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assertiveness
How to speak and hear each other, across cultures
Semester 1
3h, 11&12 September 2017
Agenda
How do we speak & listen to each
other - interculturally?
■ Assertiveness & role play
■ Language and microskills
■ Why?
Literature
Hartley, P (1999) Does Assertiveness Work?
Chapman, E (1991) Are You Sufficiently Assertive?
Hays, J (1991) Listening
Qingxue, Liu (2003) Understanding Different Cultural
Patterns or Orientations Between East and West
How do you get your message across, for instance, if you are trying to
convince a reluctant group of people to change behaviour in favour of
a healthier lifestyle?
How can you be assertive and respectful at the same time, and be so
across cultures that have other values and forms of address?
This class focuses on assertiveness and microskills and opens up for
a dialogue on ways to speak forcefully and respectfully, across
cultures.
AGGRESSIVE
Assertive
ASSERTION
The art of expressing yourself
To act in your own interest,
to stand up for your own ideas
and opinions without
unnecessary worries
Assertively
Gain respect by holding to your rights and
act in own interest without compromising
the rights of others’ (appropriate amount
of action in the right time)
Aggressively
Invite trouble by sticking to your rights by
attacking others, block further
communication
(too much, too fast)
How the message
is perceived?
Choose one:
Choose one:
A taxi driver puts his hand on your thigh, while you are
driving
Your best friend is trying to “conquer” your boyfriend/
girlfriend
You are a vegetarian and at a dinner party where meat is
served… on your plate
HANDOUT
Small role plays for aggressive,
submissive & assertive behaviour:
Choose one:
You don’t like beer and wine, and you don’t want to drink
when you are pushed to drink at a party
Your find out that your friend is reading your diary without
your permission
Your classmate has a very bad-smelling breath
HANDOUT
Small role plays for aggressive,
submissive & assertive behaviour:
Choose one:
Choose one:
Your best friend bums cigarettes off you, again and again
Your friend always speaks about him-(or her)self without
asking how you are doing
Somebody calls you egoistic and self-centred while other
people are listening
LANGUAGE
AND
MICROSKILLS
Giraffe language
What
characterises
a giraffe?
For non-violent
communication
The listener
Agenda for listening.
Motivation (expectations)
Physical condition
Linguistic aptitude (comprehension)
The message
Structure & clarity. Is it messy, Amount of detail?
Based on stereotypes? Is it significant for listener
The environment
Setting, culture. Level of noise, ventilation.
View, presence of others.
Are you aware and skilled?
MICROSKILLS
Active listening
Questionning
Refers to specific competencies for Non-verbal cue
communicating effectively with others Communication
Observation
Basic communication skills Empathy
Relevant for social workers, mental health
practitioners, and other helping professionals
Training to provide essential building blocks for
counseling, therapy, advocacy, mediation, and
other methods of intervention.
MICROSKILLS: a professional is able to…
paraphrase,
reflect on feelings,
summarize,
ask open and closed questions,
provide factual information,
use minimal prompts, and
use body language and facial expressions to
demonstrate listening and interest in what the
other person is communicating
Factors influencing listening
Distractions from other senses: sight, smell, touches
Intensity (in voice, colours) contrast, movement
Interest
Expectations
Personal needs