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Uplifting Spiritual Essays
My Sister, My friend
My sister, Sidney Naylor, called me one day to tell me she was
having a biopsy to test for cancer cells. I told her not to be
concerned that there was no history of cancer in our family. A
couple weeks later she called me back and as soon as I said hello
she said that I was wrong and that she did have cancer. I told her
not to tease me, that it was not funny. She convinced me that she
was not teasing, her surgery was scheduled in Cleveland, Ohio in
just a few weeks. She told me what the doctor had said, how it was
like hearing a foreign language. She was in shock and asked me to
call him and see what he had meant. I said that I would and I began
my research on the internet at the American Cancer Society (ACS)
web page so that I could better comprehend whatever he said.
Sidney told me to be sure to get to my doctor and have my annual
exam.
My sister saved my life, not only by sharing with me the trial that
she was facing but asking for my help in understanding her
journey and then encouraging me to get my answers when they
were not easy to ask. We are our sister’s keeper as well as our
brother’s and when the path is shared the burden is not so hard to
bear. I will always be grateful to her.
She was 16 years older than me, lived 400 miles away from me and
was a very private person. Yet she whispered her fears to me and
held my hand over the phone as I whispered mine back and we
wept together. God works through each of us when we are willing
to let down the walls and share our trials as well as our triumphs.
Never Alone
I was twenty one years old, married and living about eight hours
from my mom and dad. I had no relatives or close friends in the
area. My doctor told me that I had to have surgery to stop some
hemorrhaging. I was scared. Late on the night before surgery the
anesthesiologist came to my hospital room to talk with me. He
explained to me that when he saw people as large as me come into
the operating room he wanted to run away as quickly as possible.
He explained that because of my weight it was hard to determine
the amount of drugs to give me to keep me “asleep” during
surgery, that he might give me too much and cause my heart to
stop. He said that if he chose to do a spinal the chances were that
he could hit the wrong spot and paralyze me. Now I was terrified. I
told him to just call off the surgery and he said we couldn’t do that.
When he left, I asked my roommate if she had heard what he had
said to me. She said, “Yes, he said he might kill you or paralyze
you because of your weight!”
I went inside myself and hunted for peace, for God and for
strength. I felt so alone. I was an adult but I wanted my Mother to
reassure me that everything would be alright. As I lay there in
torment, tossing and turning, I heard someone walk into the room.
My foot was outside the covers just as it always was when I tried to
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The surgery turned out just fine. I ended up with a spinal and was
able to wiggle my toes as soon as the surgery was complete. The
anesthesiologist told me that what he was seeing was impossible. I
told him it was just God reassuring me that he had not paralyzed
me!
Grey's Anatomy
The father of one of the young doctors died on last night's episode
(this is all fiction) and one of his peers followed him outside and
welcomed him into the " Kids With Dead Dads Club". She
explained that her Dad had died when she was nine and that she
was so sorry that her friend had to pay such a high price to join the
club. He told her that he just did not know how to exist in a world
with his father was no longer in it. She replied that the sad part is
that we never learn how to do that. Tears were pouring down my
cheeks and I was doubled over in grief-ridden pain.
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My father died when I was thirty five, my mother w hen I was forty
two. At the HELP circle a few weeks ago one of the women shared
that when her parents died she had felt like an orphan. I wanted to
hug her and say, "Yes, that is what I felt like, and some days still
do. An orphan without a home."
And, after all these years, when the grief can still come with the
force of a tidal wave and knock my legs out from under me, I know
that there are those of you that breathe it with me. That you have
gone through the same experiences and more. We are becoming
family to each other in a different but loving way as we all continue
our journey home
God will continue to dry the tears, give us strength and peace.
Thanks be to God.
Moses stuttered
Now! No more excuses! God can use you to your full potential
Besides you are not the message, you are the messenger.
~Anonymous
I have wanted to ring the bell for the Salvation Army for more than
thirty years. You may wonder why it took me so long to do it. I
would think about it every Christmas and wonder who one
contacted to be a bell ringer. I had never met anyone that had rung
a bell to ask them so I just procrastinated over the years. I thought
about calling the main number to ask if anyone outside their
congregation could do it. As with all things, the time passed so
swiftly with me continuing to take action. That is until this year!
Don Elliott stood up one Sunday during worship, rang the bell, and
said something to the effect that if we really want to feel the
Christmas Spirit sign up and ring the bell for one hour at Lowe's
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The experience was worth the wait, I felt my heart expand enough
to allow more of God's love to fill me. Thank you, Don Elliott, for
making this easy and for being right that it would make me feel the
Christmas Spirit.
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tons of packages under the tree and the room was full of wonder.
A warm glow from the lights on the tree added to the magic. Soon
the family joined me and the wonderful sounds of "oohs" and
"ahhs" filled the room when the sounds of tearing paper began. It
was a wonderful time and I received a lot of wonderful gifts and the
most special one of all came in a small white envelope. It was from
my aunt Ollie, she had no husband or children and not much
money. Inside the envelope there was a $10 bill (what amount
would that be today?) and on a torn piece of notebook paper in
pencil she had written the words, "for what you had wanted in your
heart but no one knew what it was to buy it". Tears filled my eyes
then as they do even today as I remember her love and insight. We
all want someone to know that what we want in our heart matters.
All the presents were unwrapped and we were ready for breakfast.
As soon as we were through eating Daddy said he wanted to talk
to be alone in the den. I followed him there my heart beating
rapidly. He started talking to me about the mistake he had made
when he had judged me so harshly about what I had wanted for
Christmas. He said he had thought it over and had decided I was
about the most mature eleven year old he had ever known and he
handled me two wrapped packages. The first was a beautiful watch
with thin black cord straps. He showed me how to set it, wind it
and had me listen to the fine ticking sound. Then he told me to
open the last present. It was a wonderful Bible, white leather with
my name printed in gold. He took great care to show me how
Jesus' words were written in red. He had made sure this Bible had
a concordance and showed me how to use it. He explained what a
fantastic tool it would be for me to use all of my life . And then he
showed me where he had written my name inside along with it
being given in great love to me from him and Mother, and the date.
He held me tight as I cried and prom ised him I would treasure them
always and take really good care of them. I have kept that promise.
He knew I would.
An aunt who knew that a child had unknown wishes, a Daddy who
knew what an important impact his faith in me could make, made a
Christmas memory that has lasted a lifetime. It is the intent of the
giver that gives the gift its value, isn't it?
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Over twenty years ago Jeff and I sold everything but the fewest
essentials and moved to Missouri to go to ministerial school. What
liberation (along with some sadness over a piece or two) to let it all
go. What freedom it was to find everything we needed within a
minute or two because we now had so little we never had to hunt. I
truly enjoyed it. But, fast forward to ten years later and we were in
the same boat as we were before we left. A house bulging at the
seams and buying things we knew we had but couldn't find. Why
do we do that? Why do we hang on to what we haven't used in
over a year in case we will use it next year?
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Mission Blitz
I am trying to think back to how it all began, at least in my mind. I
suppose it was nearly a year ago when Jim spoke on a Sunday
morning of how we all need to be in service helping one another.
He told stories of several families that needed help but the one I
remember the most was about a man living in a house with huge
leaks in the roof. I was both agitated and moved by his message. I
felt I was inspired and ready to vote but didn't know where to
register. Where were these families? I agreed I needed to help
them that I even wanted to help them but how could I go about it? I
told Jim how I felt. Others must have bent his ear also because he
shared with the elders that he felt a need to help the community
and that there had to be a way that we could give back like he had
seen done at Laurel Ridge. And then he said, with a glow in his
eyes, that if other churches responded and did the same thing, it
would multiply and many more people could be helped in our
community. Everyone agreed that the time was right and that we
could do it.
Later after some groundwork had been done, Jim brought another
message to us on a Sunday morning and at the end of it he asked
who was willing to help, to be Christ to those in need. The entire
church came forward. It was a moving experience as we prepared
our minds and souls for service.
During Mission Blitz, we truly did, didn't we? In one way or another
our prayers and hearts were connected to do good. Now we get to
decide whether it was just a flicker of a candle in the night or will
the flame burn forever and ignite other candles??
A Love Story
I want to share a special love story with you this Valentine month.
It is the story of how Jeff and I met twenty two years ago:
I had been divorced for two years, I had met a man and we were
planning to be married. Logically and emotionally, it seemed like a
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I got back into my car and headed for the meeting. Oh, how I
dreaded being in a town where I knew no one and going to a
meeting where I would be a stranger. God and I went around and
around all during the trip. When I walked into the fellowship hall I
saw seventy or more strangers but finally in the crowd I saw a
woman that I recognized. I had been introduced to her briefly about
2 months ago. I asked if she remembered me and if could I sit with
her. There was a man with her, she explained he was her friend
and he pulled out a chair for me. He asked me deep questions, I
answered and countered with ones of my own. When I got home
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the gal called and said he wanted my phone number and was it
alright for her to share it. He called. We began dating. He shared
his favorite spiritual books, art and music and I shared mine and
we talked and talked. We never stopped. We didn’t spend time on
trivial issues, we got to what was really important to us spiritually.
We found that our spiritual philosophies were very similar. This
was more than just a romance, we were connected at the deepest
level. We both recognized how rare this was. I shared the story
with him of how I was led to meet him that first night, he
understood and believed, along with me, that God had brought us
together.
As I share this story with you, I realize once again, that I still
“argue” at times with God’s leading, intellectually wondering
which are the “right” decisions when all along my heart truly
knows the answer
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With this last move, we bought a house with six dead shrubs, two dead
peach trees and a huge stack of dead tree limbs. We had no way to cut
anything down or anywhere to discard it, so I called Paula and asked
about "renting a teen". She said she better come take a look at the
work and see if a teen could handle it. She took a look at the challenge,
grinned great big and said it looked like a wonderful bonfire and kindling
to her. You have to love that woman and her attitude! I do.
A couple months later, here she came with youth leaders and young
people in the church bus. They worked us in on the way to a Mission
Blitz house nearby. The kids jumped off the bus, some gave me a hug
and everyone began to work. It took them EIGHT minutes. They were
all smiling big, young and old as they worked as one to finish the job. I
was elated. Eight minutes and all that concern for my yard was over
and the unsightly mess was gone. I laughed and waved as they drove
off.
Then the deafening silence of all those wonderful voices being gone hit
me before I walked up the front porch steps. Tears flooded my eyes. I
wasn't young anymore or able to do even what seemed so simple to
these kids. I didn't have family to call as ask for help. It was only
"yesterday" that I had been full of vim and vigor and my Mom was
sending me to do tasks for her sisters and neighbors. The years have
gone by more swiftly than I could have ever foreseen.
We are greatly blessed with church family that are willing to use their
time and energy to help people like us and many more who are in
greater need! My heart is full of thankfulness and I especially want
those of you that came to our aid that day to know that it was only eight
minutes to you but to us it was a burden lifted.
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I Remember....
When the seasons are about to change and Fall and Winter are on their
way; when the school bells chime and the buses are out in full force, I
can expect that my thoughts will return to my home in the mountains
and memories of long ago.
It was a cold, blustery night and the snow was beginning to come down.
At 6:00 pm it was already dark. Daddy was not home yet but we had
already eaten dinner. It was good to be inside where it was warm. I was
about five years old. Things were quiet in our house. My sisters were
doing homework and Mom was cleaning the kitchen. Suddenly, there
was a knock at the door. It was seldom that someone came to the
house after dark. Mom turned on the porch light and there was a man
and three little girls at the door. The man explained that he had no job
and that his children were hungry. "Could you spare some money or
some food?", he asked. Mom brought them to the table and heated up
leftover food from our dinner and added canned applesauce and lots of
milk. I had never seen anyone be so hungry. I hung back in the
shadows and watched. Mom offered seconds and thirds and still they
ate with vigor. She packed food that she had canned and made
sandwiches. She talked with them, hugged them and they returned to
the dark night.
Before she cleaned the table, she lifted me onto her lap and started to
rock me in her rocking chair. "Terri", she said, "you must remember this,
when people are hungry, feed them, make sure before they leave that
the children are full. Sometimes people have alcohol problems and if
you give them money they might buy liquor and the children will
continue to be hungry. The Bible says that there are times we care for
angels unaware. I think that is who knocked on our door tonight".
years old that had never been asked if they wanted seconds on milk or
food. I had to learn as an adult that hunger still existed in this country
and it was within a few miles of my home. I remembered my Mom's
words as I too treated these children as though their hunger was not
unusual and tried to make them feel at home. My Mom planted the
seeds in me to help the hungry when I was just a little girl. I hope I
passed this compassion on to my girls. I hope someone, somewhere
touched your heart in this way too.
Divine Intervention?
We were going on vacation. I was only ten years old but I can
remember the days of preparation and packing that Mother did. We
were headed to the high mountains in West Virginia. It would be a long
and winding five hour trip. We were going to rough it and stay in a
"cabin" that one of my Dad's friends was loaning us. We would bathe in
the river (we could use Ivory soap so that it would float so we wouldn't
lose it). There was no heat in this place so oil lanterns and a wood stove
would have to do. I couldn't wait! It sounded like such an adventure to
me. Dad said maybe one night we could sleep on pine needles that we
would gather and we would name the stars.
Finally the day of departure arrived. Daddy worked long, twelve hour
days but he got us all up bright and early and we took off in a car
packed full of supplies and four sisters. Now, here is the clincher. We
had been on the road a couple hours with me already asking "how much
further is it?" and all the sisters complaining about being crowded and
could my parents take me up front with them? Dad even offered me a
nickel if I could be quiet for fifteen minutes (this may have scarred me
for life!) and I complied to prove I could.
Suddenly Mom broke the silence, "Mark, I just realized that when I shut
the electricity off for the house to save money that the chest freezer
went off too. Every thing will thaw out and have to be thrown out in a
week's time!"
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And here is the wisdom: as Daddy turned the car around he patted my
Mom's shoulder and gave it a squeeze. "God works in mysterious ways.
Perhaps this was His way of slowing us down to protect us from harm.
We will just trust in that and be grateful." And so a five hour trip ended
up taking about nine hours but we arrived safely. It was one of our best
vacations and also one that we teased Mom about forever.
I have thought of that day many times through the years, as I took a
wrong turn, forgot something and had to backtrack, etc. It was a good
lesson to learn young, a unique way perhaps, to look at God's love and
timely intervention.
Gemein Experience
Last August I knew that it was time for me to join a Gemein group. Our
youngest daughter had just left for college and I felt a deep yearning to
be in a community of spiritual seekers. I wanted to be accepted, loved
and understood by this group; I wanted family.
I have been in many small groups over the years as we have traveled
and lived in many different areas. They usually start out with "ice
breaker" type games that show us we have many similarities and can
feel at home with one another. The group may never go beyond the
surface of getting to know one another any deeper than this exercise on
the first night, though the group may meet for years. I didn't need more
of this. I wanted to know these folks on a deeper level. I wanted to
know their beliefs and the reasons behind their faith. I wanted to know
how they handled the storms that take us to our knees in life; how they
found the strength to go on. I wanted to know how they came to know
God, if they had ever been angry with God, lost their faith and turned
their back on church. I wanted to be a better person from having heard
their stories because their truth would touch a chord in me. I wanted the
forty weeks of meeting two and one-half hours once a week to pay
dividends and not be an appointment just to be kept. My expectations
were high and I asked myself before that first meeting if I was willing to
give what I expected to receive.
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We went around the circle of seven people that first night telling each
other what we wanted from the group, indeed what we were looking for
in these forty weeks. I listened intently as each person shared. I knew
immediately that I was with like-minded people. They were thinkers,
intent on their spiritual journey, ready to be honest with one another
about their short comings and their strengths, about their faith and their
doubts.
I learned a long time ago that where there is honesty, the ground not
only becomes hallowed, it becomes fertile and miracles could happen
right in front of our eyes. That is what I found in this group. Sometimes
in the miracles we received even more than we asked for.
Is that what you are looking for, a community where you can truly be
yourself and be loved and accepted? I recommend Gemein to you and
hope that you will find all that you are searching for in a group of
kindred spirits.
I was going for different reasons than on my usual travels. I was going
to listen to God, to feel His Love, His guidance. I was quite simply going
to be restored. I didn't grow up a Moravian and I didn't spend summers
at Laurel Ridge. This was all unfamiliar territory to me. That is until I
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arrived, saw those mountains and trees and felt the familiar touching
me. I walked into that tiny cabin and instantly felt safe. I built a fire in the
fireplace and settled in to read the notes other people had written about
their stays. Their words touched my heart. We all had common needs:
silence, soothing, healing, guidance, acceptance, and on and on their
words echoed my yearnings.
I stayed three nights. I was never afraid. It rained and rained and I kept
that fire going the whole time. I opened windows so I could hear the
patter of the rain more clearly and oh, the smells of the wet forest
mingled with the wood smoke. I put on a hooded jacket and I walked
and walked in the rain feeling like a teenager without a care in the world.
The cost is only fifteen dollars per night. Imagine only $15.00. Donations
above that are welcome but that is the official cost. A slice of heaven, no
housework surrounding me calling my name, no meals to cook, no
meetings to attend, no phone to ring and on and on the list goes.
Don't you want to go? I am heading out again this spring. I found what I
went there expecting. I will again. Life is like that for the most part, isn't
it? We just have to keep seeking and finding answers all the way home.
Last year I wrote an article about the first Mission Blitz our church had
and how it transpired. I finished the story with a question, "Will it be a
candle that burns brightly and then blows out or will it light other candles
and burn even brighter?" I am happy and proud to tell you that the light
grew and nine other churches (Episcopalians, Methodists, Baptists and
Community churches) in our county joined us to help our neighbors.
Months ago ministers started meeting together from all the churches
discussing the plans of how nearly 60 families could be helped. Then
team captains were chosen, teams were formed, and the picture
became clearer. It was decided that each church would bake enough
loaves of bread that a loaf could be given to each family that we
served. All the teams met at King Moravian church on a Thursday night
to worship. The bread was stacked high on the communion table. The
choir sang "In This Very Room" and as the words were heard that there
was enough love, I believe that every person in the sanctuary could feel
it in their hearts. The church was full of volunteers ready to start their
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Pastor Jim gave a short message that was profound: if we did the work
without love for the people we were serving it would be an empty
gesture; that only love made the difference in our service. Other
pastors spoke the same message in different ways. It was clear that
everyone's prayer was that people not only be made more comfortable
by the work that was to be done but more importantly that they would
feel the spirit of Christ touching their lives.
The weekend went quickly and before we knew it we were all meeting
together for a potluck meal and communion at Trinity Methodist church.
I had wondered if the church would be nearly empty with people being
exhausted but it was filled to overflowing. People were tired but
enthusiastic, they laughed and cried as they shared their stories. One
man stood up and told of a crew that had refused to leave their work site
to come eat because they were not completely done. Pastor Jim said
he had stopped to check on them and they were "filled with spirit and
fire" and determined to get the job done. They made it to the church in
time to join everyone for worship!
And what a service it was as the pastors recalled the work, the
challenges and the joys of working together. Communion was served
as people from nine churches walked the aisle to the front. Many
different ages and backgrounds were represented but what I will always
remember is this: the air was filled with God's spirit and love and
without a single doubt we were more alike than any different.
Pastor Jim wondered aloud at a small meeting last year before the first
Mission Blitz what it could be like if the vision grew and church after
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church would reach out to join in and help the folks in our county. We
found out what nine of them could do. I look forward to next year when
even more will be accomplished. I am having a vision of my own where
there are no empty pews in these churches because everyone will want
to be a part of a place of Love that reaches out and upholds each other
and their neighbors. After all, isn't that what Jesus said it was all about?
This week I have been remembering back to the first Christmas sermon
I can remember. I was about five years old. I was so excited because
the paper mural, which was huge, had been put on the wall behind the
pulpit. There were life size shepherds, angels and wise men along with
Mary, Joseph and the precious baby Jesus. The guiding star was bright
in the night light showing everyone the way to the manger. I thought it
was a beautiful picture and it signaled the change of focus in the
church. The wire had been strung across the front of the raised
platform and dark burgundy curtains had been hung so that a three act
Christmas play could later be performed by the teenagers. All of us little
ones simply memorized short verses to recite. The big gas stove had
been lit to keep the church warm and I enjoyed seeing the flames and
feeling the heat.
But I must tell you about the sermon, the one that has been etched in
my heart for over fifty-five years. Before Preacher John began to speak
my oldest sister (by sixteen years) who was home from college for the
holidays, came up front and completely from memory told the story of
"The Littlest Angel". I was enthralled, I was amazed, I was proud. My
big sister could tell a story with no book to read from and the
congregation could hear her. I could hear her with my ears and with my
heart. It is a beautiful story.
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Then Preacher John read the Christmas story from Luke and his
sermon began. He intertwined there being no room at the Inn for Jesus
with the story of the "Little Match Girl". I heard him, I felt Mary and
Joseph's pain that there was no where to have their baby, I felt the little
Match Girl's hunger and freezing hands. For a moment I felt what it was
like to not have a mother or father to take care of me. God used this
sermon to touch my heart and changed it forever. This message
prepared me to open my heart, my life and my home to adopt a baby
girl whose birth mother had no home or time to give her when I was
twenty-five years older. I actually thought back to that Chistmas
message when our Kati was coming to us.
Can you imagine that a sermon from the heart of one person can make
an imprint so large on a young child's heart? It did. When my father
died thirty years later and Preacher John was asked to return to officiate
the funeral, I had the chance to tell him what a difference he had made
in my life. I am grateful for that opportunity. So often time passes and
the chance to let another person know they touched us slips by.
My Mother used to tell me, "Some of us will plant the seed, others will
come along and water it, and yet others will see the harvest. None of
these works are more important than the other. If you feel God nudging
you to do your part for another person by word or deed, don't question
which role you play. Do what God asks of you and know that you are
part of His plan".
I have been grateful and privileged my entire life to have a mother like
Terri. It is my hope that in sharing these essays, that at least one person
will be deeply touched, and inspired, as I so often am, when talking to
my mother. I wanted to share another story with you, one that happened
in my youth, and I was too young to know what was happening at the
time. As I’ve grown older, it has been one of Mom’s stories that has
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often inspired me and reminded me that there is more to our lives than
meets the eye.
It was the early 1980’s, in the midst of one of the deepest recessions
this country has ever had—well, until now. My parents were agonizing
over whether or not they were going to move from Fort Wayne, Indiana,
where we were living at the time, and my parents both had decent jobs,
back to West Virginia, where both of them were from and had family.
She prayed a prayer very like “Dear God, I can’t take this any more,
trying to figure out what we should do, what we are supposed to do.
Please either open up the gates so that I don’t have to agonize about
this and don’t have to question any more, or slam them shut so hard
that we don’t have any doubt that Indiana is where we are supposed to
be.”
She had barely finished wiping the tears away when the phone rang,
and she heard my father answer it (which was an anomaly in itself. My
father was painfully shy until his late thirties, so shy that he could barely
order a hamburger.)
When the phone call was over, my dad came upstairs, shaking.
She knew what he was going to say, even before he asked her that
question. “Yes…” she said, “of course…”
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“Well, the man just called and said if I still wanted the job, it was mine.”
Mom was undoubtedly in tears again. I’m sure they praised God at that
moment, and Mom told Dad of her prayer.
A few weeks later, we were packing up to make the long, long trip to
West Virginia, where both my parent’s hearts once were, and where our
family home, and my heart, is now.
I was raised with a healthy belief that there was a power greater than
me, that prayer and awareness of God would enrich my life, and that
there was always help available, both seen and unseen, if I would just
be brave enough, and sensible enough, to ask.
I will be eternally grateful for these lessons I was given and for such
wonderful parents.
This particular story, like so many that belong to my Mother, is not really
mine to tell. I will leave it to her to share the context and the particulars,
but there was one moment I have been told about that I have held in my
heart for nearly thirty years now, and this central conversation is
something that I feel good about sharing with you.
A woman came to my mom’s door, she was a public official. She had
some power, over my family, and in particular, over my sister, who is
now almost thirty. She was self-righteous, angry, and convinced that
she was in the right.
This woman said to my mother, “You are not going to have this happen
in the way that you want, or the way that you think. Plenty of people are
in line before you, and there is no way that we will let what you are
asking for happen.”
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My mother looked this woman in the eye, calmly, and said, “Listen,
Lady. If this is God’s will, and God’s work, there’s nothing that you, your
boss, or your whole department can do to STOP it from happening.
Have a nice day.”
Guess who was right? In the long run, it was made completely clear that
what my Mom (and dad) hoped for was apparently exactly in line with
God’s will for our family and my sister.
Long before she learned about the thoughts and religious understanding
of people such as Charles and Myrtle Fillmore, Emilie Cady, and others
who taught about the “science of mind,” my mother understood that
there is always more to life than meets the eye, that we can be as self-
important as we want to be, and that it’s wonderful to dream and hope
(as she and my dad were doing about this particular issue) but that the
truth of the matter is that we are not in utter control of our lives.
When what we dream of and hope for, is in line with what God wants, or
with the “master plan” then those dreams come to fruition. It’s as
complicated, and as simple as that.
I hope that I’ve inherited my mother’s strength and faith, no matter what
happens, to be able to look “the powers that be” in the flesh in this world
in the eye and remember… that God is in control.
She was also a remarkably practical woman in many more ways than I
knew when she was alive. If you had known her, you might have been
tempted to dismiss her as a simple country woman who didn’t know
much about the world.
Most likely in every family, there comes a day, maybe many, in which
the child comes home, angry and outraged, over some hurt inflicted by
a fellow classmate. I’m sure that sometimes, perhaps often, the child in
question really was wronged.
Then my Grandmother would look her daughter in the eye, and ask the
question of questions:
I wish you could have known her, and that everyone could have a
grandmother and mother as wonderful as mine.
I was well into adulthood before I understood fully how lucky I am.
Someday I hope to be a mom, and to have the opportunity to share the
wealth of wisdom I learned from these two strong women, and so many
other wonderful people in our family.