How do you perceive yourself?

•In what areas do you consider yourself strong?

Or weak?
•Are there qualities you consider as your
weakness but other people consider as your
strength? What are these? Check with a partner.
•How realistic is your self-image?
•To what extent does it reflect your real self?
KNOWING THYSELF
•Imagine yourself
looking into a
mirror.
•What do you
see?
•Do you see your
ideal self or your
actual self?
Ideal Self
•is the self that you aspire
to be.
•It is the one that you
hope will possess
characteristics similar to
that of a mentor or some
other worldly figure.
Actual Self
•is the one you actually
see.
•It is the self that has
characteristics that you
were nurtured or, in
some cases, born to
have.
These two are broad categories of:
Self-concept
•refers to your
awareness of yourself.
•It is the construct that
negotiates these two
selves.
We all suffer from self-illusion.
Self-knowledge is the key to
victories at work and in life.
Self-knowledge
•is derived from social interactions
that provide insight into how
others react to you.
Our actual self is built on self-
knowledge.
Actual self is who
we actually are.
It is how we think,
how we feel, look,
and act.
The actual self can be
seen by others, but
because we have no way
of truly knowing how
others view us, the actual
self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the
other hand, is how we
want to be.
It is an idealized
image that we
developed over time,
based on what we
have learned and
experienced.
The ideal self could
include components
of what our parents
have taught us, what
we admire in others,
what our society
promotes, and what
we think is in our
best interest.
Self-deception can be fatal.
Johari’s Window
 Video

90% of the contents of

our minds are unconscious.
Pride & fear are
the reasons for
most of our
unconscious
contents.
Your irritability is your vulnerability.
We all have our own shadows.
You are both Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde.
People don’t tell us the truth.
Start the process of self-discovery.
There is negotiation that exists between the
two selves which is complex because there are
numerous exchanges between the ideal and
actual self.
Alignment is important.
If the way I am (the actual self) is aligned
with the way that I want to be (the ideal self),
then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or
peace of mind.
If the way that I am is not aligned with what I
want to be, the incongruence, or lack of
alignment, will result in mental distress or
anxiety.
Video
Authenticity leads to better relationships.