Summer Pines Motor

Inn and crank the wheel into the gravel lot. My room, number 15, is at the end the

building and the car goes screaming into the space right in front. I think I turn off the

car but who really knows. I am out of the car fumbling with my keys and running to

the bathroom.

I make it to the bathroom just in time to hike up my little white skirt and rip down my

thong and sit. Oh my word. Thank god. Such relief.

Then I hear the door slam open and ―Police, come out with your hands in the air.‖ Oh

no I forgot about the cop in my panic.

I manage ―I‘m in here.‖

As I look up there is a tall man standing in the door way of the bathroom and he is

staring at me. This is so weird. I feel a rush of heat run up my neck and face. I am

sitting on the toilet with my skirt hiked up, my panties at my ankles and he is staring at

me. And he is pointing a gun at me.

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―I had to pee. Don‘t shoot me.‖ I hold up my hands like I am surrendering and start to


I am wearing a tight turquoise blue tank top and I can feel my nipples respond to the

blast of cold AC. As I stand up my little white skirt gets hung up on my hips. The cop

can‘t help but look at me, look at my privates. He exhales deeply and instinctively

licks his lips. I know he is looking at my neat trim and I think I might like it.

I briefly consider my vulnerable situation but chances like this don‘t come every day. I

tip my head up and give him a small wicked smile. Instead of pulling the thong up I

step out of it and walk forward without my sandals. I have a great tan and bright pink

toe nails. I try wiggling my hips ever so slightly and but my skirt gets stuck on my hips

a little lower but not anywhere close to modest.

―How about you put that weapon away,‖ I purr reaching my hands towards one

another clasping them in front of me with my best ―I am so innocent‖ look.

He exhales again. He composes himself and gently shakes his head and blinks a couple

of times. His eyes drift down and my eyes follow his. My eyes get stuck half way

down when I can see that his cock is pushing against the front of his pants as he looks

at me, looking at him. It is awkward in heated kind of way. He instinctually slides the

gun into the holster on his hip. Since he has seen me, he hasn‘t said anything to me.

My eyes run up to his chest now and I see that he has broad shoulders. Higher still, he

has a dark complexion with salt and pepper hair and hard grey eyes. He is totally hot.

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I try speaking, ―Too fast, probably? I was going really fast‖ Then I add ―Am I under

arrest?‖ looking up with big wide eyes.

This next transition is a blur. He is coming towards me filling the doorway to the

bathroom and he grabs me under the arm pits and easily hoists me onto the sink

counter. My skirt is still jacked up around my hips. He spreads my legs with his knee,

grunts and moves in quickly. He leans over and put his lips on my bare shoulder. I

smell like sun and coconut and sweat and he breathes me deeply and moves his lips

and his teeth to the round tightness of my bicep. Brushing his cheek against my chest, I

arch my back and press my chest against him. A slight moan escapes my lips as I reach

up and grab a handful of his shirt.

Greedily he kisses and licks my shoulders and neck feeling me rise and fall to meet

him. I have to touch him. I move my hands to his front and quickly undo the buttons of

his shirt. I slid my hands onto his pecs and use my face to move his lips to mine. I want

his mouth and grab his bottom lip with just a touch of my teeth. As I suck his full lip

his hips start to press into the counter. He obviously likes it and grabs the back of my

neck and shoots his tongue deep into my open and willing mouth. I love rough kissing

and we explore every inch of each other‘s mouths.

I find his other hand and lift my tight tank top to offer my flesh. My round and firm

breasts are the perfect size for his large strong hands. He cups my whole tit in his hand

and squeezes just enough for a twinge of delightful pain. I lean into him as he finds

nipple and rolls it between his thumb and all of his fingers one by one. He spreads his

fingers so that his thumb was on one nipple and his pinky finger was on the other. His

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palm presses between my breasts and I grab his face and drive my tongue deeper into

his mouth.

He smells like musk and sweet chicory coffee. I have big handfuls of his hair and I can

see the muscles of his neck straining. He is so strong and I know he is hard. The

thought of ―what the fuck am I doing‖ comes into my head but leaves just as quickly. I

arch again slipping my tank top over my head and grab his face and pushed it towards

my heart.

The cop doesn‘t flinch as he leans in to take my rock hard nipples into his mouth. He

licks around in circles teasing my sharp points. I love it when he uses his teeth and

while it hurts I don‘t say stop. The pain shoots into my belly and down lower. I love it.

My chest is pushed forward and as I desperately remove his shirt.

I am still sitting in front of the mirror on the cool marble counter with my legs

dangling over the edge. With a grunt he picks me up as I tuck my feet underneath until

I am crouching on the sink. As I slowly stand he strips my skirt to my ankles. He looks

up with need and reverence. I feel so alive and hot standing naked in front of this

hungry man. I reach my hands over my head into my hair and stretch. I know I am


My thighs are at his eye level. He moves in closer and runs his hands up the fronts

until his thumbs meet my little mound and he spread his fingers around my hip bones.

I lean in close and I know he can feel the heat from my special place. With each thumb

he spreads my lips gently and looks up. I catch him staring at my heat and he runs his

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tongue over his lips. I can feel the wetness engulf my pussy. I want him to take me

with his mouth so I tilt my hips closer.

He roughly grabs my ass with both hands and propels my hips towards his face. I feel

my knees go weak yet he holds me in place and thrusts his tongue into my spot. I grab

the top of his head and hold on for dear life. I am so wet and hot. He is lapping at my

lips and forcing his tongue inside closer to my G-spot. I know my juices are pouring

into his mouth and down his neck. His hands are roughly he kneading my ass. After a

minute he reaches one hand around and slides his first two fingers up into my slit. I

gasp but eagerly meet his hand. Just then he finds my spot and teases it with his tongue

while moving his two, maybe three fingers in and out with a hard pumping rhythm.

My orgasm comes fast and hard. ―More, more. Don‘t stop,‖ I moan and then release. It

is so perfect. My knees give out as he gently lowers me to the counter. (This is usually

when I have my first orgasm for real.) But I am not done with this fantasy. I still want

to be fucked.

I watch the cop grab his belt and pants and jump out of them freeing his enormous

hard on. I can see his veins and the skin stretched thinly. His sex was pulsing and I

know he needs to be inside of me. This gets me so excited for more.

I am panting and gasping for air as he grabs me around the waist and plants my sweet

ass onto the cold marble. He spread my legs wide and finds my opening with his tip.

He moves around until his head shines and plunges into my center. I am tight in the

right way yet so wet and willing.

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―Oh Jesus in heaven,‖ he moans. He moves his hips back and forth pumping me. I

push up with my strong arms tilting my hips up to meet him while wrapping my legs

around his back. My ass is barely on the counter. I am mostly being held in place by

his strong arms and his big dick deep inside of me. I dig my nails into his back and he

flinches just for a second but it doesn‘t stop him.

He lets his whole shaft come out to my soft lips and then drives it in harder and deeper.

Each time he rams me I am shocked at how deep and far he is in me. I want to bite him

and chew on his neck and his shoulders while moving with his rhythm. His cock is

stretched to the limit and I can tell he was getting ready. It was coming but he wants to

be in deeper still. He wraps his strong arms around my whole torso and takes me to


The cold tile is shocking to my back and I gasp but I don‘t want to stop. He drives hard

holding my shoulders so I have to take every inch of him. Pumping harder and faster I

grab his cock with my inside muscles and push my hips up as far as I can to meet his

onslaught. This is when we both come together. He fills me completely.

His elbows give way and he lands gently on top of me. I feel triumphant. I feel like a

conqueror. I relish him being worn out, panting and trying to catch his breathe. And

when he lifts his head I smile and say ―Does this mean I won‘t get a ticket?‖

Wild stuff, eh? It just goes to show that women are waaaay more sexual than we think!

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So now that we‘ve covered how to arouse a woman‘s emotions to give her intense

physical pleasure, let‘s go over some of the common problems we men have in bed,

and what to do about them.

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Chapter 7

Common Problems And How To Fix Them!

No matter how much sexual improvement you do there will still be occasional issues

that come up. Let‘s address some of the major ones quickly.

How To Get HARD (Without Pills)

When a guy has trouble getting hard it is almost always a psychological problem, not a

physical problem. You can always go the drug route and take Viagra or another such

drug but in most cases I‘ve seen that guys usually don‘t really need it!

If you can get hard during masturbation or while looking at porn, but not during sex,

your problem is entirely psychological. (If you can‘t get hard for masturbation or porn

then you need to talk with a doctor.)

Assuming you CAN get hard while masturbating, here‘s how to get hard when you‘re

with a woman:

1.Stop TRYING so hard to get hard

If you are trying to hard, the stress reaction sends a signal to your brain that you are in

a flight or fight response, which basically means the harder you try, the limper you will


Here is what to do instead:

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2. Practice 10 count breathing when not having sex… then

use it when you are

I've found that one of the best ways to get control of your manhood is through

breathing... and now I'd like to show you a little-known breathing technique that I've

found is THE SECRET to getting and keeping rock hard erections for as long as YOU


It's called, ―10-Count Breathing‖, and trust me when I say, this is one of the single best

things you will EVER learn to improve your sex life! So let's get right into it...

10-Count Breathing

Sit in a comfortable position

Breathe in slowly through your nose concentrating on making

your stomach go out as you fill it with air. This breath is 1.

Hold the in breath for a second once it is all the way in
Breath out slowly through your mouth noticing your stomach

coming back in. This exhale is 2.

Repeat in and out in same manner until you reach 10. (5 cycles

of 2). Concentrate only on thinking about the number you are on,
nothing about life or any topic. Clear your mind other than the
numbers. Once you hit 10 repeat cycle until you find you are
completely relaxed. In the beginning this make take 40-50
breathes. After you have done this a few times it will be 10-20

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Get to the point where you can do 10 count breathing and notice that you are relaxed.

Right when you realized you are about to have sex start breathing QUIETLY but in 10

count breathing style and you will notice that you are able to maintain your level of

arousal without having tension creep in and ruin your erection.

Sounds crazy, but it works! Keep practicing until you get this down. You‘ll be glad

you did.

3. More foreplay

Keep kissing your lover and having foreplay, which allows you to relax more and get

hard. If you are not having problems of arousal then your problems are of tension and

presence. More foreplay= less tension= total arousal. And trust me, no woman has

EVER complained about TOO MUCH forplay! It‘s usually the opposite! So relax and

take your time.

In Addition…

Another thing I highly recommend to boost your performance in bed is to start

working out regularly. To start you can do ANY exercise… it‘s better than nothing!

If you can do 20 minutes of any exercise that makes you sweat a bit and gets your

heard rate up and you feeling good, then it will help your erections, as physical activity

signals to the body to increase testosterone production… which equals harder and

bigger erections!

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Here are some specific types of training that are GREAT for sex:

-Yoga: With yoga you not only increase your strength and get a good workout, you

learn to control your breathing as well, which makes it an amazing sex life booster! If

you can only do one physical activity, yoga is what I recommend

- Weight Training: This is the best ways to get your testosterone levels up and be ready

and able to have more sex. Focus on big multi joint movements that work more than

one muscle at once, as they will boost your testosterone the fastest. These include the

dead lift, squat, dumbbell press, and pull-ups. For further details, look at a program

such as Body of Life by Bill Phillips.

-Martial Arts: Martial arts are great for getting up testosterone. Check into some

Brazilian jujitsu classes or any kind of self defense. I‘ve personally done this for over 8

years now and always am relaxed and ready to have a ton of sex after training. You

don‘t have to ever fight or get injured, just use the activity to stay in shape and as a

testosterone booster.

How To Last Longer

If you are not lasting long enough let‘s fix this problem right now!

I used to be the worst premature ejaculator of all. It makes sex no fun and a source of

constant stress and anxiety because you know that you can‘t please a woman. Instead

of feeling pleasure during sex all you can think about is your fear of cumming!

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I remember I used to kid myself that all guys lasted a short time… but thenwomen

would tell me otherwise!

The bottom line is ff you can‘t last, your relationship won‘t last… so listen up!

The good news is that if you can last longer masturbating than having sex you can fix

your premature ejaculation. It‘s just going to take a little bit of work.

Ejaculating too quickly usually occurs because you are not present enough during sex.

When you don‘t have presence, tension creeps into your body and causes you to

ejaculate early. Once you learn how aroused you are you can control your erection and

last as long as you want. Here‘s how:

Step 1.

Don‘t fight your arousal. Instead, put it at a number. Once you can put your arousal at

a number it is easy to identify the point where you are about to cum and avoid it. Start

off by noticing during masturbation or sex what number you are at on a scale of 1-10.

The scale should be roughly like this:

Not aroused at all, no erection, your mowing the lawn

Could get aroused, thinking of maybe masturbating
Aroused, masturbating or foreplay but not enough to come
Highly aroused but not going to come yet
About to come, couldn‘t stop cumming if I wanted to, inevitable


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You want to be able to recognize where you are on that scale of 1-10 at any time

whether you are masturbating or involved in any sex play. The goal for right now is to

be able to identify when you hit number 6.5 and when it turns into number 9. We‘re

going to move when you have sex from a number 9 to a number 6.5!

What I want you to do is notice the next 10 times when you masturbate when are you

are about to go from number 6.5 to number 9. Most guys ―go over the edge‖ and are

about to come with faster thrusting, harder stroking, or some kind of additional

physical or visual stimulation (aka doggy style). So for the next ten times identify

during the entire number system in each stage up to your orgasm. Then for the next 9

times or however long it takes I want you to slow down the physical sensation (ie..not

as hard stroking) and take 2 or 3 10 count breathes to get your arousal level back down

from a number 9 to a number 6.5. Once you have the ability to do this during

masturbation you will be able to do the same thing during sex.

Once you combine the arousal scale with physical positions that are less stimulating

you will find that you have complete control over your how long you last and

premature ejaculation is gone forever. Again, give us a call if you need help with this.

It‘s also described in detail in the Fundamentals DVD.

Step 2.

Longer foreplay: The more foreplay you have the better off you will be able to last as

long as you want. The foreplay makes you comfortable and lowers your arousal level

to 4 but as long as it‘s done right doesn‘t make you come. When you are increasing

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your foreplay to get your arousal level down to a 4 concentrate on what you are doing

to her rather than what she is doing to you. Because lack of arousal isn‘t your problem,

its excess of arousal you don‘t want her making you more aroused through a hand job

or a blowjob. Instead eat her out, or kiss her body, or kiss her and you will get to and

maintain an arousal level of 4 throughout sex until YOU DECIDE when you will


Step 3.

Missionary position or oral sex not doggy style. In the beginning when you are

learning to master your cock and increasing stamina avoid doggy style. Doggy is

the most visually and physically stimulating position for a guy and will increase

your arousal level. Have sex missionary with your arms under her and NOT

supporting your weight. See demonstration in the DVD.

Step 4.

Move slowly and when you are about to come slow down. You have conditioned

yourself from your masturbating that when you slow down you will lower arousal and

get back to a 4. Take a breath and slow down!

Once you get this working on masturbating with some porn then you can try it during

sex. It may take a few times but you will find your sexual confidence goes through the

roof and you will be able to last as long as you want once you master it.

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If you combine this numerical arousal technique with weight training, exercise,

meditation the day you are going to have sex it will speed up this learning process by

at LEAST 50%.

How To Give Her An Orgasm

A lot of guys think that their girl is different and she won‘t come. She will, you just

have to be doing the right things and following the P.A.V.E. model.

You need to realize that it may take time but she will eventually have orgasms. Also,

unlike men who usually have just one type of orgasm, women are capable of many

different types. They have many more ―pleasure centers‖ and depending on how good

a sexual experience you are giving them they can come more times and much stronger.

Let‘s go over some of the types of orgasms women can have and a sure-fire backup

plan to give any women an orgasm.

Physical Stimulation Orgasms- This is the ―go-to‖ orgasm when you‘re improving

your sexual skills. This orgasm is easy to have a women achieve because it is mostly a

―physical‖ orgasm as opposed to a full body orgasm or an orgasm during vaginal sex

that has strong emotions. Your first goal should be to learn to give women a manual

stimulation orgasm every time. From there your lover will want to be sexually satisfied

vaginally and move on to deeper, full body orgasms. Here is a way to give a clitoral


I want to make this really simple.

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Kiss her until she is horny and moaning. Kiss her neck, mouth,

side of back, inner thighs.

While you are kissing her put your palm over her area and apply

light pressure. Don‘t do anything else just leave it there.

Once she starts grinding up against your hand (she will) put your

middle finger inside her with your palm up

Go as far back as you can with your finger along the upper wall

until you find a smooth spot

Press on the smooth spot and start making a come here motion

with your finger…don‘t be afraid to apply some pressure

Keep making the come hither motion while you kiss her neck

and breasts.
Feel her get off!

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Vaginal Orgasms

Vaginal orgasms are produced during intercourse. These orgasms are harder to have

her achieve without her first having a physical stimulation orgasm before sex.

Remember: The more orgasms you can give her before you have sex the better the

actual penetration will be. Vaginal orgasms are a result of penetrating her in a

rhythmic constant manner and having presence, authority, variety, and emotion. (using

the PAVE system)

Overwhelming Orgasms

This is a term that I have coined. It is currently being trademarked and patented as it is

recognized that it gives women ―Overwhelming Orgasms.‖ I have seen others use

words like ―full body orgasm‖, continuous orgasmic state, repeated cumming etc.

However the term ―overwhelming orgasm‖ most accurately describes what is going.

When you start giving women ―overwhelming orgasms‖ you will be amazed how

quickly they fall in love with you or you create unheard of levels of passion in your

relationship. I call these orgasms overwhelming because when women have an

―overwhelming orgasm‖ they don‘t know how many times they came. It‘s

overwhelming because it creates a primal female sexual addiction to you. A woman

will often say she misses you 20 minutes after you left each others company. She will

tell all her friends about how great you are and she will talk and act like she is madly

in love with you. I know this sounds ridiculous, I didn‘t believe it until I saw it in my

own life. I was dating this girl Renee; she was from Austria, a really sexy, smart

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accountant. When we started having sex I started slow because at this time I was a bit

timid to try all of the techniques that I use now. Over time with her though, I started

implementing real authority and she began cumming over and over with

―overwhelming orgasms‖ After the second time we had sex she told me she loved me

and this is a normal girl, with no physiological hang-ups. She told me that she had

never felt so good with someone and that she would do anything to keep me having

sex with her! She became so addicted to the sex that she would show up with food,

gifts, and panties with my name on them. This is the reality for some guys when your

sexual skills are good enough.

Giving Women Orgasms Ladder

Longer foreplay to get her more relaxed…don‘t‘ push the sex, let

her want it from you

Have her masturbate while you are there watching and she makes

herself co me
Have her masturbate while touching you or you are inside her
Physical stimulation orgasm
Orgasm through sex
Add in all elements of p.a.v.e to give her an overwhelming


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How To Get Her To Pursue YOU For Sex!
First of all, you must realize is that she does WANT to have great sex... she is just

conditioned to think the sex isn't good with you, since she is used to the old you!

So now that you ARE good, she has to be reconditioned to know that you are now a

better lover.

Here are some tips to follow:

Start being more emotional and more authoritative OUTSIDE the

Start being more flirtatious during the day (texts, kisses, etc)
Never bring up the topic of sex outside the bedroom
Never try and trade anything for sex
Start giving her more orgas ms (duh! But now you know how !)

What To Do If You‘re Inexperienced

First off, realize that everyone starts off inexperienced sexually.

It‘s whether you WANT to be good and the desire to get this area of your life handled
that is going to make you a great lover!

Have as much sex as possible doesn't matter if the girl is hot

After a sexual experience look back on what was good about it

and what needed improvement

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Pick only 1 thing for next sexual experience… work on only one

thing at a time
Enjoy your practice, and don‘t put too much pressure on

yourself! Practice makes perfect, so get in as much as you can.

Any practice and progress you make now will benefit you for the
rest of your life with wo men!

A Warning About Pornography

A lot of guys get really addicted pornography when they aren‘t having enough sex.

Online porn these days is cheap, the girls are beautiful, and the sites have TONS of

videos... so the temptation is there!

The problem real with watching porn is that it lowers your sex drive for REAL

women, plus you are training yourself with BAD HABITS by making the association

in your brain between porn and having an orgasm as opposed to SEX and having an


Watch too much porn and you‘ll find you cum too fast or can‘t get hard when you

actually have sex. In short, it‘s ok to watch a little bit of porn, but mix up your ―self-

love‖ sessions with some where you are masturbating to your own positive mental

pictures of giving it to a woman good. That will program your brain with POSITIVE

associations, and when you are with a woman you will be ready!

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Chapter 8

Does Size REALLY Matter?

"My penis is too small."

This is one of the biggest myths about giving women sexual pleasure. Women don‘t

often fantasize about getting railed by a huge guy. Women DO fantasize about

elaborate sexual fantasies that you can create with your MIND. Unless your penis is

under 2.5 inches hard it does not matter. You don‘t need to try exercises to lengthen it

or make it thicker. If you have tried lengthening with penis pills, pumps, or exercises

don‘t waste your time. Even if it does work at all, a bigger dick will not give you

sexual mastery, stamina, and maker her come. Forget about your penis size and instead

invest in the scientifically proven principles in this book which are proven to make you

a masterful lover and make her sexually addicted to you!

She is More Worried About Her Body Than Yours!

Woman know what you look when you have clothes in. It‘s not hiding as much as you

think. If a woman is getting naked with you and ready for sex then you need to release

the beliefs that your body is holding you back. Yeah you definitely SHOULD get in

better shape because she will be more attracted, it will raise your testosterone, and

you‘ll be able to move better in bed. You need to realize that as self conscious as you

may be about your body, the woman that you are with is even more self conscious.

Don‘t discuss what you look like and don‘t make any attempt to hide it. Just get naked,

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turn off the lights to start if you are nervous and use what you learn in here.

Remember, women are turned on by the emotional not the physical!

About Pills, Supplements and Penis Pumps

I currently do not use sexual stimulants other than my own testosterone boosting

workouts. But in order to give proper guidance I‘ve gone out there and extensively

tested everything I could get my hands on. Let‘s do a quick run through.

Viagra: I‘ve taken Viagra to see how it feels. Most guys don‘t need Viagra to get hard

and stay hard it‘s a mental thing. But if you feel that you really need it, use the lowest

possible dose that gives you a benefit. (Often the benefit is more psychological than

anything else). Try 25 mg first and that should do the trick for you. Remember though,

pleasing women has nothing to do with dick size. Viagra is best taken if you know you

are going to be having sex in 45 minutes-3 hours and need an extra boost. If you really

need a boost for long weekend away or repeated sessions then Cialis works better.

Cialis: I‘ve also tried Cialis a handful of times and if you are going away for a long

weekend or know you will be having sex multiple times over a few days this could be

a good option for you. Again once you master these techniques you will have the

strategies you need to give women repeated orgasms and these medications are only to

get it up more. From my own experience and guys that I‘ve talked to Cialis doesn‘t

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give you the rock hard erections that Viagra does. What it does is it allows you to keep

getting hard over and over even if you‘ve just had sex.

Penis pumps: I tried a penis pump back in my desperation days. It hurt, I nearly

popped some blood vessels and I‘m never using it again. If you‘re thinking of getting

one, don‘t. It‘s a waste of your time and money. Dick size is NOT the problem. The

solution is learning how to be a fantastic lover using these techniques and emotion.

It May Just Be in Your Head

Look, if you can masturbate without any pharmaceutical help than the problem is in

your head. If a guy can‘t get hard to masturbate then he definitely needs some

pharmaceutical help. If you have no problem getting up looking at porn then your

problems in the bedroom are not physical they are mental. Practice the breathing

exercises for relaxation and you will find that you don‘t need these drugs anymore. Or

if you prefer them as a safety blanket then just try and minimize your dosage for safety


Relax and Enjoy - It isn't all Hard Work!

Amen brother! This is something that I really worried about still have to remind myself

about. Sometimes you get so focused on making the sex good for her that you neglect

yourself! This usually happens as you‘re starting to get better in bed, she‘s starting to

have some orgasms and you don‘t want to ruin it. Once you can consistently give

women AN ORGASM you need to be working on your sexual skills no more than

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50% of the time. If you are worried about and trying to improve your sexual skills

EVERYTIME sex will feel like a chore to you. Something that you have to work on.

So what I want you to do is not spend more than 50% of your time having sex actually

TRYING to have better sex. Read as much material as you can outside the bedroom

but only implement it half the time. The other half of the times don‘t worry about how

long you‘re lasting, whether she is coming, what position you are in. Don‘t think about

ANYTHING. Just FUCK her. Be a total primal instinct driven animal. If you want to

say something say it, if you want to do something to do it, if you want to last 2

minutes, that‘s fine. As long as the other half of the time you are focused on improving

your skills and pleasuring her she will still be sexually satisfied.

Classy, Sassy, Conservative, Shy...Works for Every

Sometimes guys who HAVEN‘T read this book or tried these techniques write to me

and say that their girl is different, and will it still work?

The answer is ABSOLUTELY!

Guys, the evidence is overwhelming. ALL women respond incredibly to these

techniques. These are psychological principles. I understand that is intimidating to start

using a lot of the techniques in this book. That is why at the end I‘ve created the

―implementation‖ mini course. I want to make sure that you EXPERIENCE the power

of this stuff, not just think about theoretically.

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You can tone down anything in this book to adjust with any lover, but remember that

this stuff has been used by thousands of guys with ALL TYPES of women.

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Chapter 9

Getting Started is Easy

I don‘t know how to initiate sex

For me, when I was less than stellar in bed I didn‘t even know HOW to start sex with

my girlfriend. It‘s like I always wanted it and she didn‘t! Follow this sex-initiating

ladder and the work will be done for you!

Start doing more activities together outside bedroom (does not matter what they are as

long as you are together and its not stressful).

Start kissing outside the bedroom more…just lean in and kiss her..if you are doing

more things together it won‘t see incongruent.

Start kissing her more at night when you are going to bed and massaging her breasts

while doing it and put her hand on your penis.

Sex will occur!

The ―Not Fun‖ But Important Stuff:

Contraceptives & STDs
I know I know, boring stuff, but I want to make sure you are SAFE, because safe

sex = less worry and a lot more fun! So here is a run-down on the different types

of birth control and types of condoms. Ignore at your peril!

Types of birth control

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There are numerous types of birth control. Let‘s run though some of them now:

(Note this chapter assumes that you are in a relationship and that BOTH of you have

been tested and deemed STD free.)

The Pull Out Method: This is when she is not on birth control and you have sex and

―pull out‖ your penis before you ejaculate. I am not going to dignify this method by

saying you should ever use it. Pre-cum contains sperm. Sperm lead to children. If you

are using the ―Pull-Out‖ Method you are setting yourself up for an unplanned

pregnancy. If you are having sex with her while she is on her period or the day or two

before it chances are you are ok but I still do not recommend using the pull out method

even at that time. (The chance of a woman getting pregnant on her period is very rare

but it has happened before.)

Condoms: Condoms are great protection against STD‘s and are great birth control. It‘s

also one of the only methods of birth control where you can control the outcome. (as

opposed to the pill or other female solutions which require her to be in charge). As

long you put the condom on the right way and it doesn‘t break then you will prevent


The Pill: Women take the pill on a set time and schedule. It works really well — as

long as she takes it. Sometime women will ―skip‖ a dose if they really want a child or

in today‘s busy times often it gets lost in the shuffle. If she is on the pill and you

completely trust her then the pill is a great solution; if you‘re hesitant that she will

forget or really wants a child with you explore the other options.

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Female condom: The female condom was launched with great fandom as it would be

an opportunity for women to control their own sexual destiny. However it hasn‘t done

as well as many thought it would. Some guys like it more than them wearing a condom

while others say it‘s like having sex with a plastic tarp. You can experiment with it, but

when I need a condom I always wear one and forget the female condom. Guys take

responsibility, know this exists but wear a condom yourself.

Diaphragm: The diaphragm is another thing that a woman can wear. Most times a

woman needs a prescription from a doctor to get a diaphragm. It‘s kind of a pain as

they need to get it fitted and leave it in after sex. The stats vary but diaphragms have

been known to be less effective than a condom or the pill. Again, unless you have a

major aversion to condoms, I‘d wear a condom and skip the diaphragm.

Spermicide: Spermicide is a gel that is applied to kill sperm. Here is what you need to

know about spermicide. Spermicide used on its own is a risky proposition. I would not

recommend it. There chance of pregnancy is too high. Spermicide used with a condom

is very effective at preventing pregnancy. However, some studies have shown that

spermicide condoms are no better at preventing pregnancy that just a regular ole


The Patch, The Ring, the Shot, and the Implant: These are all hormonal solutions

available with a prescription from her doctor or a family planning clinic. Since these

have to be replaced infrequently, they‘re better for the absent-minded than the pill.

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IUD: Although the IUD has had some PR difficulties, it‘s a very effective,

comfortable solution for women who have already had a child. It has to be inserted

(and removed) by a medical professional.

Vasectomy: I almost considered this one night after being very concerned that I had

impregnated a girlfriend at the time. Although both operations (guys and girls) are

reversible, changing your mind later on doesn‘t mean it will go well and it‘s expensive.

If you‘re going to do this be sure. My friend Mike, who was really concerned about

unplanned pregnancy had the operation and said it wasn‘t too bad. He walked out of

the hospital and was fine after a weekend.

The bottom line is this: if you really trust your girl and she is on the pill or another

form of hormonal birth control your fine. If you‘re worried she‘ll forget or it‘s a girl

you just started sleeping with and hasn‘t been tested for STD‘s always be safe and

strap on a condom!

Avoiding STDs: I hate talking about STDs, I‘ve never had one, but I know people

who have had. Let‘s dive into what‘s important to know and then move on.

Some STDs are very serious. AIDS is still a life threatening disease. Don‘t get it. Let‘s

make it simple:

HIV: If you put a condom on and it does not break your chance of getting HIV is

TINY. Even if the condom breaks your chance of getting HIV is quite low. It is much

easier for a woman to get HIV than a man. The stupidest thing you can ever do is have

REPEATED sex with a woman who has not been tested. If a condom does break with

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a woman that for some reason you didn‘t ask about her sexual past, then go get tested

ASAP for everything and then again for HIV in 3 months. There is a test now called

Aptima Combo 2 Assay. It will test you by a simple urine sample for Chlamydia and

Gonorrhea. You can also get what‘s called an OraQuick HIV test and you get the

results in 20 minutes. Unless you have been having unprotected anal sex with

prostitures, you should be fine. Just get tested to be sure.

STDs other than HIV:

There are all sorts of miserable sounding stuff out there. Always ask a woman about

her sexual history. Despite it being a serious subject, bring it up casually but firmly.

This is important! It‘s your life we‘re talking about here!

Condoms can prevent transmission of most STDs. Obviously sex is much better with

no condom (―raw‖) but this should only be with a woman who you are in some type of

relationship and you know, not guess, that is completely STD free as are you yourself.

I‘m not going to list every STD here; if you feel a burning when you take a pee or see

weird spots go see your doctor.

What Kind of Condoms Are Best:

The best condom is the one that you can put with ease, doesn‘t grip you too tight, and

still always you to enjoy sex. Often guys will say something like, ―I can‘t get hard with

a condom on, or condoms ruin sex.‖ If you can get hard with no condom on while

watching porn or touching yourself you can get hard with a condom during sex. It‘s all

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in your head. Read about his

issue under trouble shooting.

While condoms definitely make

(Tip: If you are concerned about losing sensation

sex less enjoyable, STDs make because of wearing a condom, you can add drop of

LIFE unenjoyable. lube INSIDE the condom. It will replicate the wet

sensation and does not affect the condom staying on.

The best condoms that I have
You can use Astroglide, Pjur or Wet (my favorites)
ever used are Durex Love. I have
or any other lube that you may want to try out.)
never found them in a store but

have bought them online. What I

recommend you do is that you

buy Durex Love as well as a

bunch of other condoms at www.condomdepot.com. Buy one of their sampler kits and

try the different condoms. For overall experience, I highly do recommend that Durex

Love. Stay away from lambskin and other unusual material condoms. They aren‘t as

durable and more likely to break.

When The Condom Breaks:

If you are putting on a condom correctly condoms rarely break. Let‘s review how to

put on a condom. If you‘re breaking condoms often then definitely pay attention to this


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Don't Wait. Implement What You‘ve Learned ASAP!

What good is this system if you never implement it?

Don‘t be worried about implementing everything at once. Let‘s go through and talk about

where to start.

1. Be able to last at least 10 minutes.

If you can last 10 minutes you have the stamina to give her orgasms during

penetration. If you can‘t last 10 minutes then work on this using the numbered arousal

system, and focus on your breathing, remembering the 10-Count Breathing exercise.

You‘ll be amazed at how well it works!

2. Have a few‖ go-to‖ moves.

Sometimes when you are getting started you can get overwhelmed and feel like you

"don't know what to do." To avoid this, make sure you have a few go-to moves for

different situations. This is not the time to pull out the "spinning reverse cow-girl," so

again stick to the basics. You should have a few go-to things to say in case the sex ever

starts to feel awkward and silent. Sticking with the classics like, "baby that feels so

good," and "you want some more of this??‖ should cover you in most situations. Try

being a little more creative if you are comfortable, but make sure you stay congruent

with the physical aspect. If you are having relatively tame sex, in 2 or 3 basic

positions, in the bedroom (all of which is fine for your first sexual experiences!), you

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don't want to be talking about more advanced and wild fantasies because it will be very


3. Focus on foreplay.

Focusing on foreplay is one of the fastest ways to improve your sexual skills. Focus on

giving her a clitoral orgasm from foreplay. Focus on getting your girl to so hot during

foreplay that she begs you to be inside of her. Try and spend just as much time on

foreplay as the actual sex… but actually unless it‘s a ―quickie‖, you should spend a

whole lot more! This will help you to get comfortable with being sexually intimate

with your partner. It will also increase her total pleasure and make the experience

longer, which will help to offset any stamina issues that you might have.

4. Be able to give her an orgasm.

If you can‘t give your lover any an orgasm this should be you next goal. You don‘t

have to go crazy. Remember that first you will give her a clitoral orgasm through

digital stimulation. Then move on until you can give her an orgasm through

penetration by using Emotion and Authority.

5. Increase the frequency of how often you have sex.

As your sexual skills start rocking the bedroom you will be able to have more and

better sex with your partner. You should notice an increase in how often you are

having sex!

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I‘m pumped you have chosen to get this area of your life handled and become a ROCK

STAR in the bedroom.

This isn‘t just about giving a woman orgasms, it‘s so much more than that. It‘s being a

real man, living life on your own terms, and being treated with respect by all the

women and men that you meet.

Sexual skills really do make the man and people can tell. You now have an advantage

few guys have actually had the balls to go out and get. Get ready to have some WILD

times with women… and congratulate yourself on a job well done!

To your success,

Bobby Bradshaw


2011, ISN Education, LLC

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