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Responsible Sexuality &

Teenage Pregnancy
‘LOVES ME ? :D
…‘LOVES ME NOT ? :(
LOVE , LOVING ,
and ITS RESPONSIBILITIES
Sa LOVE, marami tayong iba’t ibang
feelings & experiences ....
Para Sa Inyo, Ano ba ang Tunay na
Pag-ibig

“PARA SA INYO , ANO BA TOTOONG PAG-


IBIG or LOVE ?”

Do this in plenary; ask for volunteers


what is true love? ….

LOVE … begins with loving


oneself
St. Paul
Loving oneself means……
 Knowing and accepting oneself - your
values in life, strengths, weaknesses,
aspirations, also accepting oneself including
imperfections .....
 Nurturing oneself (pangangalaga)
nurture your physical, mental, psychological,
spiritual growth and development
 Valuing oneself (pagpapahalaga)
 Respecting oneself (Paggalang)
… kung ikaw ay Nagmamahal …
• True Love, “the will to
extend one’s self for the
purpose of nurturing
growth”
M. Scott Peck

• True Love, “to be supremely


concerned for the good of the
other person”
Erich Fromm ,
―kung ikaw ay nagmamahal ....
wala kang gagawin na pwedeng
makasama sa ‘yong minamahal
halimbawa:
– Pananakit
– Sobrang possessiveness
– Pag pasok sa early sex ng
hindi pa handa
– Impluwensyang mag bisyo –
alak, sigarilyo, droga
– Etc
Words to Live by!!
―LOVE … begins with valuing, respecting,
nurturing oneself first and foremost
―Loving another person means ....
caring deeply for that person and being
committed to his or her well-being and
happiness

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Mga Maling Akala
SA
MISCONCEPTION 1: FALLING IN LOVE Is LOVE
• Falling in love is not yet TRUE LOVE
because it is temporary.

• Often a thrilling “KILIG” moments”


experience. More of infatuation

close physical intimacy lalo na kung


bago pa lang ang relationship
MISCONCEPTION 2: PASSIVE or EMOTIONAL
DEPENDENCY
DRUGS
Coz I have become
So dependent on
EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY
nourishes infantilism,
rather than growth

- It is anti –love, which is


nurturing growth
Group Exercise
“PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-
IBIG?”
• Instruction:
― I will read some situations

―Think if the situation reflects PAG-IBIG or MALING


AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

– What effect, if any, do they have on each person?


How does it affect the relationship
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

Mamahalin at
pagsisilbihan sya habang
buhay kahit madalas nya
akong binubogbog,
dahil siya ang itinadhana
sa akin ng bituin at ng
Maykapal
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

“Hindi ako
mabubuhay ng
wala ka, kasi
mahal na mahal
kita”
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

Mahal ko sya at
susuportahan ko sya
na matupad ang mga
pangarap nya
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

In love at kilig na kilig


ako sa girlfriend /
boyfriend ko kasi sya
ang pinaka –popular
sa school / lugar
namin
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

Magpapakamatay
kasi iniwan ng
boyfriend /
girlfriend
PAG-IBIG BA o MALING AKALA SA PAG-IBIG

Super in love at super kilig ako sa


matinee idol kong boyfriend
girlfriend kaya lahat gagawin ko
para sa kanya
Of Letting
Go…
"You don't ever have to feel guilty about
removing toxic people from your life. — you
don't have to make room for people who cause
you pain or make you feel small. if a person
disregards your feelings, ignores your
boundaries, and "continues" to treat you in a
harmful way, they need to go."
— Daniell Koepke

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 Adolescents may rush into close
physical intimacy even though they
might not sure if its true love

 Which may lead to early sexual


initiation
Early Sexual
Initiation
In Caraga Region…. Significant number of
young people engage in sexual risk behaviours
Source: YAFS4

1 in 3 Caraga 1.8% have FUBU


Youth has PMS experience (Philippines:
4%)

4% have engaged
in casual sex (Phils.
7%)

4.5% of males had sex


1.8 % of ever-married with a fellow
youth (including those male (MSM) ,
live-in) have (Phils. 5%)
extramarital sex
Some reasons YP say yes to sex

 CURIOSITY- Curiosity drives


many teenagers to experiment
on sex without knowing its
possible consequences such as
pregnancy

REBELLION – against family or


authority figures, or social
norms.
Some reasons YP say yes to sex
CONFORMITY –most of his / her peers, or even
an assumption that his/ her social group have
already experienced sex. Also peer pressure may
make young people say YES to sex.

SEXUAL CONQUEST –counting the number of


sexual experiences /relationships.

PHYSICAL SATISFACTION – to satisfy one’s


sexual urges, young people say YES to sex
Some reasons YP say yes to sex

“SAVE” THE RELATIONSHIP – sometimes


young people, esp young women, may say YES
to sex because of perception that if they she said
yes to sex, the partner will stay to “save” the
troubling relationship

FEEL INTIMATE AND CARED FOR – for older


youths who have found true love, feel intimate
and cared for, may say YES to sex express
intimate feelings.
KEY POINTS
 Maturity, self-awareness,
discipline, and decision making
skills are required in deciding
readiness for sexual activity

Think 77 –times -77 before you

JUMP into Sex


 Handa ka ba sa responsibilidad
?
Early sexual
initiation may
lead to unplanned
and too early
pregnancy.
Teenage Pregnancy
Girls aged
15-19 years

Pregnancy
rate: 13.6%

(NDHS, 2013
Problem-tree Analysis

“ Ano ang
sanga-
sangang
kahihinatnan
ng maagang
pagbubuntis”
Instruction
• Divide into 3 groups. Each group will receive manila
papers and pentels

• Draw a tree; in the main trunk, write teenage


pregnancy; then discuss about the multiple and
interrelated consequences of teenage pregnancy,
and write them in the branches and sub-branches
e.g. Teenage pregnancy (Batang Ina/Batang Ama) – taking
good care of child ---- sub-branch: providing shelter, milk and
clothing ----sub-branch: look for work to buy needs--- sub-
branch: consequences of looking for work

• Choose a documenter and a reporter; you have 15


minutes to complete the task
Risks for Teen Moms
RISKS TO HEALTH
• Associated with pregnancy-
induced high blood pressure,
poor weight gain, anemia,
STI, bleeding
• Maternal death is 2x more
than adult
 Some pregnant adolescents
choose induced abortion
– Abortion is illegal,
usually done in ways that
are medically threatening
RISKS FOR TEEN MOMS

ECONOMIC
– Poor nutrition and health
for both the mother and the
child.
– Support from the child’s
father is usually minimal or
none at all.
– Fewer opportunities for
employment especially if
educational attainment has
been impaired
Risks Teen Moms
SOCIAL RISKS
– School interruption
– Unemployment and Poverty
RISKS FOR YOUNG PARENTS
EMOTIONAL
– young mother and young
father adolescents are not
emotionally mature
enough to be parents.

– If marriage is forced, it
may not be a satisfactory
solution and it has a
higher probability of
ending in failure.
Commission on Population
Regional Population Office -13
2F VPH Bldg., T. Calo-Langihan Rd., ButuanCity
Telephone Nos.: (085) 342-5170; (085) 815-1361
Fax: (085) 815-1361
Website: www.caraga.popcom.gov.ph
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