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Anger

Management
Breohn Anderson

Anger in relation to the


Bible
They say in the bible that thou
shall not kill but in a quote in the
bible it says "I'm telling you that
anyone who is so much as angry
with a brother or sister is guilty of
murder" (Matthew 5:22).
So God is saying taking anger out
on some is just as sinful as a
murder.

Anger Value
Anger is a valuable signal, because it lets
us know when something is wrong or a
when there is a problem, It does not solve
the problem. Things that happen
We want something and are not getting it
From past experience, we expect trouble
We have feelings of powerlessness
Sad Feelings
Etc.

3 Options
confronting Anger
1. You can choose to react angrily or not
2. You can become aware of what you are
feeling.
3. You can be aware of the intensity of
your anger, if you are in control of your
anger, it controls you.

Causes Of Anger
Anger is caused by external events
called provocations, which create angry
thoughts, angers arousal, and angry
actions.
6 Major Causes
Dependency Relationships ,Resentment
Grief, Victim Mentality
Abusive Relationship, Low Self-Esteem

Ten steps to
Control Anger
1. Make a list of things that make you mad, and
memorize it.
2. Talk about your feelings, let people know when
something is bothering you.
3. When you feel angry, do something with the energy.
Slowly breathe in and out ten times. On the exhale,
spread your fingers.
4. When you feel the urge to strike out at at someone,
raise your shoulders, as you breathe in deeply;
rapidly lower your shoulders as you exhale. Notice
your jaw muscles, shoulders, chest, and torso
muscles.

Ten Steps to Control


your Anger cont.
5. Make peace with yourself and the person

who is the object of your anger. Forgive


yourself first. Than apologize to the
other person for the lack of control
6.Mentally visualize two paths. Have one of

these paths be positive, pleasant, and


full of light. Have the other path be
dark, gloomy, and depressive. Then
send your angry feeling down the dark
path and over the cliff.

Ten Steps
7.Notice if you feel like yelling, screaming,
or hitting. Before you act on your
anger, think of why you are angry. Is
your angry feelings legitimate, or did
you create a situation to justify your
need to be angry.
8.Talk your way through your anger. Tell
yourself you can change from being a
reactor of your emotions to being a
processor. Notice your thoughts,
change negative thoughts to positive.
9.Change the image you have of yourself

Myths
That all anger is unhealthy or
destructive
That anger is an all-or-nothing
phenomenon
If you dont let your anger out, it builds
and explodes out
That angry people yell and scream a lot
That anger management means keeping
your mouth shut.

Facts
Not all anger is unhealthy or Destructive
Sometimes Anger is Justified

Anger is not an All-or-Nothing Phenomenon


Anger typically occurs in degrees, ranging
from mild annoyance to rage

It is not always necessary to let your anger


out
Anger does not work like steam in a kettle. It
is not necessary to release it in order to
avoid explosion

Facts Cont.
Not all angry people yell or scream
Many people keep their anger to
themselves or show it in their behavior

Anger and its


effects on the
body

It can speed up the


heart rate

Blood pressure rises


as blood vessels
constrict

Frequent anger may


speed up the process
of atherosclerosis

Doctors now consider


a hear disease risk

Definition of
Anger
Anger
Noun- A strong feeling of
displeasure and belligerence
aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.
Verb- To arouse anger or wrath in

Personal
Relations
I think Anger Management has helped
me since 6th grade where I was mostly
angry and a lot of people perceived as
an angry kid
I think the main reason I was angry
because I felt lonely and even though I I
had a lot of friends I was still lonely so
that brought my anger and sometimes I
would do something that would damage
me

5 Good Ways of
Anger
Anger Protects
Anger SignalsAnger rules
Anger Talks
Anger Teaches

Brain and Anger


A group of brain structure controls and
our anger such as the limbic system
The frontal lobe of the brain are what
people use to control heir anger

How Anger Shows


up in Families
Criticize you about your grades
Hound you about getting work or chores
done
Question you about things in your life
you prefer to keep private
Refuse to allow you to go places or see
friends
Limit your use of computers, video
games, cell phones, TV, or other things

Passive Aggressive
Anger
Meaning : People showing their anger
indirectly so they dont have to admit
their mad.

Displaced Anger
Meaning: People often doing things
unconsciously

Anger in
relationships/
Triggers
Your partner doesnt call when he says
he will
Your partner ignore your phone calls or
text messages
You see your partner talking to another
girl or boy
You catch your partner in about where
they have been

Your partner dumps you and doesnt


have the guts to tell you face to face,
but breaks up with you by email or
through someone else
You feel you partner is spending too
much time with he friends

Jealousy
The biggest source of anger in
relationships
Its a mixture of insecurity, fear, and
anger

HATE
Is the feeling of extreme dislike and
anger toward someone
Hate is the angriest thing you can say
to someone
HATE is when you are unwilling to let go
of that anger
That built up hate and anger can cause
you to stress and and physically harm
yourself

Signs of anger
turning into Hate
You often think about the person
youre angry at
You burn inside when someone even
mentions the persons name
You feel a need to tell other how you
were hiurt, wanting them to feel your
anger too
You start seeing yourself as completely
innocent and the other person as totally
at fault, instead of admitting your role
in the problem

You often think of ways to get revenge


You feel intense anger weeks and even
months later

What leads to
anger in
friendships
Gossip
Keeping secrets
Competitiveness
Teasing and name calling
Balancing Time between Friends and
Dating Partners

Being Able to
handle anger in
friends
Be clear on what you expect from
friends
Dont let your anger build up

Disorders and
Anger
ADHD- you get angry quickly without
thinking about how you express
Your anger doesnt last very long, and
you may regret your action later
School is likely frustrating for you and
contribute stress and anger poblems

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)


Responding no whenever parents or
others in authority ask them to do
something
Losing their temper easily
Being easily annoyed
Annoying others on purpose
Blaming other people for their own
mistakes
Wanting to get revenge on people who
they think have done them wrong

Conduct Disorder- Usually violate the


rights of the others , over and over
again.
Bullying others
Starting fights
Using a weapon to threaten or hurt
others
Being physically cruel to others or
creature
Destroying property

Sources
www.selfgrowth .com
www.angermgmt.com