The Power of Positive Parenting

Conducted by
[Practitioner Name]

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Today’s Agenda

• Overview of Triple P
• Being a parent
• Five key principles of positive parenting
• Take home messages
• Question time

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Overview of Triple P

• Triple P = Positive Parenting

Program
• Developed in Australia
• 30 years of research
• Used in 22 countries
• Local program sponsored by
First 5 Santa Cruz County

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Triple P Services

• Seminars: General parenting information

– The Power of Positive Parenting
– Raising Confident, Competent Children
– Raising Resilient Children
• Workshops: Brief help with specific and
common parenting issues
• Groups: Brief (4 sessions) or In-depth (8
sessions)
• One on One Consultations : Brief (1-4
sessions) or In-depth (10 sessions)
• Additional Triple P Support
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Our hopes and dreams

• To raise healthy well-adjusted children

who have the skills to:
– communicate their needs
– get on with others
– try to do their best
– manage their emotions
– feel good about themselves
• In a safe, secure, loving and low-
conflict environment

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Being a parent

• Parenting can be:

– rewarding
– enjoyable
– demanding
– frustrating
– exhausting
• We all learn through trial and error
• Every parent has to develop their own
goals and approach to discipline

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Employment opportunity

One couple to raise a child. No

experience necessary. Applicants must
be available 24 hours per day, 7 days a
week, and must provide food, shelter,
clothing and supervision. No training
provided. No salary - applicants pay
$180,000 over the next 18 years.
Accidental applications accepted.
Single people may apply but should
be prepared for twice the work.

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The good news

Most parents:
• are confident in their parenting (77%)
• find parenting rewarding (86%)
• find parenting fulfilling (89%)

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Children’s behavior
The tough part of parenting

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The challenge

• Some misbehavior is normal

• Some discipline problems are
inevitable
• Managing everyday behavior
problems can prevent more
serious ones

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Positive parenting

• Promoting children’s development and

managing their behavior and emotions
in a positive way
• Building strong relationships
• Good communication
• Emphasizing the positive
• Planning ahead to prevent problems
• Using everyday situations and creating
opportunities to help children learn

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Benefits for children

• Develop skills
• Do better at school
• Build friendships
• Feel good about themselves
• Have fewer behavioral and
emotional problems
• Less likely to become involved in
drug abuse or delinquent behavior

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Benefits for parents

• Feelings of confidence and

competence in parenting
• Less depression
• Less stress
• Less conflict with their partner
• Less conflict with their children

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Skills children need

• Good communication and social

skills
• Ability to manage feelings
• Independence skills
• Problem solving skills

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5 core principles

1. Creating a safe, interesting

environment
2. Having a positive learning
environment
3. Using assertive discipline
4. Having realistic expectations
5. Taking care of yourself

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Principle 1
Creating a safe, interesting
environment

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Strategies
• Develop predictable routines
• Provide supervision
• Have interesting things to do
Tips for safety:
• Teach your child road safety rules
• Provide safety equipment
• Be safety conscious near schools
• Teach your child about personal
safety
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Benefits

Children:
• feel secure and wanted
• are safe
• live in a predictable world
• have lots of interesting things to do
• have opportunities to learn
Parents:
• can be more relaxed

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Principle 2
Having a positive learning
environment

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Strategies
• Spend time with your child
• Speak nicely
• Chat and listen often
• Share your own experiences
• Be affectionate
• Use descriptive praise
• Give your child attention
• Use incidental teaching
• Get involved in your child’s school
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Promoting Development

Promoting Positive
Relationships
Encouraging
Desirable Behavior

Teaching New Skills

& Behaviors

Managing
Misbehavior

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Promoting Self-Control

Promoting Positive
Relationships
Encouraging
Desirable Behavior

Teaching New Skills

& Behaviors

Managing
Misbehavior

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Principle 3
Using assertive discipline

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How discipline helps

Discipline helps children learn to:

• accept necessary rules and limits
• develop self-control
• consider others
• express their feelings in ways that
respect the needs of others
• take responsibility for their actions

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When discipline works

Discipline works best when:

• children live in a predictable world
• children receive plenty of attention for
good behavior
• parents have reasonable expectations
• parents use fair, predictable
consequences consistently
• parents support each other

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Strategies

• Prepare in advance
• Arrange activities
• Set some ground rules
• Praise good behavior
• Watch and supervise
• Use planned ignoring for minor
misbehavior
• Use your voice effectively

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Strategies

• Use directed discussion for rule

breaking
• Give clear, calm instructions
– start instructions
– stop instructions
• Take away a problem activity
• Back up instructions with quiet time
• Use time-out for serious misbehavior

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Principle 4
Having realistic expectations

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Strategies

Consider:
• Your expectations of your child
– What do I expect?
– Is this rule necessary?
– Can my child understand / do this?
• What other parents expect
• What your child’s school expects
• Your expectations of yourself
– Are my expectations reasonable?

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Principle 5
Taking care of yourself
as a parent

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Balancing work and family

• Have realistic expectations of yourself

• Reduce unnecessary commitments
• Develop good transition time routines
• Avoid conflict after work and prepare
for the ‘second shift’
• Teach your child to be independent
• Organize good, reliable child care

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Negative thinking

Unhelpful thoughts: Helpful thoughts:

• He knew I was tired • We were both tired
• She did that on • Maybe she’s bored
purpose to upset me when I’m on the phone
• He’s never going to • It will take time for him
learn to learn
• She’s just bad • Her behavior is
annoying

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Changing how you think

• Notice when you are feeling upset with

your child
• Identify what negative / unhelpful things
you are saying to yourself about the
situation, particularly why it is
happening
• Try to change negative thoughts to
helpful, more rational thoughts

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Working as a team

• Talk with your partner and other

caregivers about daily experiences with
your child
• Share the workload fairly
• Reach agreement on discipline
• Back each other up
• Model problem solving skills
• Hold regular problem solving
discussions

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Take home messages

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Take home messages

• Make your family a priority

• Create a warm, loving, safe environment
• Encourage your child’s learning
• Use assertive discipline
• Have reasonable expectations
• Take care of yourself:
– look after your own needs
– balance work and family responsibilities
– talk back to negative thinking
– work as a team
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Tip Sheet

• Review it with your partner or by

yourself.

• Review it this week!

• Choose one strategy you learned

today to try at home.

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Next Steps

• Attend the next seminar [insert date]

• Contact [insert name] for more services

[insert info]

• Contact First 5 Santa Cruz County for

more services (831) 465-2217 or
sbluford@first5scc.org or visit
www.first5scc.org

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Question time

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Positive Parenting…
Small changes,
Big differences

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