INTERPERSONAL

RELATIONSHIPS

“AN ASSOCIATION IN WHICH

THE PARTIES MEET EACH
OTHER’S SOCIAL NEEDS TO A
GREATER OR LESSER
DEGREE”.

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SOCIAL NEEDS

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1.Inclusion
The need to feel a sense of
belonging to some personal
relationship.

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2.Control
The desire to influence others, to
feel some sense of power over
one’s own life.

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3. Affection
Which can be defined broadly as
respect. We all need to know that
we matter to others, for our self
esteem is created and nourished
by the regard others hold for us.

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 DIMENSIONS
OF
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

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1. CONTEXT

Dimana berlaku perhubungan

keluarga, sekolah,pejabat, jiran,
awam, sukan, hobi, mesjid.

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1.TIME

Jangka masa, lama.

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1.INTIMACY

“Closely personal, characterized by

close union, contact, association,
acquaintance, or the like.”

• Intellectual
• Emotional
• Physical

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4. AFFINITY

The degree to which the

partners like or appreciate
one another.

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5. CONTROL
The degree to which the parties in a
relationship have the power to influence
one another.
i. Decision control.

ii. Conversational control.

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 DISTRIBUTION OF CONTROL

i. A Complementary
relationship.
Tak Seimbang/ Sebelah
pihak.

ii. Symmetrical relationships.

Seimbang kepada kedua
pihak.

iii. Parallel relationship

Berubah ikut kesesuaian
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 UNDERSTANDING
YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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1. How long has each one lasted?

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1.How much time do you
choose to spend with the
other person?

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► 3.
What kinds of intimacy characterize
► each relationship: Intellectual,
emotional,physical?. How deep is the
intimacy in each relationship?

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1.How much affinity exists in each
relationship?
In other words,
how much do you
like the other person?

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1.How is control distributed in each
relationship? Is the structure
complementary, symmetrical, or
parallel? How does this control
occur:
in terms of decision making or
conversational influence?

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Content and Relational Messages

“Can you help me for a minute”?

5. Superiority
6. Friendliness
7. Sexual desire
8. Helplessness
9. Aloofness
10. Irritation
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Metacommunication

Whenever we discuss a relationship with others,

we are Metacommunication

Communication about communication.

Describe messages that refer to other messages

“I really appreciate it when you compliment me about my work

in front of the boss”.

•Rasa dihargai
•Menggalakkan
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 Tahap Pendedahan Kendiri

Cliches

Facts

Opinions

Feelings

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Interpersonal Attraction: Why We Form Relationships

1.We like people who are similar to us-usually.

2.We like people who are different from us-in certain ways.
3.We like people who like us-usually.
4.We are attracted to people who can help us.
5.We like competent people-particularly when they’re “human”.

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