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FUNDAMENTALS OF
MARRIAGE & FAMILY
Olumuyiwa Oludayo, Ph.D
Director, ALDC
TMC 521
JANUARY 19, 2017
Discussion Framework
• Introduction
• What is Marriage?
• Principles of Marriage
• What is a Family?
• Preparing for Marriage
• Closing Remarks
• Recommended Texts
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Introduction
Introduction
• God made man for
relationship.
• And the Lord God said, It is
not good that the man should
be alone; I will make an help
meet for him. (Genesis 2:18)
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• God made marriage for
partnership.

• God made marriage for


helpers.
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• Marriage recognises
uniqueness of man.

• Marriage recognises
complementary qualities.
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• Marriage recognises
limitations of man.

• Marriage is a like a steel-


reinforced concrete
material.
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•Marriage colours
effort and covers our
errors
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• Marriage eliminates
isolation and loneliness.

• Marriage initiates
involvement and inclusion.

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• Marriage brings to being
that which doesn't exist.

• Marriage brings individual


components together to be
one.
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What is Marriage?
What is Marriage?
• The state of being united to a
person of opposite sex as
husband or wife in a
consensual and contractual
relationship recognised by
law.
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What is Marriage?

• It is the coming together of


two people of opposite sex,
with a view to building a
God-centred home. - Faith
Oyedepo
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What is Marriage?

• It is a covenant relationship
that goes beyond
procreation and mere co-
habitation. - Faith Oyedepo

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What is Marriage?
• A legally recognized social
contract between two
people, traditionally based
on a sexual relationship
and implying a
permanence of the union.
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What is Marriage?
• A Christian marriage is the
soil for growing glory.
• Spouses must see
themselves in the light of
what they are going to
become.
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Principles of Marriage
Principles of Marriage
• Marriage is a covenant, a
sacred bond between a man
and a woman instituted by and
publicly entered into before
God and normally
consummated by sexual
intercourse.
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Principles of Marriage
• The permanence of
marriage: Marriage is
intended to be permanent,
since it was established by
God (Matthew 19:6; Mark
10:9).
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Principles of Marriage
• The sacredness of marriage:
Marriage is not merely a human
agreement between two
consenting individuals (a "civil
union"); it is a relationship
before and under God (Genesis
2:22).
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Principles of Marriage
• The intimacy of marriage:
Marriage is the most intimate
of all human relationships,
uniting a man and a woman in
a "one-flesh" union (Genesis
2:23 -25).
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Principles of Marriage
• The mutuality of
marriage: Marriage is a
relationship of free self-
giving of one human being
to another (Ephesians 5:25-
30).
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Principles of Marriage
• The exclusiveness of
marriage: Marriage is not
only permanent, sacred,
intimate, and mutual; it is
also exclusive (Genesis
2:22-25; 1 Corinthians 7:2-5).
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What is a Family?
What is a Family?
• A socially recognized group
(usually joined by blood,
marriage, or adoption) that
forms an emotional
connection and serves as an
economic unit of society.
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What is a Family?
• Traditionally, and legally, the
family refers to two or more
persons related by birth,
marriage, or adoption who
reside together in a
household.- U.S. Census
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What is a Family?
• Social Institution
supported by marriage.
• System of Interdependent
parts espoused in status,
roles, values & beliefs.
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Preparing for Marriage


Preparing for Marriage
• Proverbs 18:22
▪Whoso findeth a wife
findeth a good thing,
and obtaineth favour of
the Lord
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Preparing for Marriage: Qualifiers
• Born Again: 2 Cor. 6:14
• Weaned: Gen. 2:24
• Independent: Gen. 2:8
• Working: Gen. 2:15
• Unmarried: Gen. 2:18
• Intelligent: Gen. 2:19-20
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Preparing for Marriage: Discerning
the Specific Person

• Amos 3:3
▪Can two walk together
except they be agreed.

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Preparing for Marriage: Discerning
the Specific Person
• Genesis 24: 63-67
▪Heart Connection: vs 64,
Heb. 5:12-14
▪Compatibility: vs 66
‒Cultural (Jacob & Laban)
‒Social (Personality & Style)
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Preparing for Marriage:
Steps to Marriage – D. Oyedepo
1. Propose: Say your intention
2. Preparation: Courting
3. Proceed: Notify all concerned
4. Promote: Take practical steps
5. Protect: Flee from lust
6. Protest: Reject anti-faith item
7. Possess: March to the altar
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Closing Remarks
Closing Remarks
• Marriage was instituted to
accomplish:
• Companionship
• Support
• Sexual Satisfaction
• Procreation
• Chastity
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Recommended Texts
• Building a Fulfilling Marital
Relationship - Gbile Akanni
• Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
- Funmi Akingbade
• Intimate Allies - Dan Allender
& Tremper Longman
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Recommended Texts
• Success in Marriage - David & Faith
Oyedepo
• Making Marriage Work - Faith A.
Oyedepo
• Marriage Covenant - David & Faith
Oyedepo
• Building a Successful Family - Faith
A. Oyedepo
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