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:Presented By
Ahmed El Aawar
CHALLENGES
My Children
My Family
MEN Say:
“ I only need Trust , Appreciation & Time for myself .”
Why Woman act this Way!!!
CHALLENGES
• Our Children’s generation is a disaster. What will they
become .How will they treat us when they grow up !!!
• BAD Influences are every where !
- TV .
- CLUB .
- BAD Friends .
- People’s Moralities
BUT
NO ONE IS COOPERATING!!!
CHALLENGES
• Sometimes my child really Embarasses me in front of
people , I really do not know what to do?!
Personalit
What youysay and do 20%
What people can see
Charact
80%
er really are
What you
Your inside
Personality and character Ethics
:Personality
Say
Do
20%
Skills & techniques
Public
Lubricate the process
Of human interaction
Character:
Integrity
Fidelity
Humility
Patience
Justice
80%
Modesty, simplicity
Courage, temperance
Character:
Integrity
Fidelity
Humility
Patience
Justice 80%
من أصلح سريرته
أصلح ال علنيته ,
Modesty, simplicity و من أصلح ما بينه و بين نفسه
أصلح ال ما بينه و بين الناس
Courage, temperance
نية المؤمن خير من
عمله
ACTS AND BEHAVIOUR ARE FORMED FROM:
[=
KNOWLEDGE.1
20%
SKILLS/ABILITIES.2
PARADIGM.3 [= 80%
Paradigm
Paradigm lens
YOU
VALUE
S SEE
PRINCIPLES
DO THINK
Paradigm Shift
S SEE
PRINCIPLES
ً “ ولن تجد لسنة الله تبديل ً ولن تجد لسنة الله تحوي
“ل
صدق ال العظيم
Maturity Continuum
It is the outline of the
(Seven habits of highly effective people)
Dependence YOU
Independence I
Interdependence WE
Interdependence
5 Seek 1st to 6
Understand Public Synergize
.. Victory
7
4 Think Win/Win
Sharpen
The saw Independence
3 Put 1st things 1st
Private 2
1
Be proactive Victory
Begin with end
in mind
Dependence
Habit One
Be Proactive
Habit One: Be Proactive
:Pavlov Theory
Animals
!!!not humans
أضل“
صدق ال العظيم
هم بل كالنعام ”أولئك
Habit One:
.(Be Proactive (Contd
Proactive Model
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
Be a Transitional Figure
Freedom to choose
Different response
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
• Reactive Persons • Proactive Persons
Reactive Proactive
Negative energy Positive Energy
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
• All the problems we face can be:
– Direct Control: yourself
– Indirect Control: others
– No Control: weather- natural catastrophes
• Believe this: You always have the 1st key for
solving the problem
Habit One:
Be Proactive (Contd.)
• Conclusions:
– You are the programmer of your life.
– Do not live to eat and have pleasure or you do not deserve
to be a human.
– Work on your Circle of Influence.
Center
Power
Habit Two:
Begin with the end in mind
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or
What is your CENTER?! Se
W Friends
lf
M
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What most makes You happy? e y
u se n
o F am o
What most Irritates you? Sp ily ss
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s
Po
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ea
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Habit Two:
Begin with the end in mind
Family Money
Friend Possession
PRINCIPLES
Pleasure
Spouse
Self Work
• Conclusions:
– Know yourself, know your center
URGENCY
Habit Three:
Put first Things First
1 2
Vision, perception
Balance
Discipline
Control
Few Crises
A Proactive Person
Habit Three:
Put first Things First
• Conclusions:
– Live your program but put first things first.
– Schedule your properties but do not prioritize your
schedule.
– Give your sleeping tiger a twist in the tail.
– What you are able to do is much more that you
actually do.
Private Victory
• Working on the 80%:
character, paradigm
• Private victory precedes
public victory.
• Without private victory
Chronic Pains: from
inside 80%
PRINCIPLES
CENTERED
PARADIGM
Acute pains: from others
Paradigm Shift
Emotional Bank
(+)DEPOSIT (-)WITHDRAWEL
100+ 300-
500+ 200-
600+ 700-
1100= 1200=
Emotional Bank:
Six Main Deposits
• Understanding People
– man/women, children, different centers.
• Attending to little things:
– Little things are the big things
• Keeping Commitments
Emotional Bank:
Six Main Deposits
• Clarifying expectations
– ALLAH, marriage
– Lose/Win
– Lose/Lose
• Psychomosotic
• Devil
– Win/Lose
• selfish
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach
• Character:
– Integrity:
• Union between character and personality
– Maturity:
• Courage to express your opinion and respect and
appreciate the others’
– Abundance Mentality:
• There is always room for everyone
• Opposite to scarcity mentality: selfishness
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Lose/Win Win/Win
Lose/Lose Win/Lose
noit ar e di s no C
Courage
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach (Contd.)
• Relationships:
– Based on emotional bank
– Aware of the account
– Many withdrawals less trust no win/win
• Agreements:
– Agree on: targets, plans, methods, consequences,
good or bad
• Systems and processes: Gods’ system
Habit Four:
Think Win/Win
• Conclusions:
– It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a better
way.
– Win/Win means courage and consideration
– Integrity, maturity, abundance mentality
– There is always room for everyone
– Be aware of your emotional bank accounts
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand
then to be understood
Habit Five:
….Seek first to understand
• We were taught how to talk, walk, write but to
listen….????
COLLECTIVE MONOLOGUE
(THE DIALOGUE OF DEATH!!!(
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Listening:
– 7%: words
7%
– 38%: vocals
55%
– 55%: non-verbal 38%
• impressions
• Eye looks (100%
expressing)
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Levels of listening:
– Ignorive
– Pretentive: nodding and humming
– Selective
– Attentive: focus on the words
– Empathic:
• Listens to understand
• Gets what behind the words
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• BECAUSE WE LISTEN THROUGH OUR OWN
PARADIGM WE TEND TO:
-Probe
- Evaluate
- Interpret
- Advice
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
Levels of misunderstanding:
1. Appearance: age, gender, language, clothing
2. Association: work, education, home, club
3. Interests: hobbies, friends
4. Thoughts
5. Values and believes: paradigm
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
1
You can never understand a 20% 2
3
person if you listen to him 4
5
– Pathos (20%):
• From passion: express your emotions
– Logos (10%):
• From logic: make sense
Habit Five:
Seek first to understand….
• Conclusions:
– Empathic listening is the essence of human
communication.
– If you do your best to understand people, indeed they
will understand you.
– Do not jump to conclusions
– More understanding more trust more influence
Habit Six:
Synergize
Habit Six:
Synergize
• The essence of synergy is to:
– Value differences
– Respect others
– Build on strength
– Compromise for weakness
Respectful (Compromise)
TS URT
COOPERATION
DRIVING VS RESTRAINING
FORCE
• It is all about:
– Self-renewal
– P/PC balance
Habit seven:
Sharpen your saw
Physical
Exercise, nutrition
Stress management
Mental Social/Emotional
Reading, RENEWAL Synergy, empathy
Planning, Family activities,
Visualizing Social activities
Spiritual
Religious activities,
Prayers
BALANCE Effectiveness
Habit seven:
Sharpen your saw
DO
Commit Learn
Commit
Do Learn
Do Commit
Learn
Do Commit
Learn