Innate emotional needs

1) Security safe territory and and environment which allows us to develop fully 2) Attention (to give and receive it) a form of nutrition 3) Sense of autonomy and control having volition to make responsible choices 4) Being emotionally connected to others 5) Feeling part of a wider community

Emotional needs ) Friendship, intimacy to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, warts n all 7) Privacy opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience 8 ) Sense of status within social groupings 9) Sense of competence and achievement 10) Having meaning and purpose which comes from being stretched in what we do and think.

Emotional needs Life is never 100 per cent perfect, but as long as our main essential needs are being met, and our resources are being used well, we do not suffer mental health problems. However, if just one of these needs is unmet, or our resources are being misused, it can affect our mental health and well being.

List of the innate resources (also human givens) that we have to meet our emotional needs
The ability to develop complex long term memory, which enables us to add to our innate knowledge and learn The ability to build rapport, empathise and connect with others Imagination, which enables us to focus our attention away from our emotions, use language and problem solve more creatively and objectively A conscious, rational mind that can check out emotions, question, analyse and plan The ability to know that is, understand the world unconsciously through metaphorical pattern matching An observing self that part of us that can step back, be more objective and be aware of itself as a unique centre of awareness, apart from intellect, emotion and conditioning A dreaming brain that preserves the integrity of our genetic inheritance every night by metaphorically defusing expectations held in the autonomic arousal system because they were not acted out the previous day.

Answer Briefly
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Why do we need to know the different stages of emotional development? In what situations can we apply the different stages of emotional development? Evaluate yourself and explain in what stage of emotional development are you now. Who should provide our physiological needs? If your emotional needs are not satisfied or fulfilled what do you think will happen to you. Have you been in love? how did you know that you are in love? What are the characteristics of the peer group that you have? Are they the same with the characteristics that you have right now? Explain. In our NSTP class who among your class mates do you like most and why?