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The
The Women Men relationship
relationship
Sports Sex
Sex
Men Pets
Going
thrashing Food bald
Aging Things we Career
Having to shouldn’t Strange ear Aging
pee have eaten & nose hair
growth
Quotes
"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each
other but in looking outward together in the same direction."
--- Antoine de Saint-Exupery
It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but
few have seen it.
--- La Rochefoucauld
"When two people are under the influence of the most violent,
most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they
are required to swear that they will remain in that excited,
abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do
them part.“
--- George Bernard Shaw
ALVY'S VOICE OVER: I THOUGHT OF THAT OLD JOKE,
YOU KNOW, THIS GUY GOES TO A PSYCHIATRIST AND
SAYS, "DOC, MY BROTHER'S CRAZY. HE THINKS HE'S
A CHICKEN." AND, THE DOCTOR SAYS, "WHY DON'T
YOU TURN HIM IN?" AND THE GUY SAYS, "I WOULD,
BUT I NEED THE EGGS." WELL, I GUESS THAT'S
PRETTY MUCH HOW I FEEL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
YOU KNOW, THEY'RE TOTALLY IRRATIONAL AND
CRAZY AND ABSURD AND...BUT, I GUESS WE KEEP
GOING THROUGH IT BECAUSE, UH, MOST OF US NEED
THE EGGS.
---ANNIE HALL
CECILIA: I JUST MET A WONDERFUL NEW MAN. SURE,
HE'S FICTIONAL BUT YOU CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING.
---THE PURPLE ROSE OF CAIRO
---INTERIORS
Early Attraction Factors
14 14 or to wait alone.
The results indicated
12 12
that anxious subjects
10 10 chose to wait with
others more than non-
8 8 anxious subjects.
6 6 Also, a follow-up study
4 4 found that anxious
people preferred to
2 2 wait with other
Choose to wait Choose to wait anxious people
alone with others rather than those who
Attitude similarity and attraction
Attraction toward other person (range = 2-14)
A) COGNITIVE CONSISTENCY
(WE LIKE OURSELVES, THEREFORE WE LIKE THOSE WHO ARE LIKE US)
Republican Disliked
D S S D S
DS S D D
Reject those who are
DDD S S D dissimilar
DDSDDD
S D D S D
S S S S
S S S
End result is that we are
left with similar people to S
interact with
The motivational value of dissimilarity is various other
theories in social psychology:
versus
Higher scores and TAT (men wrote stories) scored for sexual content
greater percent
% of men who called female back
called back when on
this bridge •
Arousal (anxiety) misattributed as partly due to sexual attraction
EATING LIGHTLY AND SELF-PRESENTATION
Basic Premise: People are motivated to behave in ways to enhance their image
• Females have greater number of eating disorders and dieting than males
(emphasis on thin as attractive)
“Undesirable”
Male
“Desirable”
Male
Much better than chance identification of who was being spoken to, a
casual versus intimate friend.
No difference in what was said (transcript analysis). Focus on how
things were said, paralinguistic cues.
Physical Attractiveness
Advantages:
• Greater overall liking (best predictor of desire to date)
• More desirable character traits (e.g., sensitive, warm, intelligent)
• Higher income
• Higher evaluation of work performance
• More lenient treatment in the legal system Often different in
physical
• Better mental health attraction
• Matching Short
Length of
relationship Couple is
Long equal in
physical
attraction
Misattributions of friendly behavior
Routine
Conversation
Female
Viewed female as
Male promiscuous; were attracted to
the female; saw themselves as
flirtatious and seductive
Female
Attraction Ending
Males Females
Relationship-Enhancing Distress-Maintaining
Attribution Attribution
Positive Event
My partner takes me My partner is My partner took
out to an expensive sweet and me out to write the
dinner thoughtful cost off on taxes
Internal, stable, External, unstable,
global specific
Negative Event
Something My partner is
My partner forgot my
unexpected must always uncaring
birthday
have come up and selfish
External, unstable, Internal, stable,
specific global
Sample Liking Scale Items
• Future
Thoughts about Evaluation of
possibilities
interpersonal interaction as good,
interactions average, poor • Strategies