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Highly motivated and achievement-oriented attorneys typically fail to recognize stress for what it is. Pumped with self confidence, they greet each new day optimistically. But stress exists. It is the uninvited guest often sitting unnoticed in the corner. The purpose of this article is to point out some of the stressful events that can affect any attorneys life. The goal is to give you a better understanding of how stress has the power to influence everything you and your compatriots do. Stress attacks ones mental equilibrium as well as ones physical self. It is worth noting that stress can be caused by sameness as well as by change. Sameness is stressful because it can be seen as a jail of the mind in which no hope of positive change or stimulation is possible. Change, on the other hand, requires the forming of new patterns and reactions, thereby threatening the comfortable sameness and predictability of routines. Change in almost any aspect of your environment will require you to alter your normal responses, and there will always be a part of you that resents such an imposition. Built into all of this is the notion of happiness here on earth and how it can be achieved. Earthly happiness is a relatively recent invention. Religions such as Christianity and Islam promise happiness only beyond the grave, implying that lasting happiness is not available here on earth, that a Platonian ideal life exists outside and beyond ordinary existence. Part of the enduring popularity of religion can be traced to its offer of future happiness to individuals who find their lives brutish, sad and ultimately meaningless.
In the past 100 years or less, the concept of Happiness has been moved from the spiritual realm and placed in an earthly context. Generally speaking, the political and academic left believe that happiness rests within systems of thought and behavior and is not necessarily within the purview of individual control: one must change the system and the individuals response to the system to achieve happiness for everyone. A competing view, prevalent among theorists on the right, states that happiness is an individual matter negotiated by the individual with his or her environment and is the individuals responsibility. This article adopts the more conservative interpretation and thus will ignore the inherent problems of systems and deal only with individual life events and how they impact the individual attorneys sense of well-being. Well start with work itself.
a combination of best friend, lover and soul mate; but you run the risk that your significant other may change once the wedding ceremony is over, and not change for the better. There is sickness as well as health in your future when you tie your life to another. You will have to learn to take some one elses wishes into consideration and moderate or give up certain habits. You will exchange considerable personal freedom and autonomy for the enduring pleasure of companionship, love and emotional support from another. The stress inherent in any such arrangement is the fear of rupture and the need to begin the mate-seeking process again.
A New Job You may join a law firm right out of law school and stay with it until you retire or die, but the likelihood is that you will change jobs at least once and probably more. In doing so, you place yourself at risk. Even if you are giddy with the prospect of a raise and new challenges, part of you recognizes that you might run into a powerful partner who doesnt like you, co-attorneys who undermine you, and a support staff which keeps information from you. Until you learn to be comfortable in your new environment, you will be operating under a high degree of stress.
The Birth of Children We may be fortunate enough to be supported by parents until were through high school. Eventually, we take a spouse and stop our parental dependency although we may continue to seek their love and approval. Children raise the stakes considerably. One can divorce ones spouse but divorcing ones children is usually not an option. They are at minimum an 18-year if not a life-time commitment. For middle class parents, children
can become progressively expensive the older they get. In addition, they continue to change as they mature, and each change requires adjustment on the part of parents and between parents. For high achievers who invest almost their total being into their work, attending a childs soccer game, for instance, is a no-win situation. Go to the game and you miss work. Miss the game and disappoint your child. Either way, you experience stress.
Marriage Again, you may be giddy with the prospect of a happy ever-after life with some one who is
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Ask most attorneys if they find a home mortgage stressful and they will shrug and tell you they dont think about it. A mortgage lasts anywhere from 15- to 30 years, and it presupposes earning a salary continually until it is paid off. The mortgage itself represents only a base level of stress. Sooner or later, roofs, carpeting and pipes need upgrading or replacement; electrical systems must be updated; exterior and interior painted, steps repaired. Theres insurance. Water, electric and gas bills. A good question might be: How does anyone manage to keep a high paying job while dealing with a spouse, children and a house, all of them generating stress along with emotional sustenance?
works and loving care can help alleviate the stress of sickness but can never eliminate it.
functions becomes an effort. What happens to cause a high achiever to reach a point in which functioning professionally becomes so difficult? Here is one explanation: We construct identities so as to tell us who we are. These identities are similar to belief systems. They explain our lives to us and feed us myths about ourselves that give comfort and often a sense of invulnerability to any problems life creates. When something challenges this belief system -heavy and prolonged criticism, for instance, either from home or in the office, or any of the events already discussed such as being passed over, divorce, the death of parents, etc.-we first deny the challenge to our chosen identity and then, when evidence keeps piling up that indicates our identity construct is flawed, we suffer burn-out, or the inability to keep doing what we were doing. Burn-out is accompanied by great sadness and a sense of hopelessness. Physicians usually prescribe rest and time off from work. Psychiatric help and drugs such as Prozac are frequently prescribed. Most individuals suffering burn-out end up returning to work, but in a sense, damage has been done. The fragility of ones own ego has been faced. Personal limitations are accepted. The mourning for the prior identity construct ends, and the self is remade.
Being Passed Over At Work or Fired This happens to almost everyone but for some
it happens sooner rather than later. Worse is the shame one feels not measuring up to some one elses expectations. Others either pity us or believe we deserve what we got. We are confronted with our own limitations and the fact that others are regarded more favorably. Our first tendency is to blame others. For attorneys, most of them high achievers since grade school, being passed over or fired does not fit the life script. But adjust we must. Not everyone can become a partner. Not everyone can survive job cuts.
Burn-out Some individuals can be saddled with horrendous personal problems and never suffer burn out while others go to pieces unexpectedly, seemingly without warning. Burn out in medical terms is called a nervous breakdown. Each of us possesses a specific tolerance to stress and no two people are necessarily alike. When an attorney suffers burn-out, joy and satisfaction can no longer be found in work. In fact, just performing daily boilerplate
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