Nature and definition of Marriage and

Family
 Humankind’s most basic and oldest social unit is the
family.

 The family is the primary group where the child is

initially socialized and initiated in the ways of life of
his group. The family provides the child’s social,
psychological, and emotional need – warmth, intimacy,
affection, love, nurturance, care and security. thus, the
family has been called “the nursery of human nature”.
The New Family Code of the Philippines, effective
on Aug. 3, 1988,defines MARRIAGE as a
special contract of permanent union between a
man and a woman entered in accordance with
law for the establishment of conjugal and family
life.
Two views or aspects of marriage:
1. Legal point of view that posits that marriage is
a contract.

2. Religious point of view posits that marriage is

a sacrament.
 The meaning of Marriage and the
Family Issue
The most traditional social norms views marriage
as a sacred phenomenon; the phrase “marriage are
made in heaven” is in many ways consistent with the
perspective.
A second traditional norms views the meaning of
marriage and family as centering primarily on social
obligation.
A third meaning of marriage suggested that families
and the marital relationship exist for the individual.
 IMPORTANT LEGAL MATTERS
ON MARRIAGE

Essential requisites for marriage (art. 2)

Formal requisites of marriage (art.
3,4,35(a),45)
Annulment of marriage (art. 45)
Legal separation (art. 55)
 FORMS OF MARRIAGE
1. Monogamy- Marriage between one man and
one woman.
2. Polygamy or plural marriage- 1 wife and 2
or more husbands. ex. Muslim nations.
a. Polyandry- 1 wife and 2 or more husbands
ex. hindu todas of southern india.
b. Group marriage- 2 or more husbands and 2
or more wives. Ex. Kaingang of brazill the
diere of australial the chukchee of siberian &
the Marquesan islanders.
Basis on choosing a marriage partner
1.Parental Selection or Arranged Marriage
2.Romantic Love  Money
Reasons why people marry:  Protection
 Love  Sex and Sexual
attraction
 Economic security  Acceptance of
 Emotional security responsibility
 Parent’s wish  Care and Nurturance
 Adventure
 Escape from loneliness
 Parenthood
 Common interest  Marital bliss &
 Physical attraction happiness
 Compatibility
Definition and Nature of Family
Burgess and Locke(1963) define the family as
a group of persons united by tie of marriage,
blood or adoption, and communication with each
other.
Light(1985) defines the family as a group of
people who are united by ties of marriage,
ancestry or adoption and who are recognized b the
community as constituting a single household and
as having the responsibility for rearing children.
Murdock(1949) defines the family as a social
group characterized by common residence,
economic cooperation and reproduction.
 Patterns of Family Organization

A. Based on internal organization or membership

1. Nuclear Family
a. The family of orientation
b. The family of procreation
2. External Family
-Conjugal Family
-Consanguineal Family
B. Based on descent
1. Bilateral descent
2.Patrilineal descent
3. Matrilineal descent
C. Based on Residence
1.Patrilocal
2.Matrilocal
3.Neolocal
4.Bilocal

D. Based on Authority
1.Patriarchy
2.Matriarchy
3.Equalitarian or Egalitarian
4. Matricentric
Characteristics of the Family
1. The family as a social group is universal.
2. It is the first social group to which the
individual is exposed.
3. Family contact and relationships are
repetitive and continuous.
4. The family is a very close and intimate
group.
5. It is the setting of the most intense
emotional experiences during the lifetime
of the individual.
6. The family affects the individual’s social
values, disposition and outlook in life.
7. The family has the unique position of
serving as a link between the individual
and the larger society.
8. The family is also unique in providing
continuity of social life.
9. The family also serves as the individual’s
first and foremost school where every child
learns the basic lessons.
10. Providing maintenance of order
11. Providing placement of members in the
larger society
12. Maintaining motivation and morale
Functions of the Family

1. Sexual regulation
2. Biological reproduction
3. Organizing production and consumption
4. Socializing children
5. Providing emotional intimacy and support
6. Providing care and attention
7. Providing social status
8. Providing mechanism for social control
Roles of Husband and wife

Man = leader/assumes responsibility

Woman = subject to their husband
(helpmate)
1. planning
2. decision-making
3. responsibility (accept)
4. protecting those under one’s care
5. to provide for the needs
Unions in marriage?

IT MUST BE TOTAL.

- entered into freely
- and to be permanent – it must grow in
the passing of years
- it must take place in all levels

The OPPOSITE of Love is not hatred but

SELFISHNESS!
If you are selfish, you will always
complain!
You will only remember the sufferings
You will always tell your disappointments!

YOU DON’T SUBORDINATE YOUR

HOME TO YOUR WORK!!!!
INFIDELITY is the greatest sin against
union!
Definition and Nature of Family Planning
 Family planning define as the process by
which responsible and mature couples plan for the
proper spacing of their children. Family planning
involves three main aspects:
1. Responsible parenthood
2. Proper spacing of children
3. Birth control
 Family Planning involves the rational
utilization of effective contraceptive methods by
married couples so they can space and limit their
children; Contraceptive means to prevent
unwanted pregnancy.
 NORMS ON FAMILY PLANNING

1. Medical Norms/consideration
2. Economic consideration
3. Population growth
4. Psychological Norms
Population policy and programs
R.A 6365 created the Population Commission (POPCOM)
In1971. the Main goal is to enhance national development
by meeting the social challenge of a high rate of
population growth. Population Education is the
process of developing awareness and understanding of
population situations also the attitude and behavior to
the situation.
Contraceptive (birth control methods &
techniques)
1.Chemical Method
-Pill or oral contraceptive
-”Morning – after pill”
-Implants
2.Sterilization or Surgical Method
-Tubal Ligation
-Vasectomy
3.Mechanical or Barrier Methods
-Male condom or prophylactic latex
-Female condom
-Diaphragm/Cervical Cap
-Sponge
4.Natural Family Planning Methods
8 techniques of NFP are:
-The rhythm (or calendar) method
-Cervical mucus method
-Basal body temperature (BBT)
-Sympto-thermal method
 -Withdrawal or coitus interruptus
-Protonged Lactation or Lactational Amenorrhea
(LAM)
-The douches
5. Intra-uterine device (IUD)
Current research on birth control
A new male condom made of poyurethane is one
type of birth control; a contraceptive vaccine for
men currently in development contains a
hormone that appears to interface with production
of both sperm and the male sex hormone
testosrone.
 Change and Challenge our families face
today
Marriage are dissolving with increasing
frequency due to abandonment, separation,
family squabbles and disorganization.
Unwed motherhood and single parenthood are
increasingly common
The onset of the “electronic age.”
Generation ago the parents, siblings, and
teachers were the most visible and
powerful role models.
Mass poverty has forced mothers and
fathers to seek work here and abroad,
leaving for their children’s future.
The rising case of child abuse and child
labor expose
Drug addiction, alcoholism, violence
and sexual relation
Sexual revolution, premarital
relationship, live-in, abortion and many
more.
General results of these changes and modern trends
 It creates fewer positive role model relationship, less
sense of community, less development of family
relationship, less sense of bonding and
responsibility; it result greater disciplinary problems,
delinquency and crime.

 More and more children live with just one parent,

less attention and time for their children; kids who
come home with an empty house.
The kids are suffering, teenagers got the
feeling of painful loneliness, separateness,
suicide, dropouts, crime, pregnancy, and
drug abuse
More and more families are broken and
disorganized.
 The basis of biblical parenting
1. Don’t be hard on your children (eph.6:4)
2. Start the child on the right road (prov. 22:6)
3. Discipline your children while they are young
enough to learn (prov.14:24; prov. 29:15)
4. Don’t provoke your children to anger (col.3:21)
5. Parents should provide for their children (II cor.
12:14)
6. Help children defeat the evil one in the world
7. Let children seriously take what you are telling
them (Prov.4:10-12)
 How do you raise kids these days?
(ways to successful parenting)
1. Lead your children
2. Do not withhold praises but don’t be too
generous with them either.
3. Emphasize the child’s positive rather than
negative behavior.
4. Allow your child to fight his own battle.
5. Create an atmosphere of peaceful home.
6. Be a good role model.
7. Treasure the time you spend with your
children.
8. Use actions not words.
9. Let children be responsible of their actions.
10.Withdraw from conflict.
11. Separate the sees from the doer.
12. Be kind and firm at the same time.
13. Be consistent.
14. Nurture your child’s self-esteem.
15. Make communications a priority.
16. Be flexible and willing to adjust your
parenting style.