BUILIDING RESPONSIBILITY IN CHILDREN

Responsibility Defined
Personal acceptance for conduct
Concerning others Our surroundings Ourselves

Responsibility Defined
Includes: keeping obligations, striving for personal/moral best, self-discipline, honesty

Responsibility Defined
Internally motivated; a voluntary choice

 With

busy schedules and seemingly intractable problems, how can we best navigate the tricky waters of building responsibility

To develop responsibility the first step

TEACH YOUR CHILD TO LOVE HERSELF/HIMSELF.

Let children know they create and are responsible for any feeling they experience.

Responsibility & children

Use

consequences when they make mistakes. - Use fair and logical consequences. - Develop consequences for both responsible and irresponsible behaviours, and consistently apply these consequences

Empowering CHILDREN
Children

have to learn they have choices. Some are easy and some are difficult. Highly effective parent know that it is only when children are empowered to take charge of their own life that a parents true mission has been accomplished.

Responsibility & Children

Help Children See How Their Actions Effect Others.

 It

is through active participation in events or activities that children learn and develop skills that lead to acting appropriately.

Responsibility & Children

Talk to children about feelings of others. (How others feel.)

Responsibility & Children

Dont

do things that children are capable of doing by herself/himself. Help him/her do it. Make parents understand this clearly. Help is a mistake.

Unsolicited

Don't use rewards with children

If

you want your children to develop an intrinsic sense of responsibility, they need to learn the "big picture" value of the things they do. won't learn that if they're focused on what they're going to "get."

They

EFFORTS vs. RESULTS

Focus on efforts not only on results. Reward efforts.

Teaching Responsibility
Help

children learn to care for themselves.

 Be

supportive when children experience failure as well as success.

 Give

the children meaningful work to do.

real

and

Use
Teach

your imagination

responsibility lessons in creative ways. If a movie character does something wrong, ask her if she had been in the characters place what she would have done.

A powerful question to ask

Stretch

their imagination and help them listen

to their Use this as the basis for everyday behavior by continually asking them the question: Is it the right thing to do?. Is it going to lead you to where you want to go?

conscience

Self Monitoring System

Series of non challenging skill building activities

A Responsible child
Respects himself/herself and others Develops love of learning Learns self-control

Becomes empathic
Make choices (wisely sometimes).

A Responsible child
Not harm self or others Treat others kindly-most of the time Is considerate, compassionate, and cooperative Is honest, sincere and reliable

CONCLUSION
Responsibility

is a value children learn from their parents, schools, peers, and society. It is a lifelong skill that helps children be successful throughout life. So make raising a responsible a priority.

Responsibility

Responsibility is a lifelong skill that you can teach to your younger childrenbeginning now! Children will be better armed to make decisions, learn control and grow as you want her to, as a person who does tasks without whining or your constant direction.

Mahesh Ramamurthy info.ntc@nationalgroupindia.org