DEFINITION OF PARENTING:

the role of parent in raising their children

so that they will be
growing up to be a well-manner
person.

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Vandalism

Smoking
among the
underage

The declining
problem
among
teenagers:

These
are due
too?

PROPER MARRIAGE
What are the characteristics
that do you want for your
spouse?

HADITH:
A

women may be chosen for her wealth, or

for her beauty, or for her nobility or for her
religion. So choose a religious women and
hold fast to her (Bukhari and Muslim).

IN THIS TOPIC, WE WILL COVER ON:

Discipline
Parents

and control

responsibility

Childrens
Religious

responsibility

training

DISCIPLINE AND
CONTROL

Advantages of Discipline

ADVANTAGES OF DISCIPLINE
Safety

from physical and moral danger

Avoid wrong influences
A chance to be successful
Feels loved and secured

DISCIPLINE AND
CONTROL

What to Control?

WHAT TO CONTROL?
Going

out
Friends
Language
Time
Behaviour

PARENTS
RESPONSIBILITIES

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
Earning
the

livelihood

fathers(the husbands)are entrusted with the

responsibility of earning livelihood for their
families.Children need food, they need clothes to
wear, they need medicine to be taken care of in
case of illness etc. All this requires money; it is
fathers duty to earn money so that the needs of
his children (as well as himself and his other
dependants) are taken care of.

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
Taking

care of childrens needs at

home during their upbringing
upbringing

of the children is one of the biggest

responsibilities of being a mother.It starts from
the time a child spends in the womb of mother,
goes through the time the mother provides the
child breastfeeding, till the child grows up to take
care of his/her needs himself/herself.

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
Providing
Arranging

education

money for childrens education is also a

very big responsibility of parents, primarily of
fathers. Every parental couple is supposed to
arrange education for their kids as per their
capability

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
Providing
Every

Islamic knowledge

child is born as a Muslim, whether he/she is

born to parents following any religion. Then it is
the upbringing that develops his/her personality
and the ideology. It is the responsibility of parents
to teach their children about Islamic values.

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
Other

responsibilities

Parents

should also ensure that they are always

with their children supporting them in their just
ambitions/goals
Parents should present themselves as an example
for their kids

CHILDREN S
RESPONSIBILITY

CHILDRENS RESPONSIBILITY

Listen to the advices

as long as in line with syara
Eg: ask us to steal.

Respect
Calling

the parents

them with appropriate address.

Hadith :
When someone asked Hasan (Radiallahu Anhu) as to
what the lowest degree of disrespect was, he replied,
To deprive them of the benefit of your property and
wealth, to avoid seeing them and to look at them
harshly. Another person asked Hasan as to what the
Qaul-e-Karim (gracious word) meant. He replied, To
address them lovingly (as Abba or Ammi) and to
avoid calling them by their names.

even

though our parent is a criminal or nonmuslim, we should respect them.

Ibne Abbas (Radiallahu Anhu) has said that two
doors of Jannah will remain open for every
Muslim whose parents are alive and he serves
them well, while if he keeps them unhappy, Allah
Taala will not be pleased with him until they are
pleased with him. Someone asked, What if they
are cruel? Ibne Abbas replied, Then too you
must remain good to them.

Love

them

they

love us since we cannot even speak

and walk
One of the deeds that we can for them is
make a dua.

Help

them

reduce

their burdens by helping with the

housework or bring them drinks.

Perform

Be

our duty of 5 daily prayers

a pious son/daughter because the dua of the

pious children is the greatest wealth for the
parents.

Dont

higher our voice to them

"If one of them (your parents), or both of them attain old

age, do not even tell them oof! (or anything else that may
cause them hurt) and do not rebuke them (even though
they may be at fault). (Always) Speak gently to them (Never
raise your voice when speaking to them. Speak with respect
and never speak harshly to them).

 Lower

for them the wings of humility (always be humble and

softhearted towards them) out of compassion (meekness)
and say, O my Rabb! Show mercy to them (my parents) as
they had (been merciful towards me when they) raised me
when I was young. (Just as parents are merciful towards
their children when their children are little and depend on
them, the children should also show mercy towards their
parents when their parents grow old and depend on them.)
(SURAH AL-ISRA; VERSE 23-24)

 Mujaahid

(Rahmatullah alaih) has said, in the

explanation of this Aayat, that when parents
become aged, you should not complain over
washing their urine and excreta, as they
washed it when you were a baby. Ali
(Radiallahu Anhu) has said that if there was
any degree of disrespect below uttering "oof",
Allah Taala would (probably) have forbidden it.

RELIGIOUS TRAINING OF CHILDREN

RELIGIOUS TRAINING OF CHILDREN

Righteous

man and woman with great intelligent

Good moral and spiritual values
Become the consolation for the eyes of the parents

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES
To guide and provide the children with religious education.
Parents are accountable for their children
Prophet Muhammad (s) said:
Every one of your (people) is responsible, and everyone is
responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like
a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them.
(Bukhari and Muslim).

BELIEF
I.

In Allah

Expose children to:

)Existence of God
)Nature and science
)Books and films that show people with firm faith in Allah
a)

Help children build a strong and everlasting

relationship with Allah
)Educate children to love Allah, put trust in Him and ask
from Him all their needs
)Parents should not give them the idea that Allah will
punish humans for every mistake they commit
b)

In the Hereafter
)Death and the life hereafter
)Idea of death and the after should be introduced
continuously
)To give impression that all human are not immortal
II.

RITUALS
Educate and encourage children to worship Allah
How to pray, recite Quran, fast during Ramadhan and etc
Ensure the most important action in Islam, the five daily prayers is
done properly and regularly. The Prophet (S) said:

Teach your children the prayer when they are seven, and beat them if
they do not recite it when they are ten.

 Force

children to pray if they do not want to do so when

they have already baligh
Expose them to worship at an early age
Observe children when they first begin to pray by
themselves
Pray with the children
Do not leave the children to pray alone

MORALS
Key

to virtuous life
Teach children about noble characteristics and avoid bad
characteristics
Simple discussion or a small reminder
Never underestimate the effect of words and deeds on the
hearts of the children