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Skills
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LIFE-CHANGE LIFE-CHANGE
Counselling is a way to i enti!y" #e$ognise an o%e#$o&e t'e (lo$)s to sel!-awa#eness" w'oleness" an s*ontaneity+
Helping staff resolve problems, not by finding answers for them, but by skillfully steering them towards their own answers.
Alternatives
ignoring the issue in the hope that it will go away telling people to grow up! and sort themselves out giving advice based on what you think or the Agony Aunt Approach manipulating people to do what you want discipline and punishment
"anagers# $oles
a$)nowle a$)nowle ge ge t'at t'at 'a%ing 'a%ing *#o(le&s *#o(le&s a!!e$ting a!!e$ting us us &entally" &entally" e&otionally" e&otionally" an an *sy$'ologi$ally *sy$'ologi$ally is is a a no#&al no#&al *a#t *a#t o! o! li!e+ li!e+ It It is is not not so&et'ing so&et'ing to to (e (e as'a&e as'a&e o! o! o# o# to to *#eten *#eten oesn,t oesn,t e-ist+ e-ist+
a$$e*t a$$e*t t'at t'at w'en w'en e&*loyees e&*loyees 'a%e 'a%e *#o(le&s *#o(le&s t'at t'at get get in in t'e t'e way way o! o! t'ei# t'ei# wo#)" wo#)" t'e t'e o#ganisation o#ganisation 'as 'as a a *#o(le&+ *#o(le&+
assu&e assu&e t'e t'e #es*onsi(ility #es*onsi(ility o! o! oing oing so&et'ing so&et'ing a(out a(out t'e t'e *#o(le&s *#o(le&s o! o! t'e t'e e&*loyees e&*loyees
HEL.ER HEL.ER
%rinciples
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W'en *eo*le at wo#) 'a%e a *#o(le& t'e o#ganisation also 'as a *#o(le& /'e $ounselling a**#oa$' is t'e (est way to get to t'e #oot o! a i!!i$ult *#o(le& $on$e#ning *eo*le /'e natu#e o! t'e *#o(le& an its solution a#e (est a**#oa$'e t'#oug' is$ussion
%rinciples
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/'e *#o(le&,s solution is ulti&ately t'e e&*loyee,s solution /'e &anage# is t'e#e to 'el* t'e *#o$ess an 'is o# 'e# #ole is t'at o! !a$ilitato#+
Cycles
1OHARI WINDOW
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C(C)*S
$#eate (y 1o Lu!t an Ha##y Ing'a& 2 )in s o! awa#eness3 4+ 5+ 6+ 2+ O*en win ow Mas) win ow Blin S*ot win ow 7nawa#e win ow
1OHARI WINDOW
C(C)*S
REF7SA L
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C(C)*S
use (y *eo*le w'o #e!use to a$$e*t t'ei# *#o(le&s 8usti!i$ations3 4+ Inte#8e$tion 5+ .#o8e$tion 6+ Ret#o!le$tion 2+ De!le$tion
A+A$*,*S S
FEEDBAC K
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A+A$*,*SS
solution to s'ow t'e& 'ow t'ei# (e'a%iou# a!!e$ts ot'e#s o*ening t'ei# eyes an s'owing 'ow ot'e#s see t'e& (y &o%ing t'e issue !ully into t'e e&*loyee,s 1o'a#i Win ow o*en win ow
&f a person constantly criticises themselves and runs themselves down, then it is difficult for that person not to be critical and emotionally punishing to other people. %ut in another way, we need to see the -ewel in ourselves before we can see it in other people.! . $ay +oolfe
SEEING O/HERS
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A+A$*,*SS
a wa#& #ega# !o# *eo*le as *e#sons o! un$on itional sel!-wo#t' %aluing *eo*le no &atte# w'at t'ei# $on ition" (e'a%iou#" t'oug'ts o# !eelings
SEEING O/HERS
A+A$*,*SS
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#es*e$t an li)ing !o# *eo*le as se*a#ate" uni9ue *e#sons #ega# !o# t'e attitu es o! t'e &o&ent" w'et'e# *ositi%e o# negati%e an attitu e o! non-8u g&ent towa# s ot'e#s+
/R7S/
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A7/ON:M :
0 0 0 0 0
INI/IA/I< E
0 0 0
IND7S/R :
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IDEN/I/ :
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45 - 4> yea#s ol #esult o! teenage g#owt' *#o$ess o! is$o%e#ing t'e #ole we want to *lay in li!e
IN/IMAC :
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4? - 62 yea#s ol $'a#a$te#isti$ o! g#owt' o! t'e ea#ly a ult yea#s w'en we see) 'ealt'y #elations'i*s wit' ot'e#s e%elo* new #elations'i*s w'e#e we $an (e ou#sel%es
GENERA/I<I/ :
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6; - =@ yea#s ol t'e *owe# to gene#ate an *#o u$e t'ings !o# t'e goo o! ot'e#s t'e *enulti&ate stage in *e#sonal g#owt'
IN/EGRI/ :
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(uil ing t#ust (y s'owing t#ust &a)e it is 'isA'e# *#o$ess not t'ei#s en$ou#aging t'e& to e-*lo#e &eanings an o*tions instilling $on!i en$e in t'e& t'at t'ey a#e $a*a(le o! wo#)ing t'ings out
suggesting t'ey let go o! ol i entities t'at no longe# !it wit' w'o t'ey a#e see)ing ways to (#ing t'e& $lose# to ea$' ot'e# !o$using on w'at t'ey $an o!!e# ot'e#s see)ing ways to #esto#e w'oleness an #esou#$e!ul 'ealt'
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
+armth *mpathy Specificity 0enuineness Confidentiality %rofessional /istance Touch of &ntegrity Self.renewal
WARM/ H
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
t'e a(ility to *ositi%ely #elate to ot'e#s #esults w'en we (elie%e t'at t'ei# (asi$ intentions a#e goo
EM.A/H :
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
Bente#ing t'e *#i%ate *e#$e*tual wo#l o! anot'e# *e#son an (eing $o&*letely at 'o&e in it+C DCa#l Roge#s s'owing you un e#stan w'at t'ey,#e going t'#oug' allows us to see t'e wo#l t'#oug' anot'e# *e#son,s !#a&e o! #e!e#en$e
1 /ispositions of Counselling
S.ECIFICI/:
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GEN7INENES S
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
(eing 'onest" t#ut'!ul" t#usting an un e#stan ing (eing !ully awa#e o! you#sel! 'a%ing li&its an !aults
CONFIDEN/IALI/ :
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
)ey #e9ui#e&ent in a &anage# w'o $ounsels ot'e#s )ee*ing *#i%ate in!o#&ation !#o& ot'e#s
1 /ispositions of Counselling
.ROFESSIONAL DIS/ANCE
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'a%ing enoug' e&otional in%ol%e&ent to un e#stan ot'e#s #e&aining sensiti%e to ot'e#s, situation un e#stan ing ot'e#s" (ut #e&aining istant enoug' to o!!e# o(8e$ti%e insig't" suggestions an su**o#t
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/O7CH OF IN/EGRI/:
0 0 0 0 0
1 /ispositions of Counselling
SELFRENEWAL
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1 /ispositions of Counselling
any a$ti%ity t'at (#ings you (a$) !#o& a !eeling o! ti#e ness an ina e9ua$y to a !eeling o! (eing a(le to $a#e an 'el* again+
EMeetingE o# BDis$ussionE Any !a$e-to-!a$e e-$'ange in w'i$' you *lay t'e #ole o! 'el*e# to !a$ilitate solutions t'at (lo$) anot'e# *e#sonFs *#og#ess at wo#)
AIMS
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Gi%e an e&*loyee t'e $'an$e to is$uss a *#o(le& t'at is (ot'e#ing t'e& o# you Hel* t'e e&*loyee is$o%e# w'at t'ey &ust o to o%e#$o&e t'ei# own (lo$)s to *#og#ess B#ing t'e& to awa#eness" a$$e*tan$e" an $'ange
EN<IRONMEN /
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:ou# $'ie! ai& in a $ounselling inte#%iew is to get t'e e&*loyee to o*en u*+ :ou# *#in$i*al #ole is to listenG t'ei#s is to tal)+ /'ey &ust !eel sa!e+
S/AGES
0 0 0 0 0
/HEMES
0 0 0 0
.#e o&inan$e o! $li$'Hs Dis$ussion o! !a$ts .e#sonal $o&&ents on t'e !a$ts B#inging in o! *eo*leFs !eelings
3acts are sieved to determine the relevant ones. &ssues are sieved to find the important ones. 4ptions are sieved to find the best one.
FOLLOW7.
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All inte#%iews nee a *ost-inte#%iew !ollow u*+ /'e su$$ess o! $ounselling e*en s al&ost w'olly on t'e !a$e-to-!a$e &eeting (etween you an you# e&*loyee+
The Counsellor
The Counsellor
.RE.ARA/ION
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.#e*a#e you#sel! &entally+ .#e*a#e t'e en%i#on&ent *'ysi$ally+ .#e*a#e t'e e&*loyee+
ROL E
The Counsellor
Gui e you# e&*loyee to ta)e on #es*onsi(ility !o# un#a%elling 'is o# 'e# *#o(le& an ta)ing ste*s !o#wa# +
The Counsellor
CHARAC/ERIS/ICS
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Is neit'e# $#iti$al no# insulting DoesnFt insist on 'el*ing w'en it is not nee e DoesnFt sy&*at'iIe o# wallow in t'ei# sel!-*ity DoesnFt in ulge in t'eo#ies
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The Counsellor
CHARAC/ERIS/ICS
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DoesnFt *ut *eo*le own DoesnFt &a)e lig't o! ot'e# *eo*leFs *#o(le&s" tal) too soon" too o!ten o# too long DoesnFt !ig't t'ei# (attles !o# t'e& DoesnFt igno#e w'at &atte#s to t'e&
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5*( 3*AT6$*S
5*( 3*AT6$*S
/'e (iggest (lo$) to !ully listening to so&eone else is w'at is going on in you# own &in + Listen to t'e en + Listen wit'out inte##u*tion+
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5*( 3*AT6$*S
Ai& to see t'ings a$$o# ing to 'ow t'ey see t'ings" e%en i! you you#sel! on,t s'a#e t'ei# %iew+ Listen wit' e&*at'y+
5*( 3*AT6$*S
E%en i! you a#e not inte#este in w'at t'e ot'e# *e#son is saying" you s'oul not swit$' o!!+
5*( 3*AT6$*S
/u#n-ons3
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In!o#&ation we $an #elate to In!o#&ation t'at we 'a%e an inte#est in In!o#&ation t'at is uni9ue" un$o&&on" o# #a&ati$
5*( 3*AT6$*S
/u#n-o!!s3
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In!o#&ation t'at we $an,t 'oo) u* to In!o#&ation t'at we a$ti%ely isli)e 'ea#ing a(out In!o#&ation t'at is (o#ing o# we,%e 'ea# (e!o#e
5*( 3*AT6$*S
5*( 3*AT6$*S
Fo$use listening is B*#esent &o&entC listening+ /a)ing you# ti&e to listen oesn,t ta)e you longe#" in !a$t" it is t'e &ost e!!i$ient way to listen
DE/EC/I<E LIS/ENING
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5*( 3*AT6$*S
Dete$ti%es on,t o o# say anyt'ing t'at &ig't $ause t'ei# sus*e$ts to sto* tal)ing+ I! t'e s*ea)e# is es$#i(ing an e%ent" sit tig't an on,t inte##u*t+ Go o%e# t'e sto#y in a #e%e#se $'#onologi$al o# e# i! you nee &o#e etails
DE/EC/I<E LIS/ENING
0
5*( 3*AT6$*S
Allow you# s*ea)e# so&e s*a$e a!te# 'e o# s'e is one tal)ing+
5*( 3*AT6$*S
Always #es*on in t'e &o&ent" in ot'e# wo# s" to w'e#e *eo*le a#e+ Don,t 'a%e a *lan o! w'at to as)+
76*ST&4, S
4ne#s ability to discover information and bring clarity to the way ahead depends primarily on what 8uestions you ask.
CAT*04$&*S 43 76*ST&4,
7uestions for &nformation 7uestions for Confirmation and $esponse 7uestions for 6nderstanding
FOR INFORMA/ION
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CAT*04$&*S
FOR INFORMA/ION
O*en 9uestions
CAT*04$&*S
FOR INFORMA/ION
Close 9uestions
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CAT*04$&*S
FOR INFORMA/ION
Su&&a#iIing 9uestions
CAT*04$&*S
4+ 5+
CAT*04$&*S
CAT*04$&*S
CAT*04$&*S
CAT*04$&*S
9. Tell the person what you saw him do and heard him say. :. Tell him the meaning that you#ve tentatively given to his actions. ;. Ask if you#re right.
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
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CAT*$04$&*S
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FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
Deletions
MoneyM How &u$' &oneyM
CAT*$04$&*S
It,s &u$' &o#e o(%ious w'at s'e wants3 &oney+ S'e t'#ows &oney a#oun li)e wate#+
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
0
CAT*$04$&*S
Disto#tions
I know youll think I am stupid but this is just another talking session. Itll lead nowhere. They bore me.
Why should I think youre stupid? So have you had a similar session before?
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
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CAT*$04$&*S
Gene#aliIations
Ive lost my self esteem. I !ant seem to think highly of myself. It must be the blows Ive had. Thats what working here does to you."
What e#a!tly do you mean by $self esteem"? %oes it have to be everyone, then?
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
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CAT*$04$&*S
Wi e# Angles
What are your overall !areer plans?
That must mean you !are very mu!h about getting on.
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
0
CAT*$04$&*S
Counte#-e%i en$e
FOR 7NDERS/ANDING
0
CAT*$04$&*S
Meta*'o#
use!ul e%i$e to get so&eone to ta)e a wi e# %iew o! t'ings an $'ange t'ei# t'in)ing
CHA))*,0&, 0
%utting this gap between what is and what should be to the employee and then asking e>plicitly or implicitly2 So what are you going to do about it?!
&t does not mean to be confrontational stage of counselling, rather a holding up of the mirror to the employee who has the problem.
CHA))*,0&,0
BS*its in t'e Sou*"C &eaning s*elling t'ings out istu#(s t'e e&*loyee,s unawa#eness an " li)e s*its in t'e sou*" no longe# &a)es it taste so ni$e+ - Al!#e A le#
CHA))*,0&,0
INCONGR7ENC E
CHA))*,0&,0
:es" I o wo#) 'e#e+ :es" I 'a%e a $ont#a$t+ :es" I 'a%e &isse so&e ays+ :es" I )now I,& su**ose to o w'at s'e says+ :es" I i say s'e $oul stu!! 'e# 8o(+ :es" I still want to wo#) 'e#e+
CHA))*,0&,0
:ou say you want to wo#) 'e#e an &a)e a %alua(le $ont#i(ution+ But you,%e al#ea y 'a ? ays o!! t'is yea#+ :ou )now t'at t'e o#ganiIation nee s t'is tea& to wo#) 'a#&oniously toget'e#+ But you two a#en,t tal)ing++++
CHA))*,0&,0
C46,S*))&,0 S4)6T&4,S
LE<EL S
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S4)6T&4,S
The outcome is the resolution of a troublesome problem. The outcome re.affirms the ability of people to cope. The outcome reminds us to accept it, integrate it, and move on.
CRI/ERI A
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S4)6T&4,S
$eferrals
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Re!e##als a#e outsi e solutions to *eo*le *#o(le&s+ Re!e##als a#e &a e in any o! t'#ee i#e$tions3 4+ /'e outsi e s*e$ialistG 5+ 7* t'e line to senio# &anage#sG an 6+ /o inte#nal s*e$ialists+
S%*C&A)&ST H*)%
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W'o a#e e*en ent on $ounsellingG W'o s'ow ina(ility to #elate wit' ot'e#sG W'o #un wit' i!!i$ultiesG W'o is*lays (iIa##e t'oug'ts o# (e'a%io#sG W'o (la&e ot'e#s !o# t'ei# *#o(le&sG o#
0 0 0 0
W'o is silent W'o #e!use to $'ange W'o a#e 'ea%y #in)e#s W'o is %e#y agg#essi%e+
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C4""4, %$4')*"S
.e#!o#&an$e .#o(le&s Si$)ness A(sen$e Ca#ee# Counselling Be#ea%e&ent Coun$elling .e#sonal Relations'i*s
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