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Congratulations! If you are reading this booklet you are probably a parent or are involved in the life of a childcongratulations. Raising a child is a wonderful and positive experience if you remember two rules: 1. Rule number oneyou are a human. 2. Rule number twoyour child is also a human. With those rules in mind, you may proceed to the next pages that I have selected for you as the basic steps for creating a more positive relationship with your child. Discipline will only be effective if you have a good relationship with your child. At the core of your discipline plan and expectations should be the evaluation of your personal values and your family values. Your child will adopt the values that you display on a consistent basis. If you feel that you need further assistance in creating a plan for you and your child, please contact our office or visit our website. I wish you peaceful and playful moments with your child. Sincerely,
Family Characteristics
According to Patterson, 1982, there are four characteristics of families in which children display negative behavior: 1. Absence of Rules 2. Little Monitoring of Children 3. Lack of Effective Contingencies 4. Limited Problem Solving Ability in Family It is also important for you to understand that children misbehave for the following reasons:
Power
Revenge
Incompetence
Adults Goals
Adults also respond in certain situations due to the following goals. You may want to review them with your spouse to obtain a more objective view of yourself. Goal Keep things under control Child has proper feelings Child is impressed Adult is proved right Adult is proved superior Set the child straight Excuse responsibility Child is never trusted Action Demand & Order Preach & Shoulds Lecture & Advice Assume childs guilt Ridicule & Sarcasm Interrogate & Analyze Pretend all is well Doubt & Snoop
Dont
Preach Accuse Use vague words Use negative questions Ignore Interrupt Offend Raise your voice Use sarcasm Bring up the past Hide your feelings Make faces Read his/her mind
Do
Use short phrases Use I feel Be specific Be direct Listen Listen Watch what you say Lower your voice Say what you feel Focus on the NOW Be sincere Stay calm Listen
I usually..: Scream Preach Hit Make empty threats Punish This week I am going to: Listen Be more firm Be more consistent Give encouragement Communicate my love Refuse to be involved in conflict Play more with my daughter/son
I learned that.
I will change by
Qualities
a. b. c. d. e. a. b. c. d. e.
Challenges
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Physical
Academic School
Exercise
Spiritual
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Eating Right!
Please share this with your child,. You need vitamins, proteins, minerals, good fats and oil, and water. Stay away from hot cheetos, food coloring (cupcakes), colored cereal, pizza, hamburgers, ice cream.the good stuff. Instead, try to eat lots of: Eggs Cheese, milk and diary products w/o sugar Vegetables Meat Tuna Chicken Oatmeal Peanuts Carrots, sweet potatoes, beans, peas, lentils Fruits Natural juice Dr. John Taylor
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Exercise
Motor activity is a fun experience for most children, but if your child does not initiate outside plan explain that, Exercise is an important component of life. It is recommended that you move around continuously for about twenty minutes per day. These are some of the activities that you may enjoy o o o o Jumping rope Bicycle riding Walking in the park Skating
Have fun!
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Blocks of Conscience
It is not enough to have rules and consequences. It is necessary to prepare and implement a repair for the person that was hurt (physically/emotionally). Rules The adults prepare the rules for the child.
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2 3. Consequences The adults and the child should prepare the consequences. The child needs to feel a sense of control and power over the consequences that he will face. 1. 2. 3. Emotional Repair The repairs need to be prepared by the person who has hurt physically or emotionally. 1. 2.
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Deposits ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ This activity was taken from Stephen Covey The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People to keep track of the positive and negative interactions with family members.
Withdrawals ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ____________________________ ___________________________
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Recommended Toys
Moon Sand Play Dough Puzzles Potato People Legos
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Take a humor break share a funny joke or story daily with your co-workers. Organize a special event at work have an ugly tie contest or bring baby pictures and try to identify co-workers.
Have Fun!
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Bibliography
A childs guide to concentrating: For kids with ADHD by Bonita Blazer, Ph.D, Shire Richwood Inc. Call toll free: 1-800-536-7878 ADHD Guia para familias. Shire Richwood Inc., Call toll free: 1800-536-7878 ADHD Report: A newsletter from Russell A. Barkley and Associates: Call toll free: 1-800-365-7006 Behavior Modification: What it is and how to do it by Garry Martin and Joseph Pear (Prentice Hall). Homework success for children with ADHD: A family-school intervention program by Thomas J. Power, James L, Karustis, and Dina F. Habboushe (Guildford). Inattention and hyperactivity in children are associated with snoring and other symptoms of sleep-disordered breathing, and also with daytime sleepiness. The Complete Practitioner: Mental Health Applications. www.completepractitioner.com. April 2002 Issue Parenting the strong willed child: the clinically proven five week program for parents of two to six year old. By Rex Forehand, Ph.D, and Nicholas Long, Ph.D. (McGraw-Hill). SOS help for parents by Lynn Clark, Ph.D. (SOS Programs and Parents Press). The survival guide for kids with ADD or ADHD by John Taylor, Ph.D., (Free Spirit Publishing). Your defiant child: eight steps to better behavior by Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D. and Christine M. Benton (Guildford). The Child Psychotherapy-Treatment Planner by Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., L. Mark Peterson, and William P. McInnis