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Family Leadership
Prepared By:

Lach Sreymom
Nou Maneth Athana
Pich Chanthouen
Ros Chanborith
Sim Soupheakna

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Objectives
• Think positively toward people to
harmonize the family society.
• Successfully lead the family
• Recognize the obstacles for successful
family leadership
• Understand the impact of family on
society

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Content
Introduction
A. Definition
B. Characteristic of Family Leadership
C. Role of Individuals in Family
D. Who is the leader in Family?
E. Successful Factors of Family Leadership
F. Situation of Family in Cambodia
G. Possible Solution
H. Impact of Family Leadership on Society
Conclusion
References
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 Introduction

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Why Family Leadership?
• Family is a cell of society
• Understanding family leadership
means understanding social leadership
• Family is not widely thought.
• Look before leap!

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 A. Definition

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A. Definitions

• Family is a group of people who are

important to each other and offer each
other love and support, especially in
times of crises.

• Leadership is the process of influencing

the other in order to achieve common
goals.

• Family leadership is a process of

making the family and members to have
satisfied time with each other and
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Being A Leader
• Management
• Motivation
• Problem Solving
• Communication
• Conducting Meeting

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 B. Characteristics of Family
Leadership

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1. Type of Families
 Nuclear family : two parents and one
or more children sharing a household.

 Single-parent family : Children

living with one parent.

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1. Type of Families (con’t)
 Blended family : a family that join
two separate family through marriage.

 Extended family: a family that

include grandparents, uncles, aunts,
and cousins as well as parents and
children.

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2. Characteristics of Family
Leadership
• Increase engagement of families in
their children's education.

• Provide purpose, tools and direction to

parents and their children to achieve
academic success as well as life
success.

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2. Characteristics of family
leadership (con’t)
• Produce a cadre of knowledge and
committed parents & caregivers who
actively support school/community
efforts that benefit their children in
addition to encouraging other families
to do the same.

• Flexibility and Adaptability

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 C. Roles of individuals in the
family

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1.Five Moral Principles of
Parents
• Care pregnancy until born and provide
children both physical and emotional needs.
• Educate Children to follow moral laws and
get them to catch knowledge.
• Release the basic attributes of a pure
(compassion, pity, joy at other’s happiness,
and sincerity)
• Marry off children well
• Divide property to children

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2.Five Moral Principles of Children for
Parents
- Nourish parents
- Run to substitute parents’ business
- Save family’s reputation
- Prevent Family’s property
- Celebrate other religious ceremonies to
dedicate good deeds to parents’ spirit.

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3. Wife’s duties for husband
Five moral laws of wife for husband
– Manage housework
– Love and assist both sides of relatives
– Be Honest
– Control family finance and property
– Be industrious in her own work

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4. Husband’s duties to wife
Five moral laws of husband
- Appreciate dignity and consider her as a
real wife
- Never humiliate her, but praise
- Be honest and love
- Be effort to find income and give wife
priority to manage family finance
- Present Jewelry to have as representative
of dignity and honesty.

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5. Siblings’ Duties
• Helping
• Sharing
• Teaching
• Playing
• Emotional support and communication
partners

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6.Four Important Dharmas for
Husband & Wife

• Sachak: Honest
• Takmak: Self-control
• Khantey: Tolerate
• Charkark: Sacrifice

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D. Who is the Leader in the
family?
It depends on each family. It can be:

– Father
– Mother
– Influential Person

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D. Who is the Leader in the
family?
- Generally, husband is the head of
Khmer family. However, wife has
considerable authority.

- In making decision, husband would

discuss with his wife and children also
if it concerns to them.

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 E. Successful Factors for
Family Leadership

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1. What Make Family
Strong?
- Being Honest
- Building self-esteem
- Communicating effectively
- Showing respect and trust
- Spending time together

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1. What Make Family
Strong? (con’t)
- Establishing New Traditions-Eliminate
wrong traditional concept and Sharing
responsibilities
- Reaching beyond the family to the
larger society.
- Teaching members to think POSITIVELY
- Meeting

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1. What Make Family
Strong? (con’t)
• Family member should know 5 A’s:
– Available
– Affordable
– Accessible
– Appropriate
– Acceptable

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 …Let
consider!!!

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 F. Situation of families in
Cambodia

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1. Family Situations and
Leadership
 Prehistory
 Norkor Phnom
 Chenla
 Angkor Empire

“The sorrow of Cambodian people is the sorrow of the king himself”

- King Chayavaraman VII
 French Colony
 Khmer Rough
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2. Present Situation
• Approximately 25% of Cambodian
families today have women as heads
of households because of the number
of men who were killed by the Khmer
Rough.

• However, families situation in

Cambodia nowadays is better than the
previous day.

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2. Present Situation (con’t)
• Courtship patterns differ between
rural and urban area

• Many Cambodian families still

adhere to practice of selecting a
husband for their daughters.

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3. Families Problems in Cambodia
Context

 Dishonest in the family

 Conflict in the families
• Domestic violence (Physical,
Psychological, Sexual, Economic violence)

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3. Families Problems in Cambodia
Context (con’t)
 Illiteracy
 Traditional Concept
 Divorce families: have an influence on
the children.
 Health problem
for families
• Serious illness:
HIV/AIDS
 Poverty

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 HIV infection reported to National Center for HIV/AIDS,
Dermatology and STD, Ministry of Health

7000
6000
5000
4000
3000
2000
1000
0
1991 1992 1993 1995 1996 19997 1998

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 Rape and indecent assault
cases investigated by
LICAHDO 2002-2003
Year Reported cases Went to Conviction rate
trial
2002 179 71 63

2003 177 5 4

Age of the Victims of Violence

Year <18 years <12 <5

2002 87.6% 40.6% 6.4%

2003 77.8% 41.1% 8.7%

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G. Possible Solutions
1. Inside the Family
2. Outside the Family

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1. Inside the Family
a. Talking It Over: Resolving family
needs communication Skill.
b. Family Discussion
c. Compromising

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2. Outside the Family
- Teachers and guidance counselors
- Religious leader
- Youth leaders
- Social workers
- Community agencies
and organizations
- Government Agencies

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 H. Impact of Family
Leadership
on Society

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1. Weak Family Leadership
• Violence might occur
– Lose of resources (Property, HR…)
– Children adapt the
violence
(TV, Real life,…)
• Not understand
each other
– children think
negatively,
act negatively.
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2. Strong Family Leadership
• A family is a model to others
• People live in a harmonious and
developed society.
• Children are well educated.
• Good health and energy.

...” Peace and Development must begin at home”

- anonymous

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What do you think of this picture?
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Conclusion
• Family Leadership must be CARE
– C: Connected
– A: Active
– R: Resourceful
– E: Educated

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Conclusion
• To live in peace and sustainable
development, a family should have a
right leadership

• We hope that this topic would be

benefits for us to be a good parent and
lead a family to have happiness and to
live in harmony

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 References
• http://www.photius.com/countries/cambodia/society/
index.html
• http://www.photius.com/countries/cambodia/society/
cambodia_society_families.html
• http://www.worldfoodprize.org/assets/YouthInstitute/
05proceedings/MarshalltownHighSchool.pdf
• http://planet.unescap.org/esid/psis/population/journ
al/Articles/1991/V6N4D1.pdf
• http://www.asiafoundation.org/pdf/CB-
streettheater.pdf
• http://www.measuredhs.com/pubs/pdf/FR124/16Cha
pter16%2Epdf
• http://www.smartstartcolorado.org/family/leadership
.html
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 References (con’t)
• Richard L. Hughes, Robert C. Ginnett,
and Gordon J. Curphy. Leadership:
Enhancing the Lessons of
Experience.4th Ed.
• Josephine A. Foster, M. Janice Hogan,
Bettie M. Herring, Audrey G. Gieseking-
Williams. Creative Living. 5th Edition
• In Oumsameng. History of
Cambodia.2003
• So Muykhieng, Tith Sieng, and Chea
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 Thanks for Attention!

Questions and Answers

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