Workshop Sex Education

Discussing
Safer Sex
Comprehensive
Adolescent
Pregnancy Prevention
C.A.P.P.
ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

Objective
Today we will discuss
essential information on
how to speak
to your adolescents about
reproductive health.

This workshop will be divided
into three critical parts:
 Part I: Introductions & Statistics
 Part II: What You Need to Know
 Part III: Healthy Discussion &

Skill Building Practicum

Part I:
Introductions & Statistics
 We will begin by conducting brief
introductions
 Name
 Age of child/children

Pop
Quiz
What percentage of high school students
have had sex?
A:11%
B:89%
C:15%
D:39%
*Of these students, 29% did not use a condom during

their last sexual encounter. Only 8% used other forms
of birth control (pill/shot).
*National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention & Health Promotion
Pop
Quiz
What percentage of students have had
their first sexual experience before their
13th birthday?
 A: 1%
 B: 3%
 C: 5%
 D: 8%

Pop
Quiz
What percentage of high school students report
having had 4 or more sexual partners?
 A:30%
 B:15%
 C: 10%
 D: Less than 5 %

GUESS
What percentage of high school
students reported using drugs or
alcohol before their last sexual act?
19%
* 3% used a needle to inject illegal drugs

More
Facts
 Today we live in a hyper-sexualized culture. Sex

is virtually everywhere.
 Each
year about one million teenage girls
become pregnant in US
 19,000,000 new STI cases are reported in the

U.S. each year & half are among people under
25.

More
Facts
 Accordingto the CDC, 16 is the average age

when most people will have their first sexual
encounter.
 Sex education is a parent’s responsibility.
 Talking
about sex with adolescents is never easy.
Parents usually do it when its too late.

Parents Children
 93% think their own  25% said that oral sex
child has not gone any or going “all the way”
further than “making is part of a tween
out” (kids 11 – 14 years
old) romance
 >50% reported that
they had not discussed
 42% girls had not
discussed about birth
14 of the 24 sex-
control
related topics with  40% had not talked
their sexually active
about refusal skills
teen children  70% boys had not
 50% had not discussed discussed about
condom use or birth condoms and birth
control with their sons control
PART II:
What you need to know

What is
HIV?
H: HUMAN
I: IMMUNODEFICIENCY
V: VIRUS
What is
AIDS?
ACQUIRED
A
:
IMMUNE
I:
DEFICIENCY
D
:
SYNDROME
S
: ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG
Immune System
and its
components
he four bodily fluids that transmit HIV
o Blood
o Semen
o Breast Milk
o Vaginal Secretions

The three transmission routes of HIV
o Unprotected sex
 Oral
 Anal
 Vaginal
o Mother to Child
 Breastfeeding
 Perinatal Transmission
o Sharing Infected Needles

Common
Sexually Transmitted
Diseases
 Chlamydia
• Gonorrhea
• Trichomoniasis
• Syphilis
• Herpes Simplex Virus 1 & 2
• Human Papillomavirus
(HPV)
• Hepatitis B & C
• HIV
• *Pubic Lice ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG
• *Bacterial Vaginosis
What kids need to know by 9
years old
MALE/FEMALE SEX ORGANS/FUNCTION

How boys/girls grow and change
 The new feelings that may come with
these changes
Periods/Nocturnal Emissions
 What they are
 When they might happen and what to do
 Sex and pregnancy
 What sex is
 How babies are made
What older kids & teens need to
know:
Birth control
Different Types
 Over the counter and prescribed
The Methods
 Condoms (Male & Female)
 Birth Control Pill
 Birth Control Patch
 Birth Control Ring
 Intrauterine Device (IUD)
 Depo-Provera Shot
 Implanon
WHAT IF I DON’T KNOW THE ANSWER TO
SOME QUESTIONS?
____________________________
NEVER WORRY ABOUT NOT HAVING ALL THE ANSWERS
“My daughter and I went to the library for a book about

growing up. We read a chapter every night that week.
Both of us enjoyed this special time together.”
The library, educational video’s, approved

government websites, workshops & family
planning clinics are all great sources to facilitate
learning

Part III:
Healthy Discussion &
Skill Building Practicum

4 Steps to Discussing
Safer Sex
 Start now
 Build Trust
 Emphasize values
 Boost self esteem

Start What are the benefits
to starting a
discussion about safer
sex “now” rather than
“later”
Now!
?
Why Now?
 Because it helps children develop
responsible behavior and healthy
attitudes toward sex. Teens who
have discussed sex with their
parents are more likely to wait
longer to begin having sex and to
use contraception.
 Youcan provide accurate information

(so you need to know about it).
Besides, you can reflect the personal
and moral values and principles you
want your children to follow.
• Eagerness & Curiosity
Pre-pubescent children are more openly
curious & eager to learn! Explain how
things work!
• Better Prepared
Discussing sex organs and the body before
a child begins to experience the physical
changes of puberty will make the
transition a lot less traumatic.
Less Tainted
Do not underestimate the things

children hear on the playground or
process from an adult conversation.
By starting the discussion now, you

can provide your child with correct
knowledge as oppose to them
receiving inaccurate information
from friends or the media.
Finding the right
moment
Instead of saying
“it’s time to talk
about… you know,”
let the topic arise
naturally.
Be aware in those
everyday moments
and find the best
opportunity to talk.
Rule of Thumb
*If you discuss sex or sex organ

function with your child and
they appear to be shy or
embarrassed, then you’ve
waited too late to initiate the
discussion.
Build Trust How?
"Even when I’m
busy, I make time
to talk with my
son. I listen to
whatever he has
to say. I’m careful
not to make fun of
the questions he
asks. I want him
to know he can
come to me with
anything he’s
wondering about."
 Listen to your children & answer their questions
honestly. They need to know that you are taking
their questions and comments seriously.
___________________________________________________
Make time to talk:

 Sometimes kids ask questions when we don’t
have time to listen & talk. If this happens, be
sure to make time to talk about it later.
 Be a good listener and consider your kids point of

view.

Respect your child’s feelings
Children’s feelings can get hurt easily.

Losing teeth, voice changes & new body
hair can be very traumatic for a child.
Making fun of a child’s bodily changes is
the easiest way to make them self
conscious and lose trust
MAINTAIN CONFIDENTIALITY

Be Honest
o Keep your sense of humor. If you are
uncomfortable, say so. But explain that it is
important to keep talking.
o Also use words that are understandable and
comfortable according to your children’s
knowledge.
o Children have more trust in a parent that is
open and honest as oppose to a parent that
may act as if they have all of the answers.

WHAT ARE SOME
 Emphasize
OF YOUR
Values
FAMILIES
VALUES?
______________
It is important to talk
about what your
family believes and
why. If you and your
children talk about
your family values in
a practical manner,
your children will
think about them
when they make
choices in life.
Moving beyond Facts
Give them accurate information as well as

talk about the feelings, attitudes and values.
Tell the children about reproduction, even
about intercourse, this is not going to rob
them of innocence. But remember always to
link the anatomic facts to love, caring and
respect involved in a romantic relationship.

Be Direct
State your feelings about specific issues.

For example oral sex or intercourse.
Consider the messages you want your kids
to hear and be open in sharing your
values and concerns. Do not be afraid to
get down to specifics.

Be clear about what you expect from children.
Try saying:
“We think that waiting to have sex, at

least until you’re out of school, is the best
idea. What do you think?
(or)
“What kinds of things do you think might

happen if you have sex as a teen?”

Boost Self
Esteem "How do I help my
kids feel good about
themselves? I spend
time with them. And I
listen! I listen at least
three times as much
as I talk. My kids
know I’m somebody
they can turn to.”
_______________________

Help your
children
As teens, they are making choices everyday

and sometime they don’t know what the right
way is. So you, as parent, give them support
considering pros and cons of choices without
judging them.

 Reassure them
All kids can have a hard time liking themselves.
They may feel confused about the changes
going on in their bodies. Often, they are worried
about being normal, being liked, & “fitting in.”
 Your time = Your support

Show up at school events. Cheer them on in
sports. Accompany them to dance lessons.
Even in passing they can feel your
encouragement & support.
Time is life’s most valued asset

Ask them about what’s going on in their lives and
give them your full attention. Choose to do
something together that they enjoy. Even doing
the dishes or other chores together can help them
feel loved.
Create a climate at home where your children

can ask about sex. Let them know that it is OK
to ask. Having a calm and non-critical
atmosphere for discussions
Encourage them in something THEY enjoy

doing
Assert your permanence
Make sure they know that you love them no
matter what grades they get, no matter what
choices they make, and no matter what problems
they have.
Kids who are loved and supported in this manner

tend to make better choices for themselves and
learn more quickly from their mistakes.

 Know the
Facts!
They want to
know the
information
from you as
you are their
most reliable
source!

Keeping safe
Saying no to a touch
that doesn’t feel right or is
confusing & getting help
right away

Don’ts…
 Donot set aside a special day or time to talk
about sex
 Do not postpone discussions of sex until you

think the adolescent is involved in a
relationship
 Do not try to say everything at once
 Do not overwhelm them with information
 Do not break their privacy

Don't overreact!!!
It just makes things worse!

Chances are if your child does
something you don’t approve of
they already feel terrible for
disappointing you. Speaking
calmly and explaining why you feel
the way you do is more effective
than overreacting.
“Sex Talk” Barriers
 “I don’t want to encourage them to have sex”
 “Idon’t want them to think by talking about

sex I am giving them permission to go do it”
 “My kids took a sex-education class already.

They already know this stuff.
 “My parents never discussed sex with me and I

turned out fine.”
 “Idon’t need to discuss this now. My child

knows that sex is only for married people”
Scenarios/Practicu Role playing is a
m great way to learn
how to prepare, plan
and practice your
reaction to certain
questions or
scenarios.
Next, we will dissect
a number of
different situations
to help build strong
safer sex discussion
skills. ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG
Questions
What happens if my period comes while I’m in
school?
What is an orgasm?
Is oral sex really sex?
What is a virgin?

Questions
Why is there hair on your private parts?
Is it O.K. for me to have a discharge?
Are condoms really necessary? Doesn’t the bible

say that God put us on this earth to reproduce?

Scenarios
While cleaning up one Saturday afternoon, you find
condoms in your 14 year old child’s closet. How
can you initiate a conversation about the
condoms?
___________________________________________________
You come across your 16 year olds daughters
Facebook page and see a picture of her sitting on a
male friends lap. How can you approach her about
the picture?

Scenarios
You hear your 10 year old mindlessly singing a
popular song with lyrics that discuss various
sexual positions and “getting wasted.”
How do you initiate a conversation about the

song lyrics?
How is sexuality portrayed in the media versus

“real life”

Scenarios
You come home early from work to find your
17 year old son making out with another 15
year old girl from the neighborhood. His belt is
unfastened and his pant zipper is halfway down.
How do you solve this problem efficiently?

TIPS ON CONVERSATION INITAITION
Use current events to start the conversation
 She/he may tell you something she heard at

school.
 Someone you know is having a baby.
 You may hear a song on the radio.
 Create a game out of it

(Jeopardy: HIV, STI’s, Genitalia, Puberty)
Conclusion
s
oUnprotected sex –at any age, even once-
can result in pregnancy. Young adolescents are
much less likely to use contraception than are
older adolescents.
oPregnancy at an early age is both physically

and psychologically risky. Teach them the
effects of a pregnancy.
oThe risk of STI’s among teenagers are high.

Make it your mission to educate yourself about
different STI’s, how they are transmitted and
how they effect the future.
Last Words…
We have come to the end of our workshop.
We realize how uncomfortable it may be to discuss
sex with your kids.
The bottom line is that young children and

adolescents need to know how their decisions now
can effect their health & future.
Sex is extremely important and is the core of all

life! Discussing sex and the body with your
children clearly & accurately is one of the best
ways a parent can prepare their child for a
successful adulthood. ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG
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Comments
Concerns?

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Discussing

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 Part I: Introductions & Statistics

 Part II: What You Need to Know

 Part III: Healthy Discussion &

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

*Of these students, 29% did not use a condom during

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

* 3% used a needle to inject illegal drugs

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Today we live in a hyper-sexualized culture. Sex

 19,000,000 new STI cases are reported in the

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Accordingto the CDC, 16 is the average age

 Sex education is a parent’s responsibility.

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

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o Sharing Infected Needles

MALE/FEMALE SEX ORGANS/FUNCTION

“My daughter and I went to the library for a book about

The library, educational video’s, approved

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Boost self esteem

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Youcan provide accurate information

Do not underestimate the things

By starting the discussion now, you

*If you discuss sex or sex organ

Make time to talk:

 Be a good listener and consider your kids point of

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

Children’s feelings can get hurt easily.

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

Give them accurate information as well as

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

State your feelings about specific issues.

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

“We think that waiting to have sex, at

“What kinds of things do you think might

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

As teens, they are making choices everyday

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Your time = Your support

Time is life’s most valued asset

Create a climate at home where your children

Encourage them in something THEY enjoy

Kids who are loved and supported in this manner

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

ACQC- CAPP -EDU- GJ/TG

 Do not postpone discussions of sex until you

 Do not try to say everything at once

 Do not overwhelm them with information

 Do not break their privacy

It just makes things worse!

 “Idon’t want them to think by talking about

 “My kids took a sex-education class already.