Welcome

To the World of Learning Opportunities

Kamal Kumar Shewaramani

What is life?
A series of two alternating activities called desiring and attempting to fulfill the desires.
Right from our birth till we breathe our last, we are constantly desiring and attempting to fulfill those desires.

What do we desire in life?

Food, Shelter & Safety Love Money Security Trust Position Fame Popularity Satisfaction Health Pleasure

HAPPINESS

Happiness
Depends upon balanced fulfillment of our concurrent and congruent needs & desires

Effectiveness

Effectiveness
Ability to achieve goals

Full utilization of potential and resources Includes growth: continuous improvement in performance and ability to perform
Ability to succeed

Success
Getting whatever we want, through self realization Not determined by how we do as compared to others, but to what we are capable of doing Progressive realization of worthy goals

Areas of Effectiveness
Self
Realization Growth Expression Creativity Health Vitality Pleasure

Areas of Effectiveness
Relations
Parents / Siblings Spouse / Children Relatives / Friends

Areas of Effectiveness
Society
Status Recognition Contribution

Areas of Effectiveness
Work
Contribution Recognition Remuneration Relations Growth

Areas of Effectiveness
Money
Requirement Availability

What reduces our effectiveness, success or happiness?

Barriers to Effectiveness

Barriers to Effectiveness
Shortcomings in personality
beliefs, opinions & values

Lack of resources
Inability to get support from environment

Shortcomings in Personality
Lack of Self
Worth & love Ownership Belief Desire Goals Commitment

Whatever inspires & pulls you in to action Valuing benefits over costs & payoffs

Shortcomings in Personality
Lack of Strategy
Need Formulation

Poor Health Fear of

Failure Embarrassment Unknown

Living in the past

Shortcomings in Personality
Lack of Action
Procrastination No Initiative No Persistent Effort No Excellence No Continuous Improvement
Ability Performance

Lack of Resources
Knowledge
Direct & Cross Functional

Skills
Communication Human Organizing

Money Time

Knowledge
Availability of accessible, retrievable, transferable and relevant information. Stages: Inquisitiveness, Seeking, Comprehension, Recall (Memory) & Composition Sources: Formal Education, Training, Coaching, Experience, Association & Observation

Skills
Ability to apply the knowledge Acquired through training, perfected by practice

Human

Communication
Listening Organizing Control on Reactions

Human Skills
Sense Synergy

Sense
Ability to distinguish between beneficial & harmful and act accordingly Self Awareness
Includes Maturity

Creative Imagination
Conscience

Independent Will

Improving Sense
Self Awareness Creative Imagination Conscience Independent Will Personal journal

Visualization
Learning & responding Making & keeping promises

Integrity

Synergy
Whole is more than the sum of parts (1+1>2) Common Goal

Interdependence
Value the difference Everybody benefits

Highest Forms of Synergy

Human Body

Birth of a child

Communication
The ability to make people willingly accept our ideas and act upon them favourably.

Why do we communicate?
To share / seek information To pass on instructions / give feedback To teach / learn To understand others requirements or problems To tell others our expectations or dos and donts

To express our feelings / emotions

For entertainment

Components of Communication
Content
Intent Transfer (Transmission, Reception & Feedback) Effect

Communication Process
Sender Thinks Composes Encodes Transmission Receiver Receives Decodes Comprehends

Media

Feedback

Why isnt our communication effective?

Barriers to Communication

Barriers to Communication
Muddled Message Presumptions Lack of Feedback Poor Listening Skills

Wrong Medium
Language

Lack of interest
Interruptions

Speaker focus

Physical Distractions

Listening
Is not waiting for our turn to speak

Is more than being quiet & hearing

Listening speed is faster than speaking speed. We generally listen through filters

Our arrogance makes us communicate only to be understood

Blocks to Listening
Culture Attitude Values Beliefs Prejudices Morals Fears Current thoughts & feelings Pressures Needs Knowledge Interest

Listening
Humility helps us focus on what is right than on who is right.

Involves hearing, interpreting, evaluating and responding

Shows respect to others experiences and rights Helps understand & also prepares environment to be understood Empathic listening

Organizing
Creative Visualization Assessment of Requirement Planning Resource Mobilization

Timely Execution

Time
Only resource that is available to all in exactly equal quantity. Whatever we get in life is by investing time. Success and failure are largely dependent upon the way we invest our time.

Time Management
Prioritize Delegate

Memory
Learn to say no

Let go

Time Management - Prioritize

Urgent Not Urgent

Important

Crises Pressing problems Deadlines

Quadrant I

Quadrant II
Preparation Prevention Development Values clarification Planning Relationship building True recreation Empowerment

Not Important

Interruptions Some mails / reports Some meetings Many proximate matters

Quadrant III

Quadrant IV Trivia busy work Some phone calls Time wasters Escape activities Irrelevant mails Excessive TV

Inability to Get Support from Environment

Opportunities Image / Projection

Relations
Influence

Uncontrolled Reactions
anger, jealousy, impulsive & over reaction

For Good Relations

Acknowledge their value in your life Be sensitive to their concerns Seek first to understand and then to be understood Focus on intentions and not actions Set clear limits for expectations Mutual respect, politeness, concern, appreciation & trust authenticity, integrity Quality of life contribution
& honesty

To Improve Sour Relations

Change your perspective about that person Take initiative and clear all long held misunderstandings / grudges Be authentic, apologize for your mistakes Be willing to forgive & forget (not the lesson) Invest necessary time

Influence
I N F L U E N C E R Integrity with people Nurtures other people Faith in people Listens to people Understands people Enlarges people Navigates other people Connects with people Empowers people Reproduces other influencers

Control on Reactions
Reactions are spontaneous actions, chosen by subconscious mind, in response to the various impulses.

Use your sense

Analyze known responses disturbing impulses Realize their impact on our life Identify the ones that need to changed to various

Coach the mind by continuously thinking about the desired response and control behaviour in times of distress

There is no such thing as human nature

We are the sum product of our choices

Products of Choice
Benefit

Desired Future

Cost

Uncertainty

Choice Commitment Will Power Causes

Present

Price Payoff

Live by Choice, Not by Chance

Choose a powerful life, a life that you can love.

Wishing You A
Powerful Fulfilled Happy Memorable

Life of Your Choice

Thank You