Couples for Christ

HOUSEHOLD LEADERS TRAINING

Talk No. 11:


Being corrected is something we
experience from childhood to old age.
We are corrected by family, friends,
Clergy, coaches, bosses, teachers,
etc Sometimes we accept these
corrections but at other times we dont
want to hear them. Have you ever
wondered why you didnt want to hear
or accept a correction from someone
even though it would benefit you for the
better?
CORRECTION:
the act of offering an
improvement to replace a
mistake

punishment intended to reform,
improve or rehabilitate
Worldly Sense of
Correction

Christian Sense of
Correction
As a Christian,
we correct to
try to help
each other and
were fueled by
Love and
Christ.

One try to
undermine
someone else
which is
fueled by
pride, anger,
and/or hate.
INTRODUCTION
All scripture is inspired by God and is useful
for teaching, for refutation, for correction,
and for training in righteousness so that one
who belongs to God may be competent,
equipped for every good work
2 Tim 3:16-17


The experience in
most cultures,
however, is
RESISTANCE of
people to
correction
at the bottom of it is FEAR
Some reasons why we are afraid of
correction.
Experience of being laughed at
because of our
mistakes(sometimes get
embarrassed in front of other
people

Societys expectation:

We are evaluated in terms of what
we know and have achieved.

It is painful to have our failures or
shortcomings pointed out
Correction is
associated with
rejection
Secular societys expectation of self reliance
and independence leads to hesitation in
accepting somebodys opinion or judgement
over us especially in case of weaknesses
and failures being pointed out
Some reasons why we are afraid of
giving corrections.

The fear
factor
The solution:
One key to overcoming the fear of correcting
those in sin or error is to recognize what God says
in the Holy Bible, that if you know Christ, you are
the Lords bond-servant. As such, He will hold you
accountable for being faithful to Him. You need to
fear God more than you fear people and recognize
that obedience to His command to love others
requires correcting them if you see them heading
for the cliff.
Misunderstanding
of Matthew 7:1,
Do not judge so
that you will not
be judged
The solution:
Jesus meant that we should not condemn others
for minor things in their lives while we ignore
major sins in our own lives. First take the log out
of your eye and then you can help your brother
with the speck in his eye. We are aware of
sin in our own
lives
The solution:
We are afraid that if we try to correct someone
else, he (or she) will point the finger back at us,
and we know that were guilty as charged. So we
do not bring up the other persons sin in hopes
that he will not bring up our sin! But, Scripture
commands us to deal with any known sin in our
lives. Thats why Pauls instruction here on the
ministry of correction follows his exhortation on
being a cleansed vessel. We do not have to be
perfect to practice this ministry (or it would never
get done), but we do have to judge our own sins..
Laziness and
procrastination
The solution:
It is always more of a hassle to correct than to
let it go. Always! It takes effort to arrange a
time to get together. It is stressful to talk about
such matters. You risk a backlash from the
other person. But, we are commanded to
pursue love, and that always requires effort and
risk
Inadvertently bought
into the tolerant,
relative morality of our
culture.
The solution:
We mistakenly think that love means accepting the
person, sin and all, with no moral judgments about
his behavior. But, Gods Word gives us absolute
standards for right and wrong behavior. If we see
someone violating biblical standards, he is heading
for the cliff. Let us remember that Love requires
attempting to correct.
We do not know
whether or not we
should do it
The solution:
Some problems get resolved as we pray without
saying anything. And, not all matters warrant
correction. Were all imperfect and in process. God
Himself is patient with us, not confronting us all at
once for every area where we fall short. So, we
wonder whether a particular matter calls for
correction, or whether we should just bear with the
person. It requires waiting on the Lord and
applying biblical wisdom to know when its right to
correct or when to remain silent.
What do we do?

We hide our faults. We cover up
We argue when corrected
How should we
regard
correction?
The Context of Correction:
CHRISTIAN PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
In CFC we have a
committed
relationship.
Correction is not a
sign of lifelessness
and legalism in a
Christian group..

At the heart of
scriptural
appreciation of
correction is a
hatred of sin, and a
realization of
human fallibility
(Ps 141:5.)
We often don't
see all the
things in our
lives which
need to
change.
(Ps 19:12-13)
With God's help, we must overcome our
dislike for correction.
Don't expect to be always corrected nicely
Response to correction for
something we have done wrong
requires repentance, asking
forgiveness and change.
But correction for something done poorly requires only a
resolve to do it better next time.
What are the concrete
What are the
practical
aspects of
correction?
How to correct?
Correction should be simple and straightforward
When giving correction, expect your brother to
repent (or resolve to do better).
Give correction in a way that will help a person to
change.
When a person fails to
accept correction, the
two parties concerned
should ask a mature
Christian to mediate.
In Case of Disagreements
In case there is still no
apparent remedy or
resolution, one of the
parties may have to
practice forbearance.
But if it involves
something seriously
wrong, the rule in
Matthew 18:15-17
should be applied.
CORRECTION WORKS DIFFERENTLY IN A
VARIETY OF PASTORAL SITUATIONS
Where we don't have a pastoral responsibility for
a person (i.e., not a member of our household; or
in case of a Unit Head, not a member of his unit),
we still have a responsibility of love and care for
our brethren in CFC.
Correction
here is
offered in a
spirit of
helpfulness.
In serious
cases, talk to
his household
head or Unit
Head
Where we have pastoral responsibility for
someone
Correction becomes
one of many pastoral
tools to help a person
grow in relationship
with the Lord and
other people..
The pastoral nature of a relationship may allow
the leader to probe more deeply into the lives of
people in his charge.
This is true of training relationships, such as parents with
children, or a pastoral leader with a man who has placed himself
under personal headship in order to be formed in character and
service (this is not normally the case in CFC).
If the person we are correcting is in authority
over us
We should give our correction respectfully,
leaving the final judgment about any
change up to the other person.
STRATEGY for LEARNING
CORRECTION
Look to our own behaviour and
attitudes
Overcome fears about giving
correction
Learn to handle anger
Be willing to learn
Conclusion
Correction is a very important pastoral
tool.

For the spiritual life and direction of every
Christian..
For the life of our community, for the sake
of our mission in CFC.
Correction is something done out
of love for the other person. We
need to take it seriously as one
very important aspect of loving
our neighbour.
Brothers and sisters, As the Lords servants, in love
we must wisely correct those in sin and serious
doctrinal error We are the Lords bond-servant and
there is a need to be obedient in this ministry because
someday we will answer to Him for whether or not we
loved the people that He brought into our life. We cannot
truly love someone and let him head toward a spiritual cliff
without warning him. Do correct himDo it! Gently correct
those you know that are in sin or error. Do it wisely. Do it in
love. Do it in accordance with Gods Word. Do it prayerfully,
being aware of spiritual warfare. But do it! Do it because
you love God more than anything and you love your
brother or sister as you love yourself. Thats what it takes
for us Christians to truly love God. To be loyal and faithful
servant for GOD!

Thank you and God Bless
Us All!
Bible Verse
2 Tim 3:16-17 "Ang tibuok nga Kasulatan
gisulat pinaagi sa gahom sa Dios, ug
mapuslanon kini sa pagtudlo sa kamatuoran,
sa pagbadlong, sa pagtul-id sa sayop, ug sa
pagtudlo sa matarong nga pagkinabuhi, 17
aron nga ang tawo nga nag-alagad sa Dios
maandam sa pagbuhat sa tanang maayong
buhat
Bible Verse
Proverbs 12:1 "Whoever loves discipline
loves knowledge, but whoever hates
correction is stupid.

Proverbs 12:15 The way of fools seems
right to them, but the wise listen to advice.
Bible Verse

Ps. 141:5
141:5 Let a righteous man strike methat is a kindness;
let him rebuke methat is oil on my head. My head will
not refuse it, for my prayer will still be against the deeds of
evildoers.
Itugot nga ang matarung modaug kanako, kini maoy
usa ka kalooy; Ug ipabadlong niya ako, kini maoy ingon sa
lana nga anaa sa ibabaw sa ulo; Ayaw pagpadumilia ang
akong ulo niini: Kay bisan pa sa ilang pagkadautan, ang
akong pag-ampo magapadayon

Bible Verse
Ps 19:12-13.
But who can discern their own errors? Forgive my
hidden faults.
13
Keep your servant also from willful
sins;may they not rule over me.Then I will be
blameless,innocent of great transgression.
12. Walay tawo nga makakita sa kaugalingon niyang
sayop. Luwasa intawon ako O, Ginoo sa mga kasaypanan
nga wala ko hibaoi!
13. Ilikay usab ako sa mga sala nga tinuyuan, ug ayaw
itugot nga maulipon ako niini. Sa ingon mahingpit ako ug
makalikay sa makalilisang nga sala
Bible Verse
Mt. 18:15-17
15
If your brother or
sister
[b]
sins,
[c]
go and point out their fault, just
between the two of you. If they listen to you, you
have won them over.
16
But if they will not listen, take
one or two others along, so that every matter may
be established by the testimony of two or three
witnesses.
[d]

17
If they still refuse to listen, tell it to
the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the
church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax
collector..