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The Power of Thought

All behavior begins


and ends as thoughts

Importance of Thoughts
Thoughts are unavoidable
Our thoughts influence our actions
Self-fulflling prophecy

MURPHY'S LAW

ANYTHING THAT CAN GO WRONG,


WILL GO WRONG

What is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how you feel
about yourself overall. It develops
from experiences and situations that
have shaped how you view yourself
today.
Self-confdence is how you feel about
your abilities and can vary from
situation to situation.

What is Self-Esteem?

I may have high selfesteem, but low


confdence about
situations involving
math.

Confdence
Confdence is not a static measure, our
confdence to perform roles and tasks can
increase and decrease; some days we may
feel more confdent than others.

ACTIVITY #1
Basketball Shoot

Badminton

Smash

Swimming Dive

Football Kick

Boxing Punch

Low-confdence
Low-confdence can be a result of
many factors including: fear of the
unknown, criticism, being unhappy
with personal appearance (selfesteem), feeling unprepared, poor
time-management, lack of knowledge
and previous failures.

BEWARE OF ENERGY VAMPIRES!

Energy Vampires: Who They Are

Energy vampires can be


your family, friends,
clients, colleagues,
teachers, neighbors,
lovers, or even strangers.

Energy Vampires: Who They Are

energy vampires the


people who only take
from you.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

the blamer - who lays blame


on everyone else without
ever taking any responsibility

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

guilt trippers- use shame to


get what they want

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

Jealous bees - can never


genuinely feel happiness for
anyone else.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

Then there are theinsecure


ones, who pull others down
to their level of low selfesteem.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

Thefun hatersseem unable


to embrace joy.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

Thebulliesstomp on the little


guys to elevate their egos.

TYPES OF ENERGY VAMPIRES

The thewhiners, theshorttempers, thegossipers,


thedrama queens, and the
list goes on

What to remember
Whatever form they take, energy
vampires have one thing in
common: They cannot create or
sustain their own life force in
any positive manner. So they
latch on and feed off on others,
slowly sucking the life out of
them.

Here are seven ways to cope with


energy vampires:
1. Take a deep breath andlet it go!
Theres no need to allow their words or
actions to linger.
2. Recognize when their words or actions
are unacceptable. Dont give them
permission to leech your energy.
3. Learn not to react on impulse; instead,
go with the flow, and tactfully bring the
situation back to neutral ground.

Here are seven ways to cope with


energy vampires:
4. Remind yourself of the purpose of your
bond or connection and know that you are
allowed to walk away.
5. Putting their words or actions into
perspective. Their behavior is a reflection
on them, not you.
6. Visualize a protective light around you,
like an energy shield..
7. Affirm your self-worth. You deserve to be
surrounded by positive, genuine, and
caring people who inspire you to be your

SELF ESTEEM TEST

Activity # 2
Animal Sounds

Overcoming Insecurity and Low


Self Esteem

1. Real Self Confidence and


Esteem is based in
emotion, not a self image

Character
Reputation
Character is what you Reputation is what
are
you are supposed to
be
Character is the face Reputation is the
photograph
Character is what you Reputation is what
have when you go
you have when you
away
come to a new
community
Character is built in a Reputation is made in
lifetime
a moment
A life of toil gives you A single newspaper
your character
report gives you your

Overcoming Insecurity and Low


Self Esteem
2. Feelings of confidence and
security means no self rejection.

E-KANTA MO!

I used to bite my tongue and hold my


breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a
mess
So I sat quietly, agree politely

ROAR

I'm gonna live like tomorrow doesn't


exist
Like it doesn't exist
I'm gonna fly like a bird through the
night, feel my tears as they dry
I'm gonna swing from the chandelier,
from the chandelier

CHANDELIER

When my hair's all but gone and my


memory fades
And the crowds don't remember my
name
When my hands don't play the
strings the same way
I know you will still love me the
same

THINKING OUT
LOUD

I'm feeling sexy and free, Like glitter's


raining on me, Your like a shot of
pure gold
I think I'm bout to explode

DOMINO

The scars of your love remind me of


us
They keep me thinking that we
almost had it all
The scars of your love, they leave me
breathless
I can't help feeling
We could have had it all

ROLLING IN
THE DEEP

I put you high up in the sky


And now, you're not coming down
It slowly turned, you let me burn
And now, we're ashes on the ground

WRECKING
BALL

How Confdent do you Seem to


Others?
Confident Behavior

Behavior Associated With low


Self-Confidence

Doing what you believe to be


right, even if others mock or
criticize you for it.

Governing your behavior based


on what other people think.

Being willing to take risks and go


the extra mile to achieve better
things.

Staying in your comfort zone,


fearing failure, and so avoid
taking risks.

Admitting your mistakes, and


learning from them.

Working hard to cover up


mistakes and hoping that you can
fx the problem before anyone
notices.

Waiting for others to congratulate


you on your accomplishments.

Extolling your own virtues as


often as possible to as many
people as possible.

Accepting compliments
graciously. Thanks, I really

Dismissing compliments
offhandedly. Oh that prospectus

Self Esteem Test


1. Other people are not better off
or more
fortunate than me

Self Esteem Test


2. I accept myself as I am and am
happy with myself

Self Esteem Test


3. I enjoy socializing

Self Esteem Test


4. I deserve love and respect

Self Esteem Test


5. I feel valued and needed

Self Esteem Test


6. I dont need others to tell me I have
done a good job

Self Esteem Test


7. Being myself is important

Self Esteem Test


8. I make friends easily

Self Esteem Test


9. I can accept criticism without feeling
put down

Self Esteem Test


9. I can accept criticism without feeling
put down

Self Esteem Test


10. I admit my mistakes openly

When High Self Esteem is a Bad


Thing
Being prone to self satisfed boasting
Tending to be smug and superior
Abusing relationships, assuming their needs
come frst in any situation. If this doesnt
happen, they will become angry and bullying
Adopting an air of superiority, simply because
they have skill or luck in a particular area of life
Being blind to their own faults and so are
unlikely to change or improve themselves
Tending to have impulse control problems

Quick Tips to Help Improve SelfEsteem


Don't Be A Complainer (Everyone has
problems, so why should yours be greater than
others?)
Learn to Relax (it is important to be quiet and
to unwind)
Boost Your Own Morale (Allow yourself a
treat from time to time, especially if you have
overcome a hurdle in personal presentation)
Learn to be Assertive (Stand up for what you
believe in and do not be pressured by others.)

Get in Touch With Your Hidden


Narcissist
A little bit of self-love is good for our
self-esteem.
Loving the things we own is one form
of this expression of healthy selfesteem.

Get in Touch With Your Hidden


Narcissist
endowment effect - in which you
place greater value on things you
already own than the things you
dont have in your possession.

Get in Touch With Your Hidden


Narcissist
mere ownership effect - We value
the things we own because we see
them as an extension of our own
identity.