Journey Into Better

Relationship
How to Master your Anger
I Corinthians 13:5c
 Anger
 People always say that they can’t master
anger because I’m just like my dad; I
have a short fuse,, or I can’t help getting
angry; God made me that way.
 We didn’t inherit our anger and God didn’t
create us with it; we learned it from
someone.
 We can control our anger whether we will
admit it or not.
 Anger cont.
 Example of controlling our anger
– You have a disagreement with someone,
using loud, harsh words and the
telephone rings? You change to a soft,
nice voice and answers “Helloooo”.
– Proverbs 16:32 reads “He who is slow to
anger is better than the might. And he
who rules his spirit than he who takes
the city.
Three Words that describe “Anger”
 Parorgismos (par-org-is-mos) means to
be provoked because of an offense or to
be angry with an offender.
 Thumos (thoo-mus) refers to an
uncontrolled outburst of blazing anger.
 Orge (Or-ge) is less sudden in its rise but
more lasting in its nature. It is a
controlled anger which is also called
“righteous indignation” or “ holy anger”.
 Easily angered
 The word translated “easily angered” in 1
Corinthians 13:5 refers to being provoked
by an offense or being angry with people.
 The reason we should never get angry
with people is that we cannot love them
and be angry with them at the same time.
 Anger is almost always the first thing that
must be dealt with before relationship
problems can improved.
 THREE THINGS WE MUST DO
 We must confess our anger
 We must consider the consequences
of our anger
 We must concentrate on the cause of
our anger.
 We must confess our anger
 Weneed to stop denying and making
excuses for our anger and admit that
ANGER IS SIN.
– We must admit we have a problem
– Our anger is usually vented on those we
love most.
Proverbs 29:11
A fool vents all his feelings, but a
wise man holds them back
 Confess our anger cont.
 Proverbs 29:11 means if you are in the
habit of losing your temper, you’re foolish.
 Anger is temporary insanity.

 David has to confess in 2 Samuel

12:13a…I have sinned against God.
 We must confess our anger and admit that
we have sinned against God.
 James 5:16a tell i\us to Confess your
trespass to one another.
 Consider the consequences
 When we are angry, we will make
the greatest speech we will ever
regret.
 Our anger gets us into all kinds of
problems.
 Proverbs 29:22

– An angry man stirs up strife; and a

furious man abounds in transgression
 Consider the consequences cont.
 Whenever we lose our temper, we lose in
our relationship
 We can lose our spouse, families, best
friends, or our jobs.
 When we lose our temper, we always lose.

 Remember the advice given to us when

we were children….count to 10 before you
speak or do anything in anger.
 Cause of our anger
 Proverbs 15:1
– A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh
word stirs up anger

Never let harsh, angry words come out of

your mouth and you won’t be guilty of
immediately inflaming the problem by
stirring up someone else’s anger.
 Cause of our anger
 Anger is not a primary emotion or root
problem.
 We respond in anger when we are hurt,
frustrated or fearful (being threatened)
 Three things to ask yourself

– Why am I angry
– Am I hurt, frustrated or fearful
– What am I feeling hurt, frustrated or fearful
 Cause of our anger
 Proverbs 14:29 – He who is slow to
wrath has great understanding; but
he who is impulsive exalts folly.
 Cause of our anger
 Jesus wants us to master or anger by
replacing it with love
 John 13:34

– That we love one another; as I have

loved you.
– John 14:15
If you love me, keep my
commandments